Calling CPS

This morning I read something that illustrates perfectly why it is dangerous to call CPS. I’ve tried to tell people this for years, but it is hard to get the word out there to a population of mind-controlled, oh-too-trusting Americans, many of whom are still brainwashed to think that Child Protective Services exists to protect children. Calling CPS can be the worst nightmare you can inflict on parents; it also leads to increased danger and horrible trauma for many, many children.

But for today, let Joe tell us what it is like to seek help from a counselor who called CPS caseworkers, thinking they might be a bunch of benevolent child protecting social workers. Here’s Joe’s Comment.

Before I go on, let me say to Joe – you have my sympathy. At this point you have no choice but to fulfill the service plan requirements as stated in your court order. You’ll have to walk through hell to get out of the nightmare and protect your child. If you need to talk to experienced people about what’s going on in your case, please join the Fight CPS Message Forum.

Now to anyone thinking about calling CPS – PLEASE PEOPLE… put on the brakes. Evaluate the situation. Think about whether the child is actually in any specific danger known to you. Because once you make that call, either you’ll have the frustration of being ignored (about 80% of calls do not result in investigations) or… you may find out you don’t get the results you expected.

In Joe’s case, the counselor expected that Joe’s son would remain with him. As it turned out, he was taken out of his custody for a while. Even though he was the thoughtful parent who reported abuse to a counselor, Joe was accused by CPS social workers of “failure to protect” and now has to complete rigid “service plan” requirements that are using up too many hours each week and threatening his ability to keep his job.

People – this is TYPICAL. This is HOW IT NORMALLY WORKS. I’ve heard from many, many parents who struggled to complete CPS “service plans” only to lose their jobs in the process… and in the wake, they lost their homes, marriages, children . . . everything.

CPS is a FAMILY DESTROYING AGENCY. The people working there may think they are trying to protect children, but given the bad laws and regulations they must abide by, there’s no way they can attempt to protect children without destroying lives, families, jobs, homes, self-esteem of the people involved, and everything else that goes with it.

Please do NOT call CPS. That’s like calling in the devil. If you’re absolutely sure beyond the shadow of any doubt that a child is being severely physically abused, then call the local law enforcement agency – don’t bother calling CPS – the officers will do it if that’s warranted. Don’t ever call CPS for some petty thing. That destroys too many lives and especially traumatizes children, many of whom are injured worse in foster homes than they ever were in their natural family homes.

I like this advice given to a person who considered calling CPS because of a dirty house: CPS and/or Intervention. Need advice.
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Comment by crystal — February 23, 2008 @ 4:37 pm

Linda, thank you for your Website and for pointing out that hotlining CPS is not a move that someone should undertake without thinking.

And joining the message boards here will help folks.

Also, for folks– politely declining to speak to CPS is a wise move.

Folks if a caseworker knocks on your door, please try to talk with foreknowlege. That is, don’t piss them off….

Youtube has some caseworker videos.

Best to keep your mouth shut and your brains awake.

Comment by Fern — February 24, 2008 @ 11:40 am

I totally agree with Linda. Child Predatory Services have destroyed my family beyond repair. My mother & her ‘partner’ have custody of our 3 kids & show NO signs of giving them back. They only let us have all of them one day a week. Total parental alienation going on here, but we have NO legal help that we so desparately need.

Comment by Susan — February 25, 2008 @ 12:17 am

You can’t fight CPS no matter what you do. Be nice, follow the rules, whatever you like, it won’t get you anywhere. The only thing you can do if CPS comes sniffing around your kids is the same thing you’d do with any other vicious pack of dogs – PACK THEM UP AND RUN LIKE HELL. Courts and lawyers are a waste of time. If you’ve let them get that far, you better just get used to not having your kids, because you’re never getting them back.

They will waste time in court, delay the proceedings, and use any visitation rights you may have with your children to collect evidence against you (and if you do anything, or don’t do anything, or do something, or don’t do something, or if you feed your child or don’t, play with your child or don’t, change a diaper or don’t, it will all be used as evidence that you hate your child and are severely mentally ill to boot). They will say you completed the service plan and then decide arbitrarily that you didn’t complete it “good enough”. They will pay psychologists to write up phony reports on you. They will testify to being afraid for their lives at the knowledge that you continue to draw breath.

In the end, they will claim that they simply don’t know how to do a reunification, even though that’s supposedly their job, and the judge will call that good enough reason to terminate your parental rights. And your lawyer will do nothing at all because if he tries to defend you at all, he’ll lose his job.

This *is* what happens when CPS comes around. So if you even *think* there’s the slightest *chance* they might – RUN.

