Don’ts and Dos when Falsely Accused of Child Abuse or Neglect
The following article was written by a dear friend of mine in 1995. She told me then I could circulate this, but asked that I don’t use her name. I know the file is online elsewhere with her name, but I’ll exclude it because she asked me not to use it, at the time. I met her when she started using computer bulletin board systems to get information helpful to her CPS case. I owned a computer bulletin board system (using FidoNet) at the time. She lived only a few miles from me and we got together and became friends before I left the Bay Area. She worked mainly with VOCAL and some attorneys to get her step-child home from foster care, so you’ll see references to NASVO and VOCAL in the following article. I don’t know if the NASVO contact phone number is still useful as this is now a twelve year old article! However it contains some good information, and I’d like to know what you think of the suggestions she gives. - LJM
Don’ts and Dos when Falsely Accused of Child Abuse or Neglect
Don’t Invite Law Enforcement or Social Services Into Your Home Without a Warrant
This action waives your right under illegal search and seizure under the Constitution. This will allow them to come into your home at ANY TIME and search and seize your children or belongings.
Don’t Speak To Anyone About Your Case Without First Consulting A Lawyer. Everything You Say Can and Will Be Used Against You
If you cannot afford a lawyer one will be appointed to you if you are arrested. No attorney will be appointed to you if this is a civil case (family law). In some states, attorneys are appointed to parents in juvenile dependency court. You should call the local Bar Association or legal information service nearest you for this information.
Don’t Contact the Alleged Victim, Their Family, or Prosecution Witnesses
Any and all such contact will be construed as an attempt to bribe or threaten the alleged victim into silence or recantation. Such contact must be done through a PRIVATE INVESTIGATOR who will work through or with your attorney.
Don’t Turn To Drugs or Alcohol
Such substances are habit forming and are depressants. They can cause you to jeopardize your case.
Do Go Attorney Shopping
Seek out an attorney who is EXPERIENCED IN CHILD ABUSE CASES (specifically false cases). For assistance, contact your local VOCAL or call NASVO at (916) 863-7470. If you cannot afford an attorney, one will be appointed to you in criminal court. If you are in civil court (family), you must pay for your own attorney. Depending on the state, you may or may not be appointed an attorney in juvenile dependency court.
Do Hire A Private Investigator
Some attorneys have their own in house investigators. Some do not, and IT IS CRUCIAL THAT AN INVESTIGATOR BE IMMEDIATELY ASSIGNED TO YOUR CASE. If your attorney does not provide one, call NASVO for references.
Do Keep A Daily Journal
Such a journal should document everything you do or where you go and people who see you or are with you. Keep receipts of purchases to keep evidence of activities. Back date a journal by going through canceled checks, photos, letters and holiday experiences. Try to remember and reconstruct everything you did and where you were at the time of the allegation. Give this information to your investigator (and attorney). This can provide evidence.
Do Strip Search the Child’s Room, if the Accusing Child Lived in Your Home
This can provide proof as to your child’s activities and sexual and social habits. Look for notes, letters, diaries, photos, telephone numbers, drug or sexual paraphernalia. Provide findings to your investigator (and your attorney).
Do Keep Active
Physical and social activity are healthy and will assist in keeping depression at bay.
Do Pay Your Attorney or Investigator
The people you hire for your defense are professionals and will work toward finding a solid defense. It is advisable to ALWAYS ENTER INTO A CONTRACT AGREEMENT FOR FEES. This sets the boundaries of your agreement and protects both you and your defense professional from failure. If you have problems about your proposed contract, call NASVO.
Poor people can’t afford private lawyers and private investigators. This is unfortunate.
Yes, don’t talk to people unnecessarily.
CPS committed perjury on a petition in family court one month, and the next month those falsified records were used against someone else in Circuit Court in another locality the following month. The subject of those false allegations was not even there to defend herself, and neither was her lawyer.
This shows how false information can be used against people, even if they are not aware of it.
Comment by Janet — September 4, 2007 @ 11:26 am
DO HAVE A VIDIO CAMERA READY, THE MINUTE YOU LEARNED THAT YOU ARE BEING INVESTIGATED,AND DO USE IT, BUT LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE USING THE CAMERA, MAKE SURE IT HAS BLANK TAPE , I BEEN THERE AND IDID VIDIO TAPE CPS AND THE POLICE, CASE DID GOT DISMISSED, NOT ONCE BUT TWICE.
Comment by Sam — September 4, 2007 @ 4:14 pm
CPS is a total Fraud! Their pattern and practice is similar in just about all frivolous cases. They of course LIE steal your children and defraud the federal government by mortgaging your children out to the abusive foster industry not to mention all the BS reports they fabricate to discredit you in that phony court\bank their financial tribunal agenda they have oh! Let’s not forget the Nazi like crap they do by screwing with your visits and braking their own WIC codes and policies they have no checks and ballances so who are you going to tell? They even have law enforcment serve them as personal body guards these evil people who try to disenfranchise mothers from children should be drug out in the street and shot or beaten STAND UP PEOPLE! Let’s take our kids back and our laws and our country quit letting Terrorists like
CPS make big money off the backs of our children! Don’t stand for this anymore! That’s why they do it is because we let them! And we find them with our tax dollars too!
