Comments on: Drugs and Parenting Don’t Mix

By: neha

neha — Mon, 05 May 2008 09:19:47 +0000

hi,

i think parents lack parenting skills in today’s world.

By: Missy

Missy — Mon, 05 May 2008 11:10:50 +0000

Thank you for posting this. Drugs are such an insidious destructive force in peoples lives.

I am a foster mother in the state of NJ. The child I am now fostering is now available for adoption because of his parents drug use. Mom went to rehab, was 1 week away from release Her son would have been returned to her shortly after, and she just left. Back to dad and drugs. She tried again a few months ago. This time she only made it a week. Dad doesn’t feel that the drugs affect his life and has refused all treatment.

I’m so sad for them because I have gotten to know his parents. They love him dearly. I so want them to get better so they can know this wonderful child. They just can’t kick the drugs. They surrendered their rights to me. Sadly no one in their families want him. I have developed a good relationship with them and we will contiune contact post adoption. I hope that some day they will make the choice to help themselves. I want him to know them.

This child is amazing. He has overcome addiction and multiple delays and is now a thriving toddler.

Don’t lose out on being with your children because of drugs. Your children need you and want to know you.

By: Caesar Gonzales

Caesar Gonzales — Mon, 05 May 2008 13:18:17 +0000

Kudos to the author (Linda?) for the above monologue. I could not be as diplomatic as (she), which is why I had not written here about it yet.

I have read a lot of the complaints in this forum and a lot involve drugs. Whether it was a former addiction, perscription abuse. etc., any drug activity is a red flag to CPS.

Remember, CPS’s mission is little more than CYA. If it can be covered up, they will. Drug abuse is one of those things thats hard to cover up with paperwork, if you know what I mean.

If you can’t be proud of what you are doing, perhaps you should not be doing it!

By: Susan

Susan — Mon, 05 May 2008 14:32:51 +0000

I totally agree. Drugs and alcohol destroy many lives. Not to mention, many foster children and former foster children have a tendency to become addicts as well. My husband had to undergo random UA’s all during our case. Every UA test was NEGATIVE, yet the GAL in the case had a private investigator spy on him at the bowling alley where he bowls at every Monday night, and reported that she had observed him drinking from a pitcher. Well, they never did go & test what was in the pitcher, and many of my husband’s teammates don’t drink, and the bowling alley sells non-alcoholic beer! Anyways, we did lose our kids because social services actively pursued this bogus case where there was NEVER any abuse.
Question: Do CPS workers have to do any psychological testing for their jobs? Do they have to have a background check to see if they’ve ever had a substance abuse problem? I’m wondering, because I checked to see if the ones involved in my case even have a license, which I could not find that any of them have a license.

By: Linda

Linda — Mon, 05 May 2008 14:50:09 +0000

Susan, you’re right. Most are unlicensed and are not real social workers at all. They should be called caseworkers. And no, they don’t have to do any psychological testing to have that job and obviously they should because from the many lies and misrepresentations I’ve read in caseworker court reports it is obvious that many of them are mentally unsound - no sane person would tell lies to separate children from their parents. I’m so sorry to hear you’ve been alienated from your children.

By: Fern

Fern — Mon, 05 May 2008 22:34:41 +0000

Illegal drugs are tremendously insidious and destructive means of coping with your pain.

Please get therapy, or a good friend, or an absorbing hobby.

Some states are now hiring caseworkers who have been substance abuse counselors.

That is, they are NOT 22 yo, fresh out the state school.

If caseworkers have 6 weeks training, that is considered adequate.

However, the use of illegal substances, as I understand it, are not sufficient grounds to remove one’s children.

One has to prove neglect or abuse.

That being said—please do not use.

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 06 May 2008 02:48:50 +0000

Thank you Linda & Fern. I do get to see my kids on the weekends, & I also take mty 14 yr old to school every day. She’s pretty upset about not getting to live with her parents, but my mom & her partner must like the money too much to let her come home. I guess they think a lesbian household is better than living with a recovering alcoholic.

By: pam

pam — Tue, 06 May 2008 15:30:23 +0000

take me off of your newsletter. I was disgusted to read your latest ranting. How dare you support drug use! I dont want to hear anything else you have to say. I feel sorry for your readers and how you are possibly leading them into trouble.

By: Linda

Linda — Tue, 06 May 2008 23:20:53 +0000

Pam, I don’t support drug use. Did it sound like I did? I simply don’t pass judgment on people, especially those here on this site.

If you want to unsubscribe, use the link at the bottom of the email you objected to. There’s an unsubscribe link on every email.

By: Fern

Fern — Wed, 07 May 2008 14:48:37 +0000

Folks might be interested to know that DCFS in California approved a Mom’s administration of THC to her son in a brownie goodie. Dates would be around ‘00.

Apparently, it was the ONLY REMEDY which worked for this young man.

Archived in Googlegroups.

Folks, a common tactic of CPS apologists is the outraged JUDGEMENTAL HIT AND RUN AWAY trick.

