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Child Protective Services, CPS, has devastated and destroyed hundreds of thousands of families in America during the last thirty years leaving a trail of broken hearts, broken dreams, and shattered childhoods.
Rather than helping families, government agents have used unconstitutional laws in Juvenile Court to rip children away from their loving parents, break asunder God-given, natural, parent-child bonds, and adopt the children of the grieving out to others who profit financially with large monthly adoption subsidy payments.
Child Protective Services must be stopped! The law that started this, CAPTA, must be repealed. We must work tirelessly to inform the public of this very dangerous travesty of justice. We must keep faith knowing that if there is a God, there is an answer and a way to end this heartache.
Child Protective Services Agents - please come to your senses! Family destruction on false or trivial grounds is wrong, reprehensible, and inhumane.
Fosterers - be aware that for the money you get you are holding much-loved children away from their grieving families while the parents are forced to perform a service plan that is anything but a service to them. I call this hostage holding for the government. This is not kindness - to help misguided government agents destroy family relationships and break loving bonds.
CPS workers and fosterers - I ask that you now let the children of the innocent return to their homes where they are truly valued, adored, and loved by the parents God gave them.
Family rights are God-given rights. And they should not be ignored or postponed. Every moment these loving parents and children spend separated from one another is a torment beyond what anyone should ever have to bear.
It is unworthy of human dignity to allow this terrorism and torture of families to go on without saying something, speaking out, and trying to make a change.
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Just saying hello for march and waiting for spring..working hard at Washington Families United being an advocate and effecting change with the legislature. If anyone needs help in washington state please contact our website.
Enjoy your site, and appreciate the hard work you do getting all that information out to the masses!
http://www.washingtonfamiliesunited.org
CC Tillett
Washington Families United
Vice-President and Advocate
Comment by CC Tillett — March 1, 2008 @ 8:02 pm
I have had an ongoing battle from a previous marriage in fighting for custody of my three oldest children. My ex husband has filed numerous complaints against me and has even came to my home and set me up to have me arrested in front of my kids. After several attempts he has finally filed another complaint against me saying my kids are being neglected and abused and they are afraid to come home. CPS and a state trooper came to my house almost two weeks ago, interviewed me and wanted to follow up with the complaint by talking to my kids and my current husband. My children were interviewed two days later and before talking to my husband or our roomate they given me the choice to either take our 6 month old son to the hospital for a full body x-ray and be placed into shelter or they would take my son from me right then and there and put him in fostercare pending the investigation. My oldest three kids were then turned into the care of their father who filed the complaint against me. After 5 days of no returned phone calls, my husband showed up on their doorstep. They told me there wasnt enough evidence and that it seemed like an ongoing custody dispute but they decided to have a caseworker come into the home for 4-6 weeks through a state funded program. Once the case worker met with myself and my husband she went to meet with the kids and because of them being coached for over two weeks as to what to say, they told her that I have never hurt them but they are scared to come home so now the investigation remains open due to their fear. I went from full custody to having supervised visits and if they dont want to come over or talk to me then they cant do anything to help.Mean while my 6 month old son is in my care but my husband has been forced to move out and can only see our son when the state funded worker is here to supervise. Pending the investigation they are making us wait almost a month to both go in for a physc evaluation and we can only see their doctor not one of our own so choosing. Upon getting placed into a shelter not only did I have to share a room with 6 other people but I was uprooting my son from his home environment to go into a home where he had to sleep in a bed with me as crack was smoked in this shelter every night. I have read the policy and procedure book to CPS ’s and all I have to say is that its really unfair for innocent people to be targeted in such a manor, but Its okay for my daughter to get shot in the face by my son while in their dads care and have to go have reconstructive surgery done to her face and because it happened in another county they brushed it under the rug as though accidents happen.
Comment by nichole — March 2, 2008 @ 11:45 am
I live in Central Wisconsin, and I am fighting Wood county’s CPS to get my son back. It started with his father being charged with the viewing of child poronagraphy(which I knew nothing of). I ended up in jail fpr issue of a worthless check. My mother refused to take care of him so he ended up in fostercare. I got out within a month or so and they refused to give him back to me unless I followed a list of 11 things that I had to do. There never was any type of neglect/injury or anything else. I followed all their rules and they have kept giving me more hoops that I have to jump through. I am making a little progress for I have contacted the Head director of this area Patrick Cork and I also contacted the director for wood county Chuck Price. Since I have done that I am now getting visits at my home and hopefully should be getting him back within the next month or so. The wood counthy case worker Julie Skerhutt is incharge of my case and doesn’t want him returned for the foster parents want to adopt him. He has only been in foster care for 9 months. I have moved in a different county and they are willing to return by Easter if possible if not sometime there after. So to all fighting CPS DON’T GIVE UP. It helps to go to the top and make coplaints so that things get moving and case workers get investigated.
Comment by Kristine Choate — March 2, 2008 @ 12:27 pm
I am a grandmother who lost 3 of my grandsons to CPS because of their lies. They were adopted on Oct. 25, 2007 and we haven’t seen them since Apr. 13, 2007. They made false accusations against us to keep us from being considered to get custody and the courts refused to hear us because CPS asked the judge not to hear our motion to intervene. The adoption is illegal because the actions of CPS were illegal in order to make the adoption happen. Our appeals have been refused because they say as grandparents we have no legal standing for the boys. Foster Care is a sham as it is set up to allow states to get bounty money from the federal government for the illegal adoption of children that the states and CPS have stolen from poor families.
Comment by Cheryl Boggs — March 2, 2008 @ 4:04 pm
Never give up! That is the biggest and most important advice.
I have lived in a nightmare since 2003 when my ex-boyfriend forged my signature on a court document giving himself “50/50″ custody to our daughter.
The District Attorney refuse to file charges based that there wasn’t enough evidence. Even though I got my own hand writing analysis proving it was not my signature and also that who else would have benefited from such a document but him. As it was this document that allowed him the luxury of only paying $25 dollars a week in child support.
This man has a history of domestic violence and DUI’s including one where our 7 yr old was a passenger.
Because of this document and others that followed he was allowed more and more visitation.
In 2006 I reported to social services that my daughter had alleged that her father had toucher her buttock area inappropriately. It was their opinion that I was “coaching” my daughter and they did nothing. My daughter told her Guardian Ad Litem, he did nothing. It was their opinion that I was trying to cause problems for my ex.
Now, last week they finally took my daughter to a child advocacy center where the “neutral” third party substantiated my daughters allegations. So now social services has done a total turn around including the DA and others.
I feel like I’m living in “Bizarro” world. I’m really happy they are all NOW doing the right thing but I think that they should be held accountable to putting my daughter in harms way after they were told of the abuse. Not only that but the emotional and financial distress this has caused us.
By the way, in the past few weeks I had emailed my Governor, Senator and even the White House. It seems strange now that things are coming together for us. It’s kind of like they are all now crossing the ‘T’s and dotting those ‘I’s.
Ask social services to take your children to a child advocacy center, a neutral third party is important to get.
Stay strong and know you are not alone!
Comment by Rainy — March 2, 2008 @ 5:23 pm
For the third time,a judge in Bee County,Texas,refuses to face the facts in my child custody case & is helping CPS give my 2 grandchildren back to a totally unfit,lying,manipulating mother,who would kill her own grandma to get her way!
CPS has never left us alone & due to a clerical error on their part,the mother’s rights were never terminated as they had stated they were going to do!
Year after year,I told her to take it to court if she wanted her children back,& instead,she used a lie told by her 14yr.old daughter & manipulation of her mentally handicapped son,to get them taken from me!
I was named PERMANANT legal custodian of both these precious kids by TWO judges & this stupid A-Hole,terminates my rights!
I requested a court appointed attourney & went on Feb.27th & guess who we get for a judge again? Why Mr.Wonderful,himself again!
After being in court all day,I was belittled & embarrassed by his statement,that Nothing was being taken from me & I had nothing anyone was taking & the kids were not mine!
He said,”I’m sorry.” I told him,”So am I! For all of you!” & I left!
God knows everything & I belong to Him.
I would not want to be these PPL when Jesus comes for His PPL!
The world is crazy & being run by clowns!
Comment by Frogmama — March 2, 2008 @ 6:01 pm
i know we must all keep up the FIGHT
as our admin/author advocate over at
http://www.GOODMOMSFIGHTDYFS.COM & http://www.DYFSFALSIFIESRECORDS
sha’kaarii melendez is just about to
submit info on her next campaign as
she is now working with a D.A.G. (a former deputy attorney general) in bergen county,n whose exposign dyfs
in court shortly,she is pushing for
swift indictment of all caseworkers in
new jersey who are knowingly with holding valuable info such as in her
case they have finally got hold of the photos mulitiple color pix showing DYFS LIED IN UNION COUNTY!
there was NO BRUISES on her beautiful girls then ages 10 and only 7 four years ago.and now they have the proof they need to prove ALL WHAT WE KNOW IS THE TRUTH!
dyfs also in her case kept DYFS FILE
AND POLICE FILE where worker say”we CANNOT SUBSTANTIATE” along with the multiple photos so she know she will get her girls home soon
now and her multi million dollar suit has been filed and she is now pushin
for a bill to be review/propose for
workers to be indicted, under the law
when you have PROOF as she do this FRAUD is taking place.
so we do invite ALL GOOD MOMS
FALSELY ACCUSED PARENTS
to sign up to support her bill i am a moderator here at http://www.goodmomsfightdyfs.com
and we will be looking out for your
support of this MUCH NEEDED BILL.
from morgan c.
new jersey mom
of three….
moderator staff member at
good moms fight dyfs and
dyfs falsifies records and
http://www.soapactress-central.com
Comment by morgan clark — March 2, 2008 @ 10:08 pm
I am a CPS Worker interested in hearing about injustices, interested in actually HELPING families. It is disheartening to hear so many stories about lies, heartaches and families ripped apart. Is there anything an honest worker can do?
Comment by Sharyn — March 3, 2008 @ 12:25 am
Sharyn-
Run for the neares door grabbing your last paycheck as you go by!
If you are not corrupt yet, the DA, your supervisor, the GAL and the Atty Gen. will expect it of you sooner rather than later or you’ll be fired for non-compliance anyhow. Get a new job now while that info can’t get out.
Oh yeah, have you noticed… all of the above are paid from the same state funds that receive federal reimbursment. Seems quite biased to me.
Congrats for being honest now. Too bad it will change.
Comment by Cheryl — March 3, 2008 @ 8:08 am
This is from a mother in Michigan that is about to lose her children.. She goes to court on March 6th..
Please help stop at least one family from being destroyed.
You can call the DHS 269-445-0200 and the court house and tell them to stop forced adoption and legalizing kidnapping for profit. I do not wish for you to mention my name, you know how they are. But I know two case workers name who need to hear some truth (Liz Pant and Kim Vincek).Just ask for them through the DHS #. But please pass these numbers out and tell people to go to the web and type in Cass County Mich Susan Dobrich and you will see a bunch of news articles about THIS judge who sells 82% of children she steals. The court number is 269-445-4444 ask for family court.
Please call the DHS office. these case workers and that theripist and let them know that you know what they are doing. Document everything and send it back to me.
When you get upset at what they are doing to you, call these numbers and give a shout out.
Say stuff like
STOP FORCED ADOPTION
FOSTER WORKERS DON’T EVEN HAVE TO HAVE A FORMAL DEGREE BUT THEY CAN DETERMINE TO DESTROY A FAMILY?
OPRAH’S COMING TO TOWN GET READY YOU BABY SELLERS!!! (somebody named oprah may come to town, it could happen, and if our voice is loud enough it will happen!)
EXPLAIN HOW YOU HAVE THE HIGHEST ADOPTION RATE IN THE STATE!!
YOU NEVER GAVE PARENTS THE OPPORTUNITY FOR REUNIFICATION
How much grant money does Cass County get a year for foster care and adoptions? Isn’t it true that you have to spend it or you will lose it?
YOU PEOPLE ARE ACTING LIKE THE NAZI’S DID WHEN THEY RATIONALIZED WHY THEY KILLED THE JEWS
IT MUST BE HARD ENOUGH TO RATIONALIZE WHAT YOU DO EVERY DAY TO YOURSELF WE ARE GONNA MAKE YOU EXPLAIN YOURSELF TO THE PUBLIC
FOSTER CARE SPECIALIST IS ANOTHER NAME FOR STATE PAID ADDITION AGENT-
A FOSTER CARE WORKER IS A PUPPET BUT YOU HAVE FIGURED OUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND YOU CONTINUE TO DO IT FOR THE MONEY !
ITS TIME TO TEAR YOUR SYSTEM APART
Ask them.What creditionals do foster care specilalist have to have. What excatly do their jobs entail? Aren’t they social workers and aren’t they suppose to be public servants?
Let me know if anyone thinks of anymore things to tell and ask them?
Julie Risen is their Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist but they use her as a adoption attachment theripist for the foster children. She trys to break the bio parents by saying stuff like “You should have never had your children”. and after two session “It’s eneviable that you are never going to change”. Then she lied about it in frontof my psychologist.(which is against the state lincenses ethic code). When my children act out their tranma from being seperated from me she blames me, I think that is how she tries to emotional abuse and break the moms. Any way this is her number and information Julie A. Reising, M. A. Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist 269-407- 0029.
YOU KNOW JUST SOME TRUTHFULLY SUGGESTIONS LIKE THESE..
lET ME KNOW HOW IT GOES. TRY TO DO IT SOON I HAVE TO GO TO COURT THRUSDAY AND THEY NEED TO BE NERVOUS because what they have done and will continue to do if the public is not informed and make them accountable for it!
The doctors license expired on January 2008. The 2 caseworkers are not licensed…
Comment by Diando — March 3, 2008 @ 8:29 am
Frogmama,
Contact Randy Wallace of Fox 26. He may do a story for you…
He did ours
Comment by Diando — March 3, 2008 @ 8:31 am
I WANT EVERYBODY TO KNOW THE SOCIAL WORKER WHO TOOK MY DAUGHTER AND IS HOLDING HER HOSTAGE IS JOAN OLSON . WRIGHT COUNTY MN. HUMAN SERVICES I HATE THAT WITCH!!!!!! AND THAT COUNTY!!@@###$%^^&& HER PHONE # IS 763 682 7471 OR 1 800 362 3667 FLOOD HER PHONE WITH CALLS AND TELL HER TO GIVE US OUR DAUGHTER BACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Comment by SCOTT ANGERMEIER — March 3, 2008 @ 1:20 pm
i lost my twins back in sept played the iowa dhs game and i have won. i went thru alot of heartache crying frustration and everything else. and what gets me is that dhs comes to your home takes your children and they expect you not to react. I am not one to sit back and let the world run me over. fought for my kids and they turned me into a mental case. if you didnt stand up for your children and your rights wouldn’t that say you don’t care bout your children? I fought and fought got sent to a nut ward put on meds have to see a therapists all because i got pissed off that someone came to my home and took one of my twins and took the other one from the hospital and slapped me with denial of critical care. I hate our gov’t and hate how our freedoms as americans have been stripped away from us. I fought the fite and in 4 days i finally get my 9 month old twins back. wish luck to all families out there having problems with out corrupt system. don’t hang your heads low cause your children have been takin hang them high cause you are not in the wrong. stay strong and you will defeat the pencil pushin paycheck collectin bastards. i pray for all the families in my shoes. stay strong
Comment by kerri — March 3, 2008 @ 2:38 pm
From Houston, Texas
I wanted to leave a message that might bring hope to families being torn apart by CPS. The process which I am about to descibe lasted 5 weeks.
My children, an infant and a toddler, where taken from my custody after my husband and I took the baby to an ER because we thought our toddler might have fallen and hurt our baby. The ER doctor felt the injury occurred through a deliberate act, and called CPS to investigate.
During the investigation, while my children where placed with my parents, my husband was found to be responsible for the injury. He moved out of our home, and I filed for divorce.
Because it was proven and believed that I had no knowledge of what had occured, and because there had never been any indication that anything like this could happen, I assumed that my children would immeadiately be returned. That didn’t happen.
CPS had other intentions.
While waiting for a “Show Cause” hearing, I complied with every request made by CPS. I completed a “4 C’s” evaluation, where the therapist admitted that I could teach parenting classes. The only recommendation was for me to receive grief counseling in regards to what had happened to my family.
Next, a “Family Planning” meeting was held. There, my friends and family gathered to state their support. While the CPS workers said that the goal was famliy reunification, and that I was a good parent who had no knowledge that this could have happened, I would still have to complete various tasks before getting my children returned, such as attend grief couseling. I also had to provide pay statements and mortgage statements to prove I could support my children.