Comment by julie — September 4, 2007 @ 4:19 pm
I totally agree with all your comments! Julie, it’s gonna take something very drastic like a caseworker or a corrupt judge (or GAL, their whores of the court too) to get SHOT. Maybe then the rest of the world would notice what an evil corrupt child for profit system this is! I was also told to audiotape them if you don’t have a camcorder - mine doens’t work. I wish I was smart and had known to take these steps when the childless evil intake worker bitch, Carrie Porter, weaseled her way into my home and ruined my family! My attorney, whom we are paying for, is a douchebag whore of the court as well. I should have gotten one from out of this backwards homo loving hellhole of a town. I am so sick of this INJUSTICE. Canon City Colorado is the 4th Reich. DHS/CPS has their paws on everything here, and the stupid newspaper only prints GOOD things about them. This is sickening!
Comment by Susan — September 5, 2007 @ 6:30 am
When the woman who wrote this article had a CPS case open, she went several times to the County Board of Supervisors meetings to report on what was going on. This is especially effective if you have a lot of families willing to do it at the same time. Everyone got about three minutes to speak… but it was televised throughout our county. I’ve found a lot of help from the supervisor for my part of the county. Get that person on your side and you have a powerful ally with some say over what happens in a county agency like CPS.
Another good ally to make is your state legislator. That person may not be able to change CPS laws (those are federal in origin) but s/he will be able to put pressure from the top on how the laws are implemented in your case. If you have specific complaints about a caseworker, the state legislator would be the person to tell. When I took that route, my state legislator went straight to the head of social services for our state. That office put pressure on our local office, and I was no longer harassed.
Comment by Linda — September 5, 2007 @ 7:53 am
Julie, I appreciate the words you use for a description of CPS.
Aptly chosen.
Mortgaging, *frivolous cases* etc.
The middle class is imperiled now even more by CPS- since folks are beginning to understand the REACH OF CPS * interventions*
The lady from Colorado should Google *Suzanne Shell*.
Ms. Shell has been fighting for famiies in CO, as an advocate, not an attorney, for years.
Check out her book “Profane Justice”
I am not related to Suzanne, nor a shill for her. However, her books are worth the small investment.
Pass ‘em on to a friend.
And Linda, you are the best in my book…….Thanks again for your advocacy on behalf of families.
Comment by Fern — September 6, 2007 @ 5:17 am
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Comment by suzanne shell website — September 6, 2007 @ 8:51 am
I HAVE BEEN IN THE WRATH OF CPS. MY CHILDREN WERE TAKEN FROM ME AND ARE WITH MY PARENTS DUE TO I WAS IN A BAD MARRIAGE BUT WAS NOT A BAD MOTHER NOW DIVORCED I AM IN A HEATED BATTLE WITH CPS TO OBTAIN CUSTODY BACK. I DO NOT KNOW WHERE TO TURN TO GET HELP. I HAVE SPENT HOURS ON THE INTERNET LOOKING FOR GUIDANCE. I AM NOT ABLE TO HIRE AN ATTORNEY. WHERE DO WE GO FOR HELP. CPS HAS NEARLY BROKEN ME DOWN. THEY ARE QUICK TO REMOVE CHILDREN REALLY WITHOUT ANY INVESTIGATION.
LOST IN LOUISVILLE, KY.
Comment by GWEN — September 6, 2007 @ 10:13 am
http://books.google.com/books?um=1&lr=&q=kids+taken+from+home+by+cps&btnG=Search+Books
and your local law libary
and google its called learning
Comment by suzanne shell website — September 6, 2007 @ 9:27 pm
Please support my petition against CPS.
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/petition/658401450
Comment by D. John — September 7, 2007 @ 12:38 pm
Can someone please help me understand how CPS (Alabama) can remove a 12 year old from the home based on a called in report of neglect without any investigation? The false report was called in by an estranged family member who also happens to be a felon and is currently on probation. Although the allegations in the report were proved in a court of law to be untrue, at the time they were made, CPS called the mother of the child and requested for her to submit to a drug screen. No investigation was done and nobody from CPS ever visited the home. The mother passed the urine screen but failed the hair sample which goes back several months and proves she did have drugs in her system at some point several months prior. It did not prove she had neglected her child at all. How can this agency require us to submit urine and hair samples to decide if we have neglected our children if we have never been convicted or even arrested for breaking a law? Can anyone tell me how a child can be taken away from a mother who does not have a criminal past nor any problems with drug abuse in her past and it all be based on the word of a convicted felon? I can understand an investigation being conducted and an inspection of the home but this was not done. Having to submit to testing that goes back over the last several months was the first thing done. They use the results as their proof that you neglected your child when all it really reveals is what we did or did not do. Is it proof that the child was in our care at the time and was being neglected when it doesnt give you a specific time and date when the drugs entered the body. Something is not right about the results of the testing determining whether you have neglected your child and the very next day CPS being able to show up with law enforcement and take your child away from you WITHOUT a judges court order. How did CPS get this much power? It is real close to being just like illegal search and seizure with no probable cause! The law says this cannot be done! But it is…….
