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Child Protective Services, CPS, has devastated and destroyed hundreds of thousands of families in America during the last thirty years leaving a trail of broken hearts, broken dreams, and shattered childhoods.
Rather than helping families, government agents have used unconstitutional laws in Juvenile Court to rip children away from their loving parents, break asunder God-given, natural, parent-child bonds, and adopt the children of the grieving out to others who profit financially with large monthly adoption subsidy payments.
Child Protective Services must be stopped! The law that started this, CAPTA, must be repealed. We must work tirelessly to inform the public of this very dangerous travesty of justice. We must keep faith knowing that if there is a God, there is an answer and a way to end this heartache.
Child Protective Services Agents - please come to your senses! Family destruction on false or trivial grounds is wrong, reprehensible, and inhumane.
Fosterers - be aware that for the money you get you are holding much-loved children away from their grieving families while the parents are forced to perform a service plan that is anything but a service to them. I call this hostage holding for the government. This is not kindness - to help misguided government agents destroy family relationships and break loving bonds.
CPS workers and fosterers - I ask that you now let the children of the innocent return to their homes where they are truly valued, adored, and loved by the parents God gave them.
Family rights are God-given rights. And they should not be ignored or postponed. Every moment these loving parents and children spend separated from one another is a torment beyond what anyone should ever have to bear.
It is unworthy of human dignity to allow this terrorism and torture of families to go on without saying something, speaking out, and trying to make a change.
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February 2, 2009
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Children are our future, yet it appears they are being alienated, used, abused, discarded, maimed, exploited and even murdered all in the name of power and money! I will do whatever I can to stop the abuse of innocent children, including my own, who are being emotionally and possibly physically abused, thanks to our wonderful system! Please help me in my fight to reform CPS. They MUST be brought in line with lawful investigation practices, to maintain civil and Constitutional Rights. Stop the war against Americas families NOW! Injustice against one American is injustice against ALL Americans. http://rallycongress.com/fight-cps/1448/cps
Comment by Michael — February 2, 2009 @ 7:02 pm
I am a grandmother in Sacramento whose grandchildren had a case in Alameda county which was bad enough. Social workers told lies, etc. Now the case is being transferred to LA due to mother moving there. I don’t think she will be getting them back. Does anyone have any advice about LA.
Comment by Karen Solberg — February 3, 2009 @ 5:34 am
there is a mother here whose son is 14 he had a bruise on his elbow cps came to the mother house and removed the children they didn’t have a court order to remove the children but cps did it anyway when the mother appeared in court the Judge Smith ask the mother if she had a remvoveal order the mother said no Judge Smith said he better write one up I don’t know if that was in Polk county DesMoines Iowa but see how crooked that Judge is and what he said to the mother these Judges have no business taking people kids away not all parents abused their children CPS abuses their own children and they get away with it.
Comment by Terri Rote — February 3, 2009 @ 1:34 pm
I really wish we could have civil war II the slave got their freedom now we need to get our children back homes to us.
Comment by Terri Rote — February 3, 2009 @ 1:35 pm
do you have any contacts here in Newyork city?
Comment by Angelique — February 3, 2009 @ 6:58 pm
CPS has been involved in my family’s life since Sept 08. One investigator closed the case in Dec 08 but before she closed the case she assigned another worker to get me and my husband started in parenting classes as well and registering my infant in early family intervention.
The case worker that was now assigned to my case was supposed to have me and my husband sign paperwork right before the christmas holiday so we could get started on the services. Well the case worker never showed up at my apartment like said and from that point on we never heard from her again so we figured everything was legit.
Then in January I was getting phone calls from the people who do the early intervention and they were trying to get my infant to be evaluated. I told the person who called that I had not signed any paperwork from the case worker so I don’t know what exactly I am supposed to be doing. The lady was very surprised to hear that. I went along and did the early intervention for my youngest son. I felt like I was complying in what was told to use back in Dec 08 from the case worker.
As of Feb 3, 2009 I found it strange since the case worker no longer kept in contact with me and my oldest son kept telling us that CPS has gone to his school 2 times to go and visit him. That made me mad and I called the school and requested that no one is to go and talk to my son without my consent and they basically told me that they could not do anything about that. That pissed me off. So then I called the CPS office asking to speak with the case workers supervisor and they transferred to a gentleman and i asked him questions over my case and he had no idea on answering my questions. He kept giving me the run around about everything. He then told me that the case worker was going to my job as we spoke.
30 minutes later the case worker shows up at my job and starts rambling about why don’t i return her phone calls as well as why don’t i answer the door when she comes. First of all she has never called my cell phone and usually if a case worker were to call they would leave a voicemail to call back. That never happened.
Then she stated she left notes at my door which was another lie. I never had any notes on my door from the case worker. She then got on the phone with her supervisor and came back and told me that I was not complying with them so I need to voluntarily give up my kids to a family member. I told her NO! I was not going to do that. She then again called her supervisor and came back saying that there was another case open on my family and that my husband is not to be around my kids what so ever. He cannot be at the house or anything. What kind of crap is that?
But before she even mentioned anything like that she finally brought her papers that needed to be signed from back in Dec 08. I cooperated with her since I don’t want my kids taken away from me for false accusations. I have been reading on different sites about how corrupt cps is. I know that she is doing this on purpose since she didn’t do her job properly by calling me, going by my house, and now she wants to falsify information by stating she did all she could to get in contact with me.
One thing that gets me is when she arrived at my job she asked for my cell phone number. What does that tell you? Apparently she never called me because she never had my number. I need help with this issue. I told my son if they appear at his school again to tell them he doesn’t want to talk to them unless I am present. Please help. Thanks.
Comment by Anne — February 4, 2009 @ 1:36 pm
I am a mother who loves her childern. And to have someone act like “you better do what I say or I have the power to take your childern from you” It is very frightening.
Comment by Billijo — February 4, 2009 @ 8:35 pm
Wow! What a long couple of weeks.
The week before the inauguration, my son was home sick for a couple days. The day of the inauguration, my son came home and told me that the whole school K-2 was forced to sit on the cold, dirty gym floor and not only watch the inauguration, but that everyone was worshiping Obama.
The Thursday after the inauguration, he refused to “go with the program” and I received a call from the school counselor. I had to go to his school to get him. The following day I was called again. He was wheezing, had a headache and had dark circles around his eyes. The night before he complained he had a sore throat and a plugged nose, but was feeling okay in the morning so I took him to school.
THE SCHOOL COUNSELOR HAD THE AUDACITY TO ACCUSE MY SON OF FAKING BEING SICK!
That is one thing I can swear to God doesn’t happen. If my son doesn’t want to go to school, he just says it point blank.
He has a high pain threshold and very rarely gets fevers so I always tell him that at the first sign of trouble to tell me immediately.
When he was in kindergarten, the only sign that he had strep was a mild sore throat. The doctor thought that it was a waste of time to do a culture because his throat wasn’t even red, but it turned out that he had a very bad case of it and I ended up catching it from him. My symptoms were severe, though.
Sunday night, my son told me that his ears were hurting and he was acting irritable so I kept him home from school and took him to see his pediatrician on Monday. She gave him antibiotics for an sinus infection and said that it was the cause of the ear-ache, dark circles under his eyes and the headaches.
I told her that the school counselor accused him of faking being sick. He had shots the last time he went for a checkup and was afraid that a trip to the doctor meant getting more shots.
Fortunately, my son has the best pediatrician in the county and he began being her patient when he was eleven months old. She had only been out of med-school a month.
She said that my son definitely wasn’t faking it and wrote him a note, excusing him for 1-2 days. I sent him back to school today.
When I gave the school secretary the doctor’s note, I almost walked out without getting a copy for my own personal records, but I did go back and get a copy.
NEVER, EVER, EVER GIVE YOUR CHILD’S SCHOOL A DOCTOR’S EXCUSE WITHOUT GETTING A COPY FOR YOUR RECORDS!
WHEN THEY CALL CPS ON YOU SAYING THAT YOUR KID FAKES BEING SICK AND THAT HE MISSES SCHOOL REGULARLY, IF YOU DON’T HAVE THE PROOF TO BACK YOU UP, YOU ARE IN FACT, SCREWING YOURSELF OVER.
ALWAYS, ALWAYS BE PREPARED. COVER ALL OF YOUR BASES. NEVER LEAVE A STONE UNTURNED.
YOUR KIDS HAVE NOBODY TO COUNT ON OR PROTECT THEM BUT YOU.
AND NEVER TRUST ANY EMPLOYEE OF A PUBLIC SCHOOL. THEY ARE MORE DANGEROUS THAN A DISGRUNTLED NEIGHBOR WITH A VIOLENT DOG AND A BAD CASE OF HEMRIODS!
THEY ACTUALLY LOOK FOR REASONS TO KEEP CPS IN BUSINESS.
AND FOR YOUR CHILDREN’S SAKES, WARN THEM DAILY ABOUT CPS AND THE TRICKY TACTICS THEY USE SO THAT THEY ARE PREPARED, JUST IN CASE.
TELL YOUR KIDS NOT TO TRUST ANY ADULT IN A PUBLIC SCHOOL AND WHY.
WHEN THEY MANAGE TO LIVE WITH YOU UNTIL THEY BECOME LEGAL AGE, YOU’LL KNOW THAT YOU DID RIGHT BY THEM.
God bless you and don’t lose hope…
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 5, 2009 @ 12:44 am
Anne, it is clear the caseworker was retaliating because she probably got in trouble because she didn’t get the paperwork signed in the first place. Is it time for you and your husband to retain an attorney? I would do that ASAP if it were my family involved. Knowing there’s an attorney involved might make this caseworker think twice before she causes any more problems. For more feedback on your case see The FightCPS Message Board Forum.
Comment by LindaJoMartin — February 5, 2009 @ 6:08 am
Dear Stef
I understand your concerned about CPS returning. It seems to me the first case worker was decent, however you don’t want back to back CPS reports. My daughter had a wetting problem. We just found out it’s a medical condition and I took a copy to the school. They have to allow her to use the bathroom every two hours. But I can understand how you feel about the notes from the school. I get upset everytime someone from my daughters school wants to talk. We have an insurance problem as well, have you asked for a payment plan?
Your daughters wetting may be a medical problem. Have her seen by her doctor and give a copy to the school.
As far as head lice. Anyone can get head lice. head lice like clean hair the best because they can hang on better. And once you get them, it takes a while to get rid of them, so it’s possiable to have repeated problems. When you do the childs head, do the whole family. wash all bedding in hot water and place all stuffed animals and such in plastic bags for at least two weeks. Also spray furiture with the pesticide that comes with the kit, and vacuum furiture and carpets well. Dump the vacuum bag when your finished.
My 18 year old niece got them when we went on vacation. (hotel room). It was alful! But the school knows this is common. Let them know you’ve done the treatments, and you will keep checking. If you miss one egg, you can have a new outbreak. The school knows this. Lice dosn’t mean that there is a problem at home, it means your child came in contact with someone else who had them. using someone else brush, coats hung close together at school. etc… If the school calls CPS everytime a child has lice, they would spend most of their time on the phone. But do have your daughters wetting checked out, it could be a bladder or kidney problem.
Comment by fran — February 5, 2009 @ 6:36 am
Schools are more likely to call CPS about lice problems if the parents get angry at the school employees. They can use CPS as a club to retaliate. If you insist on sending your children to public schools, then be friendly toward the teachers and others who work there. Personally I prefer homeschooling, but I realize not every parent is ready to dedicate their whole lives to educating their children.
Comment by LindaJoMartin — February 5, 2009 @ 6:55 am
My daughter is in catholic school. I am Catholic and I like the fact that my child learns morals in school. She’s also allowed to pray if she wants (a right the public schools have taken away) We happen to live in a neighborhood with an outstanding public school, but they are still over crowded. I had a friend who home schooled and her children did very well on the state mandated test. But as far as CPS and lice, I’m sure the one’s reporting it to CPS and the CPS workers themselves have had lice at one time or another. It’s common, and even more so in children. Any school offical or CPS worker that thinks there is something wrong in a home because a child has lice, needs to do a little research, it’s embarrassing but common. I admit we’ve been down that creepy road. It took two weeks and washing, washing, washing, to get rid of them. If CPS gives a problem, I’d ask if that did any reseach, better yet go to the local health department and pick up free information. Hand that to them.
I agree you have to try and keep a good relationship with your childs teacher, however this isn’t alway possible. When we were trying to get services for my autistic son, a art teacher told me she felt he wasn’t autistic. I asked her if this was her opinon as an art teacher? We were face to face and I mean face to face, my son’s advocate from community services had to break us up. They did call CPS, claiming, they wanted him on a medication that worked? Which I replied to CPS and the school, he is on medication, when you all get a medical degree we will talk. The schools do use CPS to get parents to conform. We had to get a lawyer on more than one occasion to deal with them. I can tell you I am affraid of them, because they have no “chain of command”. they are or think they are god’s word. They lie and do what ever it takes to make their case. They don’t even have degrees in social work. It’s not required.
As far as Stef is concerned, take your child to the doctore about the wetting, it could be a medical problem and needs to be addressed. While your there ask the doctor about the lice issue. He may give you a note for the school explaining this is a common problem. God bless
Comment by fran — February 5, 2009 @ 9:03 am
Still Need advice
I have custody of my 6 year old niece and have had her 5 years. We want to adopt. No contact from mother and once from father (two years ago).
The parents live another state. The father (my brother) was going to contest, but now said he will consent. The mother has moved several times and not kept in contact. However I do talk with the maternal grandmother often. She wants to stay involved with her grandchild, but
the maternal grandfather is difficult. He doesn’t want her contacting me, so we I can’t call her, I have to wait till she calls me. (She has to wait till he is not home),
I do not want to ever cut off ties with the maternal grandmother. (my mother also has contact with the child)
However the child was malnutrished when we got her. Our family doctor said she would have died had she been in that envoriment 1 more month.
Recently I’ve dicovered her father is in trouble with the police (again) and has warrants.
My sister was contacted by the mothers new husband, that the mother was involved with something illegal.
Well, but we aren’t using this in the adoption petion. (unreliable source)
Currently my childs has medical problems due to the early malnurition. We have her on my husbands retirement insurance but they only cover to a certain point. We also have her on state medicaid. (they have never covered anything) We do not receive any money from the state because, to me this is my child.
Recently we discovered she has a medical problem that will require ongoing treatment.
I hadn’t heard from the mother until the other day, she located me on “my Space” She stated that the rumors about her where not true. That they were started by her husband, she suggested that I was involved, and she thought I was seeing her husband. (I don’t know her husband, and the only time I met her, was when she handed over the child, (5 years ago). Personally I don’t care about her personal problems, I care about my child.
I’m nervious because I don’t know what will happen in court, she’s liable to lie. This will only hurt my child. I need advice and pray. Fran
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Comment by fran — February 5, 2009 @ 9:43 am
My 3 children were removed from my home in March 2008 because my husband was abusive. I had an opened case with D.H.H.S. So I called my D.H.H.S worker, my kids had heard and seen way too much and I was just sick of my husband but most of all I was so sick of my children witnessing all of the abuse. Within 2 days of me calling my C.P.S worker and practically begging her to help me get out of the situation, and help me figure something out, because my husband would not leave because in his words ” he shouldnt be the one that has to leave, because that is his house.” I was just so sick of my kids seeing and hearing all of the abuse, and I didnt know what else to do, except call my D.H.H.S worker, she can pull strings, she can help me figure something out, she is D.H.H.S…
Or atleast I thought that she would help my kids and I out of that situation, BUT, I WAS WRONG!!!!! The only thing that my worker did was have my children removed from my home. And now they are doing something called permenant guardianship. That is kind of like a termination of my rights, the only thing is I will still beable to visit with my children. None of this is fair especially to my children. They want to come home so bad, that is all they ever talk about!! And recently I have met so many other mothers who are going through very similar situations with child protective services..
Child protective services definately isn’t doing their job right! They take children out of a loving home and away from the biological mother because the mother is very scared of an abusive spouse and cant get away from the spouse, and this scared mother goes to D.H.H.S for help, but D.H.H.S does not help in any way what so ever! What gets solved by D.H.H.S just ripping children away from their mothers? Nothing gets solved at all, the children just get all messed up and have so many emotional problems because of it. And the worst part is my children will grow up with all of these problems that they have developed over the past 10 months because they are not getting any kind of therapy or anything else, and they so desperately need it!
I believed in the system and it got me nowhere. It got my children put in the foster care system for the rest of their lives. Where is the justice in that? Child protective services definately does not have the best interest of any child in mind. D.H.H.S thrives on breaking families up and ruining kids! They have completely ruined my children. But they can do that, right? Because thay are the depatment of health and human services! Well that is extrmely wrong! D.H.H.S has done so much damage to my children and it hurts, and it is so wrong. Somebody needs to stop child protective services from ruining innocent children!!! Justice needs to be served!
Comment by Jamielynn — February 5, 2009 @ 2:11 pm
FEDERAL INVESTIGATION FOR OLKALOOSA COUNTY FLORINDA AND PENSACOLA FLORIDA NEEDS TO HAPPEN ASAP.
CARDINAL MAHONEY WAS A CPS WORKER HE IS ALSO KNOWN TO OF DENIED HONEST SERVICES TO PARISHIONERS WHOM CHILDREN WERE BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED BY PRIEST . CARDINAL MOHONEY AND HIS AFFILIATION WITH CHILDREN AND FAMILY SERVICES SAYS IT ALL !
INVESTIGATE FLORIDA CPS! CATHOLICS ARE EVERYWHERE! STOP THE LIES …NO MORE SECRETS NO MORE HEIRACY
Comment by Survivor — February 5, 2009 @ 3:39 pm
I too live in Southern California and retained an attorney by the name of Arthur La Cilento. Art is an EXCELLENT attorney!!! He’;s still helping me get my grandson, back where the CPS stated after my grandson was with a pre-approved adoptive family and was with the family for 6 to 12 months it is the “BEST INTEREST” of the child to keep him with the adoptive foster family, instead of with me the requesting maternal grandmother, whom wants him and now has room for him to live with me. Also, the CSW twists any information I had discussed with tme to a wide or untrue distortion and leave half the truth and/or the child’s attorney will pull only information they want to distort to keep the child from me. I had received my 1st grandson after he was with his mother for 15 months I had to report her to CSP, and they sought out me to help in doing it. This time with my daughter only in the picture and denying me to see any court or written documents the CSW stated in her report to clarify is very unfair, thus I had to hire an attorney to retrieve and file an appeal after the court terminated my daughter’s parental rights. Also, they approved my home after being very late in doing so by the Adoptions Agency for inspection once I had to make calls and complain about how they take too long to return my calls from the CSW and the Adoptions Agency.
He fought for me and my family, and he is indeed an exceptional and spiritual man. If you want someone who treats you with respect and will go to the ends of the earth to help you, call him…he is also very reasonable in comparison with the others I have consulted with, I am seeking other grandparents tah
Comment by Gena Beamon — February 5, 2009 @ 7:34 pm
Jamielynn, my CPS case which was about twenty years ago, was based on the same thing. I was being battered. However I moved away from the batterer and managed to get my child back. You say you can’t get away from your husband; are you still with him? If so, why? You CAN move away. You CAN work and make a better life for yourself. And you CAN go back to court and request that your children be returned to you. There’s no reason to think you’re stuck. Un-stick yourself and move on to a better, happier life. Even if you have to leave behind 99% of your possessions it is okay to start over. If your judge sees that you’ve moved on in a positive direction s/he may be willing to let your children return to you. Start now to create that stable home that has room for your children in it.