The goal of reunification was given a time frame of one year. ONE YEAR. It made no sense to me or anyone else who knew about the situation; I was being punished even though CPS admitted I had done nothing wrong.
My only hope was the “Show Cause” hearing. I did everything I could before the hearing (the 4C’s eval, paystatements, etc.). I even had the attorney at litem (the attorney appointed to represent the children) come and do a home visit. I think that was the best thing I could have done, because the children’s attorney became a huge supporter for my cause. And the judge listens very closely to the attorney at litem’s opinion and recommendation.
About 4 weeks after everything began at the ER, my case was presented before a judge. It was very effident from the questions asked of the case worker, that although CPS didn’t want to give me back my children, there was no reason not to. I had proven I was a good mother who loved her children and would do anything to get them back. The children’s attorney stated for the record that she did not agree with CPS and recommended that my children be returned immeadiately.
The judge agreed, and ordered that my children be returned to me no later than 5 p.m. The judge also set a status hearing for one week later.
At that hearing, she completely dismissed my case from CPS. They no longer have any joint custody or conservetorship of my children. CPS in now gone from my life and my children’s lives. I am so grateful.
I know that I am very fortunate to have my kids back so quickly (5 weeks from when CPS became involved) when other families struggle with the system for years. The problem is, the system is made to catch bad parents. So when a good parent gets entangled in the CPS system, it’s nearly impossible to navigate out without CPS imposing numerous requirements to meet, and wanting the final say over any decisions regarding your children.
In my experience, it does way more harm than good to anger a case worker. Cooperate as much as possible, or to the extent your lawyer recommends. Complete any evaluation requirements as quickly as possible, so that they can be used to support your case. When talking with anyone working for CPS, always be careful how you word or describe things so that what you say cannot be misinterperted (whether deliberately or not).
As soon as you hear the word “CPS,” get a lawyer. Don’t think that because you didn’t do anything wrong, CPS is going to just go away. You never know what their investigation will uncover.
If you are in the Houston area, and are looking for an attorney for a CPS case, I highly recommend Terry Elizondo (713-655-8085, tlelizondo@aol.com). She was the attorney assigned by the courts to represent my kids. She really knows her stuff, and is well respected by the judges and the DA’s in the family and juvenille courts. If I had known about her, I would have hired her myself.
Thoughts and prayers to all families in these situations.
Comment by Smith — March 4, 2008 @ 12:37 pm
To Sharyn, the honest CPS worker. I’m guessing that your new on the job, or maybe you have just been believing, the whole time, that the system is there for the best interest of the children, and have been a lapdog. But, I hope mostly, that your CPS program is working as it was intended from the day that it was incorporated into our government. Because, DCFS/DHS/CPS, or whatever it is referred to, in your state, has become a corporation. You asked a question. I cannot give an unbiased answer, because of what I’ve learned. If you are an honest CPS employee, looking to help families, then you know the guidelines and protocols that you are supposed to go by. I know, the same guidelines and protocols, because, I am a parent that couldn’t understand why DHS had my children put into eleven different homes in a ten month time period, for a false and totally unproven allegation. All it takes, to take a child away, is a CPS workers opinion. I know the requirements, as stated by CPS protocol. An interview with a third party is required. The third party cannot be revealed, even in a court of law. There’s something wrong with that, right there. A CPS worker can make up a third party’s interview. No names are required. Nothing has to be proven, as to the fact, that a real person was interviewed as a third party. In a real court of law, that is dismissed as hearsay. A person charged with murder cannot be convicted from hearsay. Yet, a parent can lose their children from hearsay. There are good and bad parents, out there. Is it ok to let the good parents children be taken away and put through the trauma of being taken away from their parents, not understanding why, and being told, constantly, by CPS workers or foster parents, that their parents have problems to work out…………..to, eventually, if your parents cared about you enough, they would have done what we asked of them? I cooperated with the requirements, classes, etc.. it was never enough. My oldest daughter was raped twice while DHS was looking out for the best interest of her. She ran away from all but two of these homes. I shadowed her, the whole time, because I AM LOOKING OUT FOR THE BEST INTEREST OF MY CHILDREN. I kept DHS/CPS informed and they did nothing, except to tell me that I wasn’t complying with their case plan. WHAT ABOUT WHAT MY CHILDREN ARE GOING THROUGH. They blame me for my childrens life altering ordeals. I told the supervisor, about my oldest daughter being raped. He was unemotional and monotone in his response. Basically, he told me, that it was my fault because I haven’t been cooperating . I have my children back home now, with no help from lawyers or DHS/CPS. I learned the law and how/ why they get away with what they do. If you want to make a positive impact, it will most likely cost you your job or you will never progress in this field. As in any corporation, you have to learn the internal network and how it works, to include, who do you have to please to get promotions and raises and good evaluations. If you are in CPS to make a positive impact on children and their families then you are employed by the wrong company. If you feel adament in your belief that CPS is helping children or families, then follow the case, after it has been turned over to another worker. The protocols/guidelines/seminars are passed on from experience of how to keep a business prosperous. You can take the pros from what CPS lured you into becoming a CPS worker and you can take the cons from parents who have had their children taken from them. Take what I said as you will, of course my opinion is baised. I’m a single father who has raised my two girls for over ten years. If an anonymous phone call came to you, saying that I Abused/Neglected/Threat of Harm, etc.what would you do in that case? What would associates of yours do in that case? What would be the initial response or conversation, with each other, before anyone ever talked with me or my girls?
Comment by Aaron — March 4, 2008 @ 11:05 pm
Diando, Judge Judy on youtube, yet? I looked and haven’t fount it. I’ve found a couple vids that related to DCFS on Judge Judy. That can be another place to get the awareness out. I urge everyone to go to youtube and type in dcfs. Scroll down and learn what real parents have to say about having their children taken away by the illegal/legalized law of Removal of Your Child,…because it puts money into the state if we meet the quota that the federal government set for the state.
Comment by Aaron — March 4, 2008 @ 11:38 pm
I am a mother of 3, my two younger children have behavior problems and get grounded to their rooms for lying and stealing and starting fires etc. all serious things. My son took a knife to school and my daughter steals money out of my pocketbook, last year I went on line a found motorola home monitor that is for watching over your kids when your at work, I also use it to know what the kids have taken in the midle of the night It records 10 second clips. I have raised all 3 of my kids the same and the oldest one dosen’t have these behaviors. There biological father has all kinds of mental illnesses, I know that some can be hereditary. I always wondered if that could be the problem. Two weeks ago I got home from work and there were two social workers and two police officers at my house. They said they had gotten a complaint(wouldn’t say who it was but I knew that it was the school) they have been blaming me for years for my kids behavior. The guy social worker told me that he was taking my kids out of the house because I was abusing them mentally. He said that it is my fault that they are grounded and made it sound like I just ground them for fun. He also said that I am not allowed to use the cameras in my home(which is what they are for) to watch my kids. He said that anyone who has a nanny cam is abusing there kids. I found this all just totally absured I don’t and never have done anything but love and try to keep my kids safe. He said that they would have to have a pschiatric evalution to see if them being grounded has caused them anxiety or depression.He is very rude and everything I say to him he gets defensive about. I also within the course of things have had 2 other social workers at the house at the behest of the school and they both found that the problems were the kids and their behaviors not something I was doing wrong. This is just crazy I need some advice in Pa
Comment by tonya — March 5, 2008 @ 11:52 am
It amazes me how these people get away with some of the things they do.
My two children, ages 6 years and 11
months, were taken a week ago. Due to our loss of running water. A “concerned” neighbor called to report unfit living conditions. They searched our home entirely (the sheriff’s office) and the only reason
for removing my kids was the water. Two days later, a social worker informs us that my 11 month old tested positive for meth!!! That is not possible!! Unless THEY gave it to him. These “reports” are factual as far as the court is concerned. However, my husband and I are terrified. Who put meth in my infant son’s system?
Comment by Heather — March 5, 2008 @ 12:15 pm
Dear Tonya:
Please get in touch with the Pennsylvania group:
http://www.headsheldhigh.org
Also note that on this Website there is featured a book called:
“The shredding of families” written by 2 Pennsylvania medical doctors who are very much against DHS.
Children today are much different and often act out much more than many folks remember from their school days.
It is possible that they are behaviorally challenged and deserve a Special Ed evaluation.
NO FAULT OF THE PARENTS OR FAMILY AT ALL. And you obviously are concerned since you have tried to watch and guard over them.
PA needs a court hearing to remove your children. Please join Message Boards here and learn from this and other sites.
For example:
http://www.familyrights.us
Best wishes to you and your kids….
F.
“The shredding of families” written by 2 Medical Doctors, Dr. Lillian and Dr. Michael Dunsmore.
It sounds as if you are working very hard at being a good Mom. You obviously think and are taking care care of your children as best you can.
Comment by Fern — March 5, 2008 @ 12:20 pm
Heather-
Is this house a rental or new ownership for you, by chance? Meth can stay in carpets, walls etc. for up to 1 year sometimes, if mfg. of meth was ocurring in this house prior to your move in. Children crawl around and play on the floor and actual absorb the toxins slowly into the blood stream over time.
That could explain the meth. Also a positive for meth could be anywhere from “trace” to whatever degree. Did they clarify the level?
Trace can come from use long ago to what I described above; being in a home that was at one time brewing meth, without a total cleansing before baby crawled in it.
Babies
Comment by Cheryl — March 5, 2008 @ 12:35 pm
Smith and others:
One piece of advice which I heard even Judge Judy proclaim was
“To never ( unless absolutely necessary) take your baby or child to an ER room, when you have a doctor or clinic who knows you and your kids and knows how you treat your children.”
Please, everyone heed this advice which was given by JJ.
Also, we stil live in the United States of America.
Where the DA has to prove guilt, you do not have prove you are INNOCENT.
My dear, every family in the US could be subject to the whims and vagaries of CPS if we allowed ourselves to be manipulated by our Government Employees that way.
However, I certainly do agree with you that it is best not to provoke a case worker.
They have almost unbridled power, with little accountability. However, since the advent of the ‘net some of the more egregious examples of their overreaching have become transparent to the general public.
Middle-class people still blindly believe that their government could never be corrupt. However, the globalization of the world means that sometimes only Gubment jobs are the ones that have stable paychecks.
And truthfully, they do experience some pressures on their jobs which may be foreign to me. However, if our government did ITS JOB, instead of privatizing their work out to for-profit CORPORATIONS, most cases of child abuse would be and are quickly shown to be nothing but fanciful conjectures, imaginings, or frank delusions.
I grew to adulthood before CAPTA was enacted. As the sponsor of CAPTA said: ” I did not imagine that CAPTA (Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment ACT ) would expand into the monster it became.
Comment by Fern — March 5, 2008 @ 12:39 pm
Diando & Mattia-
Well, it is all over for me!!!! We won yesterday at our final day of court. The kids are all home safely. The case is closed permanently! No more hoops. No more visits or doctors.
I had the pleasure of telling a CPS worker off and get away with it. Now we prepare our final Federal Court petition and press release. We should be ready to go national within 60 days.
I pray that I am ready for this step. Fighting CPS locally and at the State level was exhausting. I can only imagine how tough it will be when we get to the Federal level.
My atty’s and I are also attempting to work out some kind of reform submissions with the State Legislature so we can help families all over this state. He will be meeting next week with a service agent to the Gov. on our behalf and the behalf of all families plauged by CPS in this state for what amounts to “interpretation” by each individual CPS worker. Each worker gets to decide the fate of a family, so it is likely 2 cases identical, will not be affected the same.
We need to at least reform what we have to immediatley affect people; since getting rid of CPS will be much more difficult and a lengthy process if ever…..
Comment by Cheryl — March 5, 2008 @ 12:51 pm
Cheryl,
I considered that possibility, and I
wish I could accept it completely. We moved in here in late October, and I know nothing about the people living here prior to us. For that reason, I
couldn’t and/or wouldn’t let him on the floor, at least until we could get new carpet. Which we did two months ago. So , Brandon was never
exposed to anything that the rest of us wasn’t. My daughter tested negative, and then my husband and I
also tested negative. She (my caseworker) did allow us to view the
results for a minute before taking it back. From what I could understand,
his level seemed to be quite high, but
I am new to hair follicle levels, so I really don’t know. It seems odd that
he is the only one to test positive. They were unaware of the fact that I
kept off of the floor, until I informed them about it after they claimed that
was how it had happened.
Then to add insult to injury, they
have put some pretty dramatic LIES in
their report, like they weren’t dressed
or even owned any clothes. And
everyone just takes it all as the gospal truth, hook-line- and sinker.
That is very scary. To be the only ones to know of the lies, and have
no one believe you. Only CPS- our nations baby dealers. I had lost a
son to them 9 years ago. There is
no doubt in my mind what their real
motives are. In some cases anyway.
Comment by Heather — March 5, 2008 @ 2:12 pm
I’M GOING TO COURT THIS MONTH.WISH ME LUCK
Comment by comment by jo — March 5, 2008 @ 3:10 pm
DO THEHY NEED A COURT ORDER TO REMOVE YOUR CHILD HEN THERE’S NO EMERGANCY ENVOLVED.?
Comment by comment by jo — March 5, 2008 @ 3:14 pm
In my experiences they only need
a police officer present. Other than
that, all they need is an anounymous
phone call from anyone who wants
to ruin your life. They are pretty
powerful, after all, they are able to take away what GOD gave you.
Comment by Heather — March 5, 2008 @ 3:39 pm
my youngest son has joint managing conservators with the mother of the children. in sept 12,find out that cps was invoule and the mother gave the children,cps didn’t let my son know this till after his children was in the other grandmother home for 2 weeks,i find out by a phone call from the mother,that cps took the children out of the home cause of drugs and the mother gt bust in oct,2007 and cps still willn’t let my son have his children.he hired a lawyer and it been going threw the court since then amd cps still are invoule with the case. the other grandmother can’t take care of her self,how can cps let the children still be in that home?plus the other grandmother has biplor real bad and she has alot of up and downs with it,not a very safe place for children to be around,worry something mite happen to the children and of course cps has been told by alot of people that she doesn’t need those children and they keep not doing nothing at all and of course the court takes so long also and why does that have to be that way? these are babies and they are the ones that get hurt by the all the syptem taking so long. i just pray that god we make sure that nothing happens to them. anyone can give me some advice what else we can make it go faster then what it taken. if so please help thanks sheila
Comment by sheila stone — March 5, 2008 @ 3:43 pm
If you suspect that CPS, may knock on your door, or anyones’, that you know of, PLEASE, understand this!!!
Search the CPS guidelines for your state, on the net. A CPS worker cannot physically take your children. If they claim that there is an immediate danger, then only a police officer can remove your child/ren. Let the police officer decide if he wants to, physically, take them. The CPS worker knows how to make threats to a parent, in order to add proof of it the report, by having you lose control in front a police officer. Stay calm and diligent. Ignore the CPS worker. Talk, calmly, to the police officer so he understands that you are not handing your child/ren over. Walk back inside and close the door.
Comment by Aaron — March 5, 2008 @ 6:04 pm
Im tired of cleaning out lice everytime my kids come over. They smell awful, and are always filthy when their father brings them to me. CPS are the geniouses responsible for my kids being there.
They complain that his house is always a mess, and all he cares about is sitting down to watch television. What the hell?
The longer they stay with him, the more depressed they become. It’s not enought that they tore our family apart. I feel like they are out to completely destroy our lives!!
The only thing that cps protects is their own collective asses!!
Comment by L.K.H. — March 5, 2008 @ 10:49 pm
Mattia,
You are always enouraging to everyone on this site, even through your own troubles. Thank You. You are an angel on earth, and a saint. May God bless you for your generous heart!!
Comment by L.K.H. — March 5, 2008 @ 10:52 pm
I’m going to court tomorrow for charges of medical neglect. I have records and letters from the childrens ped yet I’m afraid the judge is not understanding to our behalf. the Cps wants us to settle and have strict supervision of our doctors apointments. I not quilty of any neglect but i don’t want to lose my kids. what should i do? I don’t want cps in our lives.
Comment by MELANIE — March 6, 2008 @ 12:20 am
Its hard for me to believe that there is no one their to make this CPS workers acountable for thier false acusations. Isnt their job to investicate if you are quilty withour any reasnable D. What happened to you are inocent till proven quilty. What hapened to your rights to privacy and your parentel rights? Aren’t they suposed to be for the childrens benefit? How is been taken away from you parents good for the child. Where are the childrens rights?I feel so violeted.How is it that this people are given so much power to distroy families without consequenses. Where is the justice.