Comment by Jill — September 7, 2007 @ 8:56 pm
Jill, CPS workers such as the ones you describe assume they have more power than they really do, by law. But because they assume it and because most young parents are clueless about what the Constitution and other laws state, they think they must do what these child welfare agents tell them to do. They think they will be okay because they’re innocent, but they get dragged into the system and taken advantage of. That’s why this website is here - to try to balance the scales of justice just a bit and give young parents a few bits of legal information that might save their families. You can talk more about your situation with the people on the message board here. You’re on the right track, viewing this as illegal search and seizure, a violation of the 4th Amendment of the US Constitution. Many people have successfully sued social service agents and agencies in federal courts, on the basis of Constitutional violations.
Comment by Linda — September 8, 2007 @ 1:29 am
I live in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma where almost a month ago CPS took my son from his daycare for bruising that he DID NOT have when I got him dressed that morning. They asked m no questions and I was not allowed to examine these markings they said I left on my son. He is four and has already lost his father earlier this year to suicide. Now he is still in some foster home and I have not seen him since that day the C”Protective”S took him. They have ruind my live and took the only thing I have to live for and for what? I am now on antidepressants and have probably lost my job that I have had for almost three years. They are filing no charges against me but I still have not gotten him back. What am I suppose to do? Hope that they wake up feeling generous one day and give him back? During the investigation, which is now over, they didn’t even speak to my room mate about any of this and she lives with me!!! Can anyone help me? I’m lost!
Comment by Anya — September 11, 2007 @ 1:20 pm
CPS is asking me to submit to a hair follicle test. I am getting conflicting advise. I do not feel I have anything to worry about, but have heard the test is not always correctly done. Should I even submit to this invasion of privacy. I have no record of any drug/alcohol use and feel sure an angry family member made the false report. klwain2@yahoo.com
Comment by Luci — October 3, 2007 @ 12:25 pm
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Comment by Bleu — October 13, 2007 @ 11:04 am
HELP! My best friends who are great parents have been dealing with a difficult 12 year who has ADHD. She told the school that she was terrified of going home and they took both her and the youngest who is only 18 months old away this weekend. I would have never thought this possible. What do they do?
Comment by Elizabeth Hull — November 3, 2007 @ 8:24 pm
A good friend of mine is having a hard time with CPS. She have two girls one is 2 and the other one is 5.
Back in April, her boyfriend (at that time) was keeping the kids while she was at work. We all grew up together and we both know for a fact he would not do anything to harm those girls.
Well, the 2 year old was washing her hands, and the water was hot. You know kids that age doesnt automatically pull their hands out of the water when its or turning hot, which caused 3rd degree burns. They took her to the hospital and my friend momma called DHR and they immediately took them out of her custody, and gave tme to her momma. They did not do a background check, cause if they did, they would find that my friend mother is a 3 time felony and she dont even have custody of her own kids which is 11 and 16. Nor did they do a home visit. Last week, the 2 year old burned herself on a electric heater and the burn starts from the wrist and goes up her arm. They did not contact the mother nor did they let her see her child. When she called CPS they said that it is not as bad as she thinks. She is having a hard time finding a attorney to work deal with her case. They either do not work those type of cases or they charge too much.
Comment by Terri Walker — November 5, 2007 @ 9:07 am
We were contacted by CPS in our state in July. A “friend” called CPS because I was depressed, my teen agers were “raising” my babies and that my older toddler was emaciated like an Ethiopian Child. A woman contacted me at my door at 6pm that evening. I did not let her in my house. She told me the basic charges as stated above. She was condescending to me. Because my dh is in the military she was no longer assigned to my case. It was reassigned to a man who only dealt with families of the military. He visited us the next evening after my dh called him on the phone. When he walked into my home, he brought a sense of peace. He looked at my older toddler and realized immediately that these charges were false. He talked to us for hours. He talked to our teens and briefly to my older toddler. He left that evening asking only one thing of me. He wanted to make sure that I had a phyiscal. He was such a gentleman in every way. He called me a month later to assure me that the case was wrapping up and that he required no more of me. We are still waiting for the final word as in a letter saying the case is being dismissed. It is now 4 months. Is this normal? I have to say, for what was my worst nightmare, things went ok. It could have been so much worse. God was looking out for me. But until I get this paperwork, I still wonder.
I wanted to ask, if a case is considered false and malicious, do we have a right to know our accusor and sue for slander if we chose. We wouldn’t because of our faith and understanding. This person was a fellow member in our church and this should have been dealt “in house” But to me, slander is slander.
Dee Hill
Comment by T. Dee Hill — November 6, 2007 @ 10:36 pm
Dee Hill,
the reports are made to be condifential. CPS cannot release the name of the caller. Just because you may thing you know who it is you cannot prove it in court. People don’t even have to leave a name when making a call nor do they have to give thier real name. States do have the ability to go after callers who are working out of malice however I think I have only read about one case ever where that actually happened. And that had to do with a former employee of a daycare center calling in on a child that wasn’t even at that center or something like that. You really have no legal recorse just consider yourself lucky and make some better friends. This could have turned out much worse and something so dumb as that could have lead to a removal. I’ve heard children being removed for less. Sorry you went through this but live and learn.
Comment by Debbie — November 7, 2007 @ 4:33 am
I need help finding a lawyer or attorney in Texas to fight my CPS case. I want to go for the throat, just as they have done to me.
Comment by Riy — December 28, 2007 @ 7:33 pm
I would like to get assistance for a CPS case in Natchez Ms.
