Comments on: Drugs and Parenting Don’t Mix

By: Annie

Annie — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 22:24:44 +0000

i agree with what you said for the most part. but i am a mother who had her children removed because of drug use, by the grace of God my parents adopted my daughters and not strangers, because i was to strung out to get my own head out of my a**! mind you, almost 5 years later i was as clean as bleach and did a whole turn around with my life, became pregnant, and gave birth to a clean healthy baby boy!! than i had a social worker visit my bedside to tell me that my son would be removed, i begged and pleaded for them not to take my baby and asked why, i was told by this social worker that i had an open cps case, i explained that case closed almost 5years ago and i was not the same person! she apoligized and left than 2hours later another social worker came to see me bedside and claimed my son had tested positive for meth!!!! “I LOST IT”! i told them that was not true and i wanted them to drug test me, knowing i was clean and so was my son and that would be my only defense, yet i went to court and the documants stated i refused to leave a urine sample and my sons results were never brought up, THE JUDGE SAID I STOOD BEFORE HIM BECAUSE OF MY PRIOR CPS CASE!!!! THAT IS BS. BUT i have continued to jump through these hoops of fire and almost a year later i still do not have my son!!! so when a recovering addict makes changes and still gets no credit i think the RIVERSIDE COUNTY CPS SYSTEM IS THE ONE AT FAULT HERE, gotta love california though, ya rite!!!! I will never give up but it breaks my heart

By: Linda Martin

Linda Martin — Tue, 30 Nov 2010 23:38:45 +0000

Thomas, if you’ve lost children by TPR (termination of parental rights) there’s a strong possibility they’ll take the new baby too.

By: thomas

thomas — Tue, 30 Nov 2010 10:21:34 +0000

i live in nevada can cps take your un born child if you dont test posative during pregnancy because of a prior cps case where they took our 4 children for a prior posative urine test they said they would take our unborn child even if we test negative we are clean now and will stay that way can they do that please e mail back

By: Linda Martin

Linda Martin — Fri, 26 Nov 2010 18:20:58 +0000

Glad to hear it Akers. I’ve noticed they give children back to drug users once they recover, usually.

By: akers

akers — Fri, 26 Nov 2010 07:53:22 +0000

I had my child removed for this reason, and you are so right If your useing, STOP now b4 it’s too late. our kids are not worth it. I can honestly say my life is so much better now without the use of drugs and the best thing of all I have my child.

By: Linda

Linda — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 06:12:46 +0000

Karen, I hope you read what Maggie just wrote. It is absolutely true that you’ll be opening Pandora’s box of evil spirits with a call to CPS no matter what’s happening with your son and his girlfriend. If you really want to help then befriend the couple and ask to take over care of the child whenever they are using drugs. Tell them to read my article above. The article was written for drug users to read because I hope they’ll be able to make needed changes for the well being of their children. Offer to help them get drug rehab services. If you call CPS to do all this you may never see your grandchild again after the 18 months of foster care. They often don’t respect and allow kinship care arrangements though by law they should.

By: MaggieC

MaggieC — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 23:17:40 +0000

Dear Karen-
I understand your concerns but please do not involve a government agency in this. Chances are you will not get to see the baby or gain custody. Chances are that the baby will be adopted out.
I urge you to try to find a way without involving CPS. CPS does not care. It’s a numbers game.
Look to support within your own family. Try to see if your son and the baby’s mother will allow you or her mother or someone else to care for the baby.
Once you invite CPS into your lives, they never leave.
There are other grandparents here who will attest to this.

By: karen johnson

karen johnson — Sat, 29 Nov 2008 23:52:02 +0000

my son and his girlfriend are using heroin and they have a 8 month old baby girl. So are you saying it’s okay for them to get messed up and knod out while feeding this baby or to knod out while changing her diaper? I believe this baby should have better than that. I believe this baby needs her mom and dad in her life without the drugs. And I believe that something horrible is going to happen to this baby if someone doesn’t step up and speak for her.

By: margie meeks

margie meeks — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 02:29:01 +0000

WHEN THEY TAKE YOUR BABY AND GET INTO YOUR LIFE THEY ASK YOU IF YOU HAVE EVER USED DRUGS.DONT TELL THEM IF YOU USED THEM WHEN YOU WERE A TEENAGER CAUSE THEN THEY SAY YOU HAVE A DRUG HISTORY .EVEN IF YOU ARE 39 YRS OLD WHEN YOU HAD THE BABY .TAKEN AWAY .I JUST PISSED OFF THE NURSE.

By: my3girlyangels

my3girlyangels — Tue, 27 May 2008 10:38:40 +0000

Question: I don’t use drugs, nor do I have a drug criminal background. I have never been arrested for drugs and when my children were taken from me I was arrested for “Fraud”. However, I was ordered by the Dependency Court to attend a Out-patient drug program and random drug testing. I have been doing both (drug tstng in 2 different labs) since July of 2007. I went to court last week and the Referee did not return my children to me because she stated that I was not complying with orders 10 months was sufficient time for me to have completed my drug program, my attorney informed the Referee that my program was a minimum of 12 months to complete, however, she released my 4yr old to her Parolee father and DCFS did not obtain his criminal record (fingerprints) he was in State Prison for the first three yrs of her life (she is now 4 yrs old) and since his release in 8/06 he had violated his Parole 3 times for methamphetamine, one of the times he was incarcerated for 3 months. Does this sound right???