Build Suffering People Up, Don’t Tear Them Down
This week I had guests on this website that are not sympathetic to our cause. John and Brooke, who post from Texas, seem to think they are God’s gift to Unfortunate Children … in other words, they are self-righteous foster parents. See the messages they contributed to this site at Texas: “The System Is Maxed”.
Normally I have no problem with having foster parents posting here at Fight CPS. Some foster parents are loving, kind, and truly on the side of parents who want to regain custody of their children. I appreciate that they care enough to come here and give advice to suffering parents and other natural family members.
John and Brooke did not fit that description. They apparently were here to insult and annoy the suffering people who this site was created to help. Some of their comments were inappropriate and unkind, and some of those are being held in the moderation queue because they are not appropriate for this site.
At first I didn’t know they were related though it was clear that John was backing up Brooke and railing against me, including a few rude comments along the way. I’d had enough of him when John finally declared, “I am not at all simpathetic [sic] to the people who complain about removal because I don’t know if they are truthful, I know that these parents will lie or tell only part of the story to gain simpathy [sic] from anyone that will listen.”
The people who come to this site - those for whom this site is intended - do not need to be insulted by being called liars.
In retrospect it is humorous to see that John is so unfamiliar with the concept of sympathy that he cannot even spell it right.
Because of John’s rude statement, I put his future comments on moderation by putting his Texas IP number in the comment moderation box in my blog administration panel.
I was surprised when I woke up the next day and found a comment from Brooke in my moderation queue! It was then that I noticed that Brooke and John were using the same IP number!
That day John finally admitted to being a foster parent receiving money from the state. It was as I’d suspected - he has his hands in the pockets of the system and so naturally is blind to anything that might be wrong with what he’s doing. He wrote, “I couldn’t really care less about the money I am financially secure without it.”
Does that qualify him to leave comments on this system where there are hundreds of suffering parents and family members seeking help every day, insulting everyone by calling them liars? I think not, and won’t tolerate it. So I decided that John and Brooke will not have any further comments published.
Brooke posted one more time - and I have not published it - her final comment remains in the moderation queue because it is an insult to another suffering parent who is trying to recover from heroin addiction. Like most people here, I’ve never tried heroin and never will, but I do not believe it is right to spew hatred and recriminations at people who are trying to recover from an addiction, as Brooke did in her final comment.
I honestly cannot understand why Brooke and John were so intent on posting here. They have no respect for the people who come to this site for help, and don’t have a clue as to why I started and maintain this site. They have their foster home money and some Unfortunate Children… and yes, I’m concerned about the children in their care. If this is how they respond to suffering people, those children may be receiving similar maltreatment at the hands of these self-righteous people.
The point of this story is in the title to the post. People who come to this site should be aware it is my intention to build suffering people up, not tear them down. Tearing them down is what CPS does. I’ve known for nearly twenty years that what CPS does is find people who are going through a rough spot in life, then the caseworkers kick them while they’re down, figuratively speaking, by destroying their families.
Here at Fight CPS we must do the opposite. When suffering people come here, we must give them hope, strengthen them, build them up, love them, care for them, understand them (we are all God’s children) . . . and give them tools to use to express themselves in court so that CPS workers aren’t the only ones going in with legal paperwork, prepared for court.
John and Brooke, be gone. We don’t need anyone telling people they have problems. Everyone who gets involved with CPS is aware already they’ve got a problem and/or made mistakes. They don’t need you stuffing your recriminations down their throats. God help the children you’re warehousing for the state.
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* I know the exact city their IP number comes from but am concealing that information, for now.
To John and Brooke, if you two once tried checking on these so called social workers,( the ones they send out to investigate a referral), educational background on domestic violence,drug abuse, anger management, child care and child abuse, OUR CONSTITUTIONAL RIGHTS and its amendments. You’ll find that they have very minimal education if any that would qualify them to remove children from their homes. That’s where the the one thing their good at comes in “LYING”,its also called on the job training. YUP! KEEP GOING OUT THERE TILL YOU GET IT RIGHT!!
Comment by Hector — June 24, 2007 @ 12:20 pm
I know for a fact that one can refuse this money. We told the state we did not need the money for our granddaughter if she were to come and live with us. However, they wanted us to reconsider. The caseworker suggested we put the funds into savings so that she could have it for college. So John, one can refuse the the states money if you feel financially secure or you can take the money and put it in savings for each of the children you foster.
Comment by Ruth — June 24, 2007 @ 10:10 pm
My family has come under the attack of the cps system. I am not in fear of having my children removed this time, but fear that there will be a next time. Yesterday I saw something from Kim from Iowa and can’t find it today. I am also from Iowa and would like to form a group of people to fight cps. BY the way parents do not give a school psychcoligist permission to see your kids (they are part of this system) And by Iowa state law they can keep secret notes on your kids that you don’t have access to. Could you have anyone from the State of Iowa contact me. legislators and politicians listen to groups of people(voters). thanks David
Comment by David — July 1, 2007 @ 8:46 pm
David, there’s an Iowa section in the message board. You could leave a message there asking people to contact you. Kim’s message is here.
Comment by Linda — July 1, 2007 @ 9:08 pm
David, you are absolutely correct that politicans are far more likely to listen to a group of folks rather than an individual family.
May I suggest that Linda’s message board is set up to allow folks to network and to chase CPS’ dirty linen.
Also, parents of Special Ed kids are often far more familiar with what goes on in schools; they are a valuable resource for folks on this group to contact initially.
True psychologists in most states can diagnose. They use DSM-IV codes to classify students and certify them for SpED services.
However, as in all business, they all need *clients* to survive.
Just think VIDEO GAME ADDICTION was proposed to be added to DSM.
My Congress critter did listen when a group of us came to address him.
Folks get your groups going. I believe that is what Linda had in mind when she started this site, close to 8 years ago.
No one is alone. CPS needs *fresh meat * to predate upon.
After all, every parent could CONCEIVABLY DO BETTER BY THEIR KIDS.
And the industry needs their jobs.
Comment by Fern — July 2, 2007 @ 9:02 am