What the CPS Social Worker Should Have Said, But Didn’t

CPS social workers rarely help families in the right way. In situations where they could lend a hand, they fail. They know only one avenue of response – and that is to destroy a family, to traumatize children and their parents. That’s what they’re trained to do. That’s how the agency gets funded.

I rarely write about my own CPS case which happened more than twenty years ago. It started because my baby’s father battered me when I was pregnant. I’ve always thought that if a social worker had told me “You will lose your child if you don’t leave her father,” I would have immediately done everything I could to separate permanently for the safety of my child. It would have been a great help if the social service agency had helped me relocate.

However, those words were never said to me. Nobody helped me. They told me they couldn’t, and that they were just there to help my infant by placing her in a different home. That was the only solution they had to my situation. They left me there in that place with a much-more stressed out man who reacted by hitting me more, falling apart mentally, and breaking things.

The trauma of losing my child was augmented by the trauma of trying to move away from a man who battered me. It wasn’t easy, but I eventually did it and proved that I was no longer with him, and got my child back. Like many of you I’ve been traumatized, probably for life. After twenty years my feelings haven’t faded, and that’s why there’s a FightCPS website.

Recently a situation came up that caused me to open that old file of papers from the CPS case days, and I remembered my main complaint – that they never said to me that I needed to leave him. Instead they just took my child and left me in the situation, to suffer. If they had only warned me and helped me move, I would never have lost my child to them for eight months.

So I’m wondering — what it is that the caseworker should have said to you to help you with your situation, to make things all better, to prevent the government abduction of your child or children? Or was there no simple solution?

I cannot help but believe that most parents would do anything in their power to assure their children’s safety and well-being, if only given the chance.

Filed under: CPS,Social Workers — Linda Martin @ 3:22 pm

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