Comments on: North Carolina Child Collecting Foster-Adoptive Parent To Go On Trial for Murder of Four-Year-Old Child http://fightcps.com/2008/05/22/north-carolina-child-collecting-foster-adoptive-parent-to-go-on-trial-for-murder-of-four-year-old-child/ Family Rights v. Child Welfare Services Thu, 02 Sep 2010 16:32:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Carrie H. http://fightcps.com/2008/05/22/north-carolina-child-collecting-foster-adoptive-parent-to-go-on-trial-for-murder-of-four-year-old-child/comment-page-1/#comment-218001 Carrie H. Sun, 15 Aug 2010 09:00:10 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/22/north-carolina-child-collecting-foster-adoptive-parent-to-go-on-trial-for-murder-of-four-year-old-child/#comment-218001 My husband has two boys ages 8 and 5 from a previous marriage. We have tried to do everything without getting the courts involved and now that is biting us in the butt. His ex filed a claim of abuse on him about 9 months ago because he spanked his 5 yr old and left a red handprint on his bottom. Not a bruise. And it was gone in a day. The CPS worker came out to our home and we allowed her to come into our home and see our daughter and talked with her about the spanking. My husband admitted that he may have spanked a little bit too hard that time and agreed that it wasn't something that he should have done. We do spank our kids because we believe in spare the rod and spoil the child. I had spankings when I was a kid and honestly I feel that was the most effective punishment. We do not beat our children and we only use our open palms to spank the children. A couple weeks ago I had to discipline the 5 yr old because the boys were in my care while their father was at work. I popped him on his butt and he whined for a second and that was it. The next day my husband gave him and his other boy a bath and there were no marks on his bottom. We look for marks because the boys have told us of their mother spanking them with a belt and we are concerned for their safety with her. A few days later the boys had been returned to their mother for a day and a half and CPS is knocking on our door. The worker showed us a photo of a mark on the 5 yr old's bottom. It was a red mark. About an inch to two inches long. No idea what or where it came from. But when the 5 yr old was questioned by his mother he said that I had spanked him that weekend. I know that I did not leave any marks on my stepson. Scratch that. MY SON!! He and his brother are my life just as much as my own daughter. The CPS worker evaluated our home again and said that it was safe. A couple days later my husband got a call from his ex wife asking for him to meet with her and the social worker alone on Tuesday. I am so worried because my husband is so easily manipulated and I don't want him to do anything that could hurt his relationship with his kids. I called the social worker and asked if I was needed and she made it a point that I was not invited. Not that I wasn't needed. That I was not wanted there. I asked her what it was concerning and she said that she was going to have my husband sign a "No Spanking Pact" agreeing not to spank either of the boys. I am not sure what will happen if he refuses to sign it but isn't it a violation of his constitutional rights. They have nothing to charge him with and the worker herself said that if this went to court it would be thrown out. Should he sign it and just let it go? Or should he refuse to sign it? I really need help with this. And anyone who knows what we should do in this situation feel free to email me at carrie.hamann[@]yahoo.com Thanks! My husband has two boys ages 8 and 5 from a previous marriage. We have tried to do everything without getting the courts involved and now that is biting us in the butt. His ex filed a claim of abuse on him about 9 months ago because he spanked his 5 yr old and left a red handprint on his bottom. Not a bruise. And it was gone in a day. The CPS worker came out to our home and we allowed her to come into our home and see our daughter and talked with her about the spanking. My husband admitted that he may have spanked a little bit too hard that time and agreed that it wasn’t something that he should have done. We do spank our kids because we believe in spare the rod and spoil the child. I had spankings when I was a kid and honestly I feel that was the most effective punishment. We do not beat our children and we only use our open palms to spank the children. A couple weeks ago I had to discipline the 5 yr old because the boys were in my care while their father was at work. I popped him on his butt and he whined for a second and that was it. The next day my husband gave him and his other boy a bath and there were no marks on his bottom. We look for marks because the boys have told us of their mother spanking them with a belt and we are concerned for their safety with her. A few days later the boys had been returned to their mother for a day and a half and CPS is knocking on our door. The worker showed us a photo of a mark on the 5 yr old’s bottom. It was a red mark. About an inch to two inches long. No idea what or where it came from. But when the 5 yr old was questioned by his mother he said that I had spanked him that weekend. I know that I did not leave any marks on my stepson. Scratch that. MY SON!! He and his brother are my life just as much as my own daughter. The CPS worker evaluated our home again and said that it was safe. A couple days later my husband got a call from his ex wife asking for him to meet with her and the social worker alone on Tuesday. I am so worried because my husband is so easily manipulated and I don’t want him to do anything that could hurt his relationship with his kids. I called the social worker and asked if I was needed and she made it a point that I was not invited. Not that I wasn’t needed. That I was not wanted there. I asked her what it was concerning and she said that she was going to have my husband sign a “No Spanking Pact” agreeing not to spank either of the boys. I am not sure what will happen if he refuses to sign it but isn’t it a violation of his constitutional rights. They have nothing to charge him with and the worker herself said that if this went to court it would be thrown out. Should he sign it and just let it go? Or should he refuse to sign it? I really need help with this. And anyone who knows what we should do in this situation feel free to email me at carrie.hamann[@]yahoo.com Thanks!