Comment by MJ — February 26, 2008 @ 6:33 pm

Crystal,

Did Linda call you? What is the problem? You are in my area.. I know that by the area code.

Comment by Diando — February 27, 2008 @ 1:44 pm

Ok first let me start with do not call cps unless the child is being abused,neglected, or its a health issue.
By abuse I mean old school abuse. Not this you’r not allowed to spank you’r child abuse. If you’ve ever had kids you know no 2 are alike. This also goes in forms of disapline.
By neglect I mean is the child not being feed. Not the child dont like to eat because thier a picky eater. Is the child too young to be let alone at home and is often. Is the parents drug abusers or alcholics and do not take of thier children. The bathing thing I hear so much about on web sites i’m 50/50 on. 3 of my 5 have a skin condition. Which the dermitoligist said its not good to give them baths ever day. It’ll dry out thier skin to much and worsen the condition. If I do try not to use soap as less as possable.
By health/medical I mean does the child have a breathing condition and the parents are neglecting the meds kind of thing.
Before you call really figure out whats going on with the child and family. If you truly have the childs best intrest at heart. You need to really go over these things. You owe it to the child. Because once cps is involved they can change the rules at will. And you just might wind up doing worse damange the you thought the parents where inflicting.
As I tell my children and people who ask me for advice on my sight.
Think before you act!!

Comment by april — February 27, 2008 @ 6:49 pm

MJ said it best. I wish I had that advice & ran like hell when all this started in Aug. of 2005. My own mother should have told me what they were up to so we could have fled. My husband & I completed all their stupid service plans, jumped thru all their hoops, but NOTHING was ever good enough. They are the ultimate abusers because they dangle the hope of getting back the kids like a carrot in front of you, just so they can jerk you around. May they rot in hell!

Comment by Susan — February 28, 2008 @ 7:22 am

Linda, good topic.

Reading some of the other posts brings to mind that families should try NOT to bring children to the ER, unless it is a dire emergency.

If at all possible go to the doctor or clinic where they know you and your child.

Comment by Fern — February 28, 2008 @ 7:06 pm

YES SUSAN THEY WILL ROT IN HELL PRAISE GOD!!!!!

Comment by SCOTT — June 5, 2008 @ 1:02 pm

Yeah, they’ll rot in hell, but it will be too late to help any of us.

Comment by Lynne — June 5, 2008 @ 1:24 pm

to paul from mn. i know exactly what your gouing through in wright ( wrong) co. 7 yrs ago we had our girls taken away by wrong co. on a lie our older girl told them. now our youngest daughter is in foster care in buffalo mn. i can only see her if i go to human services agency and have our visits video taped. which i refuse to do. i dont need some jackass videotaping me and my daughter visit like i did something wrong NO FRICKING WAY!!! THIS HAS TO BE ONE OF THE MOST FD UP COUNTIES ON THE FACE OF THE EARTH WOULDNT YOU AGREE? DONT COUNT ON IT EVER ENDING. LIKE I SAID WEVE BEEN GOING THROUGH THIS HELL FOR OVER 7 YRS NOW. AND THEY GAVE US THAT SAME LOAD OF CRAP ABOUT REUNIFICATION YRS AGO AND THEN FOR NO REASON THEY SAID NO THEIRS NOT GOING TO BE A REUNIFICATION.i also would love to move out of mn. actually out of this FING CUNTRY!@@@## I HOPE IT WORKS OUT BETTER FOR YOU THAN IT DID FOR US.NOW WEWILL HAVE TO WAIT TIL OUR 12 YR OLD GIRL TURNS 18 AND AGES OUT OF THE SYSTEM. YEAH AND IT DOESNT HELP ANY WHEN YOU HAVE INLAWS THAT ARE AGAINST YOU IN COURT. BECAUSE THEY WILL JUST BELIEVE ALL THEIR LIES. YOU KNOW ONE JUDGE WE CANT STAND THERE IS JUDGE HALSEY HES A REAL PRICK!!! JUDGE MOSSEY ISNT BAD.

Comment by scott a. — November 3, 2008 @ 1:36 pm

LAWYERS WILL DO YOU NO GOOD. WE HAD ONE OF THE VERY FEW THAT HANDLE CPS CASES IN TWIN CITIES BUT HE DID NOTHING FOR US. THEY JUST WANT MONEY MONEY AND MORE MONEY. I WILL NEVER HIRE ANOTHER ONE AGAIN. PLUS A LOT OF TIMES THEY WONT STAND UP TO THE JUDGES THEY JUST BACK DOWN AND THEY DONT SAY ANYTHING YOU WANT THEM TOO. WHAT A JOKE!!! AND IF A LAWYER CANT HELP YOU IN FAMILY DESTRUCTION COURT THEN YOU AINT GOT A PRAYER.