Comment by MELANIE — March 6, 2008 @ 12:30 am
Melanie,
I can totally relate. It does feel like every part of your life has been violated. Some things are meant to be private, not because its something bad, but because it is something special. These jerks made a big deal, especially the GAL, about the little nicknames that I have for my kids. Then they poke away at every little detail of your life, and throw it on a podium for the world to see.
Comment by L.K.H. — March 6, 2008 @ 12:34 am
I am a mother of four. In 2006, my younger son went to school and told his teacher that my boyfriend punched him in his eye. When CPS went to the school to question him, he had no signs that he had been hit. They decided to “investigate” any way. My so called boyfriend, gaave CPS a tape of me yelling and cussing at my son for lying. They used this tape to take away all three of my children. I plead guilty to anger management, and mental abuse of him, as well as failure to protect him from witnessing domestic violence. I have done everything required to get all three of my children back. I eneded up giving up my rights to the child that I yelled at, but I am still fighting to get the other two back. I was never charged with doing anything to them, but thanks to my social worker, and therapists, they think that I can longer be a good parent. I know that what I did was wrong and inexcusable, but I don’t deserve never to see my children again. My children are begging to come home and there is nothing I can do to help them. I am in trial right now fighting to keep them. It looks like I am still goiing to lose them. The judge believes everything negative my caseworker says about me, and when I defend myself I am called the liar. I am not the only one going thrrough this in Michigan. We need todo something noe before it is too late.
Comment by Kandice Cantrell — March 6, 2008 @ 7:02 am
Kandice,
And yet while you were busy yelling at your son for doing wrong…CPS was allowing children of battery to stay at home or foster homes without any intervention. I have to wonder how many babies died without CPS entering their lives while they were busy picking on your family…
I know that while they were busy dismembering our large family for 16 months, 5 children in our state were killed. Two by foster parents that complaints had not been address and 3 by their own parent (s) after numerous complaints had gone univestigated.
Now this is pathetic!!!!
Even though we have been thru hell and won our case, even though I never will let CPS near us again (now knowing my rights, I still beleive that some kind of agency is needed to check out serious complaints. Just not the petty stuff they come up with.
Someone above mentioned that she lost her kids because at the point which CPS approached her, the water was off. Big deal!!! That is not good cause to remove kids. Our well went dry every winter growing up. Normal for the area we lived. Most people had dry wells until winter was over and the snow melted. Then we had running water thru the next fall.
CPS was jus a pipe dream then, so no agency ran around pulling kids from loving parents.
And by schooling our nations kids to know that they can do or say anything and their parents will be investigated, we have created a nation of kids in this generation, that KNOW they can get away with anything. We see it everyday in the tagging, shoplifting and drug use. Others things as well.
I wish we still had the days when it was perectly legal to smack you child up side the head to make you listen. It made us an obeideint generation. I know I never had a vist from the police and I survived, lead paint, asbestos, spankings, love taps and grounding. I did exactly as I was told the first time!
Every kids now knows, you can’t touch them. Even a “love tap” becomes the biggest lie if the child is that encouragable.
The difference now days, is that CPS does now exsist and will tear apart all your good parenting. Then, even if the case is dismissed, your kids now knows that they can target you again and again using CPS to do the dirty work. All just to get what they want…
Ex’s are using the system, ex-friends, neighbors who have a grudge. As long as CPS continues to rely on these types of complaints, they will never be honest. They will have already formed an opinion of you long before they ever hit your doorstep.
Comment by Cheryl — March 6, 2008 @ 8:30 am
The world needs more people like Sharyn. In most cases, caseworkers seem to lose their perspective, along with their personality after having been in the business for so long. At least this has been my expereince. it often times feels like the accused is guilty until proven innocent. Even when innocence is proven, the emotional scars, and branding still remain.
My story is probably different than anything you’ve seen here.
In my case, I was dogged by CYS for 12 years, Each, and every time they had to come to my home, the complaint was unfounded, and according to Pennsylvania laws, expunged after 90 days.
Why was I doggged? I was, in the beginning, a single, disabled parent.
Ny question here is:
What does one do when the false accisations come from the child in an effort to be the center of attention?
This is what happened to me, and resulted in my daughter going to live with family members at first (upon CYS’ insistence) stating I wasn’t doing my job as a parent. If I wasn’t doing my job, why was she clothed in the latest fashions, fed three meals a day, and living in a nice home? she was never beaten, as she told teachers in her school, and hence CYS becoming involved. She found the “revenge ploy” for getting even for being grounded for being caught stealing.
This led to a total and complete loss of my income, and also my home, What was left of my family was ripped apart, and I had to leave the area due to death threats. I am still not able to return to pay respects at my late husband’s gravesite, or to his family.
She has since admitted not only to lying, but the two attempts she made upon my life before going into Foster Care.
She is now 17… and a reunion is out of the question… given the events of the past. However, I want my good name restored. Nothing was ever founded, no charges were ever filed against me, nor did I ever have to appear in court for anything.
Yet, because of the lies, I am branded in a place I once called home, and cannot go back.
Comment by ShadowChaser — March 6, 2008 @ 9:25 am
I am the mother from pa who lost her kids because of so called “mental”abuse for grounding them. I have been reading a lot about the 4th amendment and it says that cps cannot come in your house without a search warrant and they cannot talk their way in. The day that they came to my house I was on my way home from work and my oldest daughter called my cell and told me that someone was beating on the door and wouldn’t go away(I tell my kids not to answer the door when they are home alone) and while I was on the phone with her my other line rang and it was the guy from cps he told me that he had two police officers with him and that I had to tell my daughter to let him in. I was under the impression that if I didn’t tell my daughter to answer to door that they were going to arrest me when I got home. I now know that he had no right to talk his way into the house. Is there anything I can do about it now? I also wonder if it matters that the two police officers that were with him(I happen to know them we live in a small town) both told me that they didn’t agree with cps for even being at my house or taking my kids. They told me that if someone would have called them first that cps wouldn’t even be involved because they know what a good mother I am. I told the guy from cps the next day that the cops had said that and he got really angry and said that they were out of line . I believe that he is way out of line and I am going to a consult with an attorney today.
Comment by tonya — March 6, 2008 @ 9:34 am
Hi Tonya…
During my battles with CYS, I even got a State representative involved. He basically told me the same thing… I din’t have to let them into my home without having a warrant, or someone who could prove there was any wrongdoing happening within my home.
I read your story, and got chills… for it could very well have been written by me.
The lying, the stealing, she was also sneaking out, and the first attempt on my life was her setting fire to my home while I slept. The second was her trying to strangle me. She mever carrried a mark, Yet I carried the bruises from her tirades.
Pennsylvania is such a screwed up state when it comes to this sort of thing. I even tried showing them proof I was the victim in all of this, and no one wanted to hear it.
Just wondering, what county did you have to deal with? I dealt with Clearfield County. Obviously, I no longer live there.
Comment by ShadowChaser — March 6, 2008 @ 9:55 am
CPS uses the people from my past against me as well. My ex-husband and his entir family. They have interviewed each and every member, which of course say that I don’t pay enought attention to the kids, blah, blah, blah. But they have not interviewd one person (other than my husband) who is directly involved with me. Not my friends, not my co-workers, not my boss, nobody.
Since leaving my husband, I do not speak to his awful, horrible family (except for a few extended family members), and they do not speak with me. They have never come over to see what kind of family we are, or just hung out for the day. People close to me have, and my kids call some of my friends their aunts and uncles because they are so close to our family. But CPS has never interviewd them.
As far as the posting for yelling at the children…..is there anything that we can do as parents without being hounded by CPS? This should not be happening to Kandice. This is ridiculous. Any normal family will have moments when they yell. Sometimes in play, sometimes just to get attention. I’ve yelled at my kids plenty of times, and most of the time its not to scold them. But when they are playing, they are just so loud. When I need their attention to tell them something, I have to yell above their yelling. Does that mean I am mentally abusing my children? When my kids are fighting and I yell at them to stop and behave, am I abusing them then as well? I cannot think of one human being, even if by nature they are always calm and rational, who goes through their life without yelling at SOMEBODY.
CPS is acting as if yelling is wrong, and against the law. If that were the case, they would need to investigate and imprison this entire country.
Comment by L.K.H. — March 6, 2008 @ 10:04 am
That’s just it LKH… they have taken the parents’ rights away. We can’t raise kids today with the same values we, as children were raised with, for fear of having the (as I’ve dubbed them ) the Lymch Mob coming down on us.
Yet, when they see a kid on drugs, in a gang, or some other act of violence, the queestion is always asked/.. :Why didn’t the parents get involved?”
It certainly isn’t for lack of trying.
Comment by ShadowChaser — March 6, 2008 @ 10:09 am
cps and the court sysytem should not be able to throw a net and try to find somehing on you to keep your child away from you.first they drop 1 then they find something else to keep them. hopeully i can name a law after my child when this is over.could someone help me so i can do that…..
Comment by comment by jo — March 6, 2008 @ 7:26 pm
That is exactly right, Jo! They took
my kids for one, minor issue. Now they are keeping them because they
say my husband and I are using drugs. But just in case we passed all
of the u/a’s they gave me & my husband, they are saying my baby tested positive for drugs. It’s insane!!
Can anyone give me an average number of days per week they allow
you to see your kids? I can’t even get
visitation set up. I am lost without my
kids. Ireally need to see them!
Comment by Heather — March 6, 2008 @ 7:42 pm
YOU CAN NOT ROCK THE BOAT OR THEY WILL SAY YOUR HOSTILE . WHEN YOU ACCUALLY VERY EMOTINAL THAT THEY ARE RIPPING OUR CHILD AWAY FOR ASKING HER WHERE SHE GOT A BRUISE ON THERE BACK.
Comment by comment by jo — March 6, 2008 @ 8:34 pm
to all my peep’s out there in cali don’t give up and be strong. we all have one goal and that’s to gt our children out there returned home safe and sound.
Comment by jo — March 6, 2008 @ 9:10 pm
I just got back today from court. I was told that I would have to sighn the permision for cps to have medical record from Kiaser for my kids. The judge stated that he doesnt see any reason to remove the children from home but we are under invastication of cps. A Nerologist at Kiaser in northern california told cps that we were neglecting my child medical that could posibly cause death wich worried the judge. Although I had letters from her pediatrition stating that i have always cared for my daughter he could not drop the charges.
My child has round the clock nursing care but the judge didn’t even listen to our side.
I explained to the judge that the doctor who maid the acusations have not seen my daughter in over 2 years and that she is not even her doctor. she is making acusations because we questioned the hospital care. My daughter hed spinal sergary from the hospital wich left her perapaligic and wheelchaired bound. this has maid her gain a few pounds. the doctor stated she is in the chair do to her morbidly obis. She weigh 75 pouns and 8 yrl.
Can someone give me any advised. I was also told that even though this is a medical neglect aligations the social worker has the right to come to our house. How is our house have to do with the medical charges?
Whats funny is that the social worker maid the statement of the fact my daughter is obis because the parents fail to feed her healthy food. She was obis her self. When we left the court we saw her staffing her face with Mcdanold.
I wonder what would this people feel like if someone maid fauls alication about their children and life style.
Comment by MELANIE — March 6, 2008 @ 11:44 pm
child predatory services (CPS) is a 6 BILLION dollar a year enterprize. Here in corrupt Colorado, the average take for a kid is $3,000, but that figure can go up to $7,000 if the child is ruled ‘troubled’ or ‘disabled’. This is BIG Bizness. I would love it if somebody could prove that caseworkers get bonuses for snatching a kid out of a loving 2 parent family. I KNOW they are getting kickbacks, but just wonder if they are added to their paychecks or a separate check. Does anybody know, or better yet, have proof?
Comment by Susan — March 7, 2008 @ 7:36 am
susan, that’s so true. mychild has been ripped out of my hands for no reason and that’s beause they needed vacation money.
Comment by jo — March 7, 2008 @ 11:57 am
We need to find a way to have the Safe Families Act aboloshied!
When my daughters were in Jr. High they used to tell me that CPS came to their school once a month and would talk to their class…
They were apparently drumming up business…
Comment by Diando — March 7, 2008 @ 1:25 pm
Kids Killing Kids Why?
by John Wagner
We read the newspapers, turn on the television, and listen to the radio only to hear on every side the horrible details of what happened in Littleton, Colorado. The “experts” are discussing and debating the “whys” of the whole thing. Why are our kids so full of rage? Why do such young people think their only solution is to kill and destroy? The “whys” fill the air waves. I was really surprised at the response (or lack of response) of Dr. Billy Graham on the Larry King Live show to a question he was asked about why. He essentially said it was a complicated issue and dropped it right there as if there were no answer. But I believe there is! And all we have to do is look to the Bible for that answer.
To talk to parents of little children today is to talk to people terrorized! People terrorized by our government and social services organizations which tie the hands of parents with threats of having their children taken away or even being imprisoned for “child abuse” if they spank their children. So you see and hear children three, four or five years old holding their mothers hostage in a grocery store throwing temper tantrums. The poor helpless mother is humiliated and embarrassed looking around unable to react. Because if she were to spank the child some do-gooder thinking they were “saving the child” would call the police and have the woman arrested.
Children are allowed to go out of the house in cold, wet, winter weather without proper clothing because little Johnny “refuses” to wear his long pants or a coat. My wife works in a day care center in town and often tells me stories like this. In the area of proper nutrition, many parents allow small children to dictate what they will and will not eat. Other stories abound about two and three year olds grabbing toys from other children and hitting and kicking other children. Teachers can only stand by and watch, put the child in “time out”, or call the parents to come and get the child.
The examples can go on and on, but one story in particular comes to mind which I heard on the radio. James Dobson was telling about a woman who called him asking for advice because she was beside herself to know what to do. Her daughter, the mother recounted, refused to allow her to change her diaper. Thinking the child was two or three years old Dr. Dobson asked the woman how old the child was. The mother responded, “Oh, she’s ten days old.” That mother had already lost control of that child! As they get older children who are not given recognizable, clearly defined, boundaries which they can’t manipulate or defy, become confused and enraged by the ambiguity. But parents must remain in control!
Children are no longer taught self control when they are two and three years old because parents are terrified that if they spank their child they will be placing themselves in jeopardy. As these children without discipline and self control grow up they become a terror for their elementary school teachers who also can’t do anything to discipline them. As these students enter middle and high school age they demand total freedom and many parents don’t have any idea what to do with them any more. So they just look the other way and essentially wait out the teen years and hope they and their children survive.
Somewhere along the line the drug culture of the sixties, the flower children of the Haight Ashbury district and Woodstock have become the doctors, psychologists, psychiatrists, and lawyers of the nineties. As a result, since spanking is considered child abuse by many in our “care free” society, what to do with the outrageous, uncontrollable behavior of children becomes a major issue. Ah! Let’s come up with a diagnosis for this discipline problem and call it Attention Deficit Disorder and then put the children on drugs - Ridelin. Let’s drug our children into submission! And that isn’t considered child abuse because the medical community prescribes it and that immediately makes it acceptable!
If by now you detect a tone of sarcasm in my writing you are right. I am sarcastic because in the wake of the Columbine High School shooting I am again hearing these so called “experts” pontificating their psychobable about the reason for the problems with these young people. But they are missing the whole point. We are entering a time in our country where we are going to reap the results of our permissive, disciplineless, concept of child rearing. We have raised a nation of children who are entering adolescence with a void in their being. Their souls are a gigantic void! Not having been taught self control as small children, and not having been given values by their parents, they become a teenage vacuum sucking up the pervasive pop culture - which today is filled with messages of hate, violence, sexual promiscuity, and just plain darkness. This is what’s filling our young people and the rest of society can only sit back and watch the results.
I believe the answer lies in the Bible. It always has and always will. Let me share a few verses from Proverbs with you.
Proverbs 22:15
“Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.”
Proverbs 22:6
“Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.”
Proverbs 23:13
“Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish him with the rod, he will not die. Punish him with the rod and save his soul from death.”
Proverbs 13:24
“He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.”
Proverbs 19:18
“Discipline your son, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to his death.”
Proverbs 29:15
“The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to itself disgraces his mother.”
Proverbs 29:17
“Discipline your son, and he will give you peace; he will bring delight to your soul.”
I believe the result of our refusing to hold onto this teaching in the guise of protecting our children from child abuse we have heaped an even greater abuse on our children. The abuse of leaving them to themselves and allowing them to grow up valueless and confused. We’v made our children prey for every perverted psychopath to enter the entertainment industry brainwashing them with their rebellious, hate messages. And, unless we return to Biblical teachings in our childrearing practices things will only get worse! Through our abdication of Biblical values and instruction about child rearing we are reaping what the Bible says will come in the days immediately prior to the return of Jesus Christ to earth.