Do not be fooled.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 07 May 2008 16:23:04 +0000

I have an open case with CPS here in southern califorina. I am currently going through all of the motions and trying to get my kids back. I had to do the whole random dug testing thing to prove that im not a drug user. I passed 16 tests clean, but I have adult ADHD and have had it for many years, I havent been taking my medication for it for a couple of years due to the fact i didnt have health insurance until just recently. I went back to the doctor and got back on my Adderall, which is a prescription form of amphetamine. I havent told my social worker about it yet because Im afraid shes gonna make me do sarms or delay the process of giving me my kids back. Im afraid this might have some kind of negative effect on my case. I am under the care of a doctor, and I only take this medicine exactly as directed. I do not abuse it or use for any recreational purpose. I am afraid because I am so close to getting my kids back, but I need my Adderall because my ADHD is unmanageable without it. Can anybody give me some advice? or is there any other parents out there in a similar situation? what should I do?

By: Linda

Linda — Wed, 07 May 2008 22:17:19 +0000

Rachel, I don’t understand why you think you need to tell a CPS worker if you get a new prescription medication. Is there anything in your court report saying that you need to report this kind of medical information to CPS? That would be very unusual. Check out your court order; so long as you’re in compliance with that, there’s no need to give extra information. If it comes up during a drug test, have your prescription medication bottle with you to show the people who do drug testing. Other than that, I’d keep quiet about it. If you have any doubts, please consult your attorney.

It seems that when CPS robs us of our children and privacy, we think we have to tell these government agents everything. But believe me, you still have rights. I think a right to medical privacy is very important. It is true that they can get access to our medical records, but this is not something you should have to bring up to them as an issue, unless of course, your court order states that you must.

By: Kevin Fine

Kevin Fine — Thu, 08 May 2008 00:55:56 +0000

Rachel

Isn’t ADHD a recognized disability? If so you are federally protected from being harrassed about it. While I wouldn’t tell the worker I would tell your attorney.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Thu, 08 May 2008 01:12:41 +0000

Thank you so much for your response, Ive been so worried. One of the (false) allegations CPS made against me was drug use, even though I am not a drug user and they have no proof that I ever was. Because it was one of the allegations, I had to do random drug tests for 3 months and the social worker told me that they would test me a few more times periodically while my case is open. Ive proven to them that Im not a drug user, hopefully my Adderall will not cause me any additional problems but I guess Ill just have to wait and see. i will let my attorney know, and Ill let you guys know what happens — Thanx again

By: Susan

Susan — Thu, 08 May 2008 12:12:40 +0000

The CPS Nazis here made me undergo drug & alcohol testing as well (about 6 tests ALL negative) even though I’ve NEVER had a substance abuse issue. They’re just money grubbers using any corrupt goon agency in their power to try to come up with dirt on innocent parents. I wish I’d never told them I’m on celexa (an anti depressant) because they used that against me too! Brings up a point though… How many of these Godsend hero (zero) caseworkers are on meds??? You gotta wonder?

By: Fern

Fern — Fri, 09 May 2008 13:27:23 +0000

Excellent advice from Kevin.
Same scenario occurred in NJ, with a friend of mine.

She had accepted services from DYFS for her rebellious pre-teens. For a year or more.

Girls still did not attend school.

This Mom was wonderful. Girl Scout leader and college student.

She trusted DYFS. Please do NOT blab.

Let your attorney know, in explicit detail that you are NOT an abuser of illegal substances.

In Georgia, the drug testing facility was owned by someone who had a conflict of interest and worked with DFACS.

Folks prove this, and you all have good grounds for suing.

This story is completed documented in Georgia newspapers and on AFRA.

http://www.familyrights.us

First page somewhere. AFRA has the best archive of CPS related stories on Newshawk.

Thanks, Linda. Your advocacy and true love shines through.

No child should be falsely taken from the ones who love him most.

Your advocacy has inspired and helped many families.

Best. F.

By: Shannon

Shannon — Fri, 16 May 2008 07:02:41 +0000

I have a 12 year old that called on me my own kids she dose have ADHD but she said I was smoking crack. I never have ever. So I had my 1st UA today that was fun..lol I know I passed so anyways what can I do with her I can’t get in her head I never know what she going to do next. You know I guess she was just mad at me are something but really I just smoke cigarettes she was yelling at me one day saying your smoking Crack I talked to her and I made her look it up on the computer and talked some more I just don’t get her I do everything for her she has said sorry butt really is that good enough what do you guys think just would like to know

By: my3girlyangels

my3girlyangels — Tue, 27 May 2008 10:38:40 +0000

Question: I don’t use drugs, nor do I have a drug criminal background. I have never been arrested for drugs and when my children were taken from me I was arrested for “Fraud”. However, I was ordered by the Dependency Court to attend a Out-patient drug program and random drug testing. I have been doing both (drug tstng in 2 different labs) since July of 2007. I went to court last week and the Referee did not return my children to me because she stated that I was not complying with orders 10 months was sufficient time for me to have completed my drug program, my attorney informed the Referee that my program was a minimum of 12 months to complete, however, she released my 4yr old to her Parolee father and DCFS did not obtain his criminal record (fingerprints) he was in State Prison for the first three yrs of her life (she is now 4 yrs old) and since his release in 8/06 he had violated his Parole 3 times for methamphetamine, one of the times he was incarcerated for 3 months. Does this sound right???