Comment by scott a. — November 3, 2008 @ 1:49 pm

CPS took my baby away and are trying to have false alligations against me in court now there gonna beg for mercy and wish they werent born. Payback, Karma and what goes around comes around is a B*tch and thats my middle name. Us GOOD parents gotta stick together and fight back and not roll over which is what those demons want from us. DO WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!!!

Comment by natalie wiley — November 3, 2008 @ 3:31 pm

Contact me if your having a law suite with CPS I want to here your story and what is going on. 509-326-2275

Comment by natalie wiley — November 3, 2008 @ 3:33 pm

would it be wrong to call if the parent who is not letting the father visist with the child, and that child is not getting the attention he needs to be educated. He is almost 5 and has not even close to any of the skills to make it to kindergarten this year, he buries his head in cartoon movies and plays alone when around other kids. You can tell he is just put in a room to play and doesn’t get to learn much. He is sick all the time, and his little sister is a yr old being set on counter tops and pic-nic benches left with no one around while she snaps pictures. she could fall off any moment and cause major damage.

Comment by bailey — November 27, 2008 @ 1:33 am

I was recently in court regarding one of many false allagations made by The Corrupted Prentending Services. To my shock the Judge told me that they have so much power that they can take my children,put them in foster care & that there is nothing the judge or lawyers can do to get them back.. How can they have that much power? It totally sickens me that they can destroy a family with no regard or meaning & get away with it. I wish there was something I could do to have a large portion of that power ripped away from them.

Comment by Mike — March 1, 2009 @ 5:57 pm

I have only ever called CPS on one person in my life. I’ve called on her twice. Both times CPS set up an appointment to meet with her giving her days to ‘prepare’ for the interview and clean up her apartment. This person is a relative and has lost 3 other children in 3 seperate investigations. Even ICWA wouldn’t assist her in those investigations.

Fourth time around and she still hasn’t learned anything. CPS refused to truly investigate this one because they didn’t want to take yet another child away from her only to have her get pregnant again. I’ve tried to help her, but I refused to sit back and watch her destroy her fourth child.

I ended up testifying against her in her custody battle with the child’s father. At this time the father has temporary custody and she has supervised only visitation.

CPS is the most useless and abusive agency. When the case really needs to be investigated they ignore it, and when there isn’t abuse they make it up.

Comment by Char — March 1, 2009 @ 9:48 pm

I am a singl emom of 3 and I know who called cps on me . But the reason I was givin for them coming is because this person told them I care to much for my children. WTF how does a parent care to much. now I am dealing with cps even though the case person said this was retarded I am still in it. my children are worried because they dont know why this person is asking them sick questions. Tell me is it possible to care to much for your babies? good lord help this world.

Comment by miranda — March 10, 2009 @ 8:00 pm

my children are being physicaly abused by thier father and he has full custody of they due to knowing the cps people VERY well, teachers, babysitters, friends, etc have reported to cps the abuse along with myself and my family and nothing ever comes of it other me going to jail for interferance or not being able to see my babies, what do i do and who do i contact? WE NEED HELP BAD!! louisville, ky

Comment by jhade — March 11, 2009 @ 2:32 am

You all would never believe the messed up story of our lives!I had to fight cps/Detectives to get my 10 yr old out of my house,he molested my 2 yr old his whole life.This rotten county wanted him to stay home.I pressed for charges,no one got this kid.He’s manipulative,iq of 120.He gets all the naieve people eating out of his hands,and almost the smart ones.No one would believe me even therapists!!POOR KID was all they could say about the preditor!!I wouldn’t let him go to school,I had to be a prison guard in my own home tho,he would malest my son under the dinner table.I locked him up in his room.County didn’t care.I finally called another county to get him out of my house.See they didn’t want to pay out money,so they placed him in voluntary placement…we pay!!Then a false allegation during a domestic between my husband &i,now my hubby charged with 2nd degree sex mis conduct,I want to write a book about all of it,it sickens me.Well my husband was blessed to have a wise judge,and the case was dissmissed.PRAISE THE LORD!!!I We had a detective who um…duhh..uh…just was uh…yeah ….real smart if yu get my drift.All of Wrong county is jacked,I would love to fill everyone in on all of it,like how when my hus went to turn himself in on the warrent,the police told him come back tomorrow-you missed the 6am court.HUH????Oh how bout the SAME det who didnt charge my son,doesn’t bother looking under the alleged door!!!!!!!!!!
!He stated he didn’t need to look,a 4yr old could see,that;s good enough.Problem tho,they never tested the theory!!JOKE what a joke,my neighbors have filled me in on some other scary stories.So I decided to go to STAR TRIBUNE to give them our story. WE ARE!! Wright County watch out baby….all of ya : > )