2 Timothy 3:1-5
“But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God-having a form of godliness but denying its power.”
Matthew 10:21-22
“Brother will betray brother to death, and a father his child; children will rebel against their parents and have them put to death. All men will hate you because of me, but he who stands firm to the end will be saved.”
But, let me be the first to say that discipline isn’t the only place we fall down. Another aspect of child rearing which contributes to the problems we are facing today is parents hindering their children from believing in God and accepting Jesus Christ as their Savior. I’ve talked with many parents who say, “Oh, I don’t want to push ‘religion’ on my children. When they get old enough, say 17 or 18, they can decide for themselves what religion they will choose.” Or, if their children do attend church with a friend and accept Jesus Christ as their Savior these same parents will frequently attempt to talk them out of their faith or belittle it openly. This just confuses the child and plants the seeds of doubt and bitterness. The Bible says in
Mark 10:13-15
“People were bringing little children to Jesus to have him touch them, but the disciples rebuked them. When Jesus saw this, he was indignant. He said to them, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these. I tell you the truth, anyone who will not receive the kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.”
Men, fathers, often are the worst at abdicating their Biblical responsibility to bring their children up believing in Jesus Christ. Many just leave it to the mother. But that isn’t God’s plan either. Fathers are to be actively involved in the spiritual training of their children! That isn’t just lecturing their kids, but living the life in front of them.
Ephesians 6:4 says,
“Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”
As always, the choice is ours. Whether or not we are willing to do what is necessary to see healing come to our land is up to us. But the constant, incessant asking of the question “why” is a smoke screen to avoid looking at the real answers.
Comment by Diando — March 7, 2008 @ 1:28 pm
can anyone tell me how to coach a child to say bad things about there mom to authorities when inturn there is a history of abuse?
Comment by jo — March 7, 2008 @ 3:36 pm
that’s what they are saying about me in court……
Comment by jo — March 7, 2008 @ 3:41 pm
i made a police report regarding something my eight year old daughter had told me. The police said they had to notify cps of the report as the accusation was against my husband touching my daughter inaproporatly. The following day, something told me not to send my daughter to school. Around 9:30 a.m. Jill Martin from Oswego County (NY) cps called me very upset that my daughter wasn’t in school. When I told her I didn’t want her to talk to my child, she told me she would charge me with neglect. We (my child and myself) met her at the child advocacy where she spent over an hour interviewing my child, regarding the police report I had filed the night before. She did a home visit and while she was at my home, told me to trust her, and how she was my friend and wanted to help my family. I knew she was full of shit, and told her so. Big mistake! They do have absolute control and power. My husband was indicated for inadequate guardinship. He never spoke to the case worker or the police. I too was indicated for inadequate guradinship. How can I be indicated as an abuser, when I was not accused in the report, as I am the one who made the report? This cps case worker didn’t like the fact that unlike her, I have a college education and am smarter than she is. Ask a cps case worker if they’ve ever met a child they didn’t believe. They get paid to believe that kids are being abused.
Comment by Karen — March 7, 2008 @ 7:30 pm
My best advise to anyone is to learn the law concerning DHS/CPS. They use our ignorance of the law and our shock/stress to intimidate/threaten a parent into believing that we have to do exactly as they say OR ELSE. Learn the law for yourself, not by what a lawyer or social worker tells you.
Good news in Oklahoma!!! A bill has been introduced for an independant assessment to be conducted on DHS. It has already been approved at the House by 91-8. It still needs to be approved by the Senate. This, not only stemmed from the Kelsey Briggs incident and many others like it, but from parents who continue to speak out. Never give up hope. DHS/CPS/DCFS cannot be allowed to continue destoying families. Speak out and get the awareness to the public. I will never feel safe again until my children are adults. Then, I will fear for their children, unless changes are made. Changes are happening, however, slowly. Stay diligent at protecting everyones’ children and families. Never stop speaking out.
Comment by Aaron — March 7, 2008 @ 7:47 pm
This is a great start. First Georgia, and now Oklahoma. Hopefully this is the start of a nationwide trend for a nationwide problem.
EVERONE, DON’T FORGET TO SIGN THE PETITION TO HAVE ALL CPS CASES REOPENED.
Comment by L.K.H. — March 7, 2008 @ 10:38 pm
Dear Diando,
I am in the same court as you are. I go on March 11,2008 and it isn’t looking too good for me either. Elizabeth Pant was the the “investigative” caseworker in my case as well. I am not too fond of judge Dolbrich either. The judge will help out caseworkers when they are on the stand testifying. She tells them exactly what to say. I was never “charged” with harming my older two children, yet Julie Reisng says that my kids are so emotionally abused that they should never be allowed to return home. This woman has never even seen me until a week ago. My daughter and I are very close, and now all the “shrinks” are saying that it is because she has a trauma bond with me. It cannot be the fact that mothers and their children have a natural bond. When my kids acted out after a visit they said it was because of the trauma they experienced while they lived with me and after visiting with them they tried to say that they were reliving the trauma that I caused them. Did they ever stop to think that my kids were acting out because they were being taken away from me all over again. My children want to come home. Why is that so hard for CPS to understand? Do you know how much they are making off of my children? They consider my children “special needs” because of all the disorders they have labeled them with, so they get the max amount for them. If anyone has any suggestions on what I should do please tell me, I am running out of precious time.
Comment by Kandice Cantrell — March 7, 2008 @ 11:09 pm
With reading what was posted here I have a thought. Why is it that my son has a child in his class that thows desks across the room … no punishment to that child nor is there a cps case, I have 3 kids in the house behind me that beat the other kids in the nieghborhood, terrorize them with b-b guns, steal…oh yes the cops come out but they do nothing and cps has been called and nothing…yet I “smack” my child on the shoulder for back talking me (she had a coat on) and I have to deal with cps for months! Yep that was actually the charge and the state code says what I did was in my legal rights and was not abusive at all. (here you must leave a mark for it to be considered excessive and even if she didn’t have the coat on it still wouldn’t have left a mark) so now tell me why are the really bad kids and bad families left alone and the ones with minor poblems that are not legally considered abuse tourmented? Why does the state prefer that parents neglect to make thier kids behave? Why do they punish parents who do make thier kids behave? Oh and then when the kids never ment to mind get older and kill, hurt, mame, thier kids it is the parents fault yet that is what they had parents do.
Comment by Debbie — March 8, 2008 @ 5:12 am
There it is again. A case where a parent is trying to teach their child respect, and to simply behave. But here comes CPS not only trying to tell ANOTHER parent how to raise their child, but also, teaching your childre good morales, and some level of repsect is a bad thing.
I’m familiar with the story of not only cps hounding me for doing what I feel is the right thing for my kids to grow up as respectful, and productive members of society, but nothing is done to the parents who surround me that not only make it obvious that there is heavy drug and alcohol abuse in their home, but their kids run the streets late at night. They are barely 12-13, and damage the property in my apartment complex, instigate fights with other kids, and have no level of repsect for anyone.
Debbie. Hang in there, keep your head up, and don’t let these people get you down.
I would love to catch one of them in the streets saying “what’s wrong with kids these days”. I would hold a mirror up to them and say, “Duh!!”
Comment by L.K.H. — March 8, 2008 @ 9:21 am
Okay I know someone who was arrested for a felony charge. (Posession) and they are the foster family of one blood related grandchild and one non related grandchild. Now these people are good people, a sunday school teacher active in the church. Now the blood related child is a monster, actually called the police on her which is how she got the charge. Walks all over her and runs away regularly. The non related child is a saint. Is there a way for the convicted foster parent, the grandmother. To turn the related child but still keep the non related?
Comment by B.E.O. — March 10, 2008 @ 3:04 pm
And if convicted would the children be automatically taken away regardless considering posession of any controlled substance is a felony crime?
Comment by B.E.O. — March 10, 2008 @ 3:28 pm
yes
Comment by jo — March 11, 2008 @ 8:17 am
First of all, I would like to say that I’m thankful that I found this site. My husband & I have an 8 (almost 9) year old son.
Last year near the end of school my son was throwing the remote control into the air and instead of catching it, he got hit in the eye and got a black eye from it. This was on a Friday. We did what we should have for it and still sent him to school that Monday. He had a sub. teacher for the rest of the year after Spring Break because his teacher went on Maternity Leave.
With his original teacher, we had great contact. My son is Adhd/Bipolar and has meds changed but she did a great job with keeping us informed of anything that was going on and helping him while in school. But now she is gone and this sub is there. I informed the school by phone that morning and told them what happened over the weekend. When his teacher saw him, she sent him to the resource officer (He is a sheriff) The officer then talked to him and didn’t beleive that my son had done this on his own. He insisted that me or my husband had done this to him. The CPS worker came out to my house, with a police officer, and he was also insisting that me or my husband had done this to my child. I did do 1 thing that I wouldn’t do again. I told the worker that my son has Adhd/Biplar and goes through phases where he is above anything and nothing can hurt him. He has major mood swings. The worker didn’t beleive me. Thank god the officer knew us from the neighborhood and spoke up to our defense. He has been to our house when our son has wanted to kill himself and has personally talked to him and remembers what he has said. I know what you mean also by CPS wanting to talk to your child/children alone. HE and the officer took my son outside so that the worker could talk to him privately. I walked out on my porch and asked the CPS worker if he had explained to my son who he was and why he was here? He said no he hadn’t. I then asked the officer if by law the CPS worker should have to tell him or am I going to have to do so. Like I told them both, We teach our children to not talk to strangers, but CPS is not expected to tell them who they are or why they are here. Well thanks to the officer speaking up to our defense, the case got dismissed- But it took me over 2 weeks of calling the CPS worker to find out that, even though he saw a substainted reason to take my son, that he talked to his super and decided that he will be closing the case. Afterwards, everyone at the schooltreated us differently by telling us that they have to report suspected child abuse because some parents are abusing their kids. Then the school wonders why I don’t trust them much. Even my son tells the school that he did it to himself and they tell him that his father and I are telling him to say that! How appaling. Done with my ranting for now. Going to sign the petition.
Comment by Allison — March 11, 2008 @ 9:45 am
I went to court yesterday(3-11-08) and sad to say but I lost Zach and McKenzie. The judge admitted on record that my case worker did alot of bad casemanagement, but she decided to take my children anyway. She said that it was for various reasons, but the two main reasons were because I have male roomamtes, and the second being I would not admit on the stand of abusing my children. Why would I admit to something I didn’t do? She would have kept them anyway. We are now headed for the court of appeals. Michigan definitely needs welfare reform. THey also said that instead of blaming my caseworker Krysta Matthews foster care worker for Luthern Social Services, who is farmed through Cass county DHS, I should take all the responsibility for losing my children to the system. If she would have done her job I would have been in a position to get them back. She did absolutely nothing to help me. Even with all her wrong doings, she still has her job and I no longer have my precious children where is the justice?
Comment by Kandice Cantrell — March 12, 2008 @ 5:20 am
Here’s my problem. I run a home daycare. I have two parnets fighting for custody. The father has informed the his ex wife that he is calling CPS on her. (no reasons that need involve CPS). He is trying to get full custody and knows this will hurt her. However he has also involved my daycare. He claims. “his child is too old for my daycare”. (my daycare is geared for younger children)
However this child is in school all day and is only here after school. (one or two hours)
Do I have to talk to CPS, or can I request a lawyer be present? I ask this because as a daycare owner I am a mandated reporter. However I don’t know if they will be here beacuse he called on my daycare, or because he called on the mother.
I know this child, I’ve had him since he was a baby. I know the mother, (she is a good mother). The father was not involved in his life until recently.
I don’t know what my rights are in this situation? because the report may involve both of us.
Comment by fran — March 12, 2008 @ 9:02 am
I go to my next court hearing in three
weeks. I have submitted for a hair
follicle test a week ago. When I asked
about my next drug test, I was told none. Atleast until after my next hearing. Does anyone know why?
Comment by Heather — March 12, 2008 @ 3:54 pm
Hello me again. The ‘Yes’ was alittle to vague. I was wondering if it was a yes that the children would be taken away if convicted either though they are no longer in the CPS system, or if there is no way to remove the terror child outside of him going to far and ending up in juvinile hall and keeping the one who still listens and wants to stay… keep in mind the terror is related by blood, the good child technically inlaw.
Comment by B.E.O. — March 12, 2008 @ 6:59 pm
Please give some detail so I can inform the grandmother.
Comment by B.E.O. — March 12, 2008 @ 7:00 pm
kids are always in the system no matter what i’m no pro but,i think you better keep a hold on the situation.the best of luck to all.
Comment by jo — March 12, 2008 @ 8:15 pm
to fran, don’t let them in unless they have a warrant on what there for offically.don’t back down no matter what they say to you.go on kidjacked.com to read ore about the warrant thing.
Comment by jo — March 12, 2008 @ 8:20 pm
Anything else, no one knows for sure?
Comment by B.E.O. — March 12, 2008 @ 9:38 pm
Thanks jo, I found out more info, apprently the father want’s to change school zones in order to have the child closer to his house. So this is one of the reasons he is using the CPS system, and I mean using them. In order for him to call with a compliant abaout either of us, he will have to lie. Because there is nothing. However I had a parent lie about my daycare last year which started a big mess and I know how the system works now. I made a copy of the CPS regs for my state (319 pages) and the code of ethics. My problem is that because I am a daycare provider I am mandated by law to allow them to enter. However I do not want to speak to them, beacuse they will twist what ever I say.
So I quess we will stare at each other.
Comment by fran — March 13, 2008 @ 6:05 am
the horror storys are never ending i can feel the hurt for you. i have custody of my daughter since she was 3 she is now 9 on 2-1-08 her mom was suppose to pick her up. she called and said that she got my daughter a puppy then she told my daughter she couldnot pick her up my daughter started to cry so i told her mom that i would bring her to her.on 2-3-08 i called her mom to see when i needed to get her and she said she got food posion and was going to take her to the doctor and would let me know. after that i could not get back in contact with her on 2-7-08 cps called wanting me to meet with them at my house i thought it was because my daughter had not been at school all week. what they told be stopped my world. someone accused me of fondling my daughter. now her mother has taken out school and moved to oklahoma. i sign a paper with cps to cooperate with them and law enforcement for 30 day which did they have found nothing to accuse me of yet they wanted me to sign another agreement for 30 more days. i told them no that i want my daughter back. the case worker threaten if i didnot sign she would have criminal charges brought against me. i told to go ahead and do it. nothing has happened. 2 days later her supervisor called and ask me to sign the same papers i told her no she then threaten to file papers to remove my daughter from my home. i have yet to see any papers. i will fight for my daughter till the ends of the earth. leave nothing unsaid or tried. my ex has been married twice since our divorce never really made standard visit she owes 12,000 in childsupport. i have wrote to senators, d. phil. represenatives , news papers, tv channels. no answers yet but hopeful. the cps system need a lot of revamping will it ever happen i pray it does. my fight is not over i will have to fight across borders. after all this my exwife will probably not get in to any trouble . god bless our children. dad missing his daughter. thanks for your time in reading this tragedy. hopefully soon to be a bad memory
Comment by stephen — March 13, 2008 @ 12:38 pm
Dear Stephen
Get a lawyer. Don’t sign any other papers. When they flew into my house concerning my daycare last year, my husband signed papers for 30 days. After I met with my lawyer she informed me by signing those papers we had volunteered to their terms.
The whole mess stemed from alie that a parent that had been out of my daycare for over a year had filed. They then went to my childs school. They then set up a meeting through the abuse center at the hospital beacuse my husband signed that paper. They then tried to have my child switch doctors from her regular doctor to one through their services. They also tried to have me pull her from a catholic school to one of their choice. I said “no” they told me, :then we will take her” I went straight to my lawyer. two weeks later to case was unfounded. I knew if I did as they wanted, my child would be part of the system and they would have the upper hand. Please get a lawyer and don’t sign anything with out the lawyers approval. God Bless
Comment by fran — March 13, 2008 @ 7:35 pm
My son has been accused of sexual abuse by his 17 year old stepdaughter. CPS has made his life a living hell and all they have is her accusations. We can prove she is a liar but CPS keeps dragging their feet and will not let us get into court. How the hell do you fight this outfit?