Comment by LindaJoMartin — February 6, 2009 @ 5:26 am
Survivor… one thing I’ve learned about child protective services is that it crosses all barriers. Caseworkers are not more likely to be all one religion, all one race, or all one nationality. Plus families of all religions/races get victimized. You may have a concentration of Catholics in your local office, but that’s not nationwide or statewide. In the county where I was victimized I noticed a concentration of Jehovah’s Witnesses, but that was because they got into supervisory positions and were hiring their friends from church.
Comment by LindaJoMartin — February 6, 2009 @ 5:30 am
Gena, thanks so much for the recommendation of Arthur La Cilento! I will add his name to the lawyers page here.
Comment by LindaJoMartin — February 6, 2009 @ 5:52 am
Hi I am a mom of 2 wonderful children in calgary alberta. My son is 7 years old and has been coded by the schools. My son went to bridges and than before the summer I got documentation stating that he was able to go to public school. My son started at the school and than all of a sudden we started haveing problems, The school would call and say you have to come get your child. My son on many occassions told me that he only retaleated to what the other children were doing to him. As of FEB 5 2009 right on my fiance’s birthday 2 social workers showed up at my house one of them took my son to his room to talk to him alone, I was not present at the time I was in school and no one contacted me. My fiance was home but he has no legal rights as far as consents go. I found out about all of this on my lunch break. I called the office and they led me to believe that if I did not jump through thier hoops they would take my children. They asked me what time I would be back from school so that we could meet and talk and work something out. I told them around 5pm. They came back to my home at 3:30 pm and removed both my son and Daughter with out my knowledge and I never got to say good morning or good bye to them. The resons they gave me were we are not obligated to give you any information about the concerns really. They did not even check the cubbord or fridge to see if we had food. They said that we did not have any food and that our house was poorly conditiond. This is the information I got. What am I supposed to do , I miss my children so much that I am having a hard time coping with this and they tell me that this is my fault because I am trying to make a better life for my children by working.
If any one has anything that can help me please contact me sedgyscleaningservices@gmail.com
Comment by natasha — February 6, 2009 @ 1:58 pm
My son came home today and informed my wife and I that his lab teacher told him that fosterhomes are good. He has no reason to believe his teacher because he knows that his mother was locked in the basement of 2 fosterhomes. I spent 72 hrs. in a receiving home. My grandmother and her sister were removed from an abusive home and were even more severely abused as wards of the state, her sister also sexually abused so severely that she was never able to have children of her own. This was over 70 years ago. And we have a close friend who voluntarily put her 2 sons in fosterhomes because of a sad string of events. When she got them back home, they were acting out sexually, were malnurished and brainwashed from being in an Aumish fosterhome.
Don’t misunderstand, all of us are Christians, including my now deceased grandmother and her sister. BUT THESE BOYS HAD A HALLOWED OUT LOOK IN THEIR EYES and although they did eventually come back out of that wierd trance that they were in, THEY HAVE NEVER BEEN THE SAME and it has been 4 1/2 years since they returned home to their mother.
We have issues with the school telling us that our son fakes being sick. My wife called the school yesterday to tell the school secretary that our son threw up in his bed and awoke us at 5:30 am and sarcastically asked the woman if she would like us to take him to school anyway, since that is where he wanted to be. The secretary didn’t catch on until my wife told her that she wasn’t going to clean up a bunch of puke out of our car because he happened to throw up on a classmate and got a some on himself. (My wife has a very weak stomach.)
But seriously, JoLisa is right. Our children who have no choice but to go to public school need to be protected and educated. And Fran is right about school employees using CPS to retaliate on parents who can’t be bent to their will. My wife deals with the school because she is so afraid of CPS. She has kept me from going into the school and raising holy hell. And believe me, I have plenty of reasons, though I won’t go into them.
If you love your kids, find out what they are being told at school each and every day. If you don’t know by now that the people working in the public schools are brainwashing your kids then you may be the easiest targets. Don’t wait until after they are taken away from you. By then it’s usually too late. If your kids are told things that you feel are incorrect, and you know about it, you can set them straight. But you also have the obligation to be straight with them about everything, even if you don’t think that they are old enough to know some things. Never lie to your kids or they wont know who to believe.
Comment by Brian — February 6, 2009 @ 9:56 pm
My situation began when my husband died.
My sister out of jealousy for my financial independence reported me to CPS. My husband & I were foster parents for 6 years and adopted two children. One is diagnosed as Bipolar, Reactive Attachment Disorder, Psychosis, Severe ADHD, MR, PDD (autistic) & multiple other problems. She accused me of being mentally unstable; leaving my kids at the casket at the funeral (2 caseworkers were there) & numerous other charges in a letter to DHS. When that didn’t work, she called the Hotline. To make a long story short, I now have true findings for severe & or repeated cruelty for having my children run laps around my house for misbehavior (they are all ADHD); giving my children jalapeno pepper slices for habitual lying (no one ever vomited or had blisters or passed out) and having my 14 yr old MR child wear depends undergarments for inappropriately urinating on my furniture, carpet floors & walls under his normal clothes. They took my foster adopt children from me (within 3 months of the adoption being finalized) which we had for 3 years -1/3 of their young lives supposed for imminent danger & left my adopted children of the same age in the home.. It took 97 days for them to show up at my home to check on the “newly opened” cps case after the true findings. The only people interviewed were the kids & a neighbor who said that she knew I was never outside with my kids & she has no way of seeing anything but the front of my home. CPS allowed the school assistant principle to lead the interview & she has held a personal grudge against me since 2001. She asked leading questions that were not appropriate & it’s recorded in the interview. She is personal friends of the kids attorney ad liddem & now after 3 yrs the atty has decided & told one of the kids that she will never see me again. She doesn’t have the right to do that. The child was so distraught that the caseworker had to be called just to calm her down.These children love me & want to come home & I love them. This whole situation has caused more emotional abuse than anything I have ever done to any of my kids. The caseworker & several other DHS workers are going to testify on my behave along with the children’s councellor. I have appealed the closing of my home; the CPS findings; petitioned for intervention & adoption of these children. We have been deprived 5 months of seeing each other. One of the foster children is also autistic. He thought they were taking him for ice cream. I am not allowed any contact whatsoever. I gave up my 4 yr position as cheer leading coach just so that the girl could continue. I was assured that she would get to do it if I did as long as I didn’t go. She never got to attend any practice, game or event of any kind & neither did I. The assistant principle has emailed the kid’s atty numerous times & all correspondence email is sent to her from the kid’s attorney. What happened to privacy laws? This person promised to adopt a previous foster child that was mine & after finally realizing the severity of his disabilities 9 months later - dropped him like a hot potato. Incidentally the same atty was on that case too. The atty has also solicited to get another couple to adopt the kids but that fell through. The assistant principle was pulling my adopted child out of class & pumping her for information. She denied it but my daughter told the principle & that has stopped but not the ” Are you sure you are okay? Are you sure you don’t need to tell me something?” that is said to her in the halls. It truly is a bizarre case. Most DHS workers want me to get my kids back . Even the kid’s psychiatrist, councellor & shelter say the kids need to go home to me; but CPS, the kid’s atty, the assistant principle and the DHS District supervisor are fighting it. In December DHS from another county allowed me to take placement of a previous foster child & his 2 siblings for a week knowing the charges against me. No mandated time span has been followed & according to the State Laws, the children did not have to be removed for a class 2 allegation. In fact, even if it’s not overturned, the kids could have remained with me. Today, 133 days later they gave me a case plan to keep my adopted children. There have been 4 visits to my home. I am to have a psychological evaluation & go to Parenting without Violence classes. I have never been violent to any of my children or grand- children. My atty & I are disagreeing with the case plan because the abuse charge was proved unfounded & so was the inadequate supervision charge. Even good foster parents get wrongly accused. After I have fought this through & hopefully have my children back, I will never be a foster parent again - not because we have bad caseworkers but because of CPS & a psychotically jealous sister with the right connections (the assistant principle). Incidentally the neighbor that was interviewed has only been to my home 5 times in 8 yrs and her husband was the previous principle that the assistant worked under until he retired & the assistant principle told CPS to interview her. No one that I asked to be interviewed including the kid’s psychiatrist, councellors, doctors or caseworkers were interviewed by CPS. This truly must prove some of the corruption that exists in the CPS process.
Thanks for letter me tell my story & you are right I must have been insane to become a foster parent but that was the only way that I could adopt my niece & we fell in love with the idea of helping hard to place special needs kids find a forever family. Even that has come back to bite me as the same 14 yr old MR child is a perpetual liar & has tried to have the hot line called on me since then because I made him do chores & has been making up bizarre lies & telling to his councellor at the Day treatment facility he has to attend. This child spent the 6 years of being in DHS custody in one facility after another for bizarre behaviors and I thought given enough love that he would be fine. He was recently released from a facility because they didn’t know what to do for him. No other facility wants to take him due to his low IQ & his hemophilia. . .goes to prove that sometimes all the councelling and the love just want fix things. He doesn’t qualify for regular school & there is no other Day treatment facility in the area. He was only placed temporarily where he is at just to get him discharged.
Anyway thanks for letting me share my story and maybe other prospective foster / adopt families will not fall into my situation.
I can use all the prayers you have to offer. It’s only been 6 months since my husband died & after this, I intend to allow myself time to grieve for my husband of 24 years and friend for 40 & help all of my children grieve for the loss of their father.
Comment by Donna — February 7, 2009 @ 12:48 am
Natasha,
I would like to help you if I am able. I need as much information on your case as you can give me, yet, still maintain a comfortable level of privacy. Your private life will be on display soon enough, even if the allegations are unfounded, as I am sure that they are. Please email me at:
lindbloom_jm@yahoo.com
or call me at:
360-273-7993
In the mean time, try contacting an attorney on Linda Jo Martin’s lawyer page, or contact the AFRA at:
http://www.americanfamilyrightsassociation.com
http://www.childrensrights.org may be helpful also.
I know personally what it is like to be in your situation. I will never forget that awful grief as long as I live.
I will pray for you and your children.
As hard as it is for you right now, remember that with God, all things are possible.
Don’t lose hope, for without hope, you will give up the fight. There IS still hope for you and your children.
God bless you and your family…
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 7, 2009 @ 12:58 am
I SURE WISH THERE WAS A WAY I COULD MAKE CPS STOP GIVING MY DAUGHTER WHO IS IN FOSTER CARE THE DRUGS THEY HAVE HER ON FOR THINGS LIKE ADHD.AND WHO KNOWS WHAT? I DONT EVEN KNOW THE DRUGS THEY HAVE HER ON BUT WE TRIED TO TELL CPS WE DONT WEANT HER ON ANY KIND OF DRUGS. BUT THEY SAID THEYRE KEEPING HER ON THEM FOR ANOTHER 5 YRS TIL SHE AGES OUT OF THE SYSTEM. WE CANT AFFORD A LAWYER SO DONT EVEN SUGGEST IT. MAN THESE PEOPLE ARE GOING TO BE IN A HEAP OF TROUBLE IF SOMETHING HAPPENS TO HER WHILE SHES ON THOSE DRUGS!!!! BUT THERES REALLY NOTHING ME AND MY WIFE CAN DO ABOUT IT AND GET THIS WE STILL HAVE ALL OF OUR PARENTAL RIGHTS BUT IT DOESNT MATTER TO THEM. YOU MIGHT AS WELL HAVE YOUR PARENTAL RIGHTS TERMINATED BECAUSE EVEN WITH ALL YOUR PARENTAL RIGHTS YOU STILL HAVE NO RIGHTS!! I CANT WAIT TILL THE NEXT 5 YRS IS OVER WHEN OUR DAUGHTER CAN FINALLY COME HOME AFTER 13 YRS HELD AGAINST HER WILL BY CPS. THEY ARE TRYING TO TELL US THAT SHE CANT COME HOME TIL SHE GRADUATES HIGH SCHOOL BUT THAT WONT BE TIL SHES 19. THEY CANT HOLD HER AGAINST HER WILL ONCE SHE TURNS 18 AND IS CONSIDRED AN ADULT. THEN IT WOULD BE ACTUAL KIDNAPPING.
Comment by SCOTT A. — February 7, 2009 @ 10:04 am
Scott,
Your story is more common than you think. I have a friend from church whose 16 yr. old daughter is a ward of the state in Spokane WA. She keeps running away from the fosterhomes and grouphomes and the system has forced her to take drugs, forced her to get counceling by several different therapists who she has to repeatedly talk about what has happened to her. She basically has to keep reliving the things that have happened to her. She has taken illegal drugs, has attempted to commit suicide numerous times, (only after taking prescribed psychotropics,) and has been sexually permiscuous. At the present moment, she is pregnant. All of this acting out in a distructive manner is only the result of her wanting to return home to her parents. They live on the other side of the state, aproximately 9 hrs. away. The state locks her up when they get her back, but the first chance she gets to book, she’s gone again. Her parents haven’t had their parental rights terminated either, however, just like you, nobody will consider what the parents want or don’t want. I don’t know how your story started, but I can promice you that it doesn’t matter because the end result is always the same: the children suffer and the parents hands are tied. Unless your daughter can run away and be very good at not getting caught, she will continue to be under the government’s control, and that includes the experiments that they are doing on her with the psychotropic drugs they are using on her. If I was in your situation, I would move out of state and send your daughter a bus ticket under an alias name and take her back. After all, the government abducted your daughter. I don’t believe that it is possible to abduct your own child. Since your parental rights have never been terminated, use them. Don’t let the government torture your little girl anymore. I don’t know if you listen to the Alex Jones Show, but he talks about what the media wont. He researches his subjects before he opens his mouth so the information he gives is very acurate. What he talks about has a lot to do with what the government is doing to our kids; the experiments, the brainwashing, ect…I strongly urge you to take a listen. You can do so by going to http://www.infowars.com click on listen to the Alex Jones Show. Or you can try going to http://www.prisonplanet.tv but it is tricky accessing his show from there. His show is from 11am-3pm, central time, broadcasted live, but they record and replay for the rest of the day so you won’t miss anything. If “we the people” are going to take our rights back, we must be willing to be prepared to fight. Without knowlege and the ability to stand united, we will not prevail. This is our country. These are our children. If we don’t fight with everything we have, we fail them. God bless you, and good luck.
Comment by Shelle — February 7, 2009 @ 1:18 pm
I called a Majority Leader name Michael Gronstal I told him about the corruption of DHS he hung up on me I called him back he got smart with me I said U don’t have your kids taken from you he got real smart and said good for you twice he hung up Mr Michael Gronstal works with the senate in DesMoines IOWA he sticking up for DHS he knows DHS is crooked so is Michael Gronstal he don’t want to help poor people who lost their kids why is he there if he don’t want to help anybody poor.
Comment by Terri Rote — February 7, 2009 @ 1:31 pm
Back in2004 I was called for jury duty I told them that I’m not going to do it since you took my children away I told them to go to hell I told the courts that how they are crooked by violating my rights from my children and they expect me to do jury duty I did’t do it some nerve they got wanting me to do jury duty after they went and stoled my children away from me somebody tole me that they ask people to do jury duty more than once they ask me again I will tell them to go to hell if you give me my children back to me then I do jury duty I told them how my exinlaw paid the Judge off and how they know that DHS lies .
Comment by Terri Rote — February 7, 2009 @ 1:38 pm
Anybody here in DesMoines Iowa I want to let you know that Michael E. Gronstal of the Senate who is the majority leader is a smartass he is on DHS side he is just as guility as DHS is he should be remove from his seat he had no business talking to me like that.Doesn’t do no good to talk to that asshole he don’t care about you except DHS .
Comment by Terri Rote — February 7, 2009 @ 1:43 pm
Sounds like one of socialist services paid goons. They probably contribute 2 his campaigns.
Comment by Susan — February 7, 2009 @ 5:21 pm
Scott,
I am sure that Shelle means well, but that is not very good advice. If you moved and your daughter went with you, it would still be felony kidnapping. It wont do any good if the system gets their hands on you too. Your daughter needs a place to call home and her parents to be there when she is finally free. I know that the system is corrupt and that you and your family have been wronged and are hurting, but you don’t want to do something foolish like that. It is better to just keep fighting for your daughter the legal way. I know that you can’t afford and attorney. You may be able to find one who will represent you pro bono, (for free.) I hope things work out for you.
God bless you and your family and don’t lose hope. There is always comfort in the power of prayer. He does hear our cries for help and he will answer them. Those who have wronged you will be punished.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 8, 2009 @ 7:36 am
Scott, I agree with JoLisa on this. I never advise custodial interference. I recommend that we fight these things in court rather than going outside the law. Nobody can help their children from within a prison.
Comment by LindaJoMartin — February 8, 2009 @ 7:49 am
Donna,
I have absolutely NO sympathy for you. You are every parent’s worst nightmare. You may not think you are abusive to those kids, but I am sure that God made you barren for a reason.
Shame on you for how you treated those kids! You obviously don’t know the first thing about special needs children. They don’t respond to harsh dicipline, and most biological parents would never use corporal punishment on a “normal” child, and I use that term very loosely.
The fact that you defend your actions, saying that those kids never had blisters or passed out, you are a liar. If it hadn’t happened, you wouldn’t have brought it up.
If those kids spent enough time outdoors getting plenty of exercise and fresh air, they wouldn’t be so unruly. If they had an outlet, an escape from the things that stress them out, (like painting,) they would be easier to manage.
When a child habitually wets him/herself, or on someone’s property, it is stress related and a cry for help unless it is a medical condition. In either case, it is counter productive and degrading to put them in diapers!
My son has special needs. In fact, he HAS ADHD, he HAS PDD, he HAS BIPOLAR! They don’t understand how their behavior affects others, they only understand how others behaviors affect them. They understand that you tell them what they did was wrong but they don’t understand why it is wrong.
They don’t respond well to corporal punishment. They have no tolerence for stress and nearly everything in their inviornment can cause stress that wouldn’t normally affect us, like a TV being on.
They need to be handled gently. They need structure and stability. They need proper supervision. If you can’t do that, then you can’t meet their needs and be a good parent.
There are biological parents who have lost their kids for smaller infractions.
As many days as there are in a year, there are even more children who die in this country annually while in foster care. That is 3 times more than under the care of blood relatives.
The foster parents don’t know how to handle special needs kids so they take their frustration out on the children. The children need to be with blood relatives, and I believe that every child has at least one blood relative that is safe to place with.
Foster/Adopt parents are the worst. They receive damn near no supervision by CPS. The child you called a liar probably was telling the truth about what you did to him. My step-mother called me a liar to anyone who would listen so that she could keep abusing me.
I WAS TELLING THE TRUTH!
So take your story elsewhere. You wont find anyone feeling sorry for you here. We know your kind. If my son was treated like that, my husband would be in prison for murder.
What’s even more absurd is that you were allowed to have children in your home after what you did. You have a lot of nerve blaming your behavior on other people, especially innocent children! You should have been put in jail.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 8, 2009 @ 8:28 am
Jolisa,
I agree with you. Foster parents who ask biological parents and biological relatives truly miss the point. In many instances there is no allegation of abuse that is the point! It is so sickning to me. I know I don’t know every story but that is where people cannot throw everybody in the same category as a genuine case of child abuse. We as a society do not throw parking ticket violators with serious crimes but in family court everything is thrown together even women who give birth to healthy babies.
Comment by Gingerroot — February 8, 2009 @ 5:43 pm
I meant asking us to feel sorry for them.
Comment by Gingerroot — February 8, 2009 @ 5:44 pm
I was on the AFRA website this afternoon and I came across an article that said statistically, children are 11 times more likely to be abused in foster care than at home and are 7 times more likely to have death related injuries than they are living with natural family members.