Comment by mn wrong county — December 3, 2009 @ 7:17 pm

The fact of the matter is, most parents CPS are called on put themselves before their children, exploit their children for government aid, or willingly ignore their children due to substance abuse. It’s sad that a site like this exists to assist in the continued abuse of those children. Everyone’s got a story, everyone has some hearsay they want to dump on the pile. It’s just venting because someone called all these parents on their complete and utter failure at parenting. Clearly the site is biased, and discussion exposing fallacy in the arguments based here are censored. Sad indeed.

Comment by John Smith — December 25, 2009 @ 10:28 pm

John, I’m not censoring your comment but I do believe you’re blind to the truth.

Comment by LindaJoMartin — December 30, 2009 @ 12:01 pm

A friend of mine has been involved with CPS for about a year. The first CPS Specialist visited her each week and helped her with support groups, classes and services for her and her children. The second specialist has done none of this and threatens to put her children in Foster care every time she asks a question or makes a comment to try something different. Currently there is only a volunteer safety plan and the CPS specialist keeps telling the Mother that the Biological Father needs nothing to keep the child even though the court order always trumps the safety plan. I have advised her to get an attorney but she doesn’t have alot of money. I have given her the list of attorneys from this site in hope one will at least listen to her and make payment arrangements with her. She is no angel by any means but her rights, her children’s rights and the current court order has been violated on a number of fronts….I have looked at the CPS site and there is to date no area to make a reasonable complaint. Is there one? Or is there any thing that anyone could or would suggest? I thank you for your time in this matter!! Best Regards to you all!

Comment by Janet — January 1, 2010 @ 5:52 pm

Janet, I would seek out a state cps ombudsman and state legislators to make complaints to.

Comment by LindaJoMartin — January 1, 2010 @ 11:21 pm

I JUST WISH ALL THE JOHN SMITHS OF THIS WORLD WOULD SHUT THEIR MOUTHS IF THEY HAVE NEVER BEEN THROUGH THE HELL OF GETTING KIDS TAKEN AWAY ON LIES. IF YOU HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED IT. OR NO NOTHING ABOUT CPS AND THEIR EVIL WAYS THEN SHUT YOUR MOUTH! SEE THATS WHY I WISH SOME PEOPLE LIKE THIS COULD EXPIERENCE THIS KIND OF HELL WE ARE GOING THROUGH THEN I PROMISE YOU THEY WOULD SHUT THEIR MOUTHS!!!

Comment by SCOTT A. — February 7, 2010 @ 1:04 pm

Scott, I identify with your pain.

Comment by LindaJoMartin — February 8, 2010 @ 9:41 pm

Linda,

Today CPS showed up at my house. My daughter is 8 months old and has struggled with her weight since 2 months. She weighs 14lbs 3oz. We have taken her to specialists, doctors and even put her on formula supplements that should be helping her gain weight.

Someone called CPS and told them that we were neglecting our daughter, abusing her and that is why she will not gain weight.

My heart is heavy as I write this. Who would do such a thing to my family? My daughter is my life, my world…I can’t imagine why someone would put a family through this pain needlessly.

Reading these stories brings fear to my heart. We cannot lose our daughter. Is there anything we can do to prepare for what we are about to go through? We have taken the BEST care of her we know how to and under no circumstance has she ever faced abuse, neglect or gone with wanting.

Please help. I am so incredibly afraid of what the future with CPS involved holds.

Comment by Cheryl — March 11, 2010 @ 9:06 am

Cheryl, write to all your health care providers for copies of your daughter’s medical records. Also, get a lawyer ASAP. The one most helpful factor in stopping a CPS case at the investigation stage is to have a legal representative that CPS will have to deal with.

Comment by LindaJoMartin — March 11, 2010 @ 12:10 pm

hi,
i am doing a project in school on cps and i would like to know the rating of reports to cps that are fake….first off the project is picking a topic in the comunity that needs to improve and i personaly think that is cps. if anyone knows more information i would love it because it is a project and it would help my grade a lot.
~melissa~

Comment by melissa — April 7, 2010 @ 11:15 am

Melissa, I’m not sure how many are fake, but I do know that they don’t follow up on 80% of the calls they get. And many of the others are looked into but dropped after talking to the parents and seeing the children.