Comment by Jimi Lynn Coleman — December 28, 2007 @ 10:13 pm
one site above ..the other
http://familyrightsassociation.com/info/help/index.html
and of course the one you r on!! much help with all of them..we’re fighting them tooth and nail.
check these 2 websites out also…let your kids read them too….DSS is WICKED and EVIL….need I SAY MORE!!! They fill you with more stories than your local libraries …take the library stories…at least they are not nightmarish reads!!!
Don’t do the services unless u feel your guilty or you feel they will prove you are…your best bet is fight for your own children cause the lawyers and public defenders won’t do a darned thing to hep you…right down to telling you u can have a 1028 hearing…you still have parental rights..they only have custody…not your parental rights….they need authoization to take them to the dr dentist therapist…so fill out and get notarized a parental right form…lawyers will fill out and file ..UIF YOU TELL THEM TOO. YOU HAVE TO TELL THEM WHAT YOU WANT ..THEY WON’T HELP YOU DO ANY OF THIS AS WE HAVE FOUND OUT…THEY R ALL LOOKING TO MAKE MONEY FROM THEIR “PAYERS”…..THE FEDERAL GOVERNMENT” ….IT KEEPS THEIR JOBS SECURE.,..and COMING IN!!!!
THIS INCLUDES ALL DSS WORKERS AND THE GUARDIAN AD LITUM TOO….IF YOR LUCKY YOU GET A FAIR JUDGE..JUST REMEBER HE GETS PAID BY THEM ALSO!! WISH ME LUCK AND I WISH ALL YOU PEOPLE LUCK.
IF YOU ARE INNOCENT DON’T BOW DOWN TO DSS…MAKE THEM COURT ORDER EVERYTHING THEY WON’T BE REIMBURSED!!!!!
Comment by marie — January 20, 2008 @ 9:35 pm
WE NEED TO FIGHT THESE DHS WORKERS, I DONOT UNDERSTAND HOW OUR GOVERMENT SEEMS TO COSE THIERS EYES AS TO WHAT IS HAPPENING.DHS TELLS US TO KEEP OUR MOUTH SHUT, THATS HOW THAY GET AWAY WITH WHAT THEY DO, AS EVERYONE IS AFRAID TO SPEAK UP. CALL YOUR NEWSPAPER, RADIO STSTION, TV STATION, YOUR REPS. IN YOUR TOWN. DONT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!
Comment by Fran Swann — January 23, 2008 @ 1:26 am
I live in SC.I have four children dss stole my children from me on OCT.10th 2007. The case worker has no evadince and as of yet can not or will not provide tapes of the supposed interviews. I unfortunitly was not spart enough to see what was going on and even willingly alowed them to have thier way. I had nothing to hide and this very nice lady told me she receaved a complaint,that she only wanted to help if we had any problems and that she just wanted to get to the bottom of the claims.If only I knew then what I know now. I am truely very lucky in many ways I have a great atterney. He was the prossacuter for DSS. Until he got sick of DSS playing games and rouning lives. He then decided he was going to stand up for the familys that dss was trying to ruin .I am now facing criminal charges and so is my husband. The most unfortunit thing about this is that I beleave my children have been harmed and I reported this to the police a year ago. Now they will not even investigate who or what has happend they have decided we are guilty. My daughter was six and she was tested by a DR. that works for DSS her tests came back positive for clumidia. My husband and I have both been tested not once but twice all have come back negative. Of course we are still guilty. So we offerd to give medical releases to the prossacuters. They do not want to look. The topper is that my husband was in jail with out bail for three weeks befor we got him out and the day he was released he was tested. How ever as I said DSS still refuses to admit they are wrong. I have seen my children one time in almost four months for one hour. Now they had my visitation suspended because my children are supposibly scared to death of me. Oh please my kids are a lot of things but scared is not one of them. This ofcourse happend after I began refusing to talk to DSS alone, or answer any questions. Now I have a case worker telling me I have to be good and do a treatment plan that includes thearapy, angermanigment classes, and parenting classes. What a joke I guess I talk to loadly to them or maybe I make them stand in the corner the wrong way??????????? Anyway I agree never ever give up. Do not let them know you are up set. Angry or sad. It will not help you, but it will cunfuse the case workers. dress nice even if you are going to check the mail.
Comment by JESS SIMMONDS — January 30, 2008 @ 4:27 pm
In response to Jess Simmonds… First, learn to spell!!! Second, If you didn’t abuse your children, they wouldnt be in foster care. Finally, There is not a doubt in my mind this story was extremely inflated to make you appear to be the victim when in fact it was your child who was victimized.
Comment by K. Smith — January 31, 2008 @ 2:14 am
IN 2006, I RECIEVED MESSAGE TO MEET WITH A CPS WORKER ABOUT MY THEN 14 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER. THEY STATED THAT I ABUSED HER THAT DAY. LATER IN 2007, I WAS TOLD THAT MY SON WHO WAS 7 YEARS OLD THAT HE WAS BEING DRUGGED BY ME BECAUSE HE WAS TOO SLEEPY.HAD TO TAKE HIM TO THE EMERGENCY ROOM THAT COST ME ALMOST SEVEN HUNDRED DOLLARS. IN 1998 I WAS ACCUSED OF ABUSING MY ELDEST.
