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Child Protective Services, CPS, has devastated and destroyed hundreds of thousands of families in America during the last thirty years leaving a trail of broken hearts, broken dreams, and shattered childhoods.
Rather than helping families, government agents have used unconstitutional laws in Juvenile Court to rip children away from their loving parents, break asunder God-given, natural, parent-child bonds, and adopt the children of the grieving out to others who profit financially with large monthly adoption subsidy payments.
Child Protective Services must be stopped! The law that started this, CAPTA, must be repealed. We must work tirelessly to inform the public of this very dangerous travesty of justice. We must keep faith knowing that if there is a God, there is an answer and a way to end this heartache.
Child Protective Services Agents - please come to your senses! Family destruction on false or trivial grounds is wrong, reprehensible, and inhumane.
Fosterers - be aware that for the money you get you are holding much-loved children away from their grieving families while the parents are forced to perform a service plan that is anything but a service to them. I call this hostage holding for the government. This is not kindness - to help misguided government agents destroy family relationships and break loving bonds.
CPS workers and fosterers - I ask that you now let the children of the innocent return to their homes where they are truly valued, adored, and loved by the parents God gave them.
Family rights are God-given rights. And they should not be ignored or postponed. Every moment these loving parents and children spend separated from one another is a torment beyond what anyone should ever have to bear.
It is unworthy of human dignity to allow this terrorism and torture of families to go on without saying something, speaking out, and trying to make a change.
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Fighting Child Protective Services False Accusations
May 10, 2009
Mother’s Day has been sad for me for years now. Without fail I always think of caring parents who are suffering because their children are being kept from them. Then I remember the years when my two oldest daughters lived with their father and I never, ever heard anything from them on Mother’s Day… nor did they want to talk to me at any other time. The youngest still has Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) though now she’s 28 years old. She refuses to communicate with me and thinks I’m a really, really, really bad person. (My oldest daughter recovered and realized she’d been brainwashed.)
I know a lot of you are thinking, “When my child is eighteen he/she will come see me again.” But for many of the sad, suffering parents, that never happens because of PAS.
(More about PAS/Read: What is the child’s part in PAS?)
So… for those of us with children in foster care or adoptive homes, or living with another family member or an ex-spouse… for those of us who never get to hear “Happy Mother’s Day” from their much loved children… I have a few suggestions.
1. Love yourself. Seriously, if your child won’t express love to you, find reasons to love yourself anyway. All human beings are born to be inherently lovable, and you’re one of them. Take time today to list your good qualities and praise yourself for them.
2. Here’s something that cheered me up back then when my daughters weren’t calling me. I found a big Mother’s Day ad/announcement/appreciation printed in the Oakland Tribune, and cut it out and put it on the refrigerator. It was cheerful and it really made me feel better even though it didn’t come from the two children I wanted to hear from. Those of you blessed with artistic creativity can probably get the same effect by making a card for yourself.
3. Pray for the children. They are victims just as we are. While it is true they probably aren’t calling because they don’t remember or realize it is a special day, it is also true that their handlers (whoever controls them) aren’t going to remind them to call as any truly decent person would. This isn’t your child’s fault. They are being trained to be disrespectful to their mother and to treat her like dirt. They get good reactions from the people they live with whenever they are cruel towards us.
 4. Take a walk today and look at all the flowers blooming. Clear your mind from the sad thoughts and remember that life renews itself and there’s plenty to love about being alive in this world.
5. Don’t quit living, learning, and growing. You’ve had a terrible shock, and are living with trauma. But don’t let that destroy your life. Look toward your own interests and hobbies. Do things that make you happy. It is all about self-care. Yes, the thing you wanted to do (mothering) was cruelly ripped from your arms and your heart will hurt over this for many years to come… but we must learn to live with the trauma and recover from it. And we must use the time away from our children to do good things for ourselves.
A big hug from me to all suffering, lonely, traumatized mothers on this Mother’s Day 2009.
(((((MOMS)))))
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Linda, thanks so much for posting this. Both my daughters were diagnosed with this and the ultimate reason why I was forced to give my rights up.
I come to the conclusion everyday, that they might not ever see me again. I wasl by isles of girls clothing and go to dance school wondering what it would be like to still have them by my side.
Luckily, for me the grand parents of both children are involved in their lives. So hopefully, through them they will know that I didn’t just drop them off like their caregivers might think and even tell them.
I hope for you that your youngest will eventually realize that you are not a bad person. Look at what you do for other parents who are in your situation. I know that when I was voicing out when I was in the middle of a TPR, you posted my story on here. For that I am so grateful, no one ever paid attention or believed me. And sometimes people still don’t. I had a person who is know in the Anti-CPS community who judged me and my family, even thought she was judged herself.
I believe Karma comes in a good way for you and I wish you the best with this.
Happy Mother’s Day.
Comment by bdaddiction — May 10, 2009 @ 2:26 pm
Thanks, I appreciate that!
I am very blessed… I have four children that love me and I heard from all of them this weekend (three today and one yesterday.) So I have nothing to complain about. I do feel sorry for the one child that has PAS, but she’s 28 and I don’t know what could ever change her false impression of who I am. Really sorry, but I feel that she’s losing out on so much. I’m her only mom… and she rejects that half of herself.