Comment by Linda Martin — April 7, 2010 @ 11:40 am

hello
after hearing it all, and being dragged through it the past 7 years or so off and on, i can tell you the only one that should be making determinations of abuse are the police, using real standards of real abuse and then they should have a 3 tier system like cps. a cps worker’s only goal is to build a case on you as soon as they walk in the door. dont be cooperative and say little. its hard to get my gf to understand that. nobody is perfect and once they start digging they might find something so horrible on you ( such as smoking marijuana in the backyard). something like that could follow you for years, even after completing a ” treatment plan” where a hardcore alchy/ bum might say ” whyre u here?”
i jumped through all the hoops in 2009, including 4 months of meetings that wrecked my schedule and kept me from finishing a semester of college, not that they care. and dont be surprised if the worker they send is either a gay man or lesbian, someone with no clue on raising even one child, let alone 6, and all the accompanying headaches to go with it. in some cities people just like to call on people to get them in trouble with these cps nazi’s, its all a big joke, and most have no clue about raising a big family. i agree with the system in the state of PA. there they give you the name of the person that called at least. im sure theres a lot less abuse of the system going on there. i agree they ( cps) are fulfilling the devil’s agenda whether they know it or not, and if they think your a Christian, if they get even the slightest whiff of it, they’ll surely try to nail you. the rejects they send to your homes are only 1 level of the three tier system. you can run, but someone will just end up ratting you wherever you go ( some in law piece of garbage, etc). when your other half is selling you down the river it gets tricky, especially if theyre mentally retarded and the worker “questions” ( interrogates) them. good luck people. if your other half is unreliable its even tougher. after moving 3 times in the past year to get away from these monsters i guess theyre showing up again tomorrow, seemingly to see why the kids have been switched to another school so soon. here we go again.

Comment by terrance — June 23, 2010 @ 1:41 pm

After I get mine done I am opening an anti DCS business.

I need to know how to get the word out, how to distribute fliers that won’t go to DCS.

I am going to do this. I am going to tell all parents. DO NOT ANSWER DOOR, act like you are not home. If a stranger pulls up and you are outside, go in, lock all doors. Once DCS leaves, they are to call me so I can go assess any problem that DCS may perceive to be a problem. (Such as not so clean house, etc). I will then take the kids to my home, show them EXACTLY how they need to clean the home (regardless what is going on in their life) and then once they are ready for DCS they can let them in.

Another trick, is if your DCS has an appointment, TAKE YOUR KIDS SOMEWHERE until it is over. If DCS comes to you about a messy house, they cannot say a word if you tell them your child is on vacation.!

I see families all the time that are targets for this and unfortunately most case workers perceive a “dirty” house as one that is “lived” in.

Today my case worker told me she could clearly see that my house was not as what the first caseworker told her office about my home. But still had the nerve to say my home was dirty. I don’t see how displaced items is dirty, and I do not see cleaning house as a reason to remove children and that is what happened to me, yeah, I was cleaning house, moving bedrooms around, they came right in the middle and would not leave me alone until I let them in.

Case worker today says “why did you let her in then?”…lol, heck that was 6 months ago, I was tired, I was cold and I didnt feel good after arguing for 50 minutes I had give up. To me, that is still coercion. No, means NO! (GO HOME, LEAVE ME ALONE, IN OTHER WORDS, SHOW ME A WARRANT…LOL)

Comment by Mommie — July 1, 2010 @ 5:22 pm

I am fighting with the idea of calling CPS for someone i love…but i am not sure what else there is to do. There kids are left home alone ALOT and when they do get home they yell and say hateful things to them. The dad will leave them alone and not tell them even where hes going. They do not make dinners or any kind of food for them but once in a great while. One of the kids told me that dad says to eat scraps. Two of these kids were molested and never reported by the parents. There is no hot water in the house and the kids rarely are given showers. They have mouse poop in there cupboards with there dishes .They beat on each other and are just threatened by there parents. Its possible the parents could be doing meth again as there are signs that they are. What do i do? how do you know if your reason is legit to call?

Comment by nick — July 27, 2010 @ 5:09 am

Nick, you could tell the parents you’re going to help by taking care of the children for a while until they get their acts together. If you tell them the only other thing you can think of to do is call CPS it may convince them to get their acts together. Either that, or skip town. In general children will not thank you for calling CPS and breaking up their families. They love their parents deeply and dearly no matter how bad they are. Having them put into non-relative foster care and eventually adopted out will traumatize them severely for life. Once you make the call to CPS it is out of your hands and strangers will decide the fate of the children.