NONE OF THESE WERE PROPERLY INVESTEGATED TO PROVE MY INNOCENCE. I AM A NURSE WHO WORKS WITH CHILDREN AND THE ELDERLY. I HAVE NEVER BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH SINCE I BECAME WRONGLY INVOLVED IN THIS SYSTEM. IT SEEMS AS THOUGH THERE IS SOME SORT OF QUOTA THAT CPS HAS TO MAKE FOR EACH YEAR. EACH COMPLAINT PROBABLY ORIGINATED FROM MY CHILDREN’S SCHOOLS. THIS COMMUMINITY THAT WE LIVE IN ISSMALL, SO ONCE THE LIES STARTED THE LIES NEVER ENDED. THERE IS A POSSIBILITY THAT I COULD LOSE MY LICENSES OVER THIS. I ALWAYS SAID THAT I NEEDED A LAWYER AND FOR CPS TO MAKE PUBLIC MY INNOCENCE SINCETHAT A GREAT DEAL OF THE PUBLIC HERE IS IN MY FACE ABOUT BEING AN ABUSER. BUT I AM HAVING MONEY TROUBLES.
I WAS MADE TO SIGN SOMETHING ‘REFUSE TO COOPERATE WITH CPS AT FIRST BUT AGREE TO COOPERATE NOW”. ANOTHER LIE THAT IS. I WAS NEVER INCOOPERATIVE AT THE LEAST. I WANTED THEM TO PROVE MY INNOCENCE. AS FAR AS I KNOW AT LEAST ONE CASE IS STILL OPENED AND HAD BEEN FOR ALMOST TWO YEARS. I STILL HAVE MY CHILDREN BUT I WONDER WHEN THEYGOING TO COME WHEN I DON’T. CPS IS NOT BEING VERY CLEAR ON WHAT IS INCLUDED IN THIS INVESTIGATION. I HARDLY HEAR FROM THS SOCIAL WORKER. EVERY NOW AND AGAIN I WILL RECIEVE HER BUSINESS CARD OR A LETTER STATING THAT SHE WANTS TO TALK TO ME. WHEN I GO TO HER OFFICE SHE OF COURSE THREATENS TO TAKE MY KIDS EVEN WHEN NEVER PROVED WHETHER OR NOT I AM GUILTY.
Comment by Y JORDAN — January 31, 2008 @ 11:06 am
What can you tell me about CPS Wake County N.C.
Comment by Bill — February 1, 2008 @ 1:43 am
Many years ago, two of my 4 children were taken from me by Seminole County CPS. My daughter (now 23) had been abused by my live in boyfriend. I never denied that I let them into my home when they knocked on the door. I was in shock and I was very young and pregnant with my 2nd child. The CPS (then known as HRS) made up horrible lies about me, said that I said things that I never said. They do this! They then told me my unborn child would not be affected by this, as I had not been convicted of anything. This too was a lie! My son was 9 hours old and the medication had not worn off when they took him from me and proceeded to give him to the mother of the man that hurt my daughter. I was devistated. I was 20 years old. I had an attorney who had been an attorney for about 2 weeks. I was bamboozled into a plea bargin. Then I was purposely not told about a hearing on my son. I lost him because I was not there. To this day, they can not provide a subpeona stating I was told to be there. I have had a rough life because of this. Now, my daughter is going through the same thing. The CPS has stated that my granddaughter had bruises. There is no evidence of this of course. My daughter said to me, “mom, now I believe you that they made stuff up, they are doing it to me.” I do not know what these people’s agenda is or why they do these things. My daughter is devoted to my granddaughter and would never hurt her. It is to me like history repeating itself.
I successfully raised my youngest son, who is almost 17, but was mentally forced to give up his sister who just turned 18. I was railroaded into the adoptions of my older children with the promise I would see them. I have not seen my 21 year old son since he was 3. It is my understanding he has been in and out of jail. Do these people really think they are doing what is best for the children? I don’t think so. I wish I were younger, I would have gotten my law degree to beat these people. It has been my experience that they do more harm than good.