Comment by M.ANDERSON — March 14, 2008 @ 3:03 pm
I have been a victim of cps for the past 59 years and I am still fighting them. They took me and 5 brother and sisters more than 58 years ago without cause except a friend wanted to adopt a boy and they took all of us to get my two brothers. Out of six children placed in foster care, the four girls were either raped or sexual abused in foster homes and one brother was murdered. Not one of the offenders wer ever charged or punished. In fact two of the girls were placed in the same home after one left and told why the other was placed in that rapists home the next day after the one left. Later learned that there had been another girl left the home for the same reason!!!! Now they have taken my great grandchildren because her ab usive ex husband lost custodial rights and his father went to(ocs in Alaska and accused my grandddaughter of abuse to their son and ask the cps to give them custody. This ex father in law was living with a woman,without being married in a one bedroom home with her teenage son and my granddaughters ex husband. They placed my great grandchildren in this home and with visitation in the home her ex’s mother who was ;married to a registered sex offender. They all have broken laws and now the childrens father is in jail with a 250,000 dollar bail for alledged rape and sexual molestation of two 13 year old girls. My granddaughter had remarried and gave birth to a baby girl on dec. 27th and ocs was at the hospital taking this new baby from her in less than 24 hours as well and took it to the same home. They told her new husband that they were going to take it too if he didn’t divorce my granddaughter. He could have the baby if he got a divorce. He got a divorce to keep his child and believes he will get the baby if he keeps telling them the lies thay have told are true. Now they plan to take her parental rights away so thse people can keep these babies. They have done this to her husband after they found out he would do anything to keep his child. He and my granddaughter lost their first one at birth and he has never gotten over that loss on top of this one and is acting like someone that has lost his mind even to threatening to kill my granddaughter if she doesn’t give up the baby to him or fights the lies of the ocs workers. My granddaughter has these threats on her cell phone recorder and the communications of ocs. The only way left to fight this government supported organization is to pass laws that makes them and there actions open to public view and prison sentences for ltelling lies to steal babies for adoption and the funds provided to them for every year they increase the number of babies they take and adopt out. This organization, apart of our government, is nothing but a u.s. sanctioned kidnapping organization that uses false accusations to steal these children for profit. I use to think my government was for the people, all the people, but I know now it is not for all the people and it is not a trustworthy government for all. It caters to the rich and powerful and to those who will not let laws passed by the people interfere with their dealings. It is no wonder the rest of the world has lost trust and faith in this governments word. Bill Clinton got the money authoriiizsed to be paid for increasing the adoptions of children and you can bet his wife was behind that as she advocates that it takes a village to raise children. The best thing to happen to America is for government to get out of the peoples daily lives and mind the business of the country. Also, we need to find a way to make these social workers that don’t know beans about raising children being allowed to come in and take our children because we don’t know how to raise them and if you want to teach your children anything you have to do it their way. These people need to mind their own business and then they wouldn’t have time to mind other peoples. They also need a lesson in what happens when you are a liar against parents, like maybe 15 to 20 years behind bars at hard labor and have to read Gods laws about family life and about how He says to raise your children 24 hours a day. We also need a registered list of all the social services liars that are a danger to the public. We also need to take away their secrecy rights that they say are to protect the children. It is to protect themselves, because if the general public knew the lies they tell and then hide behind privacy laws they would all end up in jail. The social workers are not the only ones, attorney generals, public (pretender!)defenders that work for them, and judges that uphold their lies and won’t allow the accused to defend themselves should also be punished. The accusations against my granddaughter were investigated by the local, state police, and the office of security investigations all dropped charges against my granddaughter, but ocs of Alaska continues their accusations so they can give her babies to their friend that is the live in girlfriend of her ex father in law. This is one of the most horrible terrorist organizations and it is operating in this country with support from our government. All I can say is for American people to wake up and start fighting this group in droves coming down on our government in whatever legal ways it takes to make the organizations and our government responsible for the abuse of our children and grandchildren by a government that is supposed to protect all citizens. Equality? What does the word mean in this country. It sure hasn’t done anything for me. The laws in this country are not for everyone, just those that are honest and law abiding. These organizations don’t even follow the constitutional right of being innocent until proven guilty. Lets put God back in control of this country!!!!My sisters and I would sue this organization and those lawmakers that support it if we could find enough honest people to support a lawsuit against these people that are out there ruining lives. This organization causes more abuse, neglect, slavory, and murder of american children than any other causes. We need to start punishing every social worker in this country and find them guilty until they prove thay are innocent of the charges.
. Take away their constitutional rights like they do the parents in this country. So. what it all boils down to is all these parents need to get together and fight it as an organized group and fight it in any way that God approves of. We need parents marching as a group on the white house and on every state governors office and appearing on every news channel that shows up at the March sights. While you are marching carry big copies of the U.S> constitution and demand your rights as an American citizen for starters.
Comment by reba m. jennings — March 14, 2008 @ 9:39 pm
It’s hard to believe how sick CPS is until you see a video like this
http://www.youtube.com/Lexus4U
Comment by Brent — March 15, 2008 @ 5:01 pm
My nightmare started immediately after my girls turned one, in Jan of ‘08. I am a first time mother of twin girls. Someone made false allegations to DCF & they invaded my home like a swarm of killer bee’s, looking to seek & destroy. I, at the time, had been suffering with a tremendous amount of sleep, not knowing until the following day, that I had Pneumonia & severe anemia. My blood O2 level was under 60% and I was hospitalized for 1 week. I was accused of being a drug abuser of my own meds & because I was so sick, they took my children & the accusations have begun. I’ve been to my case management plan & I refused to sign, challenging DCF to prove themselves. I have a free lawyer assigned to me, but I seem to be preparing my own case. Anyone that can help with preperation ideas & any other advice, please feel free to email me. I want my girls home, where they belong! ParrotladyDSA@aol.com. My name is Donna, from Daytona Beach, FL. Thank YOU!
Comment by Donna Atkinson — March 15, 2008 @ 9:08 pm
Donna,
You were smart to not sign anything. Did they present a warrent to enter your home? Have you requested for an administrative review of your case? Contacted your congressman or any of your state officials for your district? What meds are they accusing you of abusing? Have you obtained a copy of your hospital records to see if the doctors or nurses made any notes about drug abuse. I would talk to a supervisor of the hospital to get that. Record EVERYTHING!! When you go to get your hospital records, record your request, when they give it to you, ask them if that is EVERYTHING that they have on you, and make sure that you record their response. Make sure that you state each time, no matter who you are dealing with, that they are being recorded. For them to make that kind of accusation, it had to have come from the hospital. That seems to be the root of it. Get on their staff and find out what’s going on.
Comment by L.K.H. — March 15, 2008 @ 11:36 pm
I mistyped something Donna…..make sure that you LET THEM KNOW that they are being recorded.
Comment by L.K.H. — March 15, 2008 @ 11:37 pm
Can anyone tell me how I can get my caseworker investigated for lying and not doing her job? It is on record that she totally mismanaged my case, but how do I get her investigated for this? How many other lives has she ruined? We need to find out. Please help me.
Comment by Kandice Cantrell — March 16, 2008 @ 10:28 am
Kandice, After reading your comments earlier in this month, I believe that your children are experiencing Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) , Which has been caused by CPS…
You need to fight back and April 25th is PAS awareness day, this is your opportunity to bring your case to light.
Remember that the State of Florida gives out incentive money and every child not in their home is more money that each county here gets.
Refer to Title IV-D
Comment by Marian Scirrotto — March 16, 2008 @ 10:59 am
Kandice,
to have your worker invitated: first find out if she is a licesensed social worker by going to http://www.socailworkers.com find your state then you should find a place to type in her name. If she is file a complaint that way by looking at the code of ethics and quote them and what she did to violate it. If she is not a social worker you have to go through her supervisor and then climb the latter by going to each supervisor above that one.
Comment by Debbie — March 16, 2008 @ 2:09 pm
oops sorry that is http://www.socialworkers.org
Comment by Debbie — March 16, 2008 @ 2:09 pm
Debbie what do you when you go to their superviser
Comment by christy — March 16, 2008 @ 5:22 pm
i have been battling CPS for 2 years now and i need a lawyer that will help me in Crookston, Minnesota. Polk County.. My 4 children have been through a living hell in the last year and a half since my sepreation. My oldest daughter is not my husbands biological child so i have had her in my custody this entire time. Last fall, my three younger children were removed out of my husbands home as a 7 year old of his girlfriend molested my children. They were put into foster care. They never looked at any of my family taking the kids until just recently when permenment placement was looking at being the only option if not returned to my ex. This entire time, social services will not help me, they don’t say how can we help u so we could look at u for having your kids. never, they think that because i am a hott head and i can’t control my emotions that i shouldn’t have my children. I only get pissed off at social services when they are dinking me around about my kids. Now as of this past friday i had gone back into treatment for some mental issues voluntary and had my foster parents coming to get my daughter from school to take care of her while i was in the center, during this time social services came into the school and took her out of my custody. I am in knots about this and i am getting sick nad tired of CPS runnning my life and hurting my kids more. I know very vague information about my daughter. They refused to tell me where she is and that i have to wait till court. They believe that she is unsafe, but yet she was going to be with family that use to be liscensed and the only reason they stopped doing foster care, was cause of all the bullshit along with it…..
PLEASE HELP.. My baby is out there scared and not knowing if mom is coming to get her or not. I need my baby girl back…
Comment by Jody — March 17, 2008 @ 12:47 am
Christy,
You call the supervisor state the problems you have. Take notes while on the phone. Follow the call with a registered letter rehashing the conversation. Wait a few weeks for a responce then send another registered letter stating your still waiting for a responce or if you received one state what your problem with it was. If you get no where then repeat the process with thier supervisor and so on till you reach as far as you can.
Comment by Debbie — March 17, 2008 @ 4:12 am
Kandice, Please be aware what typically happens if you file a complaint against these monsters. I did file a complaint against our casenazi, Karen Moffitt. Our case was mishandled & they outright lied (which they ALWAYS do in the name of the almighty dollar). This caseworker visited my mother & her partner on SOCIAL visits! They have custody of our 3 kids totally due to hearsay & false allegations. Anyways, I documentated everything & sent a report to the main office in Denver. They brought Karen Moffitt before a committee here in corrupt Fremont County. Unfortuneatly, they found NOTHING wrong & named me the bad guy for telling the truth. I pray to God that one day the truth about this evil is going to come out and justice will be served. Hang in there, good will eventually prevail!
Comment by Susan — March 17, 2008 @ 7:12 am
DON’T EVER GIVE UP HOPE! I WENT ALL THE WAY TO A JURY TRIAL AND 11 OUT OF 12 JURY MEMBERS AGREED THAT MY HUSBAND AND I SHOULD AND DESERVE TO HAVE OUR TWO CHILDREN BACK. IT TOOK TWO YEARS OF THE “BS” BUT WE NEVER GAVE UP. I EVEN HAD A COURT APPOINTED ATTORNEY THAT WAS GREAT BUT I HAD TO REALLY PUSH HER TO DO THE WORK. THIS IS A LIFE EXPERIENCE THAT WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN. $60K IN ATTORNEY FEES AND TWO YEARS LATER, WE HAVE OUR CHILDREN BACK!!!!!!!! YOU CAN DO IT, DON’T MAKE EXCUSES.
Comment by Cheryl — March 17, 2008 @ 1:05 pm
I recently lost my 5 children to CPS and would appreciate any advice
Comment by sonya hand — March 17, 2008 @ 4:08 pm
I Just e-mailed the governor yesterday on behalf of my family, My husband and I have been married for the past (21 years),and we are going trough the court system of Kent county (AKA) CPS which is being very unfair to our children, we have (since oct. 18 of 2007 ) been separated as a family and have not been charged with anything! But yet we are on a state registry of child neglect. Our children are not a state of neglect, they have every thing in the world they would ever want or need, except now the system is going to destroy their whole world ,our 13 year old daughter is a honor roll student at Byron center schools ,which I very truly respect and our youngest is in kindergarten at countryside also Byron center schools .since oct 18 of 2007,we have had to go trough the courts threatening to take away our children ,my husband having grand maul seizures has been ordered out of our house as a threat to our children .this is ridiculous .we have to go trough going to counseling and social workers at least 9 yes 9 times a week between all of us and we don’t get any state help on gas money ,(but this whole thing is being paid for by the state) yes tax payers beware!)Also I am the only one supporting my family on just above minimum wage (7.45).which I have also had to have the state help me in my chrysies of paying my bills I ask for every ones opinion on this matter .make your words heard! to the governor of this state! I have heard that every rental unit in the county of grand rapid is booked up at june 10 after school lets out because people are moving out of this state! I AGREE! Also now they are making us go to have a pychlogical test for depression and anxiety wich my husband has already gone to his doctor and has been on depression meds since his mother died. They are trying to find anything they can on us but they cant.
Comment by susan — March 17, 2008 @ 7:32 pm
Marian and Debbie,
What is PAS awareness day? I am in Michigan so I don’t know if this title IV-D will work here, and how do I look that up? Debbie I have gone to my caseworkers supervisor so many times it is ridiculous. She even called me after my lawyer chewed her out and she had enough nerve to ask me what my problem was!!! I looked up the information you gave me,, but I must have looked it up wrong because I didn’t find a place to look up to see if she is licensed. I have one shot left and that is my appeal. I am scared to death I will lose again. They have my children believing all kids of horrible stuff, like the reason that they can’t come home is because I didn’t do what I was supposed to do. I am afraid that my oldest two will never make it in the system. My son has already tried to kill himself twice, and of course I got blamed for it. My daughter has totally gone into a shell, she my never come out of. I am now a registered child abuser, and there is no way to prove otherwise, because I believed them when they told me if I pleaded guilty and did their classes and therapy I would get my children back. I have written all the talk shows, called the media and no one is interested in what these monsters are doing to families, So what should my next move be? Any ideas I am on precious borrowed time, I just want my family back where they belong.
Comment by Kandice Cantrell — March 18, 2008 @ 5:27 am
I forget to put this in earlier, but I am alos being accused of sexually abusing my children. My father is a convicted child molester who has been in and out of prison my whole life. He sexually abused my older sister and myself. He didn’t toouch me he just made me watch him and his ex-wife, well now the judge and therapist is saying that my older son has seen sexual activity and my become a violent sex offender. TO begin with, I despise my father and hope that he dies in prison. I fought to put him back there when I was 16. I would never ever do something so disgusting and horrifying to my children, they mean the world to me and I could never hurt them like that. The judge and therapist are saying this just to make sure that the appeals judge sees this so I have even less of a chance to bring them home. She is using my fathers sins against me. It is true that sins of the father, are passed down. His sins are now being used to keep my babies away from me. I am very cautious about kissing infront of my children, because I am afraid that someone will think that I did something bad. It has been proven by a doctor that my children have never been touched. They are also saying that all 3 children have fetal alcohol syndrome, even though there father, and maternal grandmother told them that I have never drank!!!!! They measured their lips, eyes, and nose and came up with this nonsense. What do I do? I will not be called a child molester or a drunk!! I am not my so called father don’t blame me for his sins!!!
Comment by Kandice Cantrell — March 18, 2008 @ 5:44 am
Donna-
It is important to go to the “Director of Nursing” for that ward you were admitted to. He/She has ALL the nurses notes made that serviced you in your room. Those notes are not generally put into you hospital file but remain with the Director for future visits.
It contains things like “patient is unwilling to cooperate with meds today” patient is acting unruly today”, etc.
That is how CPS makes a mountain of a mole hill. They interpret “unruly attitude” as “abusive personality”.
Well, I don’t know about anyone else, but when I am really sick, I can be a real witch with a “B”.
The Director of Nursing holds a lot a cards you arn’t supposed to know about.
Comment by Cheryl — March 18, 2008 @ 10:14 am
court was moved to next month due to cc being sick.