Comment by Brian — February 8, 2009 @ 10:29 pm
There is also articles on how CPS got started. Interesting that abortion was legalized in 1973, and then the government started pushing CPS on us in 1974.
Food for thought.
Comment by Brian — February 8, 2009 @ 10:31 pm
Tomorrow I GO ON A MISSION. I will be taking video footage of what exactly is going on in my kids classroom. After the parent/teacher confrence, I was no longer allowed to walk my child to class. So tomorrow I will drop him off at the front enterance like I usually do, and when things are settling down I will go in with my cell phone on silent and take video footage of what is done at the beginning of the day, (pledge of allegiance.)
In some schools, they put a big picture of Obama on the projector screan during the big scene, others, like my childs school, leaves a big picture of Obama up all of the time.
Be watching, the anti-christ doesn’t age.
Be ready, Jesus will return like a thief in the night.
I will not have my child be forced to worship a mortal man who was born into sin and can’t do anything for us. My child is deeply rooted in his faith in God. He knows what they are doing at school is wrong. They don’t even teach real history.
I recently saw a documentary on the Free Mason Society, and our Nation’s Capital. Scary stuff, nearly three hours long but definately something you don’t want to miss. Let me see if I can find it. I will post on here the link to anyone who is interested.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 8, 2009 @ 11:24 pm
Found it.
http://www.google.com/videoplay
The documentary is called:
Riddles in stone- Secret Architechture of Washington DC.
WE ARE ON CURSED SOIL!
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 8, 2009 @ 11:32 pm
Isn’t that story of DONNA’s, the foster parent just so true in 1 fact…
She had an open case, lost the kids and yet CPS gives her 3 kids to watch over as a foster parent…all while this is going on. It doesn’t matter that is was only for a week or two. It happened.
Now can anyone tell me, that as biological parents, whos kids have been taken, that WE would be given “substitute” kids to watch over at the same time we are fighting for our own kids back?
It is as if CPS, in her case, wanted to apease her with a new toy. SOmeone elses kidnaped children!
Comment by Cheryl — February 9, 2009 @ 7:18 am
Cheryl,
I agree with you. We are on eggshells as it is, weather we have lost all of our kids to the system, or only some of them. CPS wouldn’t give us replacement children, because then they would have to explain why we weren’t fit to take care of our own kids, only someone elses. They are never held accountable for anything.
That woman had the audacity to defend her actions of abuse against those special needs kids, and then after CPS took them from her, gave her someone elses children to abuse?
I don’t see how that is rational. We are made out to be monsters, but until a child dies in government custody, nobody has any consequences. And even then, CPS is never held accountable.
If you want to know how CPS gets the power to torment and torture us and our kids, watch that documentary I posted above. I will post it again, along with the link to the Alex Jones Show, which is broadcasted live in Austin Texas. He was almost victimized by CPS when he was 15.
I have so much love for all of you and I share in your pain. Arm yourself with knowlege, because without knowlege we can’t fight for what’s right and do right by our kids.
http://www.infowars.com click on listen to the Alex Jones Show.
Riddles in stone-Secret Architechture of Washington DC
God bless all of you and keep fighting…
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 9, 2009 @ 9:24 am
Riddles in stone link didn’t engage this time, not sure why but if you click on the link for it about 3 messages up it will go straight to the video. Let me try this again…
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 9, 2009 @ 9:28 am
http://video.google.com/videoplay
Riddles in stone-Secret Architechture of Washington DC
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 9, 2009 @ 9:29 am
Still didn’t work. Sorry…
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 9, 2009 @ 9:30 am
Jolisa, also check out the weird symbolism surrounding Denver Intl Airport. It’s got sinister murals painted on the walls depicting children & minority women in coffins! There’s also masonic symbols throughout the airport & some say there are underground labs, secret runways, etc. Colorado is rapidly becoming a police state. I want out! everybody, please check out this link:
http://www.anomalies-unlimited.com/Denver_Airport.html
Comment by Susan — February 9, 2009 @ 4:28 pm
Susan,
Thank you! I want to know all that I can. The world is creepy enough, but to know that we are on cursed soil and that the Free Masons are Ocult is even more scary. That’s where the freedom of religeon came from in the first place. They wanted to break away from Catholoisism so they could worship Satan in secret and hide behind God. They drink from a human skull during rituals! Using the Lord’s name in vain; I wouldn’t want to stand in judgement for that!
AFRA actually has an article on (Humanism.) They believe there is no supernatural being, and that Christians and other religeous people interfere with their children’s ability to be taught, that this is, in fact, abuse! Because we believe that human life is sacred and precious! Because we pray. Because we believe in an afterlife. Because we believe there is a heaven and a hell.
All religeons indicate that there is an afterlife. AND EVERYTHING IN THE BOOK OF REVELATION HAS HAPPENED OR IS HAPPENING RIGHT NOW OR IS GOING TO HAPPEN! The decisions we make now can cause physical death, but a spiritual death is far worce and is eternal.
AFRA also has an article on how public schools are sexually corrupting our children in the public school system. And I know for sure that it’s true because of the things that my son says when he comes home from school.
Just like they have large pictures of Obama in the classrooms and are brainwashing the kids to become international children and worship the president. They are preparing our children to be ready to worship the anti-christ.
I will definately check this out, Susan. Thanks again.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 10, 2009 @ 1:05 pm
Be sure to listen to the Alex Jones Show at http://www.infowars.com click on: listen to the Alex Jones Show. Everything he says on his show is true. You can take that to the bank!
God bless you…
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 10, 2009 @ 1:07 pm
You’re very welcome JoLisa! You’re absolutely right on about the Book of Revelation coming true as we speak. I gotta check out my son’s Kindergarden class to see if they have a big pic of Obama on the wall. I’m been to chicken to meet his teacher due to more PAS from my mother’s ‘partner’ who c*nt-trolls everything. That Obama glorification reminds me of how Iraq used to have huge posters of Saddam Insane all over the place & the USSR doing the same with Stalin, & so on. This is pretty creepy!
Comment by Susan — February 10, 2009 @ 6:04 pm
Susan,
There has been a big 2-do about the pictures. Some schools, (like the one my son is in,) has the picture up all of the time. Other’s put up a picture on the projector screen just before they say the pledge of allegiance, and then turn the image off afterwords.
I went to investigate yesterday at the school. I did see the big picture of Obama! Unfortunately, I was too late to witness what happens when they say the pledge. I am going to attempt to again tomorrow and try to get it on video, but I have to be careful.
Did you know that when you drop your kids off at a public school, you give up your parental rights upon said children entering the premices?
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 10, 2009 @ 8:25 pm
DEFINITION OF KIDNAPPING:
UNDER FEDERAL AND STATE LAW, KIDNAPPING IS COMMONLY DEFINED AS THE TAKING OF A PERSON FROM ONE PLACE TO ANOTHER AGAINST HIS OR HER WILL, OR THE CONFINING OF A PERSON TO A CONTROLLED SPACE, REGUARDLESS OF RANSOM OR OTHER FORM OF EXPLOITATION AND WITH OR WITHOUT PARENTAL CONCENT.
SENTENCING FOR KIDNAPPING:
SENTENCING VARIES FROM STATE TO STATE. FOR EXAMPLE; IN MISSISSIPPI, SENTENCING FOR KIDNAPPING IS LIFE IN PRISON.
I WONDER WHAT THE CPS CHILD-SNATCHING STATISTICS ARE THERE…
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 10, 2009 @ 8:35 pm
WARNING!
I did my son’s classroom observation, (spying, as a concerned parent of a special needs child,) and I was shocked at what I saw and heard.
I received a call on Monday from the school principal. She said that before class, my son climbed under his desk and wouldn’t come out from under it. The school councelor was in a meeting for over an hour and couldn’t come to get him. This happens almost every day. I didn’t find this out until today. He spent most of the day with her, then ended up with the principal. Mind you, I wasn’t called until nearly 2pm. I went to get him.
That was when I saw the big picture of Obama on the classroom wall, (Monday.)
While I was (spying) today I observed my son sitting under his desk, wearing headphones, making unusual sounds, faces, body gestures and tearing up paper into little pieces. (These are typical signs of distress with autistic children.) My child is autistic. He doesn’t want to hear anything so he wears the headphones. The teacher hid the headphones from him but he found them and put them on again.
I guess I missed the pledge of allegiance again. I NOTICED THAT THE PICTURE OF OBAMA WAS MISSING FROM THE WALL WHERE IT WAS PLACED MONDAY MORNING!
THEY CAUGHT ME (SPYING) TODAY, BUT I WASN’T APPROACHED FOR ABOUT A HALF HOUR.
While I was watching from outside the classroom, a school employee went into the classroom to talk to his teacher. About two minutes later, the class room next door, (who’s door was wide open,) I heard the teacher, a younger woman, tell her class that it was time to stand for the flag salute. I glanced over for a quick second and then returned my eyes to my son.
First I heard the pledge of allegiance, (NORMAL SO FAR,) then I heard it in spanish or some other language, (NOT UN-NORMAL, BUT NOT FAMILIAR TO ME,) then I heard them do that song, “Proud to be an American,” and some other patriotic song I never heard before, (I SUPPOSE THAT ISN’T UNUSUAL EITHER, BUT NOT FAMILIAR TO ME.)
I wasn’t prepared to hear the song that followed and it made the hair stand up on my neck! It was a song about FEMA! Here’s how it went:
What can FEMA do for you, What can FEMA do for me…yahdah, yahdah, yahdah, FEMA Camps are good for you and me!
HELLO?!!!!!!
HAVE YOU HEARD ABOUT THE FEMA CAMPS??
DO YOU KNOW WHAT FEMA IS??
If we don’t stand up and fight NOW, we will give them even more power.
FEMA CAMPS ARE CONCENTRATION CAMPS!
THIS IS GOING TO BE MUCH BIGGER AND MUCH, MUCH WORCE THAN THE HOLOCAUST!
OUR CHILDREN WILL KEEP BEING HELPLESS, TORTURED VICTIMS IF WE DON’T ACT NOW!
Listen to the Alex Jones Show and your eyes will be opened. He isn’t bulls*tting us. He researches everything before he opens his mouth. The wolves in sheep’s clothing is real.
http://www.infowars.com
Please see for yourselves what is going on in your kids classrooms, (if they are in public schools,) and spread the word.
Knowlege is power.
God bless you…
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 11, 2009 @ 11:11 am
The deep South seems to have very little cps snatchings. I believe it’s entirely based on racism because white babies are more ‘adoptable’ & generate more profit. Funny how after Hurricane katrina, cps was ready to unite families instead of pimping out the kids. I wish we still lived in FL instead of making the mistake of moving to corrupt CO. My case would have NEVER gotten 2 where it did down there! Public schools are getting worse every day too. This NWO sh*t is creeping up on us. Scary!
Comment by Susan — February 11, 2009 @ 2:08 pm
JoLisa, why don’t you ask the teacher for the lyrics? She might give them to you, if you act like you’re interested instead of shocked. I Googled “FEMA song” and found out there are several including the “FEMA for Kids Rap” which is on the FEMA site… but it is about saving people from disasters.
Comment by LindaJoMartin — February 11, 2009 @ 6:47 pm
Susan, Florida is one of the worst states for CPS injustice. I rarely hear from many of the other Southern states, but they are active there. North Carolina and Georgia have a lot of problems.
Comment by LindaJoMartin — February 11, 2009 @ 6:55 pm
Dear Donna
Please tell me I misunderstood when you said you used jalapeno pepper slices? I assume you have special training in dealing with special needs children?
My son (now 26) is autistic. The methods you say you used would only intensifify the situation.
As far as the urination, perhaps the child has a medical problem? Kidney? bladder? have you had him seen by a doctor?
Autistic children can become overstimulated and react in all kinds of ways. He may be overstimulated?
I’m a little confused of the methods you tried.
Comment by fran — February 12, 2009 @ 6:37 am
Fran,
I assure you that you did NOT misunderstand Donna.
I STILL have problems with my son’s school simply because they don’t know the first thing about autism.
The teacher said to me that she hid the headphones from my son but he found them. I asked my son about the headphones and why he was under his desk rocking and tearing up paper, (as you know, quite common of autistic children and adults when they are in distress or are over-stimulated,) he said that the headphones are to keep his ears from falling off because of all of the loud noises! He said he was under his desk, rocking because he was upset and he was tearing up the paper because he wanted to leave the classroom and they wouldn’t let him. He was upset because he wanted me. (I would like to point out that he NEVER rocks himself or climbs under furniature when he is at home! And he is very social and friendly!)
His teacher told me that he refuses to do anything in the classroom but I know that it isn’t true because I see the work he brings home and his grades are improving. I told all of them that he doesn’t behave that way at home and I am very successful at getting him to learn and so his school work.
She told me that he refuses to go to assemblies. When I asked him about it, he said they are too long, too noisy and too crowded. They also have them at least once a week, the gym is always cold and he comes home sick almost every week. Before he started school he never got sick, except for an occasional ear infection. After he started going to school, he started getting sick frequently, and now it seems like he is always sick.
The principal called me again yesterday, per my request this time. I told her what I had observed of my son and what his teacher said. His lab teacher said that he disrupts the other students, (she is the one who told my son that fosterhomes are good,) aparently, she ends up babysitting him when his own teacher is too busy, (more like lazy!) She doesn’t understand autism, (totally obvious!) and I am almost certain that she started her teaching career when Garfield was president! In some cases it is true what they say about not being able to teach an old dog new tricks.
Getting back to my conversation with the principal; she asked me what suggestions I have, since I don’t think that his IEP is working for him. She said that the problems began when the IEP was implimented but it wasn’t when they started because I started getting calls from the school WAY BEFORE THAT. Right around the time that they told me that I couldn’t walk him too and from class anymore, saying that he was being teased because of it. Not true either, he gets teased even more now than he did before and I think that it is because his behavior changed when I started dropping him off at the front enterance.
I suggested Special ED full time. She said thay don’t have a program for that. I suggested having his work sent home, and only have him there for attendance reasons and she said that we would have to be assessed for home schooling. I can’t do that full time. I suggested him doing half days. She didn’t appear to have an opinion on that.
I could also have suggested that I be there with him while he is being educated to help alleviate some of his anxiety and increase his sence of security. That way he can still have his special classes that I know he needs and I am not qualified for, but he would have me there for encouragement and praise, while keeping him safe of all of the things about school that obviously scare him.
She said that she would talk to his teacher and the school councelor and see what their thoughts are on this.
They want me to encourage him to be independant. What they don’t understand is that the more I do that, the more resistant he is due to his autism. They really are clueless about autism and the barriers associated with it, the different ways to teach that are adaptable to HIS ability to learn, (but they don’t have time for all that! school councelor’s exact words,) and his need for security and to feel safe by not being around things that scare him or over-stimulate him. It is very frustrating and it even angers me sometimes.
Any suggestions on how to deal with the school from someone that is a parent of an autistic child would be much appreciated!
God bless you…
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 12, 2009 @ 10:10 am
I’m still fighting to get my little daughter Sabrina back. Our case in in the Supreme Court of VA now.
Comment by Nancy Hey — February 12, 2009 @ 12:36 pm
LindaJo, you’re right about FL. Certain parts are much worse than others. Hopefully with this recession/depression going on, ALL states will cut their budgets for cps investigations on bogus charges & ALL non abuse cases, including witch hunts. I’d love to know how much they wasted on my bogus case & I’d post the results in the newspaper!
Comment by Susan — February 12, 2009 @ 2:52 pm
The teacher hid the headphones from my son again. I left a message for the school councelor to call me, but sometimes she doesn’t call me back for several days if at all.
I’M ABOUT TO LOOK INTO FILING A LAWSUIT!
I actually had a dream last night that I did consult with a lawyer that agreed to meet with me at my house, and he took my case.
According to the Americans with Disabilities Act, they are required to respond appropriately and in a timely manner to meet any reasonable request. If my son needs headphones to curb his anxiety and chances of being over-stimulated, he’s going to have it. He responds in an agressive manner to people there at times, and I consider this to be a safety issue for him, and everyone else in his enviornment.
EVEN IF I HAVE TO SEND HIM TO SCHOOL WITH THE HEADPHONES MYSELF!
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 13, 2009 @ 9:11 am
Dear JoLisa
Dear JoLisa
My son is also autistic (26 now). The battles I had with the school system I can write a book on. First each child is entitled to a “Free and appropriate” education. The schools know this, but they claim “lack of funding” as a means around this. Second: special education funding is separate than regular education funding. If a child is deemed in need of special services they can apply for this funding, however when my son was in school it was only $584.00 per child, per month. If that was not enough to met the child’s needs than the school had to take funds from the regular funding to make up the difference. My guess is $584.00 doesn’t go far when it comes to special ed needs. Now here is the best part. If they do not use all of the special education funding they can use it for regular ed funding. The profit is to provide a few services as possible. This information I received from my child’s teacher who was not afraid of the system. Furthermore teachers are discouraged from telling parents that their child is entitled to any special services. In fact they can be fired for it. It sounds to me that you know exactly what your child needs. It’s a fact that autistic children can not tolerate noise and it’s very over stimulating to them. I feel the teachers hiding the earphones, is abusive to say the least. Look up your states special education procedures and policies. We had to contact “The center for Virginians with Disabilities” to get involved with our son. A few other times we hires a private lawyer. Once the school knows you know your child’s rights, they back off. Also if you want your son evaluated for special services, request the school do so. In my state You can either use their evaluator or choose one of your own and the school must pay for it. However they may retaliate by calling CPS and making false allegations.
Good Luck and God Bless
Comment by fran — February 13, 2009 @ 10:18 am
Autism folks:
Heck one town in Idaho just HANDCUFFED AND CALLED THE POLICE ON A 5yr old K student ( girl)
She wasn’t allowed to wear her cow hoddie to a party.
You do need to retain and Education atty in these egregious cases.
Google the story. Big news.
However, students with an IEP, some constraints have been placed upon ED LAW attys under Federal regulations passed around ‘05.
However, it never hurts to call and consult with an atty. Only they know the state statutes and regs.
I think many of you will be surprised to know how many female and male attys who specialize in School Law actually have disabled children of their own.
People cannot believe how CPS has permeated the school atmosphere, too. It leads to cases like the one mentioned above where the Principal calls the local police and handcuffs the students.
CPS is mostly very detrimental to families and kids.
That, too, I assure you all is a result of CPS meddling.
Comment by Fern — February 13, 2009 @ 10:47 am
Fran,
Thanks for the 411.
I have another update for you all on my situation.
The principal called me today to tell me that they are not willing to make any changes to my son’s IEP at this time because of all of the days he has missed school.
She also told me that they can’t let him do half days either, her reason I can’t recall but I do know that it was crap.
Christy told me that if I send my child to school with headphones of hid own, they may call CPS on me.
I am executing control over this matter as calmly and discreetly as possible. I will keep everyone posted as things progress.
I know that a lot of people that visit this site have children with special needs or know people who do. My success or failure could be used by others as a learning tool.
I WILL NOT ALLOW THAT SCHOOL OR ANY OF IT’S EMPLOYEES TO ABUSE MY SON BUT I WILL TAKE GREAT CARE IN HOW I APPROACH ISSUES TO BE THE MOST PROACTIVE.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 13, 2009 @ 12:56 pm
Fern,
Thanks for the tip! I will look into it most definately
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 13, 2009 @ 12:57 pm
My grandchildren were given to their foster parents for adoption by CPS, although CPS knew that we wanted to adopt them. The foster parents will not let us see our grandbabies. Or talk to them. Just because we fought for them. How can this foster parent now adoptive mother sleep at night knowing that she is keeping our grandchildren away from their natural, loving law abidding grandparents?