Comment by Tamara Martin — February 1, 2008 @ 10:26 am
HELLO , MY NAME IS ENDEE DILWORTH. I AM 22 YEARS OLD. i HAVE A SON AND A WIFE. nOW MY SON IS TRULY MY SON. I HAVE BEEN WITH HIM SINCE BEFORE HE WAS EVEN BORN.HIS MOTHER AND I GOTTOGETHER WHEN SHE WAS THREE MTHS PREGNANT AND HAVE BEEN TOGETHER EVER SINCE. OUR SON WAS WELL TAKEN CARE OF. EVERYTHING WAS GREAT. WHAT ELSE COULD A MAN WANT THAN A HANDSOME 8MTH NOW 9MTH AS OF YESTERDAY SON AND A BEAUTIFUL , LOVING , AND CARING WIFE.UNTIL WEDSDAY, CPS CAME TO MY HOME WHILE I WAS AT WORK AND TOOK MY SON. BASED ON ACCUSATIONS THAT WERE MADE BY WE BELIEVE HIS BIOLOGICAL FATHER. AS A YOUNG MAN THAT WORKS HARD TO CARE FOR HIS FAMILY. i DON’T SEE HOW ITS IN THE CHILDS BEST INTEREST TO TAKE HIM FROM A LOVING ENVIROMENT AND PLACE HIMM IN FOSTER CARE BASED ON ASSUMPTIONS MADE BY A TELEPHONE CALL. bUT WHAT i AM SAYING IS THAT i DON’T KNOW WHERE TO TURN FOR HELP. COULD SOMEONE HELP. ANYONE I JUST DON’T KNOW WHAT TO THINK. ALL I DO IS WONDER WHERE MY SON IS AT AND WHAT HE IS DOING. ITS ONLY BEEN 2DAYS BUT IT SEEMS LIKE AN ETERNITY WITHOUT MY SON. LIFE JUST DOESN’T SEEM AS BRIGHT . SO IF YOU READ THIS AND THE OTHERS PLEASE HELP. ITS NOT FAIR THE WAY THEY JUST TAKE A MANS CHILDREN FROM HIM AND SEEM TO HAVE NO REMORSE AT ALL. EVEN THOUGH I AM NO HIS BIOLOGICAL FATHER WHOM WE BELIEVE WHO CALLED OUT OF SPITE FOR THE HAPPINESS THAT MY FAMILY AND I SHARE. THEY DIDN’T EVEN GIVE ME AN OPTION.THEY JUST TOLD ME i DIDN’T MATTER BECAUSE I WAS NOT THE FATHER. THATS JUST CRUEL WHEN I HAVE RAISED MY SON SINCE HE CAME HOME FROM THE HOSPITAL.HOW CAN THEY JUST DESTROY SOMEONES LIFE LIKE THAT WITHOUT ANYONE WATCHING THEM OR SUPERVISING THEY WAY THINGS ARE DONE.
Comment by ENDEE DILWORTH — February 1, 2008 @ 12:12 pm
sign my petition tell ur story pleasehelp i want my daughter back
the petition is called fighting alabama dhr. its a story about kailie, my daughter… please help
Comment by andrea posey — February 20, 2008 @ 8:17 am
im sorry i never put the website name
its under
thepetitionsite.com
or
care2.com
the petition is called….. fighting alabama dhr
Comment by andrea posey — February 20, 2008 @ 8:18 am
I have had 4 Neglect Fraudulent reports filed on me and everytime they have came out to my house they have found nothing and closed the case and all reports are almost word for word the same, this is just down right Harassment .. and I think I know who is calling my crazy Neighbor but but DCF wont tell me and are not seem to be doing anything about it, there has to be something out there to Protect us parents against Fraudulent reports, what can be done?
Comment by Jennifer — March 21, 2008 @ 1:21 pm
MOVE SOME WERE DIFFERENT AND START OVER WITH YOUR KIDS KEEP PEOPLE OUT OF YOUR BUSINESS AND NEVER SHOW ANGER AROUND ANY ONE SO THEY DONT HAVE ANYTHING TO SAY NEED MORE LET ME NO……….
Comment by takisha — March 21, 2008 @ 6:11 pm
Preble county ohio……You children’s services workers that took my best friends daughter from a loving home will pay. We all face our maker. Maybe I won’t be there to see it, but I have faith that what goes around comes around….so to all you workers that read this, when something goes wrong in your life you shouldn’t wonder “why me?”, just know it’s because of the wrongs you commit against children and their loving parents….
Not all workers are bad, there’s just not enough good ones…..I was so glad I found this site and could share it with my friend. She needed desperately to know she was not alone. I read a comment from k. smith (Jan. 31 ) on here…..telling J. Simmonds that posted “learn how to spell”….Hey smith, maybe this woman is not as fortunate or as educated as yourself. she is in pain and as mothers going through this kind of hell how dare you make a comment like that. Learn how to be compassionate! It’s hard to see a keyboard if your not a proficient typist through the tears. Not everyone is innocent nor are they all guilty.
Comment by Charity — March 21, 2008 @ 8:49 pm
It all started about 8 months ago I had a step daughter who was mad at me for moving her from her home town to a town several miles away her senior year. she said I ruined her life many times this year and blamed me for her and her boyfriend being broke up and not having a car or money to spend any more due to financial problems that led us here.
I tried to help her as best I could with three other children in the home still I could not afford to give her the life she was used to anymore again because of the financial problems we were having. after she graduated from high school last year she moved out and got a car given to her by her aunt. the car had problems and she had moved away for collage she called me everyday after she moved and told me at first how bad she missed her family. then she started calling and would be upset and say how she doesn’t feel like part of it any more. then she started calling and trying to get me to send her money for many things like to fix her car and I told her I couldn’t and your 18 you need to stand up and get it fixed yourself. it got worse over the next couple of months with the calls trying to get money and it started going to you ruined my senior year you ruined my life for moving me away from my friends to you owe me and I will ruin your life too. A month later she told her boyfriend I raped her twice this year and he of course went to his mother who is a child advocate. she reported it to the police. the stories are so bad that my lawyer could only laugh while reading the discovery many things she said she had for proof and made excuses for them not being there when they searched. they arrested me on july 17 and never investigated anything the police only tried to find things to incriminate me and never checked into her credibility. she was losing there belief so she reported me to cdc too and claimed I had been raping her sister too how has been safety examined and passed, interviewed and passed and has told the cdc and law enforcement many times it was all lies. there mother has told them it is all lies and so have the other family members in the house. I have not been able to go home now for 8 months and they still to this day have nothing as proof just all the lies and no one once asked us if we could prove she is lying. We do have a truck load of proof and we kept our mouths shut like my lawyer told me too. The police have let this girl change her stories 12 times at least now and we have taped the cdc investigator at our house and he admits on tape that he doesn’t believe a word she is saying and he believes us. he explained in detail all the different stories she told and said that is why he and many others don’t believe her anymore and yet im still not home. we have this on tape and when i went to court to see if i could go home he lied in court and said he didn’t feel my other daughter would be safe with me there because of the allegations on me from my oldest daughter. the gal never spent one minute with my younger daughter before and did none of his duties and has been reported to the bar now. we record all conversations including the ones with any law officers and have almost since it started more than one has said they are doubting her still not home. I have taken my proof and all the recordings to the local news station and to a network news station as of this week. they have agreed that they would not run the story until I give them permission. they have enough to expose the cdc the jo the so called victims advocate and many others. and the proof we have is concrete. Why is it we can’t trust our prosecuting attorneys enough to go to them with the proof we have and end this. why is it my lawyer is afraid they would just let her change her story again?