Comment by jo — March 18, 2008 @ 1:43 pm
hello everybody
Comment by jo — March 18, 2008 @ 9:15 pm
WELL CPS WAS OUT HERE AGAIN ON SUNDAY, WITH THE POLICE. THEY SAID THEY GOT A CALL ABOUT MY WIFE AND I SELLING DRUGS AND PREFORMING SEXUALLY ACTIVITIES ON OUR CHILDREN. NOW THIS IS THE SECOND TIME THEY’VE BEEN OUT OVER THE SAME OL’SHIT. FIRST TIME THEY CLOSED THE CASE, AS LIKE THE FIRST TIME I SUGGESTED THAT THEY HAVE OUR CHILDREN EXAMINED. BUT, THEY SAID THERE WAS NO NEED FOR THAT, CAUSE THEY HAD NO FINDINGS. NOW HERE IS THE REAL PROBLEM, NOW IF MY CHILDREN WAS TO GET TOUCHED IN ANYWAY, THEY ARE GOING TO BE AFRAID TO TELL, CAUSE MOMMY, AND DADDY IS GETTING THE BLAME FOR FALSE ACCUSATIONS. I WANT MY CHILDREN TO BEABLE TO TELL ME ANYTHING NO MATTER WHAT IT IS. FOR THE LAST THREE DAYS MY CHILDREN HAVE BEEN STAYING WITH THEIR AUNT, AFRAID TO COME HOME CAUSE CPS MIGHT BE HERE AGAIN. THIS IS ALL OVER ME GETTING CUSTODY OF MY YOUNGEST DAUGHTER. BUT, WHERE THE F*#* WAS HER MOM WHEN SHE TOLD MY WIFE AND I THAT SHE WAS MOLESTED. THEY CALLED THIS MAN SLIM, MARCH 04 I TOLD MY EX THAT BAILEIGH SAID SHE WAS TOUCHED BY A GUY NAMED SLIM, MY EX TOLD MY WIFE AND I THAT IT WAS SOME LITTLE BOY DOWN THE ROAD.AUGUST 04 I FOUND OUT SLIMS REAL NAME AND HAD A PROTECTIVE ORDER PUT AGAINST HIM. SO FOR ALMOST 6 MONTHS SHE ALLOWED OUR CHILD TO BE AROUND THIS MAN. AND NOW SHE WANTS TO CALL CPS ON MY WIFE AND I, WHO’S THE SICK BITCH NOW.
Comment by BRAD RAMSEY — March 20, 2008 @ 8:08 am
dont think its wize for people to leave there whole names
Comment by jo — March 20, 2008 @ 11:30 am
Hello,
My children and I were removed from out home last year because my daughter fell for the 7th time and injured her wrist….I called and made an appointment with her orthopedic surgeon and they told me all the ER will do, as I already know, is ice it, splint it and call orthopedic surgeon in the morning. So I sent her off to school with her splint and got a call from the school nurse…I explained that all the xrays will be done at the orthopedic surgeons office and that they have assured me that she is fine and they will see her in the morning. Well, the school nurse was very adimant about me going to the ER….and I had been to the ER six other times and all they say is ice it splint it and see the orthopedic surgeon in the morning. So needless to say 2 sherriffs and a cps worker showed up at the baseball field to tell me that I needed to follow them to the ER and that we were not allowed back to our home. So off to the ER I went….and the case worker informed me that based on my daughters inroverted personality that there is a possibility of sexual abuse….I said “Oh God no way…my husband is verbally abusive but he would never do that.” …..are you sure you are not there at night while you are working who knows what could happen.? So guess what the ER said ice it splint it keep your appointment in the morning. So then we were told a police escort would let us go home and grab what we needed and we would be put up in a hotel in a not so nice side of town and then we would enter Vera House. I went along willingly, I cooperated, they requested a rape test on my daughter and I requested they not do it and they told me that with or without my permission they were doing it and I begged them to sadate her….I did not want this to be her first memory of vaginal intrution. They don’t sedate unless the child is down syndrom….well they are telling me my daughter has selective mutism a form of autism…..so we went not once but twice….evidence inconclusive….then we went through a battering of questions…..then after living in one room at a shelter…they said I could move back home but, if something happened I would lose my kids….so we moved into an apartment…the kids really did not want to go back to their dads anyhow because of the verbal attacks. So I agreed…as I had been unhappy for many years now. We are still getting our visits from CPS….six months the case was closed and that was September….Well in the middle of August my daughter fell off her brothers skate board and hurt her wrist again and got a cast and nothing happened……Well, it is now March and my daughter tried on a pair of her brothers pants that were about 12 inches to long and tripped in the living room at 8:14pm and I made the proper phone calls and took her immediately to the urgent care center….ice it splint it and see the orthopedic in the am……after they said the results were inconclusive. Took her to the orthopedics and there was a slight push up of the bone and a small crack…..cast for 3 weeks…..off to school on Monday and CPS was at my door on Wednesday…..told me they went to the school and talked to the kids that everything is fine and they needed to see the apartment…..without thinking I let them in they saw the kids room and off they went assuring me that everything was fine…..then today a letter comes in the mail I am under investigation for hurting my child…..I am devastated and feel at a loss…..someone please tell me what to do…I have a call into the old case worker and the new one……left messages I have told my kids no more interviews without me,dad and a lawyer present….and a video or tape recorder. I am going to fight this time….no one is going to violate my child ever again….no one…..I will not lose my kids please someone advise…….
Comment by Mystery — March 20, 2008 @ 3:29 pm
Can anyone explain to me what a
Treatment Foster Home is?
Comment by Heather — March 22, 2008 @ 9:31 am
heather, specialized foster care the foster parent have more training on emotional,therapudic methads.
Comment by jo — March 22, 2008 @ 2:11 pm
not all the time does a foster parent have more training in dealing with kids some time they need help with that child some one to come in and help .please people dont belive every thing you hear check up on it do some research first on your case …….
Comment by takisha — March 22, 2008 @ 5:40 pm
hope everyone had a good easter holiday……………….
Comment by jo — March 23, 2008 @ 4:31 pm
Easter this year is on my birthday.
Sadly, they both were pretty terrible
and empty. But thank you. I hope
yours was good, no, I hope it was
wonderful.
Comment by Heather — March 23, 2008 @ 4:36 pm
happy birthday heather….
Comment by jo — March 23, 2008 @ 6:50 pm
this final report by national Indian
justice center examines child abuse
and neglect in american Indian and
alaska native communities and the role of the indian health service(IHS)
in response to the 1990 decision by
the Department of health and human sevrvices to examine the ihs’s response to child abuse and neglect in indian communites.
the national indian justice center undertook this study to provide an
assessment of the effectiveness and
impact of IHS policies and to evaluate
the capacity of IHS personal to recognize and treat abuse and neglect of indian children.the project was conducted in three phases.
phase 1 reviewed IHS policies,and child abuse and neglect procedures,
phase 2 includes an evaluation of date collected in phase 1,research and on- site assessments,and the development of model intervention project.phase 3 involved survying tribal service providers,implementing
both the bureau of indian affairs (BIA)
and the IHS estimate that the number of children at risk for maltreatment in indian communitiesis 84% although
respondents estimated that only 1 in 5 reported cases is substantiated.
data related to reporting barries,lack
of appropriate/adequate training,
the shortage of management information systems,and the association of child maltreatment and substance abuse are also reported.
case specific infor was gathered for
2035 reported cases of indian child abuse and neglect resulting in the first national profile of indian child maltreatment.this data is intended to help the indian health service develop standardized response to cases of abuse and neglect,emphasizing coordination among federal,state,private,
that get paid taking Indian children away from there homes…
Comment by joe — March 23, 2008 @ 7:30 pm
problem with our criminal justice system.
to be “voluntary”within the meaning
of the fifth amendment.a statement
by a criminal defendant must be a product of free will.unencumbered by threats or promises,coercion of any kind,weather physical or psychological,is prohibited,and a statement found to be involuntary will(theoretically,at least)be suppressed
criminal justice system permitted to make promises(of leniency,e,g) and threats(max time after a trial conviction)
criminal justice system get away with violating the very constitutional rights it functions to protect in order to conduct its everyday business of plea bargaining
in fact,however,the vast majority of defendants plead guilty because the system makes them an offer they can’t refuse,much like the mob.
the system functions like a gigantic exortion racket in which the attorney
plays the role of “bagman,”the person
who transmits the threats(under the guise of legal advice)collects the payment (the plea).
to extent that the attorney loses bail arguments or pre-trial motions to suppress,a defendant’s faith in powers of his lawyer and/or the integrity of the system is eroded to the point where resistance seems futile.
lengthy pre-trial incarceration further weakens and demoralizes a defendant and increases the coercive aspects of plea bargaining
(particularly where,as in the case of many indigent defendants unable to post bail,taking a plea is the only sure way to regain personal freedom).
the system”gets away” with it because there is no economic alternative.not because anyone really believes the justifications recited above.formal procedural justice(complex rules which govern criminal trials)never intended to cope with the volume of cases now being.
more defendants need to be processed.criminal trials are luxury which society can no longer afford.
except in the most serious or unusual cases.
we function schizophrenically;our legal ideology is bound to a system
of values we no longer actually cherish,and are unwilling therefore to finance.
like a hollywood set.our system presentd to the public a facade of”rights”while the same system systematically violates those rights as the only means to insure its own survival….
Comment by joe — March 23, 2008 @ 8:25 pm
if u have lost your children to DHS/CPS they are not there to help u get your children back they are there to make your life living hell,they are there to make money off our children
and put them on a meat market
they call it adoption.think about it
everytime u walk down the meat line
picking out the steak or pork chop or hamburger or whatever u are looking for well thats were are children are
lined up in a meat market for the rich
just like these sight did u know DHS/CPS worker’s come to this sight
I was just reading that a Klamath falls CPS/DHS started this sight
there was somethings I stated on this sight that ended up in court on my case,,so be very aware what u say on this sight….it just might come back and bite you it did me…
Comment by joe — March 23, 2008 @ 8:38 pm
my child is in this foster home
the foster parents son was in he’s
30’s was put children in this foster
home in danger he stabed a 83 year
old grandfather and killed him
and stabed he uncle and in self def
his uncle shot and killed him
and all these foster parents kids
are on drugs and drink and they themselfs lost there children
but yet the seen there kids everyday
putting other foster children in to danger by leaving the children with anyone they like,i have pic’s of my child with a bruise on him,DHS/CPS worker states its ok,foster mother taking a shower with this child
DHS/CPS states thats ok???
Comment by joe — March 23, 2008 @ 8:50 pm
Joe,
How do you know for sure that a caseworker started this site? Even if one did, maybe they have seen first hand the devastion that happens to families and wants to help us instead of hurt us. Also what we put on this site is our right. We still have freedom of speech, and the right to express ourselves. If caseworkers want to be petty and use this site against us, well then we will just have to speak up even louder. We have the right to be heard and I will not let CPS win!!! They took away my babies and by GOD I will continue to speak out about their wrongful convictions and their baby selling. I hope my caseworker does come to this site. Maybe then she will open her eyes, I doubt it she has become an emotionless robot.
Comment by Kandice Cantrell — March 24, 2008 @ 5:11 am
Joe,
How do you know for sure that a caseworker started this site? Even if one did, maybe they have seen first hand the devastion that happens to families and wants to help us instead of hurt us. Also what we put on this site is our right. We still have freedom of speech, and the right to express ourselves. If caseworkers want to be petty and use this site against us, well then we will just have to speak up even louder. We have the right to be heard and I will not let CPS win!!!
Comment by Kandice Cantrell — March 24, 2008 @ 5:12 am
Joe,
How do you know for sure that a caseworker started this site? Even if one did, maybe they have seen first hand the devastion that happens to families and wants to help us instead of hurt us. Also what we put on this site is our right. We still have freedom of speech, and the right to express ourselves. If caseworkers want to be petty and use this site against us, well then we will just have to speak up even louder. We have the right to be heard and I will not let CPS win again.
Comment by Kandice Cantrell — March 24, 2008 @ 5:13 am
Joe, please tell the people who say the site was started by a CPS/DHS in Klamath Falls that the information is wrong. I started this site in October 2000. I’ve never lived in Klamath Falls, though I live next to the Klamath River… and I was never a CPS worker though at one time in the 1980’s I worked for the welfare department in Tulare County which is in Central CA south of Fresno. I started this site because my baby was taken by CPS in 1989… for eight months. I got her back but never got over the trauma, and wanted to help other parents in similar situations. That baby is now eighteen years old.
Comment by Linda — March 24, 2008 @ 9:13 am
hi im erin im from dallas texas, im a single mom i have 5 kids, just out left an abuive marrage i have been dealing with cps for going on 3 yrs no have not taken my kids, but i swear i dont think they will stop until they do. first it was i made a complaint againest my sons dad which came back on me, then it was them accusing my ex of raping my 5 yr old which never happend. then it was neglect becasue i “tried” so they say to kill myself which never happen, and now its me throwing a book at my 8 yr old mind you is slow, which never happend and she doenst even remember even telling them. this is the child that takes trips to the moon and sleeps on the stars. but do they listen to the truth, no in fact my new boyfriend best friend is one of the top workers for cps in this area and i have been told that they have an agenia and will not stop till it is met.
Comment by erin — March 24, 2008 @ 8:19 pm
After reading all of the comments for this month, I am hereby exhausted.
I fought for my daughter for a little over a year and finally gave up. I don’t like to think of it that way- but essentially, that’s what happened. I signed over my rights to my aunt and uncle for fear of losing her to foster care or worse- my exhusband’s family. I see how some of you went to trial and succeeded in bringing your babies home. I pray that life continues with many blessings for you. I didn’t have the strength to wait that long. I was pushed into ultimatums. I am sorry for losing her every day, but I now know she is safe and happy. I won’t ever be happy again. I won’t get to do her hair for preschool or prom. I won’t get to bake her cake every year on July25th. I won’t get to be santa claus. I won’t get to paint with her. Oh, how badly I wish I could paint with her. That was always my dream. But none of my goals mattered. None of my hopes for the future are worth mentioning. Only hers. At least she’ll still have the opportunities that were taken from me. I still get to see her when I can arrange around the caseworker’s b.s. In mediation, we all signed papers saying that I could see my baby 4 times a year. Caseworker now says that’s not possible until after her adoption is complete. That’s when my family gets the money. Who knows when the money will come. I just want to keep my heart. I want to fulfill my dreams of being ‘mommy’. I’m unable to be her mommy, and too afraid to try and be ‘mommy’ again. What if this happens again? What if they find me?
Comment by mrs.king — March 26, 2008 @ 1:56 am
I checked the credentials of this site, when I first came across it. Linda started this site to give parents a place to vent and to get assistance with the problems that we deal with. Venting is neccessary, but venting alone will not change the atrocities that DCFS continues to get away with. I’ve stated, before, that child welfare services/DCFS do track this site. Check your privacy report. They do track this site. They track all sites that concern children. This site is intended to help families against the abuse of DCFS.
Comment by Aaron — March 26, 2008 @ 7:38 pm
I checked the credentials of this site, when I first came across it. Linda started this site to give parents a place to vent and to get assistance with the problems that we deal with. Venting is neccessary, but venting alone will not change the atrocities that DCFS continues to get away with. I’ve stated, before, that child welfare services/DCFS do track this site. Check your privacy report. They do track this site. They track all sites that concern children. This site is intended to help families against the abuse of DCFS. This site is not ran by DCFS, however, it is used and abused, just as any other site, by DCFS.
Comment by Aaron — March 26, 2008 @ 7:41 pm
Joe, sorry to hear that they used this site against you and then lied on Linda who started this site cause she was a victim of cps too. Go back and read some of the history of this site. Does anyone really think they (cps) won’t use this site too, of course they will.
Ms. King, some day that little girl will come home. Do what you can to keep hope, rely on God, what else do we have? Keep painting, why? You can show her your love and what you have endured.
Comment by one of many — March 26, 2008 @ 7:48 pm
I apologize for the duplicate message. More importantly, I approve of this sites intention. It is to help those of us to help others like us, who have been dealt with an injustice to our families. It is to assist each other to realize that we are not alone. But, most importantly, I believe that it gives us an opportunity to get a message out to the public.
My message is: You are not alone. When and if you ever get your children back home, DO NOT stay silent. I’ve dealt with them in my own way. I was ready to count my blessings by staying silent. Yes, they have overwhelming power. But, do want your children to have to deal with the same thing when they have children of their own? Please, never forget the grief that you and your children went through or are going through. Never stop talking about it. Inform everyone. It will not go away on it’s own. We have to stand up and help others. That is what I believe that this site is for!!!
Comment by Aaron — March 26, 2008 @ 7:54 pm
Learn your state statutes and your states DCFS laws. Never sign an agreement with DCFS. If something feels wrong to you, in your gut, do not agree to it. Stand by your beliefs and stand strong. A social worker cannot take a child unless you agree to it. Do not listen to a social workers threats. If a police officer is there, refuse to give them your children. Make them take your children. A police officer, normally, will not jeapordize his job by doing something blatantly illegal. Stay calm and adament, that you will not agree to allowing them to take your children, regardless of the threats. Let them be the ones to make the mistakes and not you. Your children depend on it.
Comment by Aaron — March 26, 2008 @ 8:09 pm
I feel a responsibilty to try to prevent any other family to have to go through this type of injustice. Ever since my ordeal, I try to get the awareness out to the public by any means possible. I hope that every one that reads this will do the same.