Comment by Jean — February 13, 2009 @ 8:32 pm
Jean,
She sleeps just fine because she really doesn’t know any different.
More commom than not, people decide to become foster parents because they can’t have any of their own and word is out there that they can adopt the children they foster.
If you spend enough time on this site, you will become more aware of the whys and the hows.
Foster/Adopt “parents” are also known as child collectors, and child collectors don’t have a conscience. They are greedy for what they can’t have, (children with their own biology,) so they use CPS, (government-paid kidnappers,) as an adoption agency with benefits, meaning that they get paid to foster, (paid the children’s social security,) and they get paid to adopt as well.
If you want to know more about this you can go to http://www.americanfamilyrightsassociation.com
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 13, 2009 @ 8:59 pm
My husband and I have been Fost/Adopt parents for almost 8 years now. And we have had the pleasure of working with over 20 biological families and reuniting over 30 children with their bio parents. I’m not saying we haven’t run into our fair share of CPS nightmares, but I choose to over look that part and I choose to look at the good that came out of the situation.
I’m not saying that my husband and I are perfect. We can’t have our own children and we thought that this would be the perfect way to have a family and also help out our community. It has taught us so much about one another. When we started, I never thought that I would have such a close relationship with so many bio families. I have invited so many families into our home. We’ve shared holidays, birthdays, family dinners, school events, etc… We made sure that they didn’t miss out on anything while their child was in our care.
We are getting ready to adopt our first sibling set out of all those kids. Their parents willing gave up their rights and we were chosen by their CW to care for and love them. Our son has ADHD and has been diagnosed with Asperberger’s Syndrome. Do I love him any different? No - do we do things a little different? Yes. He is learning social skills, sharing, manners, teamwork, etc… He loves to build things and we encourage that. I can tell when he is over stimulated and all it takes is a hug and a song.
We also have a set of siblings whose mom is unable to care for them. She is pleading with the courts and the CW for the children to remain with my husband and I. The maternal grandma comes to our home all the time to see her grandkids - my kids refer to her as grandma. We have a unique relationship. And I love it. These are just two examples of a good foster home. Yes there is discipline - no it is not corporale punishment. We have a time out bear, my kids are old enough to pull weeds, be grounded, miss the soccer game on Saturday, whatever the case may be. But it is age appropriate and sometimes they are able to pick their own punishment. It teaches them responsibility.
Not everything the past 8 years has been rainbows and butterflies. We’ve had our fair share of ups and downs. We’ve been investigated just as you all have been. An angry bio parent - who is mad at us and gets a hold of our info. Calls us into the local police for a red mark on the neck right where the shirt rubs. Family members of my husbands call us into CPS because they are being vindictive and trying to be hurtful since we took in his niece (whose bio father is in jail for 15 years). We have perspective from both sides of the stick. And if I could - I would eliminate CPS all together. I would impliment laws that wouldn’t allow bio mom’s to continue to give birth to babies that were born addicted to the same drugs their mom’s were high on. And people who really did abuse their kids - would lose out on that opportunity to raise their kids. Maybe that’s harsh, but these kids are our future. I want to have a future.
So for my family, I am going to fight a little harder for that bio grandma to be able to gain custody of some of her grandkids. And I’m going to make sure that my son receives the education he needs and that the school follows his IEP. I’m going to love any child that walks through my door for how ever long they are here for and then I am going to welcome their biological family into my home and into my heart and I’m going to support where needed. That’s what I’m going to do.
What are you going to do?
Comment by Christine — February 14, 2009 @ 12:51 am
Christine,
Though you appear to be a caring person, we don’t hear from people like you until we make comments about foster/adopt situations. Quite frankly, people like you, (foster/adopt,) are the biggest reason why CPS is making so much money.
I believe that God chooses who become parents and who don’t. If He decides to make a woman barren, it is because she isn’t supposed to have any.
No one on this earth has the right to interfere with another person’s God-given rights, also known as sovereign rights. God chooses who has kids, not mankind. Our ways are not his ways.
THERE ISN’T ANYTHING GODLY ABOUT CPS, THE “JUSTICE” SYSTEM OR FOSTERHOMES!
People like you, (biologically childless,) just don’t get how traumatized children get when they are STOLEN.
This is an act of TERRORISM
Before a child is even removed from a home, all biological families have at least one member that is safe to be placed with and should be found and arangements made before the child is STOLEN.
Very few families actually “need” that kind of intervention when you considder the number of reports and CHILD THEFTS their are.
Most children taken from their parents have no financial nest-egg, “poor,” so they can’t afford to hire proper legal councel. For that reason alone, 70% of the children in fosterhomes have never belonged there in the first place.
In the best interest of the child means nothing of what it says. The best interest really means terminate parental rights of biological moms and dads.(AFTER STEALING THE KIDS TO GIVE TO THE CHILD COLLECTORS.)
If they really gave a rat’s ass about a child’s best interest they would do everything possible to keep the child with biological parents while still getting the intervention the family needs. And if keeping the child with the biological parents wasn’t possible, they would be placed with another biological family member.
You said something about stopping some women from continuing to have children? Regardless of your reasons, you are not God. God’s way is not man’s way and we are not to assume that we have Him figured out.
People who want to adopt so bad need to go back to doing it the old fashioned way; pay for it out of their own pockets and stop telling society that it is their job to foot the bill.
You wouldn’t have any kids if it wasn’t for CPS, now would you? So you are indicating that you are a hypocrite for saying that if it was up to you they wouldn’t exist.
Because of CPS, you have been PAID to shelter stolen children of grieving biological family.
You get PAID to adopt STOLEN children
The social worker gets PAID to see that it happens.
The judges, lawyers, guardian ad litems, and all of CPS employed “specialists” are PAID to help make it happen.
No payment to the children this happens to: they get STOLEN from their biological family.
AND their Social Security gets STOLEN from them TO PAY FOR THEM TO BE STOLEN.
No payment to the parents. They were NOT PAID to have their children
They were not PAID to give up their children.
THEY SUFFER WITH GRIEF AND YOU GET PAID TO HELP IT HAPPEN.
It would be more cost effective for the tax-payers if the families received in-home services. If it were the case, CPS and foster/adopt parents, (child collectors) would be out of business, and the police department would be handling the legitimate reports.
How dare you justify this dispicable system!
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 14, 2009 @ 8:24 am
JoLisa, have you discussed the headphones at an IEP meeting? You have the right to ask for another IEP any time you want it. If the school continues to violate your rights you can file a discrimination complaint with the Federal Dept. of Education. I did that once. I had to find out where the nearest office was. Calling them and filing the complaint was easy. It creates a lot of paperwork headaches for the teacher and principal… so I’m sure they won’t like it. You have a right to another IEP and the principal doesn’t have a right to deny one or to say he won’t make changes outside that meeting.
Comment by LindaJoMartin — February 14, 2009 @ 10:16 am
Linda,
I did ask for changes to his IEP and the principal told me that after talking to his teachers, she isn’t willing to make any changes to his IEP because he has missed several days of school due to being sick, and having to leave school early a few times.
It’s rediculous because instead of him having an education, he is being babysat by the school councelor or another individual.
My son told me that his teacher is mean to him.
I have NEVER gotten any positive feedback from her about my child. She isn’t capable of teaching my child. I have witnessed for myself how she teaches the other students, and I would not choose to have her teach any of my children, special needs or not!
She has been teaching for too many years and I am afraid that she doesn’t know how to adapt her skills to today’s children’s needs.
My son has asked her for help and she has told him to sit back down at his desk because he was disturbing the other kids.
My son also told me that she doesn’t let him use the bathroom right away, so he wears pull-ups at school to avoid being embarrassed.
My son has also told me that he has been bullied on nearly a daily basis by students from other classrooms.
I did speak with the school councelor about these issues. She said she would investigate and call me back.
The next day, (Halloween,) I received a letter in the mail from her saying that my son was lying about everything.
But my son NEVER lies. He is not even capable of it. Why would he point out children to me and say, “That kid said he is going to beat me up,” if it wasn’t true? Why would he go all summer without having any accidents and then urinate on himself only on the days he goes to school? Why would he tell me that the teacher won’t help him with his school work when he doesn’t understand what he is supposed to do? He has told me this since the very beginning.
Last year we were in another school district and he had a very good teacher. I saw her in action and she was great with all of her kids. She didn’t even know that I was there.
I have seen how the teacher he has now deals with the kids without her even knowing that I was there. I have never seen a lazier teacher in all my life. And I have heard with my own ears how she talks to the kids. It’s like she is only there for the paycheck.
The school doesn’t encourage parents to volunteer. His other school did and I was there sometimes all day while he was there and he wasn’t even aware of it.
Now I have to sneak in to see what is really going on because my son has a different story than the rest of them do, and I know that he is telling me the truth because I sneak in every chance I get.
The principal said that they won’t even look at making any changes to my son’s IEP for at least a few weeks. THEY decided to wait and see if my son adapts to the one he has now first.
MEANWHILE, MY SON IS BEING CONSISTANTLY TRAUMATIZED AND NOW HE IS DEFICATING ON HIMSELF DURING THE SCHOOL WEEK.
I STILL HAVEN’T HEARD BACK FROM THE SCHOOL COUNCELOR ABOUT MY REQUEST TO GIVE MY CHILD BACK THE HEADPHONES AND I TOLD HER THAT I SAW HIM ROCKING UNDER HIS DESK, TEARING UP PAPER WITH THE HEADPHONES ON.
I asked my son yesterday if he got the headphones back and he said no.
Yesterday I emailed the teacher he had last year to see what she suggests because her 5th grade son is autistic and she was the one who helped me get my son’s 504 plan mandated. I hate to speculate her responce, but I wouldn’t be surprised if she tells me to get a lawyer and sue. You just don’t mess with her kids, any of them! She has always had an open door policy to her classroom for the parents at any time.
His current school doesn’t like me dropping in and I don’t like it. I am concerned that if I am too pushy they will retaliate by reporting me to CPS so I am doing this as discreetly and politely as possible.
I will also be contacting the therapist we see. She is the one that diagnosed my son and controls his medication. She may have us come in to get a written statement from her that mandates the school to let my son have the headphones. Yet I still have to worry about them retaliating. She may suggest we sue as well. She doesn’t like anyone messing with her kids either! Every patient is special to her.
I guess I just have to wait it out and see what happens.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 14, 2009 @ 3:10 pm
JoLisa,
First of all I am not a barren woman - I can have my own children, but my husband cannot. However that is irrelevant.
Apparently you failed to read the parts where we have always been on the side of the biological family. We have worked hand in hand with ALL of our families. Do I think it’s right that CPS interfere? No, not always. However - there are extenuating circumstances that exist and CPS must be involved.
My husband and I treat these kids as “normal” as possible. We take them on vacations, movies, concerts, etc… Never once asking for a penny in return that is not what we so it for and to be accused of such and categorized with others is rude. The only thing we ask for is medical care anything else is taken care of by my husbands salary. Not all foster parents are in it for the money although I do know my fair share of those that are.
And I agree with you in home services would be more cost effective in the long run. Especially since the kids I care for return home to their families. That’s how I found about this site - is through one of my bio grandparents. She is fighting with the help of my husband and I to get custody back of her grandkids.
Not that I need to justify myself to you or anyone else, but I have not “stolen” any child from anyone. I have carefully cared for each child placed into my home for the amount of time they were there. I am not justifying the system - it’s a corrupt system. I know that - I just don’t know what I can do about it.
Comment by Christine — February 14, 2009 @ 8:06 pm
The lesbian monsters that stole our kids won’t let me see them yet again, tomorrow. They just keep ruining our lives & changing everything at their stupid whims. Just cuz i called the ugly tranny out on disrespecting me, my children are denied a visit with their mother. Well I’m NOT SHUTTING UP. I’ve had it with the injustice going on here. I speak from experience about growing up in that kind of household. My mother is holding a 30 year grudge against me for going to live with my dad & his childless freak wife at the time because I did NOT want to live with my mother & her ‘partner’. My life has sucked & I don’t want my kids’ lives to be as horrible as mine. Our oldest is still at the youth ‘treatment’ center because she was rebelling against my mother & her authoritarian whatever! CPS GET A CLUE & SEND MY CHILDREN HOME WITH THEIR LOVING PARENTS!
Comment by Susan — February 14, 2009 @ 9:13 pm
Christine,
reguardless of the reasons why you and your husband can’t procreate, That is what firtility clinics are for. If you can afford to take care of someone elses stolen children on what your husband makes, then you can afford artificial methods. I didn’t say that YOU stole the kids that you take in. I said that CPS steals them and gives them to people who can’t make their own, while the parents who rightfully are referred to as mom and dad grieve over their loss.
There are more fosterhomes now than there were when the 15 months law was passed, yet, most of these children never return home because of the child collectors.
I did read your entire comment. To tell you the truth, you sound like a social worker. They always justify CPS interferance.
I said that you taking in stolen children from an organization who is in the money-making business of kidnapping just so that you can have children makes you a hypocrite.
It doesn’t matter how you do things. You have no power to say if a child can go back home or to a family member. You have no authority over how much time a child can spend with their biological family.
You say you know what is going on but you don’t know what you can do about it? You say that if you had anything to say about it, CPS wouldn’t exist?
You just said that sometimes they are needed! If you had ever been a foster child, or you had your biological children ripped away from you, you would know what it’s REALLY about.
You obviously don’t have a clue.
No matter what happens after parents and their children are ripped apart, even if the kids end up living the life of one born with a silver spoon in his/her mouth, They will never feel completely secure, completely at home, or completely certain that a home or relationship will last.
Even if a child returns to the parents, that trauma is still lurking. “How long will I be able to stay with mommy this time? Will she protect me from them this time or will she let them take me away again? If they take me away again, will I still get to see mommy? Do I have to call that other lady mommy? Where will I live?
I know what I am talking about because I have already been through it. It doesn’t matter how the separation takes place or how nice you are to them, it isn’t their home. No matter how long it takes to return a child, which is very rare, the parent will still have the anxiety that drives them to keep looking over their shoulder.
I don’t believe that you are a stupid person. I think you know exactly what I am talking about and you know that what I am saying is true.
I have lived through a CPS nightmare my entire life! To this day, I never take a roof over my head and a steady income for granted. I can’t completely trust my husband with my heart because I don’t know if he will really love me forever. I don’t completely trust my family because I feel betrayed by them for letting me go through the horror that I have.
CPS put me out on the street without finishing highschool, without an income, without a place to live and before I was old enough to vote. Some fosterhomes were dirty, some clean, some foster parents weren’t as mean as others but I assure you, the larger the number of foster kids, the worce it was. Some were so full that kids had to share beds. Filthy living conditions, kids fighting, kids doing all of the work, including taking care of the younger kids with little to no supervision. Less kids meant a little less filthy, less fighting, foster parents actually doing some of the work, half-way decent supervision, may even give you a pat on the back once in a while and tell you that you did good. Those are the ones who started out just wanting to help kids, then found out that they could adopt and still get paid to foster. I know how fostercare works and I know how it feels to be a foster child. I know what it is like to be an abused kid at home and to be abused in fostercare, and I know what it is like to have my children ripped from my arms for absolutely know reason by the very people who lied about me.
When I referred to what I believe about in home intervention, I also said that CPS needs to end and if there is a real case of child abuse to call dispatch and let a police officer investigate.
Let people’s hard earned money pay for something that is really needed. The worst thing that you can be involved in is the breakup of a family.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 14, 2009 @ 10:18 pm
Not EVERYBODY has their child stolen from them!!! That is what is the problem. The reasons why some people do not get their children back are political. These laws if you can call them that will NEVER be fair!!! Everybody can get a speeding ticket. Everybody can get a parking ticket but unless EVERYBODY is scrutinized under a microscope when their babies are born these kidnapping actions will NEVER be fair. Unless EVERYBODY undergoes a background check when giving birth to a baby and EVERYBODY gets scrutinized then and only then will these laws be fair. EVERYBODY is sent to anger management classes and EVERYBODY gets sent to parenting classes.
Comment by Gingerroot — February 15, 2009 @ 9:23 am
I sure wish somebody would ask MY KIDS where they want to live & if my 6 yr old son is being hit in the face! Domestic violence is just as prevelent in homosexual households as it is in hetrosexual ones! F- political correctness & wake up!
Comment by Susan — February 15, 2009 @ 12:58 pm
Children would be less likely to be stolen if CPS didn’t exist because a police officer or other officer would be checking out the situation to see if, in fact, a child was in real and immediate danger. They would be responsible for making a report and gathering evidence. They would be responsibe for proving that a crime was commited. Child abusers would be arrested, charged and convicted by a jury of their peers and would be sentenced accordingly.
That is where people go wrong. If you really believe that a child is being abused, you should call 911. That would help put an end to anonymous tips. It is against our constitutional rights to be forbidden to face our accusers. The accuser should have to make a written report and sign it under penalty of purgery, just like a victim of robery, domestic violence, rape, ect…
Calling 911 to make a false report is a felony and can end you up in prison. Make a false report anonymously or under an alias to CPS is also a felony, but CPS protects the liar’s identity.
PERFECT EXAMPLE OF WHAT GINGERROOT WAS TALKING ABOUT!
Not everyone who breaks the law gets consequences. Not every felon goes to prison. Not every liar gets caught in the act.
It is no wonder that there are three times more children that die in fostercare than at home. No wonder eleven times more children are abused in fostercare than by their parents.
The government has say over us and we have no say over our children. The government says they are protecting the rights of the child when they are violating the rights of the child and excusing their law-breaking by saying that it is in the child’s best interest! What a crock!!
We are conditioned just like an abused domestic partner, (male or female, gay or straight.) Eventually we believe that we really are bad parents, or bad people, or that we deserve the bad things that happen to us, or that it is our faults that we are abused. We are manipulated by being told, “do this, or else,” or “if you do this, you will get your kids back.”
Sooner or later, someone has to come along and tell us that we are victims, that we deserve to be treated with respect, warmth and dignity, and that we are not crazy. And we have to be told that our children didn’t diserve to be treated like livestock.
We are not animals, yet, we are treated like animals and our children are taken away by people who assume the roll of a breeder, selling our kids for a profit, as if all we are good for is procreating.
We need to get the word out to all parents that they don’t have to give up their right to remain silent, their right to privacy, that they don’t have to let anyone in their house without being shown a valid warrent stating so. Manipulating us to believe otherwise is unconstitutional. Making threats to us and a means to manipulate us into giving up our rights is an act of terrorism.
We need to pass out fliers, advertize on shirts, bumper stickers and even give every parent we see, (especially single, young parents with low income,) a list of resources and information on how to fight CPS if and when they are ever harrassed by a social worker because they are the easiest targets. They have the right to be informed and prepared to protect their children.
As a wild animal chases a herd and the herd runs, there is always the one weaker and slower than the rest of the herd and ends up being dinner.
All that is needed for evil to prevail is for good people to do nothing.
Fight with all you have and get the word out that it is okay to fight the system when the system is commiting a crime.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 15, 2009 @ 2:46 pm
Susan,
Have you talked to anyone at your son’s school about your concerns and asked that someone interview him? It may be a proactive step in the right direction.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 15, 2009 @ 2:54 pm
JoLisa, that’s a good idea. There is no school Mon. or Tues. though & I start back 2 work tomorrow nite at my regular job having been off 6 wks cuz of the hysterectomy, but I’ll let them know. I hope the feminazis haven’t tipped them off about me being ‘crazy’ which i’ve been called too many damn times. Who the f*ck gets anywhere following the stupid herd anyways?
Comment by Susan — February 15, 2009 @ 10:59 pm
So what about the kid’s whose parents choose to give them up? They choose NOT to be their parents any longer? What are they supposed to do?
