Comments on: Drugs and Parenting Don’t Mix http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/ Family Rights v. Child Welfare Sun, 08 Nov 2009 00:50:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Linda http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-128667 Linda Wed, 03 Dec 2008 06:12:46 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/#comment-128667 Karen, I hope you read what Maggie just wrote. It is absolutely true that you'll be opening Pandora's box of evil spirits with a call to CPS no matter what's happening with your son and his girlfriend. If you really want to help then befriend the couple and ask to take over care of the child whenever they are using drugs. Tell them to read my article above. The article was written for drug users to read because I hope they'll be able to make needed changes for the well being of their children. Offer to help them get drug rehab services. If you call CPS to do all this you may never see your grandchild again after the 18 months of foster care. They often don't respect and allow kinship care arrangements though by law they should. Karen, I hope you read what Maggie just wrote. It is absolutely true that you’ll be opening Pandora’s box of evil spirits with a call to CPS no matter what’s happening with your son and his girlfriend. If you really want to help then befriend the couple and ask to take over care of the child whenever they are using drugs. Tell them to read my article above. The article was written for drug users to read because I hope they’ll be able to make needed changes for the well being of their children. Offer to help them get drug rehab services. If you call CPS to do all this you may never see your grandchild again after the 18 months of foster care. They often don’t respect and allow kinship care arrangements though by law they should.

]]> By: MaggieC http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-127743 MaggieC Sun, 30 Nov 2008 23:17:40 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/#comment-127743 Dear Karen- I understand your concerns but please do not involve a government agency in this. Chances are you will not get to see the baby or gain custody. Chances are that the baby will be adopted out. I urge you to try to find a way without involving CPS. CPS does not care. It's a numbers game. Look to support within your own family. Try to see if your son and the baby's mother will allow you or her mother or someone else to care for the baby. Once you invite CPS into your lives, they never leave. There are other grandparents here who will attest to this. Dear Karen-
I understand your concerns but please do not involve a government agency in this. Chances are you will not get to see the baby or gain custody. Chances are that the baby will be adopted out.
I urge you to try to find a way without involving CPS. CPS does not care. It’s a numbers game.
Look to support within your own family. Try to see if your son and the baby’s mother will allow you or her mother or someone else to care for the baby.
Once you invite CPS into your lives, they never leave.
There are other grandparents here who will attest to this.

]]> By: karen johnson http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-127325 karen johnson Sat, 29 Nov 2008 23:52:02 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/#comment-127325 my son and his girlfriend are using heroin and they have a 8 month old baby girl. So are you saying it's okay for them to get messed up and knod out while feeding this baby or to knod out while changing her diaper? I believe this baby should have better than that. I believe this baby needs her mom and dad in her life without the drugs. And I believe that something horrible is going to happen to this baby if someone doesn't step up and speak for her. my son and his girlfriend are using heroin and they have a 8 month old baby girl. So are you saying it’s okay for them to get messed up and knod out while feeding this baby or to knod out while changing her diaper? I believe this baby should have better than that. I believe this baby needs her mom and dad in her life without the drugs. And I believe that something horrible is going to happen to this baby if someone doesn’t step up and speak for her.

]]> By: margie meeks http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-85591 margie meeks Tue, 09 Sep 2008 02:29:01 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/#comment-85591 WHEN THEY TAKE YOUR BABY AND GET INTO YOUR LIFE THEY ASK YOU IF YOU HAVE EVER USED DRUGS.DONT TELL THEM IF YOU USED THEM WHEN YOU WERE A TEENAGER CAUSE THEN THEY SAY YOU HAVE A DRUG HISTORY .EVEN IF YOU ARE 39 YRS OLD WHEN YOU HAD THE BABY .TAKEN AWAY .I JUST PISSED OFF THE NURSE. WHEN THEY TAKE YOUR BABY AND GET INTO YOUR LIFE THEY ASK YOU IF YOU HAVE EVER USED DRUGS.DONT TELL THEM IF YOU USED THEM WHEN YOU WERE A TEENAGER CAUSE THEN THEY SAY YOU HAVE A DRUG HISTORY .EVEN IF YOU ARE 39 YRS OLD WHEN YOU HAD THE BABY .TAKEN AWAY .I JUST PISSED OFF THE NURSE.

]]> By: my3girlyangels http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-39750 my3girlyangels Tue, 27 May 2008 10:38:40 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/#comment-39750 Question: I don't use drugs, nor do I have a drug criminal background. I have never been arrested for drugs and when my children were taken from me I was arrested for "Fraud". However, I was ordered by the Dependency Court to attend a Out-patient drug program and random drug testing. I have been doing both (drug tstng in 2 different labs) since July of 2007. I went to court last week and the Referee did not return my children to me because she stated that I was not complying with orders 10 months was sufficient time for me to have completed my drug program, my attorney informed the Referee that my program was a minimum of 12 months to complete, however, she released my 4yr old to her Parolee father and DCFS did not obtain his criminal record (fingerprints) he was in State Prison for the first three yrs of her life (she is now 4 yrs old) and since his release in 8/06 he had violated his Parole 3 times for methamphetamine, one of the times he was incarcerated for 3 months. Does this sound right??? Question: I don’t use drugs, nor do I have a drug criminal background. I have never been arrested for drugs and when my children were taken from me I was arrested for “Fraud”. However, I was ordered by the Dependency Court to attend a Out-patient drug program and random drug testing. I have been doing both (drug tstng in 2 different labs) since July of 2007. I went to court last week and the Referee did not return my children to me because she stated that I was not complying with orders 10 months was sufficient time for me to have completed my drug program, my attorney informed the Referee that my program was a minimum of 12 months to complete, however, she released my 4yr old to her Parolee father and DCFS did not obtain his criminal record (fingerprints) he was in State Prison for the first three yrs of her life (she is now 4 yrs old) and since his release in 8/06 he had violated his Parole 3 times for methamphetamine, one of the times he was incarcerated for 3 months. Does this sound right???