Comment by Linda Martin — July 31, 2010 @ 5:42 pm

I dont know what to do, One of my children live with the “other” parent. That i know of he is not being Physically abused. I have told the “other” parent that basically if they can take care of him things will go further. I pay child support, see the child when possible(in the military so sometimes overseas) If he needs clothes i get them all the time. I have noticed that they have parties ( with alcohol) every weekend and get drunk. With my child there. Plus they r smoking pot in the house w/ my child in the house. I do not want to have to take my child from teh “other” parent ecspecially by CPS… what else can i do? Do u think that thers even a case?

Comment by CJG — November 16, 2010 @ 3:20 pm

GJG – when you get out of the military and can provide a stable home, it would be good for your child if you could live near him. If things are not going well in his home at that time, file for custody in family court. I don’t recommend calling CPS because your child could get adopted out to strangers. Children are usually better off in marginal homes than in foster and adoptive homes, which have proven to be dangerous. More information here: Divorce, Separation, Child Custody, and Child Protective Services (CPS)

Comment by Linda Martin — November 17, 2010 @ 8:56 am

Before I begin, I am a 17 year old girl. I have not been abused by my family, nor have either of my sisters.

This guy has been harassing me for a while. Threatening me into doing things for him (generally not sexually) and well the point is, he’s threatening to call CPS on my family if I don’t do as he says. I have old scars on my arms from when I was younger(stupid 15 year old girl drama) and I have already gotten psychiatric help for it, yet he says he can call them and tell them any lie he’d like and because of those scars they will listen to anything he says.

Can he actually do this?

* – Not my actual name

Comment by Jezebel* — January 13, 2011 @ 10:33 pm

Jezebel, yes, he can do that. If I were you I’d discuss it with my parents and go to the police to report the threat.

Comment by Linda Martin — January 14, 2011 @ 10:46 am

CPS came to my house one week ago. Unfortunately, I did not know of the info on this site; so, I was compliant and polite, and I let the caseworker in. The report said I denied my children food. She asked a few questions, and I answered, but didn’t volunteer any info. Upon leaving, she said everything seemed fine to her, but that she would call my husband on Tuesday. She has yet to call or come back. What is going on? What should I do?

Comment by Emily — January 21, 2011 @ 1:45 pm

Emily, don’t panic! Maybe they’re going to drop the case. If your children are still with you that means she didn’t see any immediate danger. She probably has to talk to both parents and see the children before she can close a case.

Comment by Linda Martin — January 22, 2011 @ 2:03 pm

at around 530 a.m. as i was trying to put my daughter down, i tripped and fell. landing her on her little head, she did end up with fracture to her skull. to the hospital we go, where they end up mixing up the whole story (including my being asked about the car wreck she was just in!!). cps gets involved b/c the injuries were ‘inconclusive’ where a fall is concerned, so she is removed from my custody and is with my mom. what am i supposed to do to ensure I get my little lamb back!?! they asked me how i disiplne her (she is 7 mo old… really!?!), and if i was tired (at 530 in the a.m… REALLY!?!) etc. anyone who knows me or my baby knows how laughable this situation is… what now?

Comment by r — February 27, 2011 @ 10:57 am

It would take an excessively long post to describe the situation I see. Can you email me so I can explain it and get advise? Thanks!

Comment by Dan — April 16, 2011 @ 10:36 am

Dan, you’re welcome to get feedback on your situation by registering and posting at our message board: http://forum.fightcps.com – please do not send me a private message there as you will be getting better feedback by presenting your issues to the community. Some of the people there have better answers than I do, IMHO.

Comment by Linda Martin — April 16, 2011 @ 11:56 am

My mom is mentally ill, and has been treated for bi-polar for over 7 years. She has physically abused me and my sister growing up. Due to her rage, past abuse, and unstable moods I decided to only allow supervised visits with me when she is with my 2yr old. She is very controlling and She doesn’t like my rule and has threatened to call CPS to “have my daughter taken away to hurt me”. She said she would tell them i have depression and am incapable of taking care of her. What can i do to prevent this from happeneing? Where can i go to report her threat? Is there any laws agianst people calling CPS to purposely hurt someone?

Comment by Lisa — September 23, 2011 @ 8:43 pm

Lisa, vindictive parents make CPS calls frequently, and ruin their children’s happiness. If I were you I’d move away from your mom and not bother to tell her where you’re going — to another state, hopefully. Any mother who would threaten to call CPS on her daughter doesn’t (in my opinion) need to have contact with that family anymore. Sorry to tell you this. I love family unity. But I don’t think it’s right to have to worry about CPS showing up.

And no, there are no laws to prevent people from calling CPS with false accusations. At best you could take someone to court later on if you could prove it, but that’s very hard to do.