I don’t like parents having a set amount of time to see their kids each week. That’s why we’ve always made sure they were involved in the kids lives outside of CPS. They have spent the night on Christmas Eve, been here for Thanksgiving, family movie and pizza Fridays, etc…
Maybe I don’t know what is really going on. Maybe I shouldn’t know. I am an emotional person and I don’t know if I could handle the horror stories. All of my cases have had the Police involved. The kids were interviewed by Detectives and Criminal Investigators. Protocol was followed and the children were later returned to their mom, even though it wasn’t something CPS wanted. My husband and I helped her, by fighting on her side.
Just because we live off of my husband’s salary, doesn’t mean that we can afford the $20,000 it cost to do Invitro fertilization. I am not going into debt to have a child. Adopting these children - whose parents no longer wanted them (I’ve seen the court records) was the easier route for us.
JoLisa, I am sorry about what has happened to you. And I don’t blame you or find fault with anything that you’ve done or are doing to try to stop CPS. I’ve never been in your shoes, I never had to go through what you or any of the thousands of other kids in the system are going through. For that I am grateful. I am just trying to make the situation a little easier for the kids and their families while they go through this horrible situation. I am just trying to do what I can and what I know how to do.
Comment by Christine — February 16, 2009 @ 1:18 am
Hi,
I have over the last year gone to a domestic violence shelter, got a cpo and a divorce. I have sole custody of my children and my ex husband has supervised visitation and got the courts to agree to allow his mom to do this. The school district has a copy of my cpo and custody papers. The problem is that my oldest has chronic parvo b19 infection and is under a doctors care. I have a medical excuse for her to go half days only and the school is still fighting me for excessive absenteeism. Then on Feb. 6th on a scheduled visitation my ex-husband took them to the school without my permission and his mother and talked to the principal for hours. On Monday I got a call from CPS that they were opening a case because my son went to school with a handprint on his face that friday supposedly from my ex husband. They also said my kids are never at school. I met the case worker friday and explained about the illness and my ex husband. Then they pulled my kids out of class. This is after the school had pulled them and grilled them all week. Then the caseworker said that they want my daughter to go for a gynecological exam as they feel my ex husband has done something to her. I am scared and frustrated. I have done everything in my power to get away from my ex husband and keep us safe. Now I am fighting the school too. Who should I call? What kind of Lawyer do i need? Does my daughter have to go to their doctors or can I take her to her pediatrician. What are my rights or do I have any?
Comment by Melissa — February 16, 2009 @ 8:32 am
Melissa:
I recommend you join the Message Boards here, since obviously you have a complicated case.
You can always take your child to your own pediatrician. It is recommended that you do so.
One way for you to start is to contact your divorce attorney.
Is there anyone in the DV shelter whom you trust?
Best wishes.
Comment by Fern — February 16, 2009 @ 9:05 am
Melissa,
I have to agree with Fern. Get in contact with anyone you know that can back you up and get written declarations from them. Have them notorized and keep the originals.
Get your children to make statements on video if you can, and have all of them keep journals of everything they can remember; the abuse, the divorce, their relationship with you.
You should also get on video tape statements from each child about the harrassment at school by the school employees and by CPS. Of course, get it in writing too.
Visit the AFRA. Your rights and a lot of helpful advice on how to use those rights is on that site. The link is: http://www.americanfamilyrightsassociation.com
YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN DO NOT HAVE TO TALK TO ANY OF THEM. TELL THEM THAT THEY NEVER HAVE TO GIVE UP THE RIGHT TO REMAIN SILENT, SINCE ANYTHING THEY SAY, OR DON’T SAY CAN BE USED AGAINST YOU ANYWAY. IT IS BETTER TO NOT GIVE THEM ANYTHING TO GO ON.
Get together any medical documentation about your children and all legal documents and keep them organized and easy access. Tell your children’s pediatircian what is going on and have the exam on your daughter done there before the court mandates it. See if you can get in writing what your pediatrician has observed of you and your family.
Always keep the originals of everything and only use the copies, even if they tell you that they need the originals. They can already prove authenticity by going to the source.
Another place you may want to visit is: http://www.parentalrights.com.
I too would get on the message boards and attempt to get your divorce attorney to handle the case with CPS. Divorce attorneys primarily practice family law, and it would be an impressive addition to his list of credentials. If you get turned down, google “family law attorneys” in your state and county. Find out where they stand on your situation.
If you need a little help with finding resources, I’m always happy to help.
lindbloom_jm@yahoo.com
God bless you, I will pray for your family.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 16, 2009 @ 1:03 pm
My son is currently being investigated by Alabama Department of Human Resources (child protective services in Alabama). His wife is taking care of the children. She however, is unable to provide for them financially due to a disability. His wife made a report against him on the insistence of her therapist who coerced her into it, when she found out he was sleeping with her sister. The report was made sometime in December fo 2008. The children have gone through multiple interviews and nothing has been illegal has been found to have occurred. My question is the following; how long can the department of human resources keep my son from seeing his children? Also, they have confiscated his computers to investigate for child pornography I presume. The allegations made against him had nothing to do with child pornography. This separation of the family is really hard on the children. Why is this separation not considered child abuse. He has a wonderful loving relationship with his children. I have seen them interact on many occasions.
Comment by joe — February 16, 2009 @ 4:48 pm
Joe,
I am sorry to hear about your situation but I am sure that there is more to the story than what you are telling us.
If the wife had not done as the therapist suggested, a report would have been made by the therapist. They are required to by law if they suspect abuse, and you did say that his wife is disabled. If it is a mental or developmental disability, authorities act much more quickly and more thoroughly.
For the record, in answer to your question, CPS can keep your son from seeing the kids perminently. They can also take the kids from the mother.
That would perminently traumatize the children.
CPS may have a legitimate reason to have the computer confescated. Usually when there is infedelity in a marriage, it has nothing to do with sex or love, but about control. Child pornography and child molestation is also about control.
Your son may have a previous record with the police that you are unaware of, or he may have had allegations of this nature in the past that he wasn’t at liberty to tell you.
It is also possible that you haven’t been given all of the information reguarding the whole situation.
Because it involves your own child, you are bound to bias. I know that I would feel that my child was treated unfairly on that little piece of information. I would, however, investigate to see if there is more to the story.
How old is your son’s wife’s sister? How old was she at the time that they had sex the first time? Does he have a history of doing things like this that you are not aware of? Has he ever been accused of anything like this before? These are the questions that I would be asking.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 16, 2009 @ 7:24 pm
Dear JoLisa
Get medical documentation stating that your child needs the ear phones. The school has to grant you an IEP meeting, they a have a certain time frame in which to do this, but they must comply to your request to a meeting. At the meeting take any medical documentation. You may want to call the ADA. They can advise you further. In Virginia there’s the “Virginians with disabilities”. I have used their services, several times. They will go to the IEP meeting with you. I don’t know where you live but they may have a similar organization. Check into it. It took 30 days before they contacted me and I had to send them documentation to prove I had a case. Another time I had to contact a lawyer for immediate action. My son is non-verbal and uses ASL I wanted an interpreter. This was a fight. The school dug in their heels. But once they were faced with the legal issues, they backed down. I even called my congressman (who got involved). The only reason I knew of my son’s rights, was because a teacher put her job on the line by letting me know his rights. I still remain in contact with her so if you have questions let me know and I’ll contact her. (it may take awhile to get the info back and forth because I’m in the process of adopting my daughter, and that is another mess). When you talk the school try, as hard, to be calm and collective. I say this, but I had went off on them a few times. I’m a little older now and my son is no longer in school. In high school my son was in a TMR/EMR class. It was too simulating and I was called at least twice a week to pick him up. They can’t do that, if they can’t handle him in that environment they must find a more accommodate environment. I went to court (when he was 18) and got guardianship. The school tried to tell me my son wanted to leave school and he had that right because he was 18, then I showed them my court papers stating I was his legal guardian and he would stay in school until age 22. I was trying to get him moved from the TMR/EMR class, to a class that deals with autistic children. His teacher (An art teacher with no training in special education) stands up and says “in my opinion he is not autistic” I stood up and said “Is that your opinion as an art teacher?“ We were in each others face, My son’s advocate from mental health services had to break us up. (mind you the school tested him and said he was autistic) I did get him moved after that, and he did outstanding in the program suited to met his needs. Keep going, I know at times I felt like I couldn’t fight any longer, but I kept going until my son was in the correct class and his educational needs were met. It paid off in the long run. God Bless
Comment by fran — February 19, 2009 @ 5:31 am
My son who is turning two next month, has a second dregee burn from a houshold accident key word accident. The police think that i did it to him, he is healing nicely and feeling better everyday, his burn is not large or on his head ,face or genitiles from everything i have read The burn could have been treated at home but it is a good idea tho take them to see a doctor Its no wonder that people dont want to seek help if they think that people would accuse them of the accident. When did we get to the place where Children dont have accidents, CPS needs to go find the people abusing thier kids. all the paper work we have been given is written with broad statements so anyone could fit in. Parents will make mistakes and they learn and grow from them. But i shouldnt cost them thousands, if it hadden been tax season im not sure what i would do.
Comment by Al — February 20, 2009 @ 9:32 am
Dear Al
Loved your comment “When did we get to a place where children don’t have accidents”. When CPS started getting incentives for placing children in foster care. It’s sad but true. If I had known before what I know now. It’s a sad thing when you have to teach a 6 year old child to say “Not with out my lawyer”. It is a good idea to document every time your child is injuried. When our rear car seat malfuntioned, my child’s seat came up and she hit her head on frout seat. I drove right to the doctors. Mind you, and thank God we were at a stop sign and had just started to move. Then I got documentaion from the dealer that they had to replace the rear seat. cover your own *** You may need it later.
Comment by fran — February 20, 2009 @ 11:05 am
Christy sent me this yesterday. It is very enlightening and a must read for anyone wanting confirmation of what is going on with CPS and wants to do something about it.
NATIONAL ADVISORY ON ORGANIZED CRIME OPERATING IN THE CHILD PROTECTION SYSTEM
By James Roger Brown, Director, THE SOCIOLOGY CENTER
James Roger Brown is the director of THE SOCIOLOGY CENTER.
The Advisory was sent by e-mail to every Prosecutor and State Attorney General in the United States. It has also been posted on several websites.
It is published here with the kind consent of the author.
The recent horror story of a fifteen-month delay in Florida officials discovering that foster child Rilya Wilson had apparently been kidnapped by persons knowledgeable of the inner workings of the child protection system was due to the systematic falsification of child protection system records. This falsification of child protection system records is part of a national pattern of organized crime. It is not an isolated incident.
The Rilya Wilson case is the tip of a criminal iceberg. Beginning about 1973, criminal elements in the mental health and social work professions began cooperating to construct an organized criminal enterprise that exploits children behind the legislated secrecy of the child protection, juvenile justice, and mental health systems. The contemporary end result is a nationwide organized criminal operation that uses everything from sophisticated science-fraud-based “evaluation” instruments structured to produce false positives to third party state service contracts written to sustain a system of structural corruption in which state employees and contract service providers must falsify records and testimony or they will not continue to be employed or paid.
To maintain their existence, organized criminal operations must construct management bureaucracies with policies and procedures necessary to sustain daily operations, just like any other bureaucracy. The only adaptation required to run criminal operations in the government and quasi-government agencies which constitute the child protection system is that they must be integrated into the policies and procedures of the umbrella agency and not be detected as components of a criminal bureaucracy.
The existence of organized crime in the child protection system of any given state is not that difficult to detect. Prominent among the indicators are:
(1) the annual number of founded child abuse allegations can be predicted from the number of conditional federal grant and reimbursement salary fund dollars needed to balance the state child protection agency payroll (the number of children taken into state custody each year will be the number sufficient to generate the federal fund claims necessary to balance the agency payroll); and
(2) third party contracts to file state child protection agency federal fund claims will contain provisions that only compensate the contractor for increases in federal funds paid to the state over and above the amount paid in the previous contract for such claim filing services. The latter creates a system that will only result in compensation to the contractor if the number of children taken into state custody constantly increases and/or the total claims generated from each child in state custody increases each contract cycle. The net result is a system in which everyone stays employed only if the number of founded child abuse cases and children taken into state custody always increases and never decreases. An important byproduct of this criminal process of exploiting children independent of the true child abuse rate is the blind political support for the criminal operations generated by the constant flow of conditional federal funds into the respective State’s economy. In the Rilya Wilson case, even the Foster Mother continued to receive and accept payments for the care of Rilya over a year after the child disappeared. Caseworkers reportedly told her to take the money.
There are similar lessons to be drawn from the embarrassment of the Bush Administration over numerous ignored warnings that Osama bin Laden planned to hijack planes and fly them into buildings and the embarrassment of Florida Officials having to explain fifteen months of falsified child protection records, sworn court testimony that Rilya Wilson was in Florida State custody and doing fine, and falsified federal fund claims for services delivered to a child that may have been dead the entire time. After the collapse of the World Trade Center, both the American Public and terrorists worldwide now know the United States is vulnerable to attack, due in large part to corruption, incompetence and mismanagement in intelligence and law enforcement agencies. After the Rilya Wilson case in Florida, the Public and every child molester, pornographer and other criminal who need children for their misdeeds know that the corruption, incompetence and mismanagement in the child protection system can be exploited as cover to acquire children for their own illicit purposes. What happened to Rilya Wilson in Florida can happen in any state where the current organized criminal exploitation of children is allowed to continue. Sooner or later other criminals, including child molesters and child pornographers, are going to become sufficiently aware of the mechanisms the current organized criminals are using to manage their criminal bureaucracy that they will also be able to exploit the system, as were the people who reportedly kidnapped Rilya Wilson and returned a week later to collect her clothes. Among the obvious possibilities is obtaining information about the criminal activity (falsifying federal claims, official reports, insurance claims, etc.) of individual state employees or licensed professionals, like psychiatrists and psychologist, and blackmailing them to allow access to children for criminal exploitation or perversion.
Of major importance to prosecutors is that the systematic falsification of records by child protection system crime participants in psychiatry, psychology, social work and child abuse investigation units, results in the systematic falsification of evidence used in child related criminal and civil judicial proceedings. While it may be tempting not to look to closely at experts and evidence which make convictions easier, relying on criminals who help conceal their nefarious enterprises by providing convenient services to the people who should be prosecuting them is a house of cards that will collapse locally or nationally at some point. We have the contemporary examples of the falsification of evidence in the Los Angeles Police Department and the newly documented error rate in death row convictions.
Unless something is done to shut down the organized criminal activity in every state in which it exists, Rilya Wilson is not going to be the last horror story to capture national attention. Careers will be ruined, as they have been in Florida, and people will end up going to prison for crimes far beyond what they thought they were getting themselves into by falsifying a few reports to get federal funds into the state or for insurance claims. Prosecutors, Legislators, and other state officials who thought they were benefiting their state by looking the other way because federal funds were coming into the state’s economy, may end up having to face situations far uglier than they ever thought. Former Arkansas State Senator Nick Wilson is now in federal prison for his sponsorship and participation in one such legislated criminal enterprise to exploit children. Other Arkansas attorneys involved lost their licenses to practice law. An Austin, Texas DHS Supervisor committed suicide after allegedly being caught running a foster child prostitution ring from his office computer. In a recent Arkansas Legislative Session, a bill drafted by Arkansas Department of Human Services employees was discovered to contain provisions that would have required employees to lie about records and facts, even if subpoenaed. The bill was withdrawn once the Legislator duped into being the primary sponsor was made aware of its contents. In a June 6, 2002, opinion, the Arkansas Supreme Court ruled that an infant Arkansas citizen had been illegally transferred to Florida State custody in what was essentially an interstate criminal conspiracy to seize and transport children in complete disregard of State and Federal law. (See Arkansas Department of Human Services v Cox, Supreme Court of Arkansas No. 01-1021, 349ark, issue 3, sc 9, 6 June 2002 http://courts.state.ar.us/opinions/2002a/20020606/01-1021.wpd)
The important point being that these child protection system criminals will be pushing the envelop on what they can get away with, as in these examples, and sometimes that envelop will rupture, as in the Rilya Wilson case, exposing not only the criminals but government officials and private citizens who were indirectly benefiting from the criminal activity. The important question being how sophisticated, brutal and embarrassing will organized crime in the child protection system be allowed to become before it is addressed.
In the hope that my documentation of how the organized crime bureaucracy functions in the child protection system will help prevent any repeats of the Rilya Wilson horror story, I draw the material to your attention. Below is the master link page address for six articles I have written on how crime in the child protection is created, organized and managed. The six articles will provide an overview of the context in which a child’s kidnapping can be concealed for over a year. Although written for the popular media, each article contains detailed instructions on how to detect various mechanisms used by organized criminals operating in the child protection system to sustain their operations. Part II contains a formula for determining if the annual number of founded child abuse allegations can accurately be predicted from the number of conditional federal salary fund dollars needed to balance the child protection agency payroll.
See links to Parts I-VI of “Crime Management in Government” at:
http://www.eighthcity.com/Articles/Rogerbrown/rogerbrown.htm
I sincerely hope you will use this information to determine if the child protection system in your state has an organized crime problem. I do not want to see any more stories like that of Rilya Wilson, when I know they can be prevented by ending the influence of organized crime in the child protection system.
If I may be of further assistance, please contact me at:
James Roger Brown
Director
THE SOCIOLOGY CENTER
P.O. Box 2075
Little Rock, AR 72115
(501) 374-1788
thesociologist@aol.com
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Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 20, 2009 @ 12:24 pm
Al,
I agree with you and with fran.
When my son was about your child’s age, he got nursemaid syndrome twice. Both times I had to take him to the hospital and I was scared because I know that they are required to file a report.
Fourtunately, Both hospitals said that it is quite common for children to get nursemaid syndrome, especially if they are playing airplane, (one child grabs another child by one arm and one leg and spins in circles, causing the child to “fly”,) or are wrestling.
I was asked repeatly how it happened and my answer always came back the same because I was telling the truth so they didn’t report me.
I can’t stress this enough, always get documentation of any medical problems and procedures and keep them readily available if a social worker forces their way into your home so that they can see for themselves that there was no wrong-doing, but never let them in without a search warrent, even if they threaten to get the police. The police can’t force entry into your home without a search warrent. Show them that your child is fine and politely tell them to leave and shut and lock your door. Make them do the work.
Keep in mind that if the police do show up without a search warrent, it can make the social worker look like he/she is harrassing you, which doesn’t make them look good.
Yes, children do have accidents. I’m a grown woman and I am still accident prown. My least favorite nickname is clutz.
I have also learned that if you keep your windows open or even your curtains that that can be used as probable cause to search your home. CPS or the police can say that they have probable cause and that is enough to get a judge to sign a search warrent or get a warrent to remove the children. Needless to say, I don’t open my curtains anymore.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 20, 2009 @ 12:43 pm
There is an old song entitled “Accidents will Happen” and they do and they forever will but the problem is, as all of you good folks have pointed out, that CPS driven by money and with CPS workers so very young and unskilled and childless do not know from accidents. Every injury is a target, that’s how their jobs work, They are not taught to distinguish accidents from true abuse,
I pity these youngsters, these young CPS workers, they will grow and perhaps learn to undrestand that all they are are hired hands -set out to destroy families.
That being said, parents! Be smarter. Use the law to win. The law does have safe guards if used properly to protect parents falsely accused.
Do not wait for CPS’ court to assign an attorney to you. Find an attorney on your own or better yet, reach out to any and all law clinics (Law School sponsored) and all and all other agencies that may take up your cause.