Comment by Aaron — March 26, 2008 @ 8:19 pm
Read the Legal Disclaimer and make your own decision regarding the intent of this site.
Comment by Aaron — March 26, 2008 @ 8:35 pm
Hello, my name is nikki bickley, im only 16 years of age. my older siter , her name is heather she is 23 and her children, ages 4years and 6 months. her fiance was charged with molesting my nephew, and got sentenced for 15 years in jail. they tested my nephew, and the tests shows that he was not molested. they took my nephew and neice away. they have been gone for almost 4 months now, and i have no idea of why they would take them away from my sister when the problem(her fiance) is already out of the picture. they said if her rights are terminated than my parents have no right of being called grandparents. please respond back to me, if any of you have any ideas. thank you have a nice day.
Nikki Bickley
Comment by Nikki Bickley — March 27, 2008 @ 7:08 am
Bless you all! CPS is very corrupt. They need to be investigated here in California. CPS has my 16 year old daughter who is being held hostage. She was never abused and never neglected. I was sick with anemia and they made her a ward of the state when I couldn’t even get out of bed. It took them 2 months to put my daughter into counseling. They broke her down and now she is very unstable. It’s very sad what CPS does. My exhusband made false complaints against me because he doesn’t want to pay child support or the arrearages. He told them I was a drunk but I rarely drink. I was even tested repeaditly and I followed their case plan but they still have Jenny. The social worker who took her is Amy Sensenbaugh. Her Supervisor is Ken Larbaum and he can be reached at 805-781-1763. Leland is the Chairman but he won’t take my calls. He can be reached at 805-781-1825. I’ve called them over and over but my pleas for my daughter to be returned go unheard. I’ve called Channel 6 news and I am hopeful they will visit this page and will look into mine and many other parents stories about CPS and their practices. It’s BIG bucks for CPS. I have attorney’s, counselers, and previous CPS workers all telling me CPS is corrupt. I used to be a foster mother so I know they are. They never even went to my home before they placed the foster child with me. They did a “family placement” even though the child wasn’t family. They did this because they didn’t want to spend any money on this poor 12 year old child who is now a prostitute. I couldn’t help her without CPS funding. So where does all the money go?? I’d like to know.
PLEASE HELP ME GET MY DAUGHTER BACK. SHE’S MY BABY.. PLEASE CALL AND COMPLAIN TO CPS
Thank you and Good luck to all of you good parents!
Kathleen Dearinger
Comment by Kathleen Dearinger — March 27, 2008 @ 11:27 am
My trouble started in the 1980’s when my then 2 year old son was beat by a babysitter who happened to be a friend of the police. They tried to blame everyone except the person responsible, and when they couldn’t blame anyone else, NOTHING WAS DONE. When my 2nd son was born and was about to start first grade I had to go around with them and the police again because I found out the spouse of this person was going to be his teacher!!! Funny, I was told when the whole thing was swept under the rug that these two people would never be able to work with children again. Coaching our childrens sports teams and teaching them in school has nothing to do with children??? They were doing both. Now they are using bogus RSA numbers to get the school to grant access to questioning my daughter in school without notifying myself or my husband. They have done it twice in the past 6 months, because an ex friend of my daughter has accussed her brother of felonious sexual assault…
Comment by D Pomerleau — March 28, 2008 @ 6:31 am
I need advice on what to do! My case worker is saying I have to take a hair strand test before i can even think about getting my three children back even though this case was due to truency My husband and i have taken two mouth swabs,we did fail the first one due to meth.and opits(pain pills)we passed the second one other than the pain pills in-which she never made a comment about nor did she have any concerns after the first test but now that we have done everything we were supposed to do in order to get our kids back now she is saying for one we never told her about the pills even though she has my doctors name wrote in my file and she also says that the test determaines whether or not its pain pills and now she says we are doing haroine (which i have never touched)and that we have been lying to her and has demanded the hair test What should I do ? And just to let you know again this case is only about truency and she says my house had to many ‘clean’clothes laying around and that there were to many dishes in the sink.my kids were clean had no sign of abuse nor neglect yet she took them from me over a month ago and placed them with my mother.I have one over there every day and left at 10:00 pm. as told yet due to her anger about the hair test i was told i could only see my kids one hour a week how messed up is that ?do i have any right concerning this is there anything i can do PLEASE HELP!!!!
Comment by kymmie — March 29, 2008 @ 1:11 am
Hello everyone,
My name is Sabrina summerfield. I made this page to get my story heard. I lost my daughter to CPS Of Logan County four years ago. I was married to a man for nine years we had two children Bobbie Jo and Ryan I left him because he was abusive. I had him put in jail a number of times but he always walked. The day he walked in my home and my daughter ran under my table and hid and screamed dont let him hurt you mommy I knew at five years old she had seen too much. It was a long process but i finally got out I was free of the abuse. I met a new man Buddy Summerfield who is now my husband, we have been together seven years now. He took my kids in when I had nothing. Four years ago my ex-husband called the Cps of Logan County West Virginia and told them that my new husband Buddy had chased my two children Bobbie Jo 9 at the time and Ryan 5 at the time through the house with a butcher knife. My son Ryan told the truth that his daddy put him up to saying that. So Cps gave him back to me the next day and told me they still had to talk to Bobbie jo and i would get her back soon. Two days later they called me and asked me to come in I thought I was going to pick up my daughter but I was wrong I went into the office a worker put me in a room and I could tell someting was wrong. She came back in the room a few minutes later she couldn’t even look me in the face but she informed me that my ex-husband had put Bobbie into the hospital and that she would have to stay for thirty days that i could go see her but since he signed her in I couldn’t do anything because they had granted him temporary custody till the case was solved so he knew I was going to get her back and they only way to stop that was to stick her in a hospital were I couldn’t get her. Me and my father went to visit her the next day we got to go to her room and visit, well she had a room mate a little her around her age. Bobbie Jo came over and told the little girl to come over and tell me why she was in the hospital. She went on to tell me that her mommys boy friend had abused her it was so sad the whole time she was telling me the story I kept thinking to myself how lucky I was my kids were safe from abuse. But I didn’t realize then that they were being mentaly abused by their father. He promised them things told them lies.CPS told me when Bobbie jo got out of the hospital she would be given back to me. So I was just waiting well the thirty days was up. The CPS called me in again I went in was placed in a room again I just knew i was getting her back I was wrong again. About ten minutes later a male CPS worker walked into the room I asked him were my daughter was and he told me that was the least of my problems I said excuse me he said your not getting your daughter back. I asked what now what has he pulled now. He said your daughter has been sexually abused by your husband. I about hit the floor he went on to tell me this story the same story the little girl that was in the hospital with Bobbie Jo I tried to tell him this but he didn’t want to hear it. He then laid papers down in front of me and told me to sign them and I informed him I wasn’t signing nothing till I knew what the papers were and he informed me i was going to sign them now I told him Noo. He stood up as to block me from leaving the room I asked him to move he wouldn’t So I screamed at him and told him to get out of my way at that time another worker opened the door and asked what was going on. I told her he was trying to make me sign papers and he had informed me I wasn’t leaving till I had. To come to find out the papers were a safety plan stateing that I admitted my husband had abused my daughter. I then told them again I wasn’t signing them and I left the office. My husband was waiting on me down stairs I came out crying he asked me what was wrong and I then informed him what I was told. He turned pale as a ghost and couldn’t believe what i was saying. My husband had never been alone with my daughter so I knew my ex-husband was behind all this now i just had to prove it. My husband had to leave the home or I would lose all the kids. So he took the only car we had and went to his moms he lost his job in Logan I had to quit a job I had for four years because I didn’t have a car so we had no income coming in Bills started coming in I had no way to pay them Budd got a job sent me what he could. all he kept was enough for gas. We were all appointed Lawyers They took Bobbie Jo to the doctor and ran tests my husband took a lie detector test passed they proved in court my daughter had never been messed with by my husband. So everything was dropped. Budd was aloud back in my home. The judge told me that I would need to go to family Court to get my daughter back because he didn’t deal in custody. But now I was left broke we were kicked out of our home because we couldn’t pay the rent we ended up in a motel me my husband and three other kids. My ex-husband had the nerve to call CPS and tell them I was homeless and that I had his son in a motel. So my aunt knew someone that had and apartment it needed work and that we could move in with two months free rent for cleaning it up. I took it because I knew I had no choice we went from a big two story house with six bedrooms two baths to a small two bedroom apartment that was in awful shape it took fifty some garbage bags to clean out the apartment we had to take up all the carpet but one. I got a job at a hotel not even bring in $250.00 dollars every two weeks. So I didn’t have the money for a lawyer. I went to legal aide but they couldnt help because the lawyer that handled Logan was in a car wreck and they havn’t replaced her that was three years ago and they still don’t have a lawyer. I took him to court anyway without a lawyer we went in he had a lawyer The judge told me I didn’t know my rights to come back when i had a layer. What don’t they understand I can’t afford a lawyer the welfare will pay for a lawyer to take your kids away but when you prove you didn’t do anything wrong that they took the child under lies your on your own does that make any since? It is now four years later and I still don’t have my daughter I have done everything I can I’ve wrote the governor I’ve tried to get a lawyer to take my case on payments. My daughter doesn’t even live with her father she stays with his mother and CPS know this. They abuse drugs in front of her they sell andbuy drugs in fron off her. She wont talk to the welfare because they tell her daddy everything she says.which is against the law I didn’t belive her till a month ago when me and my husband went into the welfare in Logan and told them I had a tape of my ex-husbands sister telling me that her brother was using drugs that he never see my daughter and how I needed to get her out of that house. Two days later My ex-mother-n-law calls me and tells me everything I had told the CPS worker. I couldn’t believe it. But no one will listen. No onehas the time I’ve even called the State Police and had proof of the drug abuse but she still there. If anyone could help me or knows what I can do or knows a lawyer that will help me please let me know. Thank You God Bless Sabrina
Comment by Sabrina Summerfield — March 29, 2008 @ 1:48 am
illinois families:
Important new resource:
http://www.familydefensecenter.net
It costs around $15 to join, but this site is headed and maintained by a group of attorneys who are currently taking and trying to certify a case before the US Supreme Court.
Dupuy v Samuels.
If this goes b4 USSC, it will be a victory for all.
I would urge anyone who lives in Illinois to get in contact with this group of very EXPERIENCE ATTORNEYS.
i DO NOT LIVE IN iL AND HAVE NO INTEREST IN THIS SITE, OTHER THAN AS AN EDUCATIONAL POINTER.
Comment by Fern — March 29, 2008 @ 9:03 am
I’m here because my grandson, 5 years, whom I had taken care of for the past year while his mom underwent detox and rehab was taken from me on March 17th and I am no longer allowed to see him for no valid reason.
They say Iain suffers from ADHD and they’ve been playing around for months, juggling meds and dosages trying to find something that will zombify him enought to make it through his Kindergarten day.
He also suffers from serious abandonment issues based on a string of stepfather/boyfriend/hangers on that wandered in and out of his life and his mother’s own arrest a little over a year ago. My home was the first and only stable home environment he had ever lived in.
He frequently flies into these towering rages at little or no provocation, these usually ramping up to the point of physical violence quite rapidly, culminating in physical attacks or the throwing of objects or other acts that endanger himself and/or others even at his tender age.
These rages have occurred at school, in stores, in parks and at home with myself being his usual target although he has attacked his teachers and his mother on occasion. They once called me to pick him up at school during one of them and as I walked up he threw one of those little elementary school chairs a good ten feet through the air at me.
Whenever he starts one of these, I usually pick him up and hold him to keep him from hurting himself and away from any lethal projectiles he might decide to hurl. Then I try to come up with something to distract him away from his anger.
Sometimes it’s no more than a hug, other times I tickle him with my whiskers, sometimes I snatch his cap and put it on my head, once I squirted him with a water pistol… anything to snap him back into thinking clearly. Sometimes, when nothing else is working, I smack his bottom (lightly) a time or two and tell him he’s got to calm down before he makes himself sick… by then he’s usually sobbing and gasping for air. This is NOT done in anger, it’s not being done to inflict punishment and it is certainly NOT abuse.
Apparently he told his therapist that he was being spanked on these occasions. She in turn, making no attempt to learn the true circumstances of the case, called Child Welfare Services as it’s called in our California county.
This agency, also showing total disregard for the truth of the matter, immediately took the child from my home, lying outright about the reasons AND the origin of their “case” and taking steps to make sure that I had no contact with a little boy who had been my best buddy for over a year as I had been his.
While I suspected I was the root cause of what was going on I wasn’t told the actual reason for this treatment until yesterday when I actually confronted the case worker and she started screaming about “going down the spanking route”.
They started jerking my daughter around to make sure SHE understood that I was to have no contact whatever with the child and when they found out she had brought him here on Easter, made sure he was “unavailable” even to her today, which would have been her next visitation.
I’ve lodged a complaint with the agency, will be talking to an internal auditor Tuesday and have to wait until they finish this “internal audit” before I can take any other action even though we know what the results are going to be. Quite frankly, I have no idea what my next action is going to be or where to turn to find out.
I’m a senior citizen getting by on an $890 a month Social Security stipend so expensive lawyers are out. My hopes in coming to this site are to find other people who have been put through the same wringer my family has been put through and a way to work for some way to reform the entire CPS/Foster Care “industry” that has sprung up wherein someone with a simple Sociology degree can make life or death decisions involving entire families and never have to answer for their mistakes simply because they never even have to acknowledge them.
We require psych screening for police officers but allow these people to do more damage to entire families and groups of people than any police officer ever could? It doesn’t make sense.
Comment by Tom Bales — March 29, 2008 @ 1:03 pm
Tom Bales:
There are many groups in California to help folks.
One is:
http://www.theacf.org
Charlie. There is another group listed on:
http://www.familyrights.us
Go to site Contents section and & look under “Members and Friends” US states.
Also join these Message Boards for many more. There are many folks in Calif. eager to help you.
I do not live in Calif. You must register to join Message Boards here. Linda has been helping folks for 10 years, and I am sure you will get some concrete help –if not at least comfort.
BTW, you grandson should have an IEP and you do have rights there. He should NOT BE MOVED FROM a stable environment. You might want to talk to a special Ed attorney.
They used to be free–since they collected their fees from schools—however, that did change a couple of years ago.
Best wishes. F.
Comment by Fern — March 29, 2008 @ 1:43 pm
Hi my name is Angie i ahve 4 kids we ahve been involved with C.P.S in texas since march 13 2006. We finally got our children back in 2007 and then not one month late they were back invovled because the school saw a tiny bruuse that was old one of my boys they called then they then came and took our kdis away away we got a lawyer and got them back 3 day’s later but the lawyer suggested we do family based serves well we are but it seems like they are jsut harrssing us. i mean this is suppose to be volunteer but theya re not aking like it i am jsut wondering how we can go about suing them. They put my kids on medicine and it is all wrong and they knew it we have doctors that say my kdis since they were so young should never ahve been on it but they still put my children on it when they were 3 and 1 and a half. . So please if any of you know how to go about suing them please feel free to email me and let me know.
Comment by Angie — March 30, 2008 @ 12:30 pm
thank the lord there are people out there that can help families, especially single moms like myself, to get their babies from these money hungry demons known as c.p.s. thank you so much
Comment by Crystal Berezny — March 30, 2008 @ 3:21 pm
Hello, my name is nikki bickley, im only 16 years of age. my older siter , her name is heather she is 23 and her children, ages 4years and 6 months. her fiance was charged with molesting my nephew, and got sentenced for 15 years in jail. they tested my nephew, and the tests shows that he was not molested. they took my nephew and neice away. they have been gone for almost 4 months now, and i have no idea of why they would take them away from my sister when the problem(her fiance) is already out of the picture. they said if her rights are terminated than my parents have no right of being called grandparents.Please help us, i want themback, i cant live without them… please respond back to me, if any of you have any ideas. thank you have a nice day.
Nikki Bickley
Comment by Nikki Bickley — March 31, 2008 @ 6:55 am
Nicki-
Grandparents DO HAVE RIGHTS! I am one who di get my grandkids permanently after CPS broke the family apart. In this state, there is a 9 month living requirement that would have normally allowed the foster parents to adopt my grandkids, instead of me.
Thru getting an attorney of my own and filing a petition for guardianship, we were able to destroy the foster parents chances and get the judge to “waive” the 9 month living requirement based on PROOF we were the kin to the children. Every state has “kinship” laws. You just need an attorney to petition based on those laws.