Comment by Linda Martin — September 26, 2011 @ 12:52 pm

Thank you for replying. I am deeply saddened that is there is nothing I can to to stop her threat. I have since then moved out, she does not know where I live, and I have never spoken to her since the threat. It has only been two months since her threat, but I am severely afraid of what she can do, knowing my father knows where I now live, though he has promised to never to tell her. I am not even being treated for depression nor do I have it, but I am extremely angry that someone can make completely false accusations to CPS and there is no punishment for people doing so. I have informed every family member of her threat and her false accusations, and when confronted she says he wouldn’t do it but is only threatening me to control me. I have thought about going to the police and filing an order of protection based on her threat but I am worried it could only hurt me in the end. I can only hope that “if” CPS was called they would be able to see that I am a Great Mother and leave me alone. I have a wonderful clean very organized apartment, Working husband, No criminal past (only a seat-belt violation when i was 16) absolutely no drug use, and excessive food in the cabinets… is this even good enough? To anyone reading this comment, lawyers, lawmakers, politicians, case workers, PLEASE we need to do something to help families of false accusations to CPS.

Comment by Lisa — October 2, 2011 @ 12:57 pm

In July 2011, I got a call from a 21 yr old woman I had known for a few yrs. (She was an ex-school mate of my oldest son)She called to tell me, her 10 month old baby had been ill and she had no place to live.I moved her into our home.Since she been at my home,the baby was still ill so I told her he needed to see a Dr.She refused to take him,so I took him to my own fam Pedi office.While at the office, the Dr checked the med history of the baby.The baby had never seen a dr since birth & was behind on everything.Bottom line is while I was at the Dr’s office,the Dr filed a report with CPS on her.The girl then moved out of my home,back to grandma’s house in another city.Well,grandmom sends me an email threat stating she will now file a false report on me to get even for CPS coming after her grand-daughter.I never filed a report on this girl.This will be the second report on file for this young woman.Her own mother filed a report on her before, as well as her grandfather. So now what do i do?Should I conatct CPS myself and tell them I have proof of the grandmother’s threat?That I was in the Dr’s office, when the Dr filed a report? I am so scared. I don’t want these ppl on my doorstep. Any advice?

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Comment by Glenny — December 2, 2011 @ 5:55 pm

Hey, my name is Jess, and if you aren’t prepared for a long story of a girl explaining her situation and asking for help, I suggest you stop reading.
I am a 15 year old girl in 10th grade. When I was little, my grandma fought and won custody of me because my parents were drug dealers. I’ve lived with my grandma (who is now 59 years old) since I was just 2, and it’s just me and her.
I’ve kept this secret inside me, hiding it from the world my whole life, until now.
She’s always hit me when she’s gotten mad at me. But it’s never been this bad before.
I am depressed and have severe anxiety, causing me to sometimes not be able to participate in everyday activities, such as going to school. I go to school and I try to push through, as everyone tells me to. But some days it is just too hard to deal with, and I can’t go because I know that if I do, I will break down crying in the middle of class. (I have major depression). I just started on a new antidepressant because my last ones weren’t working for me. I’m also on a pill for ADHD (attentiveness type).
Anyway my mom basically went through the same thing, choosing the WRONG path once she got to 9th grade, she became rebellious (i.e started taking drugs, drinking, hanging out with drug dealers, bringing home very “bad boys”, and by that I mean law breakers and one who later in his life ended up murdering someone and stealing their car.) anyway I won’t explain the whole story of when and how I got taken away from her and my dad, but my mom is dead, (died when I was in second grade, I hadn’t been seeing her though) now because of drug overdose and the last time I saw my father was when I was 2.
The point of that though, is that my grandma see’s me going down the same path that my mom did. It makes her very angry, when she see’s me doing something like not going to school. I really try for her, I’ve tried so hard no one has any idea. She hits me when she gets mad. As I said, she always has, but that was more like getting spanked a few times or hit in the arm. It’s been much much worse since I’ve gotten older.
Some things that she does would be- punching my arm/shoulder with all the strength she has about 5 times, bashing her fist/knuckles into my head, grabbing my hair and ripping on it, throwing objects at me, digging the car keys or her nails into my skin, scratching me, slapping, punching my back with the keys in her hands (causing me to get cuts or scratches).
Now, this is not on a daily basis. How often this happens is different all the time, it just depends on when she gets angry. There have been times where I haven’t been hit for a few weeks, but then there are times where it’s happened four times in one week. I used to not think of it as anything, but now I’m seeing bruises rise to my skin, scratch marks, bleeding, and I’m starting to think this is abuse.
Anyway I looked up the CPS just because I wanted to know what it was about, and what kind of stuff happens when you call.
I go for counseling for my depression and anxiety, and I’m very trusting towards one of my group therapy leaders that I used to go to. She’s always there for me, but I know that if I tell her or talk to her about what’s going on, she will call CPS. It’s a rule they have, and my grandma’s closest friend is the main leader of the group therapy. She told us though, that if they ever heard about a situation that is dangerous, they would LEGALLY have to interfere.
My grandma is all I have. My sister and adopted brother live with my cousins, who live three hours away, along with the rest of my family (aunt’s, uncles, the rest of my grandparents, etc.). My great grandma is 96 now and my grandma and I drive there for holidays to see our family, and so that I can see my sister, who is my best friend.
I know my grandma hurts me, but she’s also done so much for me, this is why I don’t know how to deal with this. She switched me from public school to private school last year, which we did NOT have the money for and had to borrow from family, and our close family friend helped pay the tuition also. It was a huge struggle, but I know she did it for me because she asked me, “if there was one thing to make you happy again, what would it be”. And I had said, “to go to HD” (the private school). Then she told me, “then we’ll have to find a way”. Now this may sound very greedy on my part, but I can’t even begin to describe what agony I was in at that time.
She’s taken me to therapists, payed for my medication, taken me to doctors appointments, had blood tests done on me, payed for vitamins (I’m not physically well), payed for my school supplies, clothes, art supplies, guitar, dance lessons when I was younger, buys me Christmas presents, feeds me, buys my books, animal care supplies, everything. She pays for ME in general. Also payed for me to go to a private school for all 8 years before high school. And I know she’ll continue to help me get into college and all that.
I would be in a foster home if it wasn’t for her!
I’m supposed to be at school right now. I am at home aching from earlier this morning. I had slept in this morning by accident, and I was late getting ready for school and my grandma had an appointment with her boss, which we had to leave early for. So she came in and hit/punched me while i was crouched in the corner of my bathroom. I was screaming for at least a good 5 minutes. Once she left the room I slammed the door and locked it. She was soon out the house and driving away.
I took my shirt off and looked at my back in the mirror where I had been hit. I had huge red marks from where she struck me, and was bleeding from where her key had dug into my back. My head was aching from being punched at the back of my neckline.
Do I stay quiet about this? And please don’t tell me to just “talk to someone”, because talking to someone would mean getting CPS involved because no one I know would let that go on. If I’m going to tell someone I trust, I might as well call CPS myself.