If you are disabled, reach out to that agency that supports your disability. If you are a Vet, reach out to the agencies supporting Vets.
If you are a grandparent, reach out to the AARP.
Broaden your scope of those who may be able to assist you.
CPS is a steam toller. Social workers man the controls, be careful, be wary and always stay a step ahead of them.
Comment by MaggieC — February 20, 2009 @ 8:19 pm
Christy sent this to me today. Please read it, as it has valuable information in it. Tell everyone you know.
Child Abduction Services: Legal in the U.S.
Even if you’re not a parent, you REALLY need to read this next article. What we once dubbed as Child Protective Services, may have started off protecting children, but in the 1990s, when a bill was passed to give them monetary incentives for each child taken from the home, it has become the largest legalized child abduction operation of modern day. Innocent families are being torn apart, denied due process in the courts, if their case ever goes to trial at all, and parents and extended families are powerless to stop it. Yet another byproduct of the NWO. Susan Purtee Reports. Read on …In recent years there have been many detractors of Child Protective Services (CPS), an organization founded to protect children. Brenda Scott, author of Out of Control. Who’s Watching Our Child Protection Agencies?, in her study of CPS concluded, “Child Protective Services is out of control. The system, as it operates today, should be scrapped.. … Removal is the first resort, not the last. With insufficient checks and balances, the system that was designed to protect children has become the greatest perpetrator of harm.”Professor Ted Melhuish, in his research of December 7, 2006 concluded that every dollar invested in CPS produces a return of $7.16. So how did an agency like CPS that should be protecting children become so involved in financial profit? The answer is Bill Clinton.The Adoption and Safe Families Act (ASFA) was signed into law by President Bill Clinton on November 19, 1997. The biggest change to the law was how ASFA amended Title IV-E of the Social Security Act regarding funding. Senator John H. Chafee (R) of Rhode Island stated, “We will not continue the current system of always putting the needs and rights of the biological parents first…it’s time we recognize that some families simply cannot and should not be kept together.”Another Act that increased the number of children being brought into the system is the Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA) of 1974. With the help of Senator Walter Mondale, the immediate impact of CAPTA was an exponential increase in reported cases of suspected child maltreatment from 6,000 confirmed cases of child abuse in 1967 to three million in 1993, as reported in Comprehensive Handbook of Social Work and Social Welfare, Volume Editor Ira C. Colby. Today, that number has reached six million.The following statement issued at the congress of Russian Communist Party educators in 1918 sounds like the credo of the modern DSS agent: “We must remove the children from the crude influence of their families. We must take them over and, to speak frankly, nationalize them.” The Communist Manifesto, written by Karl Marx, called for the ‘abolition of the family.’Even more telling is a text book for social workers called A Social History of the American Family by Arthur Calhoun that states, “The family goes back to the age of savagery, while the state belongs to the age of civilization. The modern individual is a world citizen served by the world, and home interests can no longer be supreme. The school begins to assume responsibility for the functions thrust upon it. The kindergarten grows downward towards the cradle and then arises (with) talk of neighborhood nurseries, social centers (that) replace the old chimney. The child passes more and more into the custody of community experts.”~ Freelance investigative journalist, Susan Purtee, worked in law enforcement for 16 years and saw first hand the evolution from CPS before and after this evil legislation was enacted. Now she’s fighting back.And with that, your right to have and keep your children has been denied. Sadly, family life has recently been classified a privilege, without ever making headline news. If CPS knocks on your door, handle with extreme care. You might want to go ahead and get an attorney before you even let them in. If you can’t afford one, contact me immediately, and I’ll put you in touch with people who can coach you on what to do. In the meantime, don’t say anything to them that you wouldn’t say to an armed mob in a dark alley. Consider them one and the same.**If you’re reading this in a section other than vlog, check out more fascinating posts at http://www.RestoretheRepublic.com/vlog**
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Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 20, 2009 @ 9:27 pm
Maggie C and JoLisa:
Both excellent and practical info in your posts.
Maggie C–Your comments about the Law Schools Clinics should be a front page article by Linda.
Many law schools have *practice clinics* for good 3rd year law students to hone their skills.
Every once in a while, a poster comes on here and recommends calling your local law school to get help.
In NY, there is an attorney, Guggenheim, who serves on the NCCPR Board of Directors
http://www.nccpr.org
Illinois has an attorney practice concentrating on DCFS absolute wrongs.
http://www.familydefensecenter.net
Remember, folks these untrained young employees of CPS are OFTEN NOT SOCIAL WORKERS.
They are CASEWORKERS. Like unethical mortgage brokers, their only intent is to find a crumb of evidence, ( or non-evidence) to validate and affirm the state’s *interventions.*
In your nicest, most matter of fact tone, decline the offer of the state’s SERVICES, politely decline the state’s predatory services.
Your cell phone is your friend. Your camera and video camera, too.
If you need an attorney, take note that California is the most represented state on Linda’s collection of attorneys willing to challenge DCFS.
Underrepresented states are Montana, Nebraska, Louisiana, and Florida.
Also, folks take a look at:
http://www.familyrights.us They link to every state and have phone numbers of groups.
CPS has virtually no discrimination. Like Juvenile Corrections Facilities, their intent is to ensnare families of every race, ethnicity, and religion.
Young folks who work for CPS today often have no idea of the absolute harm they are visiting on many innocent, unsuspecting parents.
And the more settlements awarded good parents, the more CPS will back off.
4.5M awarded in Calif. If u need an attorney check out Linda’s link to attorneys who will take on CPS, and work for their clients.
Comment by fern — February 21, 2009 @ 6:05 am
I just wanted to suggest that family members take a GOOD look into the PRIVATE PROBATE GUARDIANSHIP. And how it may pertain to some family members. I had NEVER heard of such a thing, as I am just the average person trying to live my life the best I can. BUT IF we had gotten this for my nephew, we would not be FIGHTING the FIGHT of our life right now!!! It is NOT stealing a child from your relatives, it is INSURANCE for some “struggling” members of your family. IF CPS decides to step in and remove a child, they HAVE to go to you,if you are named PRIVATE PROBATE GUARDIAN, as I understand from an attorney. As I know all too well now, IF we had gotten this prior to my nephew being taken out of my sister’s custody, my nephew would be here with me. He would have never gotten those 4 AWFUL bites on his back, or any other injuries afterwards from another foster child. He would NOT be away from his family now! PLEASE take time to do some research, either for yourselves or some “struggling” relatives who may need your help. Once CPS gets your relatives IN CARE, they won’t let them go, even when you go to HELL and back! I wish I had a time machine……………….
THANKS;)
Comment by Kimberly Fraser — February 21, 2009 @ 3:51 pm
My son’s teacher from last year finally got back to me. They had mid-winter break which is why I didn’t hear back from her today.
She is very upset about the situation and she said she will get back to me in a couple days when she comes up with some ideas.
We miss her so much. I told her that last year he never wanted to leave school and this year he can’t wait to come home.
She has and still does see his potential. Why can’t the dingbat who’s class he’s in bring out the best in him?
Depending on the suggestions I get, I may have to get a medical mandate from Sylvia, who diagnosed and still medicates him. I hope it doesn’t come to that, because before I turn something like that into the school I will be contacting an attorney.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 23, 2009 @ 3:50 pm
Fern,
Thanks for the link! I will be adding it as a shortcut to my desktop. Chances are that I will be contacting them soon because of the issues I am dealing with right now.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 23, 2009 @ 3:52 pm
This Saturday on the lifetime channel @9pm, there will be a movie about CPS. Rosey O’Donnal speaks out about the system and stands up for the kids who become victims. It’s a must see…please make a note of it.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 24, 2009 @ 11:32 am
Kimberly Fraser - your right! I have Guardianship of my granddaughter..
Comment by Diando — February 24, 2009 @ 11:52 am
Guardianship is an excellent option in many states.
Hi, Diando. Good to see u posting again.
And I believe you reside in the FLDS state, do you not?
Lots of DFPS problems in the Lone Star state.
Comment by fern — February 24, 2009 @ 1:42 pm
My story is pretty much like the rest I have been reading here so I am just going to get right to the point my 8 year old has been in foster care since he was 21 months old he and his 2 older brothers were returned home after the first year and were home for a year then I was in a car accident in which I was badly injured and could barely take care of myself and since I was already involved with CPS they came in and moved my boys back into foster care that was almost 5 years ago since then its been alot of heartache and up and with more down emotions, my youngest son now 8 has been placed with each of his brothers and in so many foster homes I cant begin to tell you a number partly because although I still have my parental rites CPS failed to inform me of several moves I only found out by chance of some one saying something like he is being moved again or that was a few placements ago. Well bottom line is me and my 3 sons are very close at least we once were and that bond between mother and sons was set in stone before CPS came into our lives, which I thank god daily for, over these past 5 years I have jumped through hoops and back again for CPS and just when I think OK I AM FINALLY IN THE HOME STRETCH & DATES ARE BEING MADE FOR MY BOYS TO RETURN HOME CPS THROWS A WHAMMY AT ME AND NOW ALL THE SUDDEN AFTER ALMOST 4 YEARS IN THE SYSTEM I AM ACCUSSED OF ABUSEING MY SONS SEXUALLY… I WAS DEVISTATED TO SAY THE LEAST BUT ONCE I GATHERED MY SELF I THOUGHT OK THIS IS IT THE VERY LAST ATTEMPT CPS HAS TO KEEP MY BOYS FROM ME, AND I PREPARED TO FIGHT, AFTER ALL I KNEW I WAS INNOCENT SO I HAD THE ATTITUDE OF OK LETS DO THIS I COOPERATED WITH ALL THE REQUEST AND EMBARRASSING QUESTIONS AND STILLL I WAS KEPT FROM EVEN SPEAKING TO MY YOUNGEST FOR 2 AND A HALF YEARS EVEN ONCE CPS DISMISSED THE AQUSATION OF COURSE AFTER A LONG FIGHT AND ME REFUSING TO PLEA TO SOMETHING I KNOW I DID NOT DO I WAS STILL KEPT FROM MY YOUNGEST I COULDNT EVEN TALK TO HIM ON THE PHONE… WELL NOW THE ACCUSATION IS LONG BEEN DISMISSED AND I AM NOW ABLE TO SEE ALL 3 OF MY KIDS I AM NOW LABELED A CHILD ABUSER THROUGH OUT THE COURTS AND THE SYSTEM ALL TOGETHER, THROUGH ALL THIS I WAS ABLE TO CONTINUE SEEING MY OLDEST AND AFTER A YEAR I WAS ABLE TO SEE MY MIDDLE SON NOW 2 AND A HALF YEARS LATER I AM FINALLY ABLE TO TALK TO AND SEE MY YOUNGEST AND CPS DECIDES TO MOVE HIM 2 PLUS HOURS AWAY WHERE THEY PLACED HIS OLDEST BROTHER HE THEN GOT SHUFFLED FROM HOME TO HOME ALL THE WHILE WANTING TO BE WITH ME AND NOW ONCE I BEGAN TAKIG A TRAIN TO SEE HIM CPS WANTS TO PLACE HIM IN A BOYS HOME AN HOUR IN THE OPPOSITE DIRECTION OF WHERE I LIVE AND EVEN FURTHER FROM HIS BROTHERS… MY SONS HAVE NOT SEEN EACH OTHER IN YEARS AND I HAVE NOT HAD ALL 3 TOGETHER AT ONCE IN YEARS… NOW HE WAS PLACED IN GROUP HOME IN DEC 08 I JUST FINALLY GOT TO SEE HIM SUNDAY AND WHEN I WENT TO THIS PLACE I AM MORTIFIED MY SON HAD TOLD ME OF A QUIET ROOM WHERE HE IS SENT WHEN HE HAS A TEMPER TANTRUM AND SUCH SO WHEN I SEEN THIS DOOR WITH A SMALL WINDOW THAT I WAS BARELY TALL ENOUGH TO SEE THROUGH AND IT WAS DARK INSIDE I ASKED HIM WHERE THE QUIET ROOM WAS AND SURE ENOUGH THAT ROOM I FELT WAS SCARY LOOKING WAS THE QUIET ROOM WHEN I LOOKED AT A SHEET OF PAPER HANGING ON THE SIDE OF THE DOOR I SEE MY SONS NAME FOR THE DAY BEFORE AND THE TIME IN AND THEN OUT AMOUNTED TO 47 MINUTES…I REALLY NEED TO KNOW IS THIS CONSIDERED OK AND WHAT IS CONSIDERED UNNECCESSARY FORCE? PLEASE SOMEONE IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN DO TO?
Comment by Laura — February 25, 2009 @ 11:17 am
I HAVE ANOTHER UPDATE ABOUT MY SON’S SCHOOL. THIS TIME I AM ANGRY AND FEARFUL FOR MY CHILD!
WITHOUT MY PERMISSION, ABOUT A DAY OR TWO AFTER SAW MY SON ROCKING UNDER HIS DESK AND BEING DENIED CHANGES IN HIS IEP, THEY MADE A BOOK ABOUT HIM AND TOOK DOZENS OF PHOTOGRAPHS OF HIM WITHOUT MINE OR MY HUSBANDS PERMISSION.
THESE PHOTOS SHOWED HIM IN DIFFERENT CLASSROOMS DOING DIFFERENT THINGS AND DOING CERTAIN BEHAVIORS AND MAKING CERTAIN FACES. IT WAS ABOUT WHAT HE DOES DURING THE DAY AND WHAT THEY CONSIDER ACCEPTABLE AND UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR.
THEY MADE THIS BOOK AND MADE HIM READ IT, THEN THEY SENT IT HOME WITH HIM.
MY SON TOLD ME THAT IT WAS PRETEND.
I AM VERY UPSET. I THINK THAT THEY KNOW THAT I HAVE GROUNDS FOR A LAWSUIT AND THAT THEY ARE JUST TRYING TO COVER THEIR ASSES.
MY HUSBAND THINKS THAT THEY MADE THE BOOK SO THAT THEY COULD SAY THIS IS HIS DAILY ACTIVITIES AND I CAN STOP COMING IN AND CHECKING ON HIM.
I READ THE BOOK TO CHRISTY. SHE THINKS THAT THE BOOK IS REDICULOUS AND THAT IT WAS MEAN TO MAKE HIM READ IT.
CHRISTY THINKS THAT BOTH ARE TRUE AND ON TOP OF THAT, SHE THINKS THAT THEY ARE DOCUMENTING EVERYTHING. WE ALL AGREE THAT WHAT THEY DID TO HIM IS ABUSIVE.
I AM CALLING SYLVIA TOMORROW TO SEE IF SHE WILL WRITE A MANDATE ABOUT THE HEADPHONES AND SHE WHAT SHE SUGGESTS ON WHERE TO GO FROM HERE.
WE ARE LOOKING FOR AN ATTORNEY TOMORROW.
ANYONE WITH SUGGESTIONS I AM OPEN TO AND I WILL CHECK FOR MESSAGES OFTEN.
THANKS…
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 26, 2009 @ 12:42 am
I forgot to mention that my son came home in clothes that weren’t his because he had an accident. He occasionally pees on himself at school and wets through his clothes but the school calls me so that I can bring him a clean set of clothes.
They didn’t do that today.
My husband called the school to inquire why.
Later on but before we read the book that was sent home with him, he told us that his teacher told them when he was alone with her that she doesn’t like him.
Back in October, my son pointed out some boys that were roughting him up and said, “That’s one of the boys that told me that they were going to beat me up.”
Another occasion he told me about was that when he needs help with school work, his teacher tells him to take his seat because he is disrupting the class.
He has also told me that when he needs to use the restroom, his teacher tells him that he needs to stop distracting the class and do his work.
I contacted the school councelor about these issues and she sent me a letter stating that the teacher told a different story and that my son was lying.
When my son was sick, she insinuated that he was faking it.
When I picked him up from school the day I saw him rocking under his desk, I videotaped him answering the questions I had for him. He isn’t a liar, but they constantly insinuate that he is.
They treat me like I am stupid and that my son is a big pain in the ass.
Parent/Teacher conference is coming up the end of next month. We are going to try to make babysitting arangements so we can both go this time. I want my husband to see what happens when I address my concerns with his teacher.
Below is the email I have been exchanging with his teacher from last year. I am hoping that she gets back to me by tomorrow afternoon.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 26, 2009 @ 1:23 am
I need advice on how to handle a situation with Collier’s school. Please get back to me soon.Saturday, February 14, 2009 12:47 AM
From: “Jolisa Lindbloom” View contact detailsTo: jennifer_wicks@fp.k12.wa.us
To: jennifer_wicks@fp.k12.wa.us
Collier is failing second grade. There are a number of reasons and I am not making any headway with the school district he is in.
1: The school has never enforced the 504 that we initiated last year. They
do things their way.
2: I am not given the opportunity to check in with his teacher regularly. Ever since I stopped walking him to and from class, his behavior changed and
they get nowhere with him. I am occasionally called to try to talk him into going back to class, am often unsuccessful and he ends up hanging out with the principal or the councelor.
3: I was finally able to have him evaluated for special ed and the IEP that
they have implimented is making the situation at school even worce. I put
in a request to modify the IEP and was denied. I was also shot down every suggestion that I had to help him be successful.
4: His teacher doesn’t know what to do with him. She told me at the
parent/teacher confrence last fall that he refuses to do anything. Says his behavior is wierd. I told her from day one how he behaves and what his needs are
and she blew me off. She obviously dislikes him. I have never once received
any positive feedback from her. Neither has Collier.
5: It came to my attention that he refuses to go to specialists classes and
assemblies. When I questioned him on this he told me that he can’t handle the noise, that they last to long and are too crowded(It is a well known fact about autistic individuals that they can’t handle noise,) and have informed the school about his responce. They don’t make him go anymore, but they send him down to lab or to
the councelor or principal to be babysat.
I went to observe him from outside the classroom one morning to see what is
going on exactly, (without Collier’s knowlege,) and I saw him sitting
under his desk rocking himself and tearing up paper. Then I saw him get up and
grab a pair of cordless headphones and climb back under his desk to continue rocking himself and tear up paper. When I questoned him about this, he told me it was because of the noise that he wears the headphones to keep his ears from falling off because it is so loud.
6: When I inquired of his teacher about the headphones, she said it was because he didn’t want to hear anything and that she hid the headphones from
him. He found them and started using them again. I told her that Collier does not act like that at home. I never, ever saw him rock himself until I went to see what was going on. Collier told me again yesterday that the headphones are gone again. When I asked the councelor about the under the desk thing, she told me that it is an every day occurance and he ends up hanging out with her or the principal. Basically, they are babysitting him. He doesn’t do any school work under their supervision either and I rarely get
called to come get him.
7: He obviously needs the headphones. I think he might benefit from having
a different teacher, since they don’t have full-day special education at
that school. I had contact with a mother of a 26 year old autistic son and she said that the teacher hiding the headphones is abusive and that something is terribly wrong if he is rocking himself under his desk.
8: Collier hardly ever comes home with work to do and when he does, there aren’t any instructions that come with it so I can’t help him.
I have already contacted the education commission, and numerous other places. Collier only acts negitively with his teacher. No one else is negitive toward him.
Please tell me what to do. I know that you are very busy but as Collier’s
teacher, there must have been things that worked for you to have him be successful in school. You may be able to come up with ideas that I haven’t, and I really respect you as an educator.
Thanks, JoLisa Lindbloom
Oh, my I just rec. your email as last wk we were on mid winter break…Give me a day to come up with the things that worked in here. Give him a great big hug from me and I promise to get back to you!! It makes me sad to hear how its going. He is such a smart young man and he grew to really like school and do well. He is such a smart young man!!
