Comments on: Calling CPS

By: crystal

crystal — Sat, 23 Feb 2008 23:37:31 +0000

hi can u please call me i need ur help 409-770-3113 and the email isnt real i dont have one.

By: Fern

Fern — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 18:40:00 +0000

Linda, thank you for your Website and for pointing out that hotlining CPS is not a move that someone should undertake without thinking.

And joining the message boards here will help folks.

Also, for folks– politely declining to speak to CPS is a wise move.

Folks if a caseworker knocks on your door, please try to talk with foreknowlege. That is, don’t piss them off….

Youtube has some caseworker videos.

Best to keep your mouth shut and your brains awake.

By: Susan

Susan — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 07:17:45 +0000

I totally agree with Linda. Child Predatory Services have destroyed my family beyond repair. My mother & her ‘partner’ have custody of our 3 kids & show NO signs of giving them back. They only let us have all of them one day a week. Total parental alienation going on here, but we have NO legal help that we so desparately need.

By: MJ

MJ — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 01:33:07 +0000

You can’t fight CPS no matter what you do. Be nice, follow the rules, whatever you like, it won’t get you anywhere. The only thing you can do if CPS comes sniffing around your kids is the same thing you’d do with any other vicious pack of dogs - PACK THEM UP AND RUN LIKE HELL. Courts and lawyers are a waste of time. If you’ve let them get that far, you better just get used to not having your kids, because you’re never getting them back.

They will waste time in court, delay the proceedings, and use any visitation rights you may have with your children to collect evidence against you (and if you do anything, or don’t do anything, or do something, or don’t do something, or if you feed your child or don’t, play with your child or don’t, change a diaper or don’t, it will all be used as evidence that you hate your child and are severely mentally ill to boot). They will say you completed the service plan and then decide arbitrarily that you didn’t complete it “good enough”. They will pay psychologists to write up phony reports on you. They will testify to being afraid for their lives at the knowledge that you continue to draw breath.

In the end, they will claim that they simply don’t know how to do a reunification, even though that’s supposedly their job, and the judge will call that good enough reason to terminate your parental rights. And your lawyer will do nothing at all because if he tries to defend you at all, he’ll lose his job.

This *is* what happens when CPS comes around. So if you even *think* there’s the slightest *chance* they might - RUN.

By: Diando

Diando — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 20:44:47 +0000

Crystal,

Did Linda call you? What is the problem? You are in my area.. I know that by the area code.

By: april

april — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 01:49:10 +0000

Ok first let me start with do not call cps unless the child is being abused,neglected, or its a health issue.
By abuse I mean old school abuse. Not this you’r not allowed to spank you’r child abuse. If you’ve ever had kids you know no 2 are alike. This also goes in forms of disapline.
By neglect I mean is the child not being feed. Not the child dont like to eat because thier a picky eater. Is the child too young to be let alone at home and is often. Is the parents drug abusers or alcholics and do not take of thier children. The bathing thing I hear so much about on web sites i’m 50/50 on. 3 of my 5 have a skin condition. Which the dermitoligist said its not good to give them baths ever day. It’ll dry out thier skin to much and worsen the condition. If I do try not to use soap as less as possable.
By health/medical I mean does the child have a breathing condition and the parents are neglecting the meds kind of thing.
Before you call really figure out whats going on with the child and family. If you truly have the childs best intrest at heart. You need to really go over these things. You owe it to the child. Because once cps is involved they can change the rules at will. And you just might wind up doing worse damange the you thought the parents where inflicting.
As I tell my children and people who ask me for advice on my sight.
Think before you act!!

By: Susan

Susan — Thu, 28 Feb 2008 14:22:30 +0000

MJ said it best. I wish I had that advice & ran like hell when all this started in Aug. of 2005. My own mother should have told me what they were up to so we could have fled. My husband & I completed all their stupid service plans, jumped thru all their hoops, but NOTHING was ever good enough. They are the ultimate abusers because they dangle the hope of getting back the kids like a carrot in front of you, just so they can jerk you around. May they rot in hell!

By: Fern

Fern — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 02:06:34 +0000

Linda, good topic.

Reading some of the other posts brings to mind that families should try NOT to bring children to the ER, unless it is a dire emergency.

If at all possible go to the doctor or clinic where they know you and your child.