]]> By: Shannon http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-37482 Shannon Fri, 16 May 2008 07:02:41 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/#comment-37482 I have a 12 year old that called on me my own kids she dose have ADHD but she said I was smoking crack. I never have ever. So I had my 1st UA today that was fun..lol I know I passed so anyways what can I do with her I can't get in her head I never know what she going to do next. You know I guess she was just mad at me are something but really I just smoke cigarettes she was yelling at me one day saying your smoking Crack I talked to her and I made her look it up on the computer and talked some more I just don't get her I do everything for her she has said sorry butt really is that good enough what do you guys think just would like to know I have a 12 year old that called on me my own kids she dose have ADHD but she said I was smoking crack. I never have ever. So I had my 1st UA today that was fun..lol I know I passed so anyways what can I do with her I can’t get in her head I never know what she going to do next. You know I guess she was just mad at me are something but really I just smoke cigarettes she was yelling at me one day saying your smoking Crack I talked to her and I made her look it up on the computer and talked some more I just don’t get her I do everything for her she has said sorry butt really is that good enough what do you guys think just would like to know

]]> By: Fern http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-36855 Fern Fri, 09 May 2008 13:27:23 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/#comment-36855 Excellent advice from Kevin. Same scenario occurred in NJ, with a friend of mine. She had accepted services from DYFS for her rebellious pre-teens. For a year or more. Girls still did not attend school. This Mom was wonderful. Girl Scout leader and college student. She trusted DYFS. Please do NOT blab. Let your attorney know, in explicit detail that you are NOT an abuser of illegal substances. In Georgia, the drug testing facility was owned by someone who had a conflict of interest and worked with DFACS. Folks prove this, and you all have good grounds for suing. This story is completed documented in Georgia newspapers and on AFRA. http://www.familyrights.us First page somewhere. AFRA has the best archive of CPS related stories on Newshawk. Thanks, Linda. Your advocacy and true love shines through. No child should be falsely taken from the ones who love him most. Your advocacy has inspired and helped many families. Best. F. Excellent advice from Kevin.
Same scenario occurred in NJ, with a friend of mine.

She had accepted services from DYFS for her rebellious pre-teens. For a year or more.

Girls still did not attend school.

This Mom was wonderful. Girl Scout leader and college student.

She trusted DYFS. Please do NOT blab.

Let your attorney know, in explicit detail that you are NOT an abuser of illegal substances.

In Georgia, the drug testing facility was owned by someone who had a conflict of interest and worked with DFACS.

Folks prove this, and you all have good grounds for suing.

This story is completed documented in Georgia newspapers and on AFRA.

http://www.familyrights.us

First page somewhere. AFRA has the best archive of CPS related stories on Newshawk.

Thanks, Linda. Your advocacy and true love shines through.

No child should be falsely taken from the ones who love him most.

Your advocacy has inspired and helped many families.

Best. F.

]]> By: Susan http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-36741 Susan Thu, 08 May 2008 12:12:40 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/#comment-36741 The CPS Nazis here made me undergo drug & alcohol testing as well (about 6 tests ALL negative) even though I've NEVER had a substance abuse issue. They're just money grubbers using any corrupt goon agency in their power to try to come up with dirt on innocent parents. I wish I'd never told them I'm on celexa (an anti depressant) because they used that against me too! Brings up a point though... How many of these Godsend hero (zero) caseworkers are on meds??? You gotta wonder? The CPS Nazis here made me undergo drug & alcohol testing as well (about 6 tests ALL negative) even though I’ve NEVER had a substance abuse issue. They’re just money grubbers using any corrupt goon agency in their power to try to come up with dirt on innocent parents. I wish I’d never told them I’m on celexa (an anti depressant) because they used that against me too! Brings up a point though… How many of these Godsend hero (zero) caseworkers are on meds??? You gotta wonder?

]]> By: Rachel http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-36678 Rachel Thu, 08 May 2008 01:12:41 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/#comment-36678 Thank you so much for your response, Ive been so worried. One of the (false) allegations CPS made against me was drug use, even though I am not a drug user and they have no proof that I ever was. Because it was one of the allegations, I had to do random drug tests for 3 months and the social worker told me that they would test me a few more times periodically while my case is open. Ive proven to them that Im not a drug user, hopefully my Adderall will not cause me any additional problems but I guess Ill just have to wait and see. i will let my attorney know, and Ill let you guys know what happens -- Thanx again :) Thank you so much for your response, Ive been so worried. One of the (false) allegations CPS made against me was drug use, even though I am not a drug user and they have no proof that I ever was. Because it was one of the allegations, I had to do random drug tests for 3 months and the social worker told me that they would test me a few more times periodically while my case is open. Ive proven to them that Im not a drug user, hopefully my Adderall will not cause me any additional problems but I guess Ill just have to wait and see. i will let my attorney know, and Ill let you guys know what happens — Thanx again :)

]]> By: Kevin Fine http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/comment-page-1/#comment-36675 Kevin Fine Thu, 08 May 2008 00:55:56 +0000 http://fightcps.com/2008/05/04/drugs-and-parenting-dont-mix/#comment-36675 Rachel Isn't ADHD a recognized disability? If so you are federally protected from being harrassed about it. While I wouldn't tell the worker I would tell your attorney. Rachel

Isn’t ADHD a recognized disability? If so you are federally protected from being harrassed about it. While I wouldn’t tell the worker I would tell your attorney.

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