Comment by LindaJoMartin — May 10, 2009 @ 11:13 pm
Mother’s Day was indeed a sad day for me. I communicate very often with my 2 youngest but my oldest is the one i hear nothing from. Yes hes only 3 (soon to be 4) but when I had my son I always called his dad and let him talk to him. Anything he started to say or if he was in a giggly mood I would call just so his dad could hear.
I had talked to my brother the other day since he called me. He told me they had a family get together and they wanted my son over to visit. The paternal grandmother said hold on let me call you back. 3 hours passed and nothing. They tried to call back but they shut off their phones. Something I KNEW would happen.
CPS just doesnt care about family. They care about money.
Comment by Karina — May 11, 2009 @ 7:41 am
Why is anyone asking at all for a REFORM of CPS?
Why not do away with it completely?
What did we do before CPS?
We sustained ourselves, and mostly, took care of one another.
Look, I have a cousin who watched her mother shot on her own front porch. She was taken into “protective custody” LONG BEFORE CPS.
The system worked before CPS, but now we have overzealous agents working to justify their position, at your and my expense.
GET RID OF THESE AGENCIES who are nothing more than parasites, taking advantage of us all, who were never needed in the first instance.
Look back to a hundred years ago.
Ask Bill Cosby how it worked before CPS.
We do not need to reform an agency that shouldn’t be in existence in the first place.
Darlenej
Comment by Darlenej — May 12, 2009 @ 3:32 pm
I am fighting CPS right now and need some help badly.. they are trying to take my beautiful babies out of my home when i have done anything wrong and i have lots who will say i am a great mom.. I NEED HELP PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME KEEP MY BABIES!!!!!
Comment by SPUNKEY — May 12, 2009 @ 7:09 pm
i agree with Darlenej. things probably a lot better before CPS came. whose ideal was it anyway to have cps.
Comment by Terri Rote — May 13, 2009 @ 1:24 pm
Spunky the same thing happen to me and a lot of us we mothers did no wrong cps just wants to make your life miserable. its all about money. I haven’t gotten to see my kids. my daughter is 17 and my son is 20. my son is brainwashed. he don’t want anything to do with me. as far as my daughter I don’t know how she feels, I am waiting till she 18 then I see what happens. I hate mothers day and christmas. any hoildays. my arms are empty.
Comment by Terri Rote — May 13, 2009 @ 1:28 pm
You ought to log on the today show with Matt Launder they had something on there about foster family had a child and they wanted to give the child back to the parents and DHS came and took the child away from thatfoster family and place the child in the foster home and DHS was making false reports on them it is being investigated I can’t remember what is was on but see if you can find it on the computer I seen it this morning 8;00am it might be on the computer.
Comment by Terri Rote — May 14, 2009 @ 2:21 pm
I also agree with Darlenej…DCS/CPS needs to be outright ABOLISHED!!! There is NO amount of Reform that will stop these leeches from trying to suck the Life Blood right outta INNOCENT parents and their children. I have been dealing personally with “the system” for 5 1/2 years…and still fighting STRONG!!! With God’s Grace, my family and I will PREVAIL!!!
Comment by Michelle Martin — May 14, 2009 @ 7:07 pm
I agree with Darlene too. She is absolutely correct. CPS seems to have done more harm than good. My family has been torn apart since 2007 and no end in sight yet.
Comment by Barbara Ridgdill — May 16, 2009 @ 7:04 pm
I’m a mother who still lucky enough to be with my 3 children. I don’t know what the future has for me but I’m always secretly scared. Thank you for sharing valuable information. I could be a strong person on my own…
Comment by Rose - MN Human Resources — May 17, 2009 @ 8:43 am
Linda,
I hope one day that your daughter realizes all you have done for so very many families.
You have helped so many. She has a mother she can be very proud of.
Comment by MaggieC — May 17, 2009 @ 4:53 pm
thanks linda, my heart hurts for whatever your situation is or was, but perhaps God let that happen so you could be a voice to those of us in the same situation who are ready to give up. It hurts when your babies DO want to say “Happy Mother’s Day” and somebody stops them, or they wanna hug you or kiss you before they go to bed and somebody is preventing that. We’re suppose to protect them from things like this and when that’s taken from us, what else are they to think? It’s mommy’s fault that she’s not here to tuck me in or dress me for school or fix my breakfast. It feels as though “we” have failed them not the system.
Comment by tracey — May 27, 2009 @ 10:45 pm
Yes, I am with you my sister. God Bless you! God is in control and will win over the bad things that are happening on this earth. We must believe; praise God more when things get worse and watch what happens. Believe in Him; He lives within you. God will protect our children; I believe this wholeheartedly. God will not let them suffer. Amen
Comment by Barbara — June 18, 2009 @ 7:46 pm
NEVER GIVE UP! NEVER GIVE UP! NEVER GIVE UP!
TO MY BABY GIRL 9 YEARS OLD,
THINK FOR YOURSELF!
YOU’RE MAMA’S RIGHT HERE AND WILD WILD HORSES COULDN’T DRAG ME AWAY…I WILL NEVER GIVE UP FIONA! I LOVE YOU. MY ANGEL…
Comment by Phoebe — September 28, 2009 @ 11:30 pm