Again, I will get back to you in a day or two, when I don’t have this new bunch of kiddo’s asking me questions and distracting me!! They are too cute for words!!
Please give Collier big hugs for me and tell him I am thinking about him!!!!!
Jen Wicks
Reply “Jolisa Lindbloom” View contact detailsTo: “Jennifer Wicks”
Okay, thanks! We have some friends in Parkland who have kids in Franklin Pierce so I figured since they were home last week that you were too! I did read the email to Collier and daddy. I got a big squeeze from him for you. He says that he misses you very much. I wish we could still afford to live in Parkland, but it just got to the point that our income was not on the plus side anymore. We moved the end of July. Collier knows that he is very smart. I just wish that his teacher could see his potential. She isn’t very perceptive to adapting her teaching to her students’ needs and though I have spoken with her, the school councelor and principal, I get told that they can’t meet his needs. I just don’t understand how an educator can have no interest in bringing out the best in her students. Last year Collier didn’t want to leave school, this year he can’t wait to come home. Again, thanks for getting back to me and I will be waiting for your ideas. We all miss you so much!
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 26, 2009 @ 1:37 am
WTF???? Is this a public school? Gawd, I wish I was in the media!
Comment by Susan — February 26, 2009 @ 3:45 am
Susan,
Yes! This is a public school. Rochester District as a matter of fact. We used to live in Grand Mound when I was pregnant and up until my son was 8 months old. We moved back the end of September, and we even moved to the same place, 2 doors down.
My grandmother used to work for this school district until my son was a baby so she knows the teacher that my son has. She isn’t very nice. I would go as far as to call her Hitler!
My husband called the school last night to speak with the principal. She called back this morning. We just got off of the phone with her.
We addressed our concerns again. This time she agreed with us. My car doors were frozen shut this morning so my son was about a 1/2 hr. late and I had to walk him to class. The kids had just went to P.E. and here comes Hitler down the hall. She snapped at us, “The kids went to P.E.” My son hands her the tardy slip and she all but snatched it from his hand, “What are you having for lunch?” She didn’t even make eye contact with us, just scowled. I tried to be pleasnt and told her that the car doors were frozen shut and that was why we were late. She just huffed and walked off.
I addressed the principal about this and she agreed with me that Hitler isn’t very pleasnt. The principal even called the Hitler abrasive! We asked to have him given a different teacher so that things would run more smoothly and I even mentioned that I was in contact with his teacher from last year. I was surprised that she was happy to hear that. I said that the teacher is going to get back to me with some suggestions and that I will offer them as soon as she emails me back.
The principal told me that the class sizes are too big to match him up with another teacher. But we are in agreement that the more time he spends away from Hitler, the better.
I also addressed the headphones. I said that he really does need them and occasionally he even uses them at home and that it is a security thing. I also addressed the fact that he told me that the Hitler hides the headphones and that she has even admitted it to me in a tone of contempt, like my son left a bad taste in her mouth. I said that I think that hiding something from him that he really needs is mean and the principal agreed with me again. So I told her that I really hope that they are given back to him.
It’s not like he can’t hear what is going on around him. It is just that the noise is muffled a little and keeps him from being over-stimulated and helps him cope with having to be around so many people so that he cannot be distracted and actually learn something.
I don’t know if I’m just getting smoke blown up my ass or if the principal is actually going to make an effort to help make things less stressful for my son, but I hope she is sincere in her concern.
I am still on edge about the book that was sent home yesterday. If they really are documenting what is going on to make a case for CPS to take him, I won’t be caught off guard. I’m not going to have the school retaliate at me and traumatize my child just because my husband and I stand up for him and won’t tolerate Hitler’s abuse of him. I’m keeping records of everything!
If anyone who knows of a good attorney in Washington state that deals with discrimination law and abuse of a child by a public school employee, please let me know. I plan on making a statement that changes the way children everywhere are treated by public school employees. The buck stops here!
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 26, 2009 @ 11:39 am
JoLisa, why aren’t you homeschooling?
Comment by LindaJoMartin — February 26, 2009 @ 11:42 am
Linda.
I don’t have the option of homeschooling. I wanted to or to at least have him in private school but we can’t afford it.
When I was walking my son to P.E. this morning he pointed out the kids that pick on him again. But according to the school employees my autistic child is a liar.
THE SCHOOL COUNCELOR CALLED ME A LITTLE WHILE AGO AND TOLD ME THAT MY SON WASN’T SUPOSED TO BRING THAT BOOK HOME AND THAT THEY NEEDED IT BACK. WHEN THEY CONFRONTED MY SON ABOUT IT, HE TOLD THEM THAT THEY CAN’T HAVE IT BACK BECAUSE “MY MOM NEEDS IT FOR EVIDENCE TO GIVE TO THE POLICE!” I NEVER SAID THAT. I SAID THAT I WAS UPSET AND IRRITATED THAT THEY TOOK PHOTOS OF HIM WITHOUT MY CONCENT AND THAT IT WAS ILLEGAL.
THE SCHOOL COUNCELOR TOLD ME THAT THE PRINCIPAL SHOULDN’T HAVE TAKEN THE PICTURES WITHOUT MY CONCENT AND THAT SHE SHOULD HAVE ASKED ME FIRST. THEN SHE WAS PUSHING THE BIG BROTHERS/BIG SISTERS THING. I TOLD HER THAT WE HAVEN’T TALKED TO MY SONS COUNCELOR YET.
ALL OF THE SUDDEN THEY ARE ACTING CONCERNED ABOUT MY SON AND ARE AGREEABLE WITH MY HUSBAND AND ME? SOMETHING STINKS.
I CONTACTED A PARALEGAL WHO WORKS FOR AN ATTORNEY WHO SPECIALIZES IN THIS SORT OF THING. SHE TOOK ALL OF THE INFORMATION AND TOLD ME THAT THE ATTORNEY WILL BE IN THE OFFICE TOMORROW. IF THEY CAN’T TAKE MY CASE, SHE SAID THAT THEY WILL GIVE ME REFERRALS TO SOMEONE WHO WILL.
IF I DIDN’T HAVE A CASE, SHE WOULD HAVE TOLD ME THAT THEY COULDN’T HELP ME AND WOULDN’T WASTE THE ATTORNEY’S VALUABLE TIME.
Any new suggestions appreciated.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 26, 2009 @ 2:01 pm
I am a loving parent who was falsely accused of abusing my children in Michigan. After having the children wrongfully taken away from me, I finally got them back, but I am still putting together the pieces after having CPS traumatize my family. CPS failed to follow their own procedures before removing the children. False allegations were not backed up by fact and to make matters worse CPS blatantly lied. I did go through the State Omsbudsman who did an investigation but so many lies were told by the authorities and my ex husband that it made it basically impossible for me to fight back. I still haven’t heard back from the Administrative Law Judge and I was hoping to get support and counseling services from someone who understands exactly how devasting this type of situation can be.
Comment by Cheri — February 26, 2009 @ 2:50 pm
I made a video on my cell phone again of my son talking about what goes on in school. This morning they told him that they didn’t call CPS yet but that they are going to and he told me that they told him not to tell me because they don’t want me to call CPS on them first. I told my son that I contacted an attorney today and that he can’t say anything else to anyone at the school about what action I am taking because if CPS does try to take him or does take him, I can’t protect him anymore. Hopefully he won’t open his mouth. If they tell him things or ask him questions he is only to tell them that he wants his mom. If they keep pushing, he is to keep telling them that he wants his mom. If they try to bribe him into talking or threaten him, he is to say that he is telling his mom. If they harrass him beyond that he is to cover his ears and scream leave me alone I want my mom. I want as much publicity as possible.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 26, 2009 @ 3:57 pm
MAJOR UPDATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
MY SON’S TEACHER FROM LAST YEAR GOT BACK TO ME TODAY. WHAT SHE SAID MADE ME BAWL LIKE A BABY AND I STILL CAN’T STOP CRYING. I DON’T KNOW HOW TO TELL HER WHAT HAS HAPPENED OVER THE LAST 48 HOURS. SHE WILL FLIP A GASKET WHEN SHE FINDS OUT ABOUT THE BOOK. I WISH SO MUCH THAT I COULD SEND HIM BACK TO SCHOOL THERE BUT I JUST CAN’T AFFORD IT. IF YOU WANT YOUR CHILD IN A GOOD SCHOOL YOU HAVE TO PAY THE PRICE.
HERE IS THE EMAIL SHE SENT ME. IT JUST BROKE MY HEART!
Hi Lindbloom family!!
Sorry it took me some time I wanted to ask those here about a few things before I responded, but have yet to make contact with them. So this is what I was thinking so far.
Once I catch up with them I will get back in touch with you!!Okay here is some information that is helpful:
Best Practices-Use social stories for transitional times, try to keep transitions minimal. -Provide a predictable and consistent activity classroom schedule. -Provide a quiet area and frequent relaxation time. -Use visual pictorial prompts. -Provide opportunities for sharing and turn taking experiences. -Encourage choice making. -Use concrete materials when presenting new material. -Provide immediate and consistent feedback. -Be patient and allow extended response time. -Provide alternate modes of communication (pictorial boards). -Avoid over stimulating activities. -Utilize technology and appropriate software. -Provide instruction in small sequential steps. -Maintain communication between school and home for consistent expectations.
So for me…I used the time situation. I had it posted on the board all year and then at the beginning Collier had it on his desk. I was also very concrete in letting him know when he had 10 minutes and then 5 minutes before we would transition from one item to another. This helped him to be ready. I did everything in a count down for him. Again, when he knows exactly what will be expected its helpful!
Also the big one is choice. You need to do this or this. Not 10 choices, but at least 2 he needs to feel a part of the decision making otherwise he shuts down. He doesn’t like being told. You can join us on the carpet or stay at your desk and continue working on your paper….That kind decision making is what he needs to be able to do. Even on bad days this is what worked for him and helped him to be successful in the classroom!
I also had another place in the room he could go to. So if he didn’t want to sit at his group he knew he could go to the back table to work. It was his little saving grace. In the beginning if I saw him get frustrated I would remind him it was back there. Then as time went on he would ask. I always reminded him he had the right at anytime to go back there without asking… through the year he used it less and less.
So is there a compromise with the teacher on the head phones? I don’t know why she would care?!? However, we have several kids who wear the little orange foamy ear plugs. They use them when its too loud in the classroom and at assemblies. They can still hear, it just muffles the extra ‘white’ noise that they don’t like.
I’m guessing his behavior is ‘weird’ (which I don’t understand, but using her words) is simply his reaction to being nervous. He must be nervous or tense in the classroom and is trying to find the words for support, but isn’t able to directly ask.
Do you or him rec. DSHS? I THINK you can request an advocate to go into the school and meet with everyone to discuss Best Practice for him. Everyone would have to be on board and come up with the plan together. It sounds like he needs alternative situations to help support him. Its great that he can go down to the principal and counselor, but they should have an extra math or reading book for him to work on until he is ready to go back to class.
Again, I am so sad to hear how this year has gone for Collier. I love that little man. He was funny and kind and very sweet when given the opportunity to be himself!! I will continue to think positive thoughts and as soon as I can double check on some information I will get back to you. I hope as of now this helps!!!
Keep me posted and best wishes!!Jen WicksElmhurst Elementary School
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 26, 2009 @ 5:25 pm
I emailed her last night and she got back to me this morning.
Hi, it’s me again. The last 48 hours have been a nightmare! I was able to piece together some new behaviors of his that, up until last night, really puzzled me. The day after I went to check up on him, he started defecating on himself at school. I asked him what was wrong and he said that it was everything at school. Apparently, that same day, the school started making a book about him. They were having him “pretend” in certain places to do specific behaviors and make specific facial expressions so that they could take pictures of him. The book was very degrading. He said that they kept following him around taking pictures of him and it made him very upset. He brought the book home last night. He pushed it in my face before I could even fill out the parent/teacher spring conference questionnaire and so my husband ended up filling it out while I read the book. I was very upset and irritated to see that they took pictures of him without my consent. I would have never agreed to something like this and they knew it so it was intentionally done behind my back and they antagonized him to get his responces. My husband read it over and came to the conclusion that they sent the book home to say, “See? This is what he does at school every day so you don’t have to come in and check on him anymore.” The school principal returned my husband’s phone call today. He addressed the issues with her about the headphones and requested that Collier be moved to a different class and she refused. My car froze shut so I couldn’t get in it to take Collier to school today so he got there about 30 minutes late. I walked him back to class and his teacher was heading our way down the hall. She snapped at us, “They just went to P.E.” Collier handed her the tardy slip and she snatched it out of his hand and snapped, “What are you having for lunch?” When I told her why he was late she just walked away like we weren’t even there! I walked him to the gym and he pointed the same kids out that have been hazing him all year. I told him to use his words and tell a teacher. He said he does, but the teachers don’t see it and the kids deny it and Collier feels even smaller every time. The school councilor even accused him of being a liar. I have personally seen those same kids provoke him without any initiating behavior. I told the principal about the incident this morning. I am sick and tired of all of them defending that mean woman they call a teacher. I went to the last conference alone but Brian and I are getting the neighbor to watch him so we can go together.The principal referred to Collier’s teacher as, “She tends to be cold and abrasive.” I told her that he can’t handle people like that. He was even told that he still can’t have the headphones even with numerous requests and will not give him a new IEP meeting. The councilor called me an hour later to inform me that Collier wasn’t supposed to bring that book home and that they need it back. I would have never known about this if Collier hadn’t brought the book home. He told one of the photographers that I would never give it back because they didn’t have my permission to take the photos and that they were evidence being given to the police. I never said that but their reaction told me that they are in a panic. They knew that what they were doing was damaging to him. He completely wigged out. I video-recorded him answering questions that I asked the day I saw him rocking under his desk. I did it again today after the conversations that Brian and I had with the councilor and principal. His responses were so sad. He is so overwhelmed and I feel like I am failing him as a mother because I can’t do much about it. Sylvia has been keeping records all year and told me that legal action may need to take place. I didn’t consider it until today. I spoke with my father in law and a couple of close friends about these recent events and they all told me to find an attorney. My best friend of 18 years suggested his disability discrimination lawyer. So I called and spoke with the paralegal. I told her everything, including the incident he had the second day of school when he went tearing out of his classroom in the middle of an anxiety attack. Another teacher grabbed him and told him to get back to class and he bit the guy and he was sent home. The paralegal told me that the attorney will be in tomorrow and he will look the information over and call me back. She said that if they can’t take the case which is unlikely, they will refer me to someone who can and will. I’m not sending the book back, and as soon as I have retained an attorney, I am going to have it court ordered to give me the negatives of the photographs. They are destroying my little boy. They are mean to him and treat him like he’s not smart. They are not affirming anything positive about him to him or to me and my husband. He asks for help and is ignored. I have seen him ignored many times. They know about his teacher and she still hasn’t been replaced. They don’t have an open door policy and don’t want me there, even though it could make him feel more secure and be more successful. I agree with all of your suggestions and Brian and I use them daily at home. He is so clingy lately and it keeps getting progressively worse as time goes on. We keep reminding him that he is well loved, that he is adorable and funny, very cuddly and so smart. He kicked my butt at scrabble today and I am hard to beat! Collier actually told me that he wants his Mrs. Wicks back. I speak for all of us when I say we do too. There just aren’t enough teachers like you and you are much loved in our household.
Thanks… JoLisa Lindbloom
Her response was
It just breaks my heart to hear what is going on! Tears come to my eyes when I think how much he grew in here last year. He had friends and smiled and laughed all the time!!! Please give him lots of hugs and kisses for me!!!
On another note!
I spoke to one of the people in the SPED departament about an advocate, they suggested going to PAVE. Since Collier does have a disability and it has been documented by the doctor’s they will be able to help as to where you can go from here…
Here is the website : http://www.washingtonpave.org/
Washington PAVE | 6316 So. 12th St. | Tacoma, WA 98465(253) 565-2266 (v/tty) | 1-800-5-PARENT (v/tty) | Fax: (253) 566-8052 E-mail:wapave9@washingtonpave.com
I would share everything with them. They may be able to tell you where to go from here and also help with an advocate to go into the school.
Again my heartbreaks to hear how he isn’t happy!! I would hate to do this to him and I don’t like backing down in certain issues… However, for Collier, it might be beneficial to see if there is another school in the district you could be transferred to? It might be worth it for everyone’s sake!!!
An alternative is to also contact the school district… They are extremely busy, but if you contact the district office and let them know you have some vital concerns with the school and have spoken to the principal with no resolutions, they might be able to help you!!
Have a great weekend!I will be thinking about all of you and look forward to hearing from you!Jen Wicks
We only have 6 schools in the whole district. One k-2, one 3-5, two 6-8, one 9-12, and Maple Lane, “boy’s prison.” What I really want is to continue to live where I am and have him go back to Elmhurst. I know that there is a fund for that sort of thing. My husband and I could start spending the weekdays in Parkland and then be home the rest of the time. We would have the support of our church again too. I am going to check out PAVE. Maybe I can get him moved to the school district next to ours and attend a school that actually cares about their kids.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 27, 2009 @ 3:31 pm
JoLisa:
Sounds as if you reside in WA.
I am certain you know that SpEd is the most expensive kind of student instruction given in the public schools.
Sounds as if you are again taking the iniative and contacting a SpEd atty.
There was a fascinating article in World Net Daily yesterday on Police Tasering 14 yo autistic young man.
See front page of:
http://www.familyrights.us
Notice that the parent stated that the school did not abide by IEP behavior plan specified.
Did I understand your son bit a staff member?
Jo Lisa, I have not read enough about your son, but being an older person, I really don’t remember any such behaviors occurring when I went to Elem, and Middle School.
Many of these truly unacceptable behaviors began after the 1974 enactment of CAPTA.
However, biting a staff person is a big no-no for obvious reasons.
It is interesting that teachers in a HS may be responsible for 150 students per day, yet CPS workers find it impossible to work with a caseload of 25 families.
I am certain u know the Wrights Law Website, and various forums they sponsor.
I fail to see how your son’s behavior is related to any CPS worker. However, teens are a class that CPS abhors.
No longer cute and adoptable, teens ( especially males) are viewed as the lowest priority by CPS.
And where parental concern is abridged, LAW ENFORCEMENT OFTEN STEPS IN AS IN THE TASER STORY.
Who knows what prompts a teen to go *off*, but teen behavior and its negative consequences have been observed since the ancient Greeks.
However, bullying is possibly becoming actionable against School Districts, but you can bet that bullying will be heavily regulated by the Courts and the Legislatures.
You really need a competent professional attorney to advise you. These waters are untested and choppy.
Hope your son can learn some self-regulation of his negative behaviors.
IT SEEMS AS IF LE is increasingly utilizing tasers to control children and teens.
Check out the MO taser teen story, too on familyrights.us
Comment by Fern — February 28, 2009 @ 12:59 pm
Dear Jolisa
The school Can Not take pictures without your consent. I would be very concerned. Example, are they building a case, and if so, for what? Does the teacher feel he needs additional services and are they obtaining documentation? If that is the case they needed to inform you before gathering information. And why the pictures? Most schools, and daycare centers, document behaviors, in order to ensure the childs educational needs are being met. Example: If a teacher feels a child needs special services she may document behaviors to prove this. She may feel the child needs additonal, services, or perhaps a change or modification in present services. But to take pictures without consent, is inappropriate. I have a home daycare and I’m required to have written permission to do everything, this includes pictures, and documentation. If I feel a child needs special services I must first discuss this with the parents. I would never take pictures of anyones child without written permission. And the pictures they took sound more like documentation. Have they discussed anything with you? I feel they have crossed the line with the pictures, I would ask for legal advice. You said they sent home a copy of a book with these pictures? Keep it.