Anyway, sorry for the long comment, I really hope that someone takes the time to read and respond to it though, this is the first time I’ve tried to seek help for it.

Comment by Jess — December 15, 2011 @ 7:26 am

Jess, I can understand why you don’t want to call CPS. You might get into a good foster home or they might force you to go on drugs. It is hard to know what might happen! But you are being abused and should not have to live that way. I understand you are grateful for what your grandmother did for you. I am wondering if the family that is taking care of your sister could take care of you too. If not, maybe you have friends whose parents would take you in. Could you ask around? Many families are very generous by welcoming in teenagers who are having problems at home – that’s fairly common. Tell them you don’t want to call CPS, but you need another place to stay. You could write your grandmother a letter thanking her for all the good she’s done but also telling her you can’t remain living with someone who hits you. That’s totally understandable. Much love to you – I hope you find the help you need – a good family to live with.

Comment by Linda Martin — December 15, 2011 @ 2:55 pm

Just found out that my husband’s ex is friends with CPS worker that has been to our home to interogate us and our children because of false allegations on her part. Is there anyone we can report that to?

Comment by stephanie — February 26, 2012 @ 1:25 pm

Stephanie, you could tell your county board of supervisors (supervisor for your section of the county), the judge (in your legal declaration) if this goes to court, your attorney of course, and write a letter to the county personnel department about that employee. That’s a good start. Anyhow, that’s probably what I’d do. I might also write a letter to my state legislator about it (he’d make a call to the state head of social services and from the top down there’d be people to answer to – your local social service people would hate that)… and under some circumstances I might write a letter to the editor of the local newspaper. I’m not saying it is entirely appropriate for you to do all these things; please follow your heart!! Do what YOU think is best for your family! But that’s pretty much what I’d do in a similar situation. One thing for sure, staying quiet and taking the abuse without saying anything to anyone is likely to make the bullies think you’re easy to take advantage of and walk all over.

Comment by Linda Martin — February 26, 2012 @ 6:22 pm

First of all cps usually doesn’t take u away. Cps was called for us 8 times. It took my dad to put a gun to my head and say ur gonna f***ing die . So sometimes it’s necessary

Comment by Shasta — March 23, 2012 @ 11:37 am

Calling CPS

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