For an independant attorney to appear in the family court against CPS, he/she will need to go to the court 1 week prior to a hearing date and register as not just the Kinship attorney, but as an independant attorney for the enitre family, including the parents under CPS.
The judge will have to allow it then. Until the registration on the case is complete, that aoorney can attend hearings as a courtesty, but cannot speak. Usually the slip notes to the parents court appointed attornies and then they in turn present it to the judge.
You can beat this!
Comment by Cheryl — March 31, 2008 @ 8:42 am
My name is Kendra. I am from St. Charles, Missouri. On March 12, 2008, my 15 month old nephew and 2 month old niece were taken into the custody of the Missouri Department of Children and Family Services. Two days before my little nephew who is learning to walk “accidently” fell on his little sister breaking 4 of her ribs. My sister (the children’s mother) and my brother-in-law took my niece to the ER. The ER transferred the baby to Cardnal Glennon Children’s Hospital. The Glennon’s ER called the cops and CPS. My sister and her husband both insist that their daughter’s ribs were injured by her brother. The hospital, CPS and the cops do not believe my sister.
Both children are in foster care pending legal proceedings. My sister and her husband have been granted 1 hour a week visitation with their kids. My niece is healing, however it looks like she may have been born with a brittle bone disorder. Right now this whole experience with CPS has been very difficult for the kids, the parents, grandparents and aunts/uncles. Today, at the family support metting I asked about visitation with my neice and nephew. I was told “when hell freezes over.” They gave me stupid excuses about the vistation room being to small and that bonding with their parents is more important. I will keep bringing up the issue at the next meeting. I am not going to shut up about it either. I will help my sister fight tooth and nail for her kids. thank you for letting me vent.
Comment by Kendra — March 31, 2008 @ 12:00 pm
Please help me!!!!! I have been in the net pf Child Protective Services for more than one year. I have been on this site several times as well as other,,,,,I know the evils and money incentives of CPS………but my case is different. My daughter is EVIL, she is now 16 1/2 yrs old and is the one who trumped up charges against me. Without going into lengthly details, she is the abuser!!! She had been verbally assaulting me for well over a year. Her father was very abusive, I believe that he is a sociopath. It is all about genetics. I was protected from his abuse, because I always called the police on him and many times he was arrested. He played all the “games”, putting on the GREAT DAD face for the court etc. After a horrific divorce I got physical custody of both children. My daughter cuts me down and looks at me with the same cold eyes as he did,,,I can see where she is heading. She told me for over a year that she wanted to go to a foster home. This is a very long story, but I go to court in Los Angeles Children’s court this Wed. They DCSF (CPS) is recommending guardianship to my mother, children’s grandmother. I also have a 13 yr old son, we love each other very much. I do not know how to get him back as I can see there is no possibility of reconciliation with 16 yr old daughter. I will write more, but I am not sure where this posting will end up and I want to make sure that I can get correspondence wit other on this site.
Vera
Comment by Vera Dubchek — March 31, 2008 @ 2:56 pm
I feel out of place here. I am a CPS worker and I have to say after reading many of the posts, I am glad that I don’t work for the CPS system that ya’ll are involved in. I have a great CPS Supervisor who does not approve the removal of any child unless it is an absolute last option. All family members should be sought out when removing a child from the home. Those family members needed to be explored for possible placement for the children. I am working with a teenager whose mother has abandoned her at a neighbors house and my supervisor won’t approve a removal, rightfully so because the child is stable where she is at. Our only problem is getting her enrolled in school.
As a CPS worker I am horrified when I have to do a removal and I don’t make the final call on doing removals. All supervisors must approve removals. I love helping the families I work with and I enjoy the people I meet on a daily basis. I love being able to help families clean their homes and get them into drug treatment, mental health treatment, get services for the children. I love doing that, it’s my calling in life to help others. However, doing removals is part of the job and it is the part that scares me the most because of the trauma that it can cause on the children. There are certain situations where removals are necessary, but most situations can be worked out and should be. CPS workers need to utilize the option of having the parents make alternative living arrangements for the children before a removal is done. I am happy to answer any CPS questions anyone has.
Comment by Kimberly Hampton — March 31, 2008 @ 5:15 pm
To Kimberly Hampton:
I am so glad you posted on here. I may disagree with what happened to my family but i do realize there are some families out there that do need help. Sad part is like with my case people think its abuse when i was concerned and took my 2 month old daughter to the ER. I believe the cases you really need to watch for are those that do not go to the ER or doctors! That should be a big warning sign! Because like in my case my daughter only 2 months old at the time broke 4 back ribs only because her brother fell on her while he was learning to walk. He was 14 months. Now normally i would agree a fall just on her and getting up wouldn’t cause a break but when we got home from the ER i found a huge mega block under it on the side that the ribs were broken on. Now I did not make it up but our case worker believed we did! She badgered us.
I would love to share my whole story with you and maybe ask some questions if you can email me at mrskoons@gmail.com
Comment by Karen Koons — March 31, 2008 @ 6:49 pm
my grandkids was taken away by cps 2 yrs ago…my daughter was trying to get them back but everytime she completed something they would give her something else to and so sometmes she failed…then i decided to take the 4 grandkids becasue i was worried that she would lose them..i was living in a 1-bedroom apt and had to move to a more expensive 3 bedroom apt with good schools..i was promised help with all kinds of services, food stamps, electirc, ect…services which i never received and had to leave work for numberous meetings because i have a disadvantaged granddaughter whos fixing to be 18 so we was trying to get programs started so she will be taken care of after that..then cps dedided that i wasnt capable of taking care of my grandchldren so they took them before thanksgiving and gave my daughter another chance.. she got a place to stay, a car, going to counseling and she was having unsupervised visits with her kids so it looked promising..and i was able to at least talk to 2 of the grandkids once a week…but someone called in and said that she was using drugs and wasnt paying her bills so they insisted on her doing a hair folliclacle test..and if she passed it they would send krystal to her…so she did that and thursday, last week they told her that she passed and then the next day her lawyer called and told her that she didnt pass the test…so they are plannig on terminating her rights as a parent and wont tell her exactly what was on her test except that a lot showed up in a short periord of time. so my concern is what are they going to do with Krystal? i dont want her in a state home and she is going to age out in May… they are not going to let me have her and im concerned on the other 3 kids..i dont know what to do and i wonder if her lawyer will really fight for my daughter…because in this something is not right why wont they show exactly what is on the test? and my daughter is giving up saying its no ouse no matter what she does its never good enough for them…needless to say i have no respect for cps for the way they twist and turn exerything you say and do…makes you feel gullty even when you arent guilty…
Comment by barbara carnell — March 31, 2008 @ 8:20 pm
went through a custody battle, ex called dcfs several times (I know because social worker had to cancel & said she tried to reach me on my cell, read off his # as the # she called to reschedule…..) when the lady came to our house….she kept looking at how nice our house was, even making comments like…who is your decorator?
well, out of the 30 reports, only 1 was substantiated….my 12 yr old had a small bruise on his knee (the kid played football…wanted to live w/ Dad and was advised to lie about abuse…) They ordered us to go through drug testing, we passed them all, they said my current husband didn’t show up…he did, they lost the tests!!! after so many tests, my idiot husband took a hit of a joint….at work, not in our home, not around the kids.
We refused to sign their “Prevention Plan” so they brought a cop with them that night to scare us into signing, we didn’t.
They held a custody hearing…..without our knowledge! Not only were they going to put the kids in foster care, they had a SOCIAL WORKER from the Cabinet ready to make room in her home for MY kids!!!!!!!!! One of which was special needs (more adoption money for the State)
it had to be done IMMEDIATELY….they would not allow us to set up other arrangements!
So we absconded with the children to another state….and only agreed to come back if the kids could live w/ family….
After I lost my kids, and disappeared for a week, both my husband and I lost our jobs, our home, my career was in Education…my degree…I can never use it again!
I THEN began using drugs & alcohol…I HAD 5 children, lived in a very well-appointed $180k home…my kids & I had just gone to see Disney on ice the night before, they were very well cared for, had anything they wanted……
when I lost them, I tried to commit suicide because I lost my life when I lost them.
We had over 50 acquaintences write letters stating how great we were with our children….but the judge doesn’t get to see this, they only let the Cabinet speak……..where is the justice in this? The caseworker who took our kids hod none of her own & this was her 1st case!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Who looked out for our Family?
I wrote the Governor, State & Local agencies, I appealed the decisions….but OF COURSE it was upheld! Easier to go with the status-quo than to admit a flaw in the Cabinet….Judges are afraid of them.
Comment by jodi — April 1, 2008 @ 10:07 am
Hi Kimberly - I was glad to see your post. It is so nice to hear that there still are people out there that care about family values. We too have great social workers in our county. I am the step-grandparent of 2 boys who were taken in Sacramento and that was a NIGHTMARE. The social worker down there was snotty and pulled the “sign here if you love your kids and want to see them” game. I insisted that there be a written plan before the parents signed on the dotted line. The social worker told them they didn’t have time but if they didn’t voluntarily sign the children over they would be considered involuntary and then “things would go very bad for them.” Up to that point I really didn’t believe professionals behaved like that. However after a 2 month battle and thousands of dollars we got the case transferred to our county by moving the parents here before the jurisdictional hearing. The children are living with us until the next hearing and the parents are working a resonable reunification plan. I don’t want to disclose our county just yet because the case is still active although hopefully coming to a satisfactory close in a few weeks. Just know that all CPS workers aren’t evil. Also - those are county employees so if you’re not satisfied that they are doing their job, hold them accountable at the next County Board of Supervisors meeting.
Comment by T. Mills — April 2, 2008 @ 11:00 am
Hi, my name is Michelle and I am here looking for help to bring me and my 14 year old daughter back together again after CPS took her away for truency.My heart is broken and havent seen her smile in a very long time
I never realized how many people are going through the same thing as me until i found this site. Its sad because i always thought social services was there to help. Good Luck to you all!
Comment by Michelle — April 11, 2008 @ 8:36 am
I am here because my husband and I left our kids with a babysitter (his cousin) to go to work. We we’re called at work telling us that she fell asleep with while watching our two boys and her son, and they had gotten out and went across the highway and were playing in a mud puddle. So we got to ranger as quick as possible. By the time I got there from Cisco cps was there and they made me sign a paper saying that i woulnt take my kids there anymore so i did, and they gave the girl that fell asleep 6 HOURS to find someone to place her son with, while being a COMPLETE biotch the whole time, well we took our kids home that night. And the next day i was at work and my mother was picking the boys up for the weekend cause it was her weekend with them. By the time she got them to her house cps went over there and KIDNAPPED my kids from HER. They did not even give us (the ones who actually take care of our children) one single phone call to place our kids with anyone. They KIDNAPPED our kids because we left them for 5-6 hours with someone we thought we could trust, while we were working and trying to take care of them. Now If I get my babies back I wont even be able to go to work because of them kidnapping our kids over a babysitter. We are too afraid to leave them with ANYONE. I want everyone on here to know that u cant even trust family with ur kids now days. We have NEVER hurt our kids in ANY way, we dont even spank them we put them on the wall. I want my babies back this HAS to stop. I have NEVER even done drugs and have never even been in any trouble. All i do is smoke cigs and i tell u what when i get my boys back i will quit just for them. I love my kids and would do anything to keep them safe.
Comment by Patricia & William Patton — April 21, 2008 @ 9:26 am
things U need to do..
one stop!!! DO NOT Talk To any
child welfare worker’s…or police
do not let them in your house!
ask for your attorney!
don’t get mad or upset they will use
this against u.always dress nice
when u see your children,don’t talk
to the staff…just smile at them
and take notes of everything u see when u are visiting your children
and take lots of picture’s of your children,rights everything down
that happens when u see your children,,,name’s of staff that are watching u,
then most of all do a back ground check on your court appointed attorney.right letter’s fax then and when u mail letter’s get them certifed mail,and make sure u get documents
notes letter’s police reports child welfare note letter’s everything u can think of…and make sure u have lots of people the u know are with u 24-7
the best thing it to keep your mouth shut and smile at all times
i know this very well I been fighting for my son for over 3 years…
they are not your friends they are not there to help u…..remember that
if u are native american look at indian child welfare act learn your rights
do the research….its hard to do but remember u are not alone…
child welfare works are been fired all over the states….and so on remember don’t give up
your children need u….
as I am still fighting I’ll never give up
until every child welfare worker and so on are in jail for every child that is abused is by our states
remember do the research
and good luck…
Comment by joe — May 26, 2008 @ 6:07 pm
JOE SAYS DONT GET MAD AT CPS WELL JOE BLOW IM BEYOND MAD AT MN. CPS IDIOTS IT DOES NO GOOD TO BE NICE TO THESE JACKASSES I KNOW I HAD MY 2 GIRLS TAKEN AWAY 7 YRS AGO BY THESE IDIOTS GO AHEAD AND BE AS NICE AS YOU WANT AND JUMP THROUGH AS MANY HOOPS AS THEY WANT YOU TO THEY JUST WANT TO SEE HOW STUPID YOU REALLY ARE THEN THEYLL HAVE ANOTHER SET OF HOOPS FOR YOU TO JUMP THROUGH AND ANOTHER AND ANOTHER GET THE PICTURE SO DOING NICE TO THEM GETS YOU NOWHERE FAST!!! I JUST FEEL LIKE KILLING MYSELF AND THEM TOO!!!@!q@qwe#rqwre
Comment by SCOTT — June 5, 2008 @ 2:57 pm
My daughter (now an young adult) went to an elementary school in a low-income neighborhood, near a housing project. She said the DARE officers often came to the school and questioned them about their home lives. She didn’t tell me this at the time for fear of upsetting me; my experience with CPS was when she was too young to remember but I have told her about it. She also said the guidance counselor would call children into her office and ask them things like, do you parents ever hit you, how do they punish you, do they ever take you to the dentist or doctor. She would then tell the child to let her know if their parents ever frightened them! I found out when my daughter was in 5th grade that this was going on with the guidance counselor. It was near the end of the school year and next year my daughter would be off to middle school. I couldn’t wait for her to get away from that elementary school. The principal of the elementary school would make “surprise inspections” of lunchboxes and sent a letter home to parents that their children were not getting proper nutrition at lunch due to lunchboxes full of soft drinks, potato chips, etc. She said they were no longer allowed to bring any drinks to school but bottled water and milk. I did some research by calling friends who had children at other schools and this did not happen at the schools in the wealthy neighborhoods — the DARE officers and guidance counselors did not question those children about their home lives, not did the principals there tell them they could not bring soft drinks to school. I realized that my daughter’s school was targeted because it was in a low-income neighborhood. I was so infuriated but since my experience with CPS I had learned to keep my mouth shut. Parents in these neighborhoods are assumed to be neglectful, abusive, on drugs, etc. But it was the happiest day of my life when I put her on the school bus to middle school.
Comment by Judy — June 7, 2008 @ 5:34 am
PLEASE HELP
my 4 mo old was placed because of something my soon to be ex did, he wrote bad checks in my name.. and we were both arrested, i got out 3 days later and he is in on forgery, well I signed a “voluntary” placement as my CPS worker assured me I could get her back ASAP once released., well the day before I was released they gave me papers in the jail that she was being placed under an emergency hearing for the following day, I wasnt able to attend this “hearing” to defend myself as they knew I wouldnt be able to. They alleged that there were cigg ashes in her carseat and a hole in her blanket, I got a lot of my stuff from a group called Life Line it was used blankets and clothes but My daughter is in the care of my brother and his wife as they are Foster Parents, I am not allowed to see her or anything, my family wont talk to me and I am alone and very depressed I suffer from Bipolar, but what gets me is my home is nice and tidy, Katie was never abused nor hurt. How can they take her without giving me a chance to defend this mess? and not give me any legal advice?. I just had her 4 mo ago and i love her so much i stopped my meds so she would be healthy and it was a hard pregnancy, my “worker ” is on vacation and her supervisor and my mother did this to me, i feel like I lost it all and have no where to turn. if anyone can help please email me : belsiviour@yahoo.com I beg of no hate mail nor judgement, but this isnt fair and Clearfield county is awful to deal with the Judge “Ammerman” is very unfair and harsh. I am a real mess with no help if anyone has any ideas please I beg you help me bring my Katie home.
thank you for reading this and Ill say a prayer for all of us.
Comment by Buffy — June 19, 2008 @ 6:50 pm
i understand what you are going through i am now going through alot cps has had my children since sept 13 2007 ive seen my chindren twice since then and it hurts so much ..im sorry that you have to go through this
Comment by britany — June 19, 2008 @ 8:39 pm