Comment by fran — February 28, 2009 @ 3:38 pm
Fran,
That’s the thing.
My son brought this book home without their knowlege. He wasn’t supposed to bring it home and I was informed that they want it back.
I was never supposed to see it.
They never intended for me to know about it!
I have been in contact with his 1st grade teacher from last year. I posted our correspondence on here up above.
She is very concerned and very upset.
Everyone I know said to be very careful with this because they may be trying to make a case that indicates that my son’s disabilities and behaviors are induced by my husband and me.
If you consult the people who diagnosed and treat him for his special needs, they will tell you that that couldn’t be further from the truth
They know how close the bond is between my son and I and have seen us interact. The school knows how close we are and have seen us interact, but they keep pushing us to pushing him into being more independant and it freaks him out.
I am seeking legal advice and I do intend to make an example out of them. His teacher from last year wants me to have him moved to another school. I want the same.
I think that I am going to escort my little boy to class on Monday and stick around. If they give me any grief may be forced to tell them that I have been advised to do what I feel is best for my child and until I feel that what they are doing with him in school is best for him and not them, I will start to back off.
I still need to contact Sylvia and a place in Tacoma called PAVES. I am proceeding with this with great caution. I just pray that it doesn’t backfire on me.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — February 28, 2009 @ 4:24 pm
Fern,
I know that something is terribly wrong in my son’s school. It’s as if they are using teaching methods from the 1970’s.
My son absolutely has to be provoked to become agressive toward anyone, and as his 1st grade teacher remembers, my son is a very kind, gentle and caring person. His experience in this perticular school has drawn out some very disturbing behavior. This is not typical of my son.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — March 1, 2009 @ 1:18 am
Dear Jo Lisa
Can you make a copy of the book before sending it back?
Comment by fran — March 1, 2009 @ 6:14 pm
check this out, i’m the one who’s nephew and neices was taken by the arkansas dhs. they are still in foster, dhs has nothing on any of us, said that they found something on my brother, but it’s minor, he’s never done time for it or convicted for it, it’s not a sex offense or anything like that, but they wont let my sister or her lawyer know what it is. they said you’ll find out in court. now they’re bribing my sisters kids and her step-son with candy and sonic to talk to them, because the kids wont talk to them. they were takin on jan.6th 2009 under false pretenses. this shows kids that it’s ok to accept candy from strangers, dhs are strangers to the kids. they’re using child lure techniques to get these kids to talk to them. that’s the same thing that child molesters do when they go out in their cars looking for kids. dhs is no better than a child molester.
Comment by Paul — March 1, 2009 @ 8:51 pm
Fran,
Christy made a copy of it on Thursday night. It is in color and on photo paper.
Everyone I have spoken to has told me not to give the book back.
In fact, I found out that it falls under copyright laws. This is MY child that they took photos of and by law, I own the copyright on the photos.
THAT INCLUDES THE NEGITIVES!
So the next time they ask me when I’m bringing the book back, I’m going to say:
“OH, YEAH, THAT REMINDS ME. BY LAW, BECAUSE I NEVER SIGNED ANYTHING SAYING THAT YOU COULD PHOTOGRAPH MY CHILD, I OWN THE NEGITIVES UNDER COPYRIGHT LAWS.
LEGALLY YOU HAVE TO RELINQUISH THEM UPON REQUEST, ALONG WITH ANY OTHER PHOTOS AND NEGITIVES.
I EXPECT YOU TO RELINQUISH THEM IMEDIATELY.
Tomorrow, my son goes back to school. I am leaving a message for Sylvia to call me and why.
I will be sitting in my son’s classroom with him tomorrow. I quite frankly don’t care if it is distracting to the other students. My child was very upset about them taking the pictures and is afraid that they will do it again.
School isn’t supposed to be a traumatizing experience and I intend to make sure that he is being treated with respect and dignity, and that he is safe in his enviornment.
If it makes the school employees uncomfortable, so what. They should be uncomfortable.
As for the photographers, my son identified who took what and is old enough to finger them in court.
WHAT THEY ARE DOING TO MY LITTLE BOY IS CHILD ABUSE AND I WILL NOT TOLERATE IT!!!!
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — March 1, 2009 @ 9:59 pm
you know i’ve been thinking, eversince that no good walter mondale(thank God he lost to Reagan) signed that CAPTA law into effect, anyone that oposes it would be labeled a piece of crap, a child abuser, a child hater, etc. But society does not know the true meaning of that act. Their are 300 million people in the USA. How many of those 300 million people have had their kids stolen by the CPS? What is the percentage? you see my point is if there is a majority of people that have had their kids stolen, or known someone close to them who have had their kids stolen, then couldn’t the majority have this act overturned and find a better way to deal with the REAL abuse and the children that are in a drug infested home, or the alcoholic parents? As you know, i hate the CPS with a passion because of what they had done to my sister. They had gotten back into her life after a month and a half of having the previous case dropped, because of her husband making allegations against my brother(who I’m doing a background check on), and me. He then, a month later came to my sister, cuz he now lives 3 blocks down from her, cring and saying what did I do? I’m so sorry. She jumped his ass for it. He believed that if he made allegations, that the CPS would let him keep his 8 year old son(whom he accused me of molesting), and get my sister and his 3 year old daughter and go back to the state they came from. A local cop told him that he could take the kids out of state. That’s why he did that. CPS even sked my sister to tell her kids to talk to them, she said no, they don’t like you people. There response was, why we didn’t do nothing to them. She told them that they don’t trust the CPS because they were stolen 6 years before over her ex-husband. But they told her, get your husband out of your house, she did, then get your house back, she did, then they wanted her to get a job, she did, then they wanted her to set up day care for her girls(1 and 3) she did, then told her you just have to attend family counseling at the DHS office with her kids, including her step son, she agreed to it. Now the DHS told her 15 year old, you all aren’t going home on march 5th, which was her court date. They now have a report that her 3 year old daughter was sexually abused by her husband, a false allegation made by a cousin of ours who is trying to get her husband locked up(which yes he needs to be), but not under false pretenses. He should be locked up for making the false allegations against me and my brother, but not the allegation made by our cousin against him. What our cousin doesn’t realize is that this is hurting my nephews and nieces. These kids are true victims. How many more hoops is she gonna have to jump through? They even told her, we know youre a good mother, it’s your brothers and dad we’re worried about. I’m an over the road trucker. I come home once every 6 weeks for 4 days, then back out. Just enough time to recharge. I have 2 felony convictions, 1 when I was 13 years old back in 1986, where I touched my sister(I only have one sister), who was 11, and I regret it to this day. She has forgiven me and trusts me with her kids, and the 2nd one in 1995 when my uncle accused me of touching his 9 year old son. I WASN’T EVEN IN THE SAME STATE! After I went to prison,(I took a plea bargain and got the 3 counts that was on me dropped to 1, and the 20 years I was looking at down to 8 I was scared just getting out of the youth authority 9 months before), my 9 year old cousin, admitted to my sister and his mother that I never touched him, that his dad made it all up. I did 5 years out of 8, on the inside in the biggest prison system in the world. I did 3 parole violations for minor stuff, and discharged my prison number in Dec. of 2002. I’ve been out since Dec. 2001. No crimes. False allegations hurt all involved, not just the accused, but also the children. I love kids and wish I could have a couple of my own. Maybe it’s not in God’s will. Maybe I need to work out some things in my life before I am blessed with a child or two. False allegations stayu on a persons criminal record for life. Its not like a speed ing ticket where it eventually drops off. If it’s a sex offense allegation, it’ll never come off. Even if you’ve never been arrested for it. In the eyes of the State or the child stealers, an allegation is the same as a conviction. Whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty? The system definetely needs a major overhaul or we need to do a revolution, not a violent one, like when our fore fathers fought the British to get rid of punitive tax laws then, but it needs to start in the states, with the people. This is where we need to open the eyes of our fellow citizens to the domestic terrorism that is going on on our own shores, and get this CAPTA law reversed, and come up with an alternative method that deals with the REAL abuse, and hold those accountable that make false allegations, including the DHS, CPS, DCFS, whatever they want to call themselves, workers. A minimum of 2 years in prison for any one that makes false accuasations against another. This should be treated as a terrorist act, and the perpetraters should do time for it! PERIOD.
Comment by Paul — March 1, 2009 @ 11:34 pm
Paul,
I know a lot of people who have been convicted of sex offenses that didn’t do it.
It’s a record that doesn’t disappear.
If you have a jacket like that, you can’t get a job, you can’t get a place to live, and you can’t move on with your life even if you did commit the crime.
It is sad but true.
More than 20% of people convicted of sex offenses never did what they were accused of.
Teens are even more at risk of having a conviction like that because they are easily manipulated and the authorities take advantage of the fact that they are just a bunch of scared little kids.
Most people who have been accused of things like this that didn’t do what they were accused of end up pleading guilty under durress.
What they don’t know is what they are doing to themselves will in fact effect the rest of their lives.
Of the 80% that did commit an offense like that, Only a 1/3 of them are even considered likely to re-offend. The rest only made the one mistake and they pay for it as long as they live.
In Washington State, we have the most sex offenders that reside in any given state.
Our governer passed a law that cracked down on the registry laws big time.
The problem is that so many of them are forced to register as transient, (homeless,) because no one will hire them, no one will rent to them, and no one wants them living in their community.
If you are a registered sex offender in this state, you can’t sleep at a homeless shelter. They end up literally living on the streets.
But the law says that they can live anywhere they want and to do it in peace!
My belief is that if people want to know where sex offenders are at any given moment, they need to be able to get a job and get a house and establish themselves as members of society, not spit on like dogs.
Re-offenders need to be locked up for good.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — March 2, 2009 @ 12:05 am
My husband thinks that me hanging out in the classroom with my son will attract too much attention. So as of now, I am still waiting to have Sylvia return my phonecall, I am also waiting to hear back from the attorney who’s paralegal I spoke with on Thursday.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — March 2, 2009 @ 8:35 am
Dear JoLisa
I think it’s best to wait and see what your lawyer says.
I know it’s hard. I would be very upset if someone did that to my child.
Smart move calling an attorney, Wait to see what their advise is.
Don’t give them anything to use agaist you.
Great move in copying the book.
Comment by fran — March 3, 2009 @ 5:50 pm
Dear Paul
I agree, those that falsely accuse someone of child abuse should go to jail. And your right once you have been labeled, you have that label for life. How we change the system, I don’t know.
Most people think CPS is there to help children, but those people haven’t had to deal with CPS.
CPS presumes your guilty before they even walk in your door.
Most people think they can clear up the “misunderstanding” by talking to, and rationalizing with Social Services. The problem is they can’t rationalize. In their eyes you are guilty.
They forever change the lives of those they come in contact with. They cause pain and heart break too deep for words.
But they have a reason for their madness, they are paid to for their services. It’s the people who make false allegations that sicken me the most.
They go on with their life’s, perhaps thinking about what they did, trying to rationalize their actions, feeding off others for support, as their lies grow. But they go on with their life’s, while the life’s of those they accused are forever changed.
There is no way to mend the tear they have ripped into the hearts and souls of those they have accused. As the accused watch helplessly as their families are torn apart.
The accused most certainly will suffer from depression, but where do they turn? How do you tell someone that you have been falsely accused without them looking at you in doubt?
Paul I wish I could give you words of comfort, but I too hate the system that allows people to feed off the pain of others.
Change will come when CPS and other governmental agencies are held accountable for their actions.
Comment by fran — March 3, 2009 @ 6:33 pm
Yesterday my son was suspended because he got into it with his teacher. They really don’t want me there. The principal tried to tell me that I needed to make arangements ahead of time, but I told her that my son was seeing Sylvia today and that I wasn’t leaving until I saw for myself how he interacts with others.
I had to practically force my way into his classroom to observe today. The principal made me wait for nearly 20 minutes at the office to prepare his teacher for me to come back there. The pictures of Obama were off of the walls in all of the classrooms and all of the 2nd graders were in social skills class, held every Tuesday in the library.
I went to the classroom and talked to the teacher for about 2 minutes before the kids piled in. She was very careful of what to say to me and how to say it. I think the principal mentioned the posibility of a lawsuit and told her to be on her best behavior. She did behave differently this time and my son told me that as soon as I left the teacher was mean to him again.
They still haven’t given the headphones back, when I went to music with the class, the headphones were nowhere to be found and believe me when I said I scanned the room for them. When we returned to the classroom the headphones were sitting on the computer table. My son saw them imediately and pointed them out to me. He hadn’t seen them since I went spying a couple weeks ago.
They said that I could only observe from 9-10 this morning even though I wanted to be there all day. My son said that as soon as I left they hid the headphones again and he became so over-stimulated in class he jumped out of his seat and ran down the hall. It was very noisy and distracting to an irritable extent while I was there. 3 teachers grabbed him and carried him to the timeout room. My son said he was scared and laid down on the floor. When I asked him what was in the timeout room he said that there is a pillow, some sheets, a desk and a chair.
The school councelor told me that they are encouraging him to use the headphones, which is a lie because my son told me that she is the one who told him that he can’t have them as soon as I left.
The principal told me that the kids in this class are scared of my son, but the kids in his class told me today that they are his friends. Several of the kids came up to me and told me that he gets hazed out on the playground and that they tell the teachers too and the teachers do nothing about it. I told the school councelor that I heard this directly from his classmates and as usual, she said that she would look into it. Every time I bring this up, she says that my son is making it up.
I keep asking the principal to move him and she keeps blocking with her stupid excuses. His 1st grade teacher from last year said herself, get him out of the class or get him out of the school.
I called Sylvia Sunday night and had my husband call in yesterday and today. Ironic, she called us as we were getting off of the elevator to her office!
She was very upset and discusted when I told her what was going on lately at his school and she told me to get legal councel about all of the issues. She was discusted with the pictures and the book, told me to document everything as best I can even if I don’t manage to get an attorney, and under no circumstances give them back that book!
She wrote a medical mandate for him to have in his school file, and referred to the 504 plan, that it be followed to the letter and to adjust his IEP accordingly. I know they are going to be pissed off tomorrow! But I don’t care. I will not sit on my hands while they abuse my baby. He truely is a precious gift from God and I tell him every day.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — March 4, 2009 @ 12:17 am
I just wanted to say: KEEP FIGHTING THE GOOD FIGHT!
Until recently, I never knew what a horribly unconstitutional mess we have right here in our own backyard.
My son snuck out of the house for about 30 minutes (and was very tricky in the way he went about it–delaying my ability to catch up with him) and now I’m being accused of child neglect/investigated.
My son can’t be blamed for acting like a little kid, but CPS certainly can!
Go get em’ lawyers!
Comment by Charlene — March 4, 2009 @ 7:19 am
Dear JoLisa
What is your attorney saying about this? The ADA sec 504 is concerning heath and othe issues. Does your child’s IEP have “other health” as part of his IEP?
My son (now 26) is autistic. Battles with the school were the norm. I finally got him in the proper program his last few years of school.
He uses a Chat PC and ASL to communicate. The school tried to block him from using both.
Why? because ASL would require an interperter, and the chat pc would require that, the teacher be trained in the use of the device.
They did not want to spend the time nor the money on either.
Meanwhile he reacted to an enviroment that was over stimulating, and he had no way of communicating.
Schools are difficult to deal with when it comes to making modifications and adjustments, Even when they benifit the child.
They are looking at funds and time.
Keep fighting for your child.
Comment by fran — March 4, 2009 @ 10:11 am
There were a few things that were left out by the teacher when I picked him up from school yesterday.
My son urinated on himself while he was in “lab” which is where he was when he went to the timeout room. My son told me that it happened while he was in the timeout room. He was so scared that he just laid down on the floor and wet himself.
I also wasn’t told that they forcefully put him in the timeout room. He has a sore spot on the top of his head with a knot from where they grabbed his hair. They had to have pulled his hair really hard to do that!
He has a finger or thumb mark where they grabbed him by his neck on the left side.
They swatted him on his butt, I am assuming to get his attention.
He has the beginnings of bruises on his underarms from where they dug their thumbs into him. I took pictures and video footage of the bruises and the testimony.
I called the attorney’s office back today and I need to email Mrs. Wicks, (last year’s teacher,) The attorney’s secretary told me that they mailed me out a referral and an explanation letter which will tell me what my legal rights are and why they can’t take my case at this time.
I have been told by numerous people to not take him back to school. I have even been told that I should file a report with the sheriff. I am afraid to do both. If I keep him home, the school could call CPS on me. If I press charges, the school could retaliate on me and call CPS or the sheriff may not believe me and my son and think they were caused by someone at home and call CPS on me.
I’m not sure what to do and I feel like I’m backed into a corner.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — March 4, 2009 @ 1:27 pm
Dear JoLisa
What a nightmare. I don’t know what to say, but I understand why your hesitant to report them, or keep your son home. But you also have to make sure they don’t turn around and say the marks are from home. I’d say take him to the doctors for documentation, but doctors are mandated reporters and will have to call CPS on the school.
My sister had a similar situation with her grandchild. The child came home, after being with his mother. The child was covered in bruises, my sister took him to the doctors, and the child told the doctor that “mommy’s new boyfriend hit him”.
The doctor being a mandated reporter had to call CPS. Then it got into a battle between my sister, and her ex-daughter in law, with allegations going back and forth between the two of them.
In the end it was discovered that the child was telling the truth. (a neighbor had witnessed the abuse). But like I said CPS did get involved.
You can bet that the school is going to try and cover their own*** by what ever means possible. Can you find a neutral party that can document or be a witness for you.
As far as attorneys, there aren’t many that are willing to take on CPS. When we tried to sue the accuser in our case, CPS went to court and had the record sealed. They sealed the record, not to protect the accuser, but to protect themselves. We had them 7 code of ethics violations. Including refusing my child the right to have a lawyer present during questioning.
Even murders have a right to have a lawyer present during questioning. My child was autistic and could not communicate. Our lawyer told them they could not interrogate my child without him, or an interpreter present, they refused and went to my child’s school anyhow.
So I understand your concerns where CPS is involved. I know you took pictures. Can you mail them to a trusted friend and tell them not to open the letter, but to give it back to you. This way there is a post date on the envelope showing when the letter was mailed. Make sure it’s sealed.
Comment by fran — March 4, 2009 @ 3:54 pm
I took my son to his pediatrician this afternoon. She isn’t the type to call CPS. Between seeing my son and what he said to her and the video footage I showed her, she said that it is obvious that something is wrong.
She asked me if I spoke to the principal and I told her everything about our correspondance with the principal, the councelor and the teachers. I also told her what the kids come up to me and say.
She said she would keep the documentation in his file if I need it for reference, said to document everything, keep taking pictures and to contact a lawyer.
She said that the school is more likely to listen to a lawyer than to a doctor.
I called Sylvia and she said to keep documenting everything, take pictures and gently “push the school until I have retained an attorney. Don’t take him to the police to file a report because autistic people are scared of strangers and that it would further traumatize him.
Meanwhile, the attorney did send me a letter saying that his law firm is too small to handle my case and referred me to an attorney who has a larger practice. He said to make contact immediately to avoid the statute of limitations from running out.
The other attorney is on vacation so the secretary told me to email her with as much detail as possible and she will forward it to him, since he checks his email daily. These last few days only strengthens my case.
The school councelor called me today wanting to set up a meeting to discuss a new game plan for my child. I think she knows about them hurting my son yesterday and are trying to cover their own asses.
I really don’t want to send my son back to school but I don’t know what my rights are. I don’t want to take any chances of being accused of neglecting him. I don’t want them putting their hands on him either.
Comment by JoLisa Lindbloom — March 4, 2009 @ 10:50 pm