]]> By: L http://fightcps.com/2008/05/22/north-carolina-child-collecting-foster-adoptive-parent-to-go-on-trial-for-murder-of-four-year-old-child/comment-page-1/#comment-206595 L Sun, 27 Sep 2009 12:20:58 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/22/north-carolina-child-collecting-foster-adoptive-parent-to-go-on-trial-for-murder-of-four-year-old-child/#comment-206595 IM IN MY SECOND GO AROUND WITH DSS,AND FAMILY COURT,MY FIRST WAS A DIVORCE,WHICH MY EX LIED TO TRY AND WIN,IT TOOK 3 YEARS AND THOUSANDS TO SEE MY KIDS AGAIN, I NOW HAVE JOINT CUSTODY,BUT IT STRAINED MY ONCE CLOSE RELATIONSHIP WITH MY KIDS,NOW MY GIRLFRIEND AND I HAVE TWO KIDS,BUT 4 YEARS AGO SHE WAS PREGNANT AND HAD AN OUTSTANDING ARREST WARRANT,SHE GAVE BIRTH IN JAIL,AND SHE GAVE HER COUSIN TEMP.CUSTODY,WHEN RELEASSED THEY WOULDNT GIVE HIM BACK,AND MADE FALSE ACCUSATIONS TO DSS,THE CASE WAS UNFOUNDED BUT STILL THEY KEEP OUR SON,AND FAMILY COURT ONLY HEARS THERE SIDE, WE HAVE EVEN PROVEN THEY LIED,AND COMMITED SEVERAL CRIMES,BUT THE JUDGE DONT CARE,AND HAS HAD ME ARRESTED TWICE FOR JUST SIMPLY STATING THE FACTS ON MY SPACE BLOGS!!! IM NOW FACING 30 YEARS,OUT ON 30,000 BAIL,HAVE SPENT ABOUT 30,000 ON LAWYERS,AND COURT PROCEDINGS,AND THERE IS NO RELIEF INSIGHT,WE WERE GIVEN 2 HOURS VISITATION ON SATURDAYS AT THE LOCAL MCDONALDS,BUT CANNOT GO BECAUSE OF THEY MADE HER COUSIN AS SUPERVISOR,AND THEY WILL CONTI NUE TO LIE,AND MAKE FALSE CHARGES,AND NOW WHEN WE TELL THE JUDGE ,HE SEES IT AS WE DONT WANT TO SEE OUR SON,THIS IS REDICULOUS!!! WE LIVE IN SC. IT IS THE MOST CORRUPT STATE IVE EVER SEEN,THERE ISNT EVEN A LISTING FOR SOUTH CAROLINA ON THIS SITE WHY???? CAN ANYONE HELP ME,I DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO,AND MY SON IS OVER THREE YEARS OLD,I HAVE ONLY SEEN HIM MAYBE ,100 HOURS OF HIS LIFE!!!! WHAT CAN I DO???????........L. IM IN MY SECOND GO AROUND WITH DSS,AND FAMILY COURT,MY FIRST WAS A DIVORCE,WHICH MY EX LIED TO TRY AND WIN,IT TOOK 3 YEARS AND THOUSANDS TO SEE MY KIDS AGAIN,

I NOW HAVE JOINT CUSTODY,BUT IT STRAINED MY ONCE CLOSE RELATIONSHIP WITH MY KIDS,NOW MY GIRLFRIEND AND I HAVE TWO KIDS,BUT 4 YEARS AGO SHE WAS PREGNANT AND HAD AN OUTSTANDING ARREST WARRANT,SHE GAVE BIRTH IN JAIL,AND SHE GAVE HER COUSIN TEMP.CUSTODY,WHEN RELEASSED THEY WOULDNT GIVE HIM BACK,AND MADE FALSE ACCUSATIONS TO DSS,THE CASE WAS UNFOUNDED BUT STILL THEY KEEP OUR SON,AND FAMILY COURT ONLY HEARS THERE SIDE,

WE HAVE EVEN PROVEN THEY LIED,AND COMMITED SEVERAL CRIMES,BUT THE JUDGE DONT CARE,AND HAS HAD ME ARRESTED TWICE FOR JUST SIMPLY STATING THE FACTS ON MY SPACE BLOGS!!!

IM NOW FACING 30 YEARS,OUT ON 30,000 BAIL,HAVE SPENT ABOUT 30,000 ON LAWYERS,AND COURT PROCEDINGS,AND THERE IS NO RELIEF INSIGHT,WE WERE GIVEN 2 HOURS VISITATION ON SATURDAYS AT THE LOCAL MCDONALDS,BUT CANNOT GO BECAUSE OF THEY MADE HER COUSIN AS SUPERVISOR,AND THEY WILL CONTI NUE TO LIE,AND MAKE FALSE CHARGES,AND NOW WHEN WE TELL THE JUDGE ,HE SEES IT AS WE DONT WANT TO SEE OUR SON,THIS IS REDICULOUS!!!