Who can we get real help from?
Go to your news stations and papers and tell them your story. please expose them every time you can until the public can clearly see what they are doing. the jo put a exparte on me on my younger daughter who is 17 and who has told them it was lies and she wants me home against her will they still put a full order of protection on me using there buddy system you have to expose them tape them tape them tape them find out if they are all socially active away from work and find out who all is in there net and again expose them.
Thank you please we must make this stop they are the devils helpers
Comment by sturner — March 21, 2008 @ 11:24 pm
DHR in Alabama needs to be done away with. This is an evil organization that has too much power. By the way, they’ll inform you that the attorney general and the state gives them the power. They answer to no one, not even the children whose lives they destroy with false allegations on innocent parents. We are witnessing this first hand. They are an evil organization. They are only about showing their power and leaving you helpless. They prey on people who they know can’t afford huge legal fees to fight them. Think about this, they are using our tax dollars or in other words, we pay for them to tear our families apart. They don’t have to prove anything, make you go thru drug tests, alcohol assessments, parenting classes, and whatever else they think of. You pass all their tests, attend all their classses, and they keep coming up with reasons that you shouldn’t be allowed to have your children. There has never been any history of child abuse and the children say they were never abused. So what do they do? They place your children in the custody ot your ex husband who is on probation for domestic violence. DHR is child abusers and kidnappers. I have an attorney and I am fighting them. But I am still not guaranteed to win. How do you fight a system that has no one to answer to?
Comment by Mary — April 6, 2008 @ 1:06 pm
Hi, i am a wife and I am a husband we had our two boys abducted from us each before they were one month old and all due to the fact we are poor and have mental retardation well sorta that’s what we are told oh and also my husband (that’s me) is seen as a angry abusive, hey he’s got issues and is a big grouch but his whole time he has spent with his boys was only with the first and that was for less than three days. Now for the wife is being told she is a heroin and methophetomin addict but all her drug tests kept coming up clean. Well hell that’s it from whitetrash amerika peace ya’ll
Comment by mari waters — April 12, 2008 @ 7:26 pm
I had my parental rights terminated in 2007 in L.A. Co. I litigated short of petitioning the CA Supreme Ct. and losing the farm. In 12/07 I solicited support from my Co. Supvr,. Zev Yaroslavsky. I was under the impression his Childrens’ Deputy, Lisa Mandel, was “facilitating” an investigtion within DCFS by forwarding documents of issues I had re my case, specifically, inattention to my allegations surronding the safety of my daughter’s placement, to DCFS and this was confirmed by telephone calls between myself and ARA Gary Kirkland and Adoptions Mngr. Carlos Castillo. Thanks to this website, I attempted to utilize a state open records law letter template to gain access to court records of the case. After a lot of shuffling around and 5 mos after initial contact with Yaroslavsky’s office, I learned that filing a JV-570 (Petition for Disclosure of Juvenile Court Records) is the magic key, however there is certain criteria you must meet in order for a judge to grant your request. I filed to corroborate the investigation, as phone calls with DCFS staff to date led me to believe that it would be perfunctory at best. (They haven’t even contacted my witnesses.) County Counsel and The Children’s Law Center has pounced on my Petition in opposition to it stating that my request does not outweigh my former daughter’s right to privacy and suggest that an investigation does not exist. Ms. Mandel has now attempted to dump me into County Cousel’s court in an apparent attempt to disassociate from me because, after repeated unsuccessful attempts to communicate with her and the desire to authenticate documentation of communication with anyone regarding the investigation, I requested that she communicate with me in writing. I have requested the presiding judge, Michael P. Nash, allow me to submit a letter in rebuttal to County Counsel and The Children’s Law Center, but I haven’t got much time. Part of the reason I am doing this is to be an inspiration to others so that they can exercise certain rights if they are willing to surmount daunting odds. If I can’t succeed at having a JV-570 granted without legal counsel nor the support of my Co Suprvsr if not for the sake of discovery, I’m leery of anyone else being able to unless we publicize results of our interaction with our elected officials and/or organize group gropes at Board mtgs. Anyone in L.A. Co. who wants to organize, give me a holler. I know of a parent support group meeting this Tues. eve. (4/29) in W.L.A. if anyone is interested.