WE LIVE IN SC. IT IS THE MOST CORRUPT STATE IVE EVER SEEN,THERE ISNT EVEN A LISTING FOR SOUTH CAROLINA ON THIS SITE WHY???? CAN ANYONE HELP ME,I DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO,AND MY SON IS OVER THREE YEARS OLD,I HAVE ONLY SEEN HIM MAYBE ,100 HOURS OF HIS LIFE!!!!

WHAT CAN I DO???????……..L.

]]> By: Adrienne Ezell http://fightcps.com/2008/05/22/north-carolina-child-collecting-foster-adoptive-parent-to-go-on-trial-for-murder-of-four-year-old-child/comment-page-1/#comment-169172 Adrienne Ezell Tue, 24 Mar 2009 19:28:30 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/22/north-carolina-child-collecting-foster-adoptive-parent-to-go-on-trial-for-murder-of-four-year-old-child/#comment-169172 MY daughter and my son was taken because I do not have a car and i do not have a lot of money.Get this my parental rights were taken MY daughter and my son was taken because I do not have a car and i do not have a lot of money.Get this my parental rights were taken

]]> By: kelly http://fightcps.com/2008/05/22/north-carolina-child-collecting-foster-adoptive-parent-to-go-on-trial-for-murder-of-four-year-old-child/comment-page-1/#comment-162515 kelly Fri, 06 Mar 2009 11:45:24 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/22/north-carolina-child-collecting-foster-adoptive-parent-to-go-on-trial-for-murder-of-four-year-old-child/#comment-162515 Thank-God, My grand-daughter is in the hand of marting county DDS. It is just a joke. Its like a puppy mill. This is not a large town and at least one child is taken every Friday night. They have just taken my best friends grand-daughter after she broke up with her husband. She had 4 wisdom teeth removed and was taking pain medicine. He caused DS and said that she was addicted to it. This is just outrageous. I cannot believe what they get away with. The have my granddaughtere, the excuse, I kept her on a bottle too long, a water bottle. It was her security thing after her mother deserted her and I did not have the heart to take it away from her, we were working on it when she was taken. These people are totally NUTS. Thank-God,
My grand-daughter is in the hand of marting county DDS. It is just a joke. Its like a puppy mill. This is not a large town and at least one child is taken every Friday night. They have just taken my best friends grand-daughter after she broke up with her husband. She had 4 wisdom teeth removed and was taking pain medicine. He caused DS and said that she was addicted to it. This is just outrageous. I cannot believe what they get away with. The have my granddaughtere, the excuse, I kept her on a bottle too long, a water bottle. It was her security thing after her mother deserted her and I did not have the heart to take it away from her, we were working on it when she was taken. These people are totally NUTS.

]]> By: toes http://fightcps.com/2008/05/22/north-carolina-child-collecting-foster-adoptive-parent-to-go-on-trial-for-murder-of-four-year-old-child/comment-page-1/#comment-127274 toes Sat, 29 Nov 2008 01:02:16 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/22/north-carolina-child-collecting-foster-adoptive-parent-to-go-on-trial-for-murder-of-four-year-old-child/#comment-127274 As an update, Lynn Paddock was found guilty of first-degree murder in the death of 4 year old Sean. She was sentenced to life in prison. <a href="http://www.theherald-nc.com/160/index.html" rel="nofollow">Paddock trial,</a> As an update, Lynn Paddock was found guilty of first-degree murder in the death of 4 year old Sean. She was sentenced to life in prison.
Paddock trial,

]]> By: Terri Rote http://fightcps.com/2008/05/22/north-carolina-child-collecting-foster-adoptive-parent-to-go-on-trial-for-murder-of-four-year-old-child/comment-page-1/#comment-62928 Terri Rote Thu, 14 Aug 2008 20:09:14 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/22/north-carolina-child-collecting-foster-adoptive-parent-to-go-on-trial-for-murder-of-four-year-old-child/#comment-62928 My exinlaws lied to DHS and the courts they wanted my children for the money they have been giving me problems for 16 years because I divorce my exhusband because he abused me now that he dead they are punsihing me their names are Kathy Sheehey and Phyllis and Dean Rote they are the most eviliest people that ever lived they wanted my child support and plus my children ssi since their dad died plus whatever the Federal Goverment is giving them you wouldn't believe all the shit the have done to me. My exinlaws lied to DHS and the courts they wanted my children for the money they have been giving me problems for 16 years because I divorce my exhusband because he abused me now that he dead they are punsihing me their names are Kathy Sheehey and Phyllis and Dean Rote they are the most eviliest people that ever lived they wanted my child support and plus my children ssi since their dad died plus whatever the Federal Goverment is giving them you wouldn’t believe all the shit the have done to me.

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