Comment by dee dee — April 25, 2008 @ 1:46 pm
I say we all go after DHR. It’s going to take more than a handful of people to bring them off their power stool. I think we should all band together and take them on. Alabama DHR is very corrupt. They want to sell our kids to foster homes so that they can collect money from the state. They don’t care if you did anything wrong or not, it’s about being an easy target because you don’t have the means to fight back. They know which families they can destroy and which ones to leave alone. They play God and make a crucial family decision in a matter of 5 to 10 minutes based on their OWN PERSONAL opinion. They don’t know anything about our children, but approach it as if they do. They act like psychologists and badger a child until the child is worn out from answering questions to the point where they don’t even know what to say anymore. THAT IS ABUSE!! Taking a child that has never been abused or neglected on their OWN PERSONAL PRESUMPTIONS, that’s where the abuse is!! When they take a happy child and place them in an abusive environment, because it is THEIR OWN PERSONAL BELIEF that the child is better off there, that is ABUSE! Everyone thinks that if DHR is involved in anyone’s life, that person MUST have done something horribly wrong. Well, I thought that at one time, and now am dealing with these sadists myself. I have NEVER abused or neglected my child! She hurt herself at school and then was questioned when the teacher noticed her injuries. The teacher should’ve noticed when the injuries occurred! My daughter was brought before other teachers and classmates and questioned. She didnt know what to do so she told multiple stories. NONE of which implied or accused abuse of any kind from me or anyone else in my family! Corrine Matt, from Shelby County DHR, wrote it on the safety plan, “child gave multiple explanations of injuries.” That was all it took. Corrine Matt, then did nothing but lie continuously about everything. I have never dealt with DHR. My kids are 10 and 6. I guess they are of the opinion that one day out of the blue, I decided to wake up and injure my child. My oldest daughter attended the same school her entire elementary years, with no problems. They both made good grades and were well behaved. All it took was “multiple stories.” My daughter is 6!!! They took her and questioned her, and who knows how long, without my knowledge. They went so far as to tell her that I hurt her. She still never said I did. But she told multiple stories, so I must be guilty in THEIR eyes. I am now attending parenting classes and have aced their drug assessments. That’s another thing, you are basically told that if you want to see your kids even for visits, that you must agree to their terms. Your choice is to not see your kids and disagree with their recommendations, or follow along with their recommendations so you can see your kids. It doesn’t matter that you didn’t do anything in the first place. You are AUTOMATICALLY guilty. The only thing I should have done different, was keep my child home from school that morning. None of this would have happened to her or me. It kind of gives you a completely different outlook on our country, our government, our taxes, our war. What freedom are we fighting for, when an agency like DHR can come and take your rights on false allegations and assumptions????
Comment by Susie — April 30, 2008 @ 8:08 pm
my wife & i was forced to surrender custody of our daughter in a totally corruption, canton,georgia case covered-up by C.J.Gober but judged by a mentally incompetent helper named wallace rogers jr. that can’t hold a job in the system thru out Georgia.Plaintiff a kidnapper of 1981 case, took the child from DFACS ,ran to Florida ,charged for selling drugs ,but never charged for the kidnapping.Good job Canton Georgia,home for the kidnappers,nice cover-up all the way to the governor of georgia sending us a letter.No different then saying go stick it .
Comment by victor — May 1, 2008 @ 4:07 am
a drug dealer kidnapped a girl right out of DFACS canton,georgia.Arrest in florida on illegal drug charges in Georgia,walk free on kidnapping.Same town Canton Georgia 10 years later uses the system to kidnap our daughter.Canton system has kept all this a secret cover-up.This kidnapper has done much more too !News reporters don’t want any part of all this. ;-( years are passing but not forgotten or forgiven for their actions.
Comment by Baker — June 23, 2008 @ 7:47 am
First of all, those out there that think that in ordr for kids to be in foster homes they have to abused think again.I was busting my butt off going to college and taking care of four children. My husband was busy working over time to support all of us in order for me to complete my school with idea that I would make more money with a college degree. My 5 yr old son had ADHD but no it was all our parenting skills. We were the ones wanting him to take unnecessary medication. He was the smart but curious kind. We were not allowed to put double dead bolts on our doors in case of fires (the outside doors only to keep him from sneaking out). A person could open our first floor windows and walk out. He figured how to get to the door alarms. The third time that he figured how to get around the locks and alarms. We kept asking for help. My husband did not have insurance so he had medical but nobody wanted to admit that he had ADHD. It was after he was in foster care for close 2 yrswith his full sister. The older two girls were from my first marriage. Most of the slowness was due to the first caseworker who retired and we only found out by her telling someone else in a store and me overhearing it. Anyways to make point short Social Services worked on the less educated person (my husband) to get him to sign over the youngest two. They knew that I knew that legally we still had a chance. We had completed everything they had asked for and had started overnights. Anyways, I guess they wanted to split up a happy home even more as I do not know if I can ever forgive my husband for going behind my back like he did. Escpeciallywhen I see paerent out there that yell and scream at their kids and I know that I never would have or lay a hand on them.
Comment by R. Robertson — June 27, 2008 @ 8:48 pm
ps My husband didnt even show emotion when our daught who is eight wrote in his Fathers Day card Please Daddy Can I come Home Please PleaseCan I come Home He makes me sick.
Comment by R. Robertson — June 27, 2008 @